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In order for a man’s life to be an expression of who he is, he will need to be both in touch with and to feel comfortable expressing himself. Being in touch with himself will involve being connected to his body and being aware of his needs, feelings, wants and preferences.
When it comes to ... Views: 347
After being with a man for a little while, a woman may have come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. Consequently, he is not only going to neglect her but he will also neglect himself.
But, if most of his time and his energy are being directed towards his mother, he is not going ... Views: 347
There is a source of energy or fuel that exists in each person on this planet, and this can be seen as their fight instinct. Another way of looking at this part of someone would be to say that it is their aggression.
In addition to giving them the energy that they need to take action and to ... Views: 346
If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, his true self is rarely going to see the light of day. This will mean that his needs, feelings and wants will typically be repressed and suppressed and, when he is around others, he is likely to play a certain role.
In general, the role that ... Views: 346
Now that a man is in a relationship, he may find that he has the tendency to swallow his words and not to express how he really feels when he is with his partner. In fact, he might not even be aware of how he feels a lot of the time.
As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for him ... Views: 346
Now that a man is in a relationship, he may have the need for it to end and/or want to get as far away from his partner as he can. This is not to say that that he won’t like or even love her; it is due to the fact that he will feel trapped.
When he first started spending time with her, ... Views: 345
Although someone will have both a head and a body and will, therefore, experience both thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to relate to this. In general, they could live up top and only be aware of their thoughts and perhaps different sensations.
They are then going ... Views: 344
If someone is in a position where one area of their life is not going as they want it to go and they experience a lot of “negative” feelings, they can end up doing what they can to change their life. This can be seen as the right approach to take; after all, simply putting up with what is going ... Views: 344
In order for an issue to be resolved, it needs to be clear that there is an issue. Naturally, if this is not the case, it won’t be possible for anything to be done and the issue is likely to get even worse.
With this in mind, if man’s mother is the centre of his world and he does what he can ... Views: 344
Although someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life.
They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ... Views: 343
If someone has a strong need for human contact, it can seem as if they would be aware of it. However, even if they do, this could still be something that they are typically unaware of.
What this means, then, is that this need will generally be outside of their conscious awareness. But, while ... Views: 343
If a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’.
He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and ... Views: 343
To the outside observer, it can make no sense whatsoever as to why a man would neglect his own life and focus on his mother’s life. Clearly, by behaving in this way, he won’t be able to meet most of his needs.
For him to do this, he will need to take a step back from his mother and spend ... Views: 343
If a woman is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she is naturally going to have a strong need for him to change. This is partly because he will spend a lot of time being there for his mother and very little, if any, time being there for his ... Views: 343
After someone’s relationship has come to an end, they could experience a number of different feelings. So, they could have moments when they feel angry and moments when they feel very sad.
At other moments, they could feel very little, with them being in an emotionally shut down state. And, ... Views: 343
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to hide themselves. As a result of this, how they generally come across won’t reflect who they truly are.
This will mean that a number of their needs and feelings will rarely ... Views: 343
Now that someone is an adult, what they may find is that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. They could have the tendency to feel worthless and as though they have no value.
As a result of this, they are likely to often feel low and depressed and they may even think about ... Views: 342
In general, a man may have the tendency to feel low and bad about himself. When this is so, he could end up doing one of two things; he could either isolate himself from others or he could be around others and do what he can to please them.
Therefore, it won’t be necessary for him to isolate ... Views: 342
Although a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift.
But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ... Views: 342
Although someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while.
When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ... Views: 341
As a result of the pandemic, a large part of humanity has spent a lot of time feeling powerless and hopeless. Fortunately, as time has passed, some people have been able to move beyond this experience.
Sadly, there are others who haven’t been able to move beyond this experience. Still, even ... Views: 340
Even if someone feels worthless and unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if this is not something that they are aware of, what is going on for them is still going to have an impact on their life.
It is likely to influence how they perceive reality, how ... Views: 340
One thing that someone may find is that it is often difficult for them to know what to do. So, there will be how this affects them each day and the effect it has on their life as a whole.
As a result of this, they are likely to have two ways of deciding what it is that they need to do. First, ... Views: 340
In general, a man may have casual encounters, and this could be how he has been for a long time. During these moments, he is going to share his body and perhaps his mind with a woman but he won’t share much else.
This could mean that he hasn’t been in a relationship with a woman or this might ... Views: 340
Although someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear.
Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ... Views: 340
Although someone can lack a felt sense of worth, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, they may be aware of the impact of not having this in place.
