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If someone wanted to gain an understanding of what it is like when another person deprives themselves, they will simply need to pay attention to a man who is overly focused on his mother. By doing this, they will probably find out what it is like when someone stops themselves from receiving what ... Views: 398
If someone spends a lot of time looking into what appears to be happening behind the scenes, so to speak, they are not going to happy to go along with the narrative that the mainstream media sells. They are likely to be a deeply curious person who has the need to know what is actually going ... Views: 394
Through getting to the stage of his life where he is now a man, it could be said that he won’t need all of the same things that he needed as a child. To put it another way, he will have grown out of certain needs that he had.
To focus solely on the needs that he would have primarily had in ... Views: 394
Anger, like any other feeling, is neutral; what defines whether it will lead to constructive or destructive behaviour is how it is utilized. So, if a man was to end up experiencing anger and lashed out at someone, it would be destructive.
However, if he was to end up experiencing anger and ... Views: 393
Although a mother-enmeshed man’s life is likely to revolve around his mother, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up getting into a relationship. When this takes place, he might spend less time doing things for his mother.
But as time goes by, he could end becoming more focused on his mothers ... Views: 393
Now, if someone was to take a step back and reflect on what they fear, they may find that a number of things enter their mind. They could find that they have a fear of being abandoned and rejected.
Alternatively, they could see that they have a fear of being harmed and their life coming to an ... Views: 392
It could be said that no matter who someone is, there are going to be moments in their life when something won’t go to plan. So, instead of being able to go from A to B, they will end up going from A to A.
For whatever reason, they will have come up against a hurdle and it won’t be possible ... Views: 392
When it comes to someone’s life, there can be areas that are going well and areas that are not. If the areas of their life that are not going well have been this way for as long as they can remember, they could believe that there is very little that they can do.
This is likely to mean that ... Views: 389
When a man has a felt sense of safety, he will be able to be in his body and to freely express himself. As a result of this, his body will be his home and he won’t need to live in his head.
By being this way, he will be able to feel at ease and experience inner peace. In other words, his ... Views: 388
What is clear is that if a man is in a position where practically his whole life revolves around his mother and he is focused on her needs, he is not going to be empowered and feel as though he has control over his own life. He is likely to feel as though he is his mother’s possession and has to ... Views: 388
Although someone’s worth is inherent and is, therefore, not based on what they do, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can believe that their worth is based on what they do.
Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is something that they are consciously aware of. Even ... Views: 388
If someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance.
Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need ... Views: 388
Even though a man is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that his primary relationship will be with his partner. No, there can be someone else, and this person will take up a lot of his time and energy as a result.
What could come to mind at this point is that he is having an affair, with this ... Views: 385
What should be normal is for a man to be connected to his own needs and to do what he can to take care of them. But, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, what can be normal is for him to be connected to her needs and to do what he can to meet them.
Being there for her in this ... Views: 385
After something ‘bad’ has happened, it can be normal for the mainstream media to assess what has happened through the victim/perpetrator lens. One person or a number of people will be victims, whilst another person or a number of people will be perpetrators.
It might not end there, though, ... Views: 384
Even if someone is in a good position financially, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel settled. They can often feel anxious and as though something bad is about to happen.
Now, irrespective if they are in a good position financially, if they were to take a closer look at why they ... Views: 384
What someone may find is that they often feel flat and as though they are missing something. During these moments, they are not going to be filled with energy or feel alive.
When this happens, they could feel the need to do something, which could soon allow them to change what is going on for ... Views: 384
Regardless of if a mother-enmeshed man comes across as strong and appears to have it all together, it is unlikely that he will feel strong and capable on the inside. Behind the mask that he may wear is likely to be someone who feels the complete opposite.
He could, of course, come across as ... Views: 384
After living a life that is anything but fulfilling, someone could end up coming across the law of attraction. Thanks to this, they could soon come to the conclusion that this law will allow them to finally live a life that is worth living.
It could be as though their luck has finally ... Views: 383
If a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he might soon see that he is overly focused on his mother. This could be something that he has been forced to do after having experienced a breakup.
As a result of being in a relationship, then, what had not stood out before would have ended ... Views: 382
In general, someone could find that it is a challenge for them to connect to their needs and feelings. Along with this, they could find that they often feel numb and don’t have a great deal of energy.
By being this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to live a life that is deeply ... Views: 381
If a man is in a position where he is emotionally entangled with his mother, there is the chance that he is not even aware of this. This is likely to show that this is normal, which is why he is unable to see what is going on.
Focusing on his mother's needs and doing what he can to be there ... Views: 381
For a woman to have been with one man who was caught up in his mother’s world would have been tough, but, to have been with a number of men who were like this will have been even worse. Assuming that she has been in this position more than once, she might have decided to turn her back on this ... Views: 381
Although the ideal will be for someone to be able to experience positive feelings on a regular basis, it doesn’t mean that this will be something that they are able to relate to. It could typically be a challenge for them to feel good.
In general, they could feel bad, guilty, ashamed and ... Views: 381
If someone wanted to find out about what is taking place around them and in the world at large, they could end up looking towards the mainstream media. Most likely, this is what they will have done for most of their life.
It is then not that they have taken a deeper look into this source and ... Views: 380
If someone has a victim mentality, they are essentially going to believe that they have no control over their life. What will be in control of their life will be the situations, circumstances and events that they find themselves in and the people with who they cross paths with.
In other ... Views: 380
For quite some time, someone may have been able to see that they have been with a number of people that were not available. If so, this is likely to be something that has caused them to experience