The reason they may be aware as opposed to will be aware of this is because how they experience life could just ... Views: 340
Although someone can have the need to grow and develop, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. One could find that they have been working hard and doing the “right” things but that they haven’t been able to get very far.
As a result of this, they could believe that, unlike others, ... Views: 340
If a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing.
Along with this, there will be the ... Views: 340
One of the challenges with early abuse and neglect is that by the time someone is an adult, they can have no recollection of what took place at this stage of their life. This is not to say that once they get to this stage of their life, they will have chosen to block it out.
No, what it comes ... Views: 339
Although someone is made up of at least three parts, so their thinking, emotional and instinctual self, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. The reason for this is that they could come across as though they only possess the first self.
Therefore, they could come across as though they are ... Views: 339
What could stand out, that’s if someone was to step back and reflect on their life, is that they give a lot but they don’t receive much back. After this, they could find that they don’t believe that they deserve to have what they need and want.
Due to this, it is not going to matter how much ... Views: 339
In order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world.
However, although he might be able to do this, ... Views: 339
When we lose someone we love, we go through a complex grieving process. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may go from shock to anger and denial, to disbelief, resentment and guilt, to profound sadness and depression, from great remorse and loneliness, and finally ... Views: 339
In order for a man to deal with an issue that he has, he will need to be aware of the issue; naturally, if he is not aware of it, it won’t be possible for him to do anything about it. The first step, then, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, will be for him to realise that this is ... Views: 339
What a man could find, if he was able to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to end up with women who are unhealthy. There is the chance that he is currently with a woman who is like this.
If he isn’t, it might be easier for him to realise what it was about ... Views: 338
In the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body.
By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. ... Views: 338
In the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him.
The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, ... Views: 337
Having needs is simply part of the human experience and is not something that is bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, it doesn't mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs.
When someone doesn't feel comfortable with them, their life is going to be a lot ... Views: 337
In general, someone could find that they have the need to keep people at arm’s length, preferring not to get too close to them. They could find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember.
By being this way, they are unlikely to share a great deal about themselves. When ... Views: 337
If someone is in touch with their own needs and does what they can to fulfil them, it will probably be hard for them to comprehend why a man would be so focused on his mother and her needs. To them, it will be clear that he is neglecting his own needs and living a very watered down life as a ... Views: 336
Being seen is important but it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet generally feels seen. When someone does feel seen, it will be a time when another person not only looks at them but also tunes into what is going on for them and displays empathy.
Therefore, they are not going to see ... Views: 335
What can be normal is for someone to spend most of their time doing things. Therefore, they will rarely if ever take the time to relax and recharge.
But, if this was pointed out to them, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to accept this. For example, they could say that life is too short ... Views: 335
After getting to the stage where they can see that they are not in a good way, someone can look for a way to change their life. There is a chance that they have been this way for quite some time.
Either way, they will have taken a big step by becoming aware of what is going as if this hasn’t ... Views: 335
While both her son and his mother will be adults, he can have the need to essentially save his mother. It then won’t matter if he is not a doctor or a therapist, for instance, as he will do what he can to resolve all her issues.
Now, this could mean that his mother is deeply unwell and has ... Views: 335
Although a man will look like an adult, if his mother used him to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs during his early years, he is unlikely to feel like one. Instead, he is likely to feel like a boy.
However, he is unlikely to feel like a boy who has been treated well; he is ... Views: 335
At this point in time, a man could be with a woman who is anything but his equal, and this might be how it has been with a number of other women. Now, she might be the same age as him or very close to his age, or there could be a number of years between them.
However, regardless of this, she ... Views: 335
Transport accidents can have a profound impact on survivors, both physically and emotionally. Whether it's a car crash, train derailment, or aviation disaster, the aftermath of a traumatic incident can leave individuals struggling to cope with the physical injuries, psychological trauma, and ... Views: 335
With what is taking place in Ukraine and the damage that is being done, it can seem as though the main problem is the president of Russia – Vladimir Putin. The reason for this is that he is at the forefront of what is taking place.
So, if he was to change his mind and put an end to what is ... Views: 334
Although human beings are emotional beings, it wouldn’t be right to say that every human being on the planet comes across as one. There are those who are in tune with how they feel and there are those who are typically out of touch with how they feel.
Consequently, there are those who appear ... Views: 334
In order for a boy to not just grow into a man but to act like one, it will be essential for him to receive the right care and guidance. For this to take place, both his mother and father will play an important role.
His mother will provide him with the care that he needs to emotionally ... Views: 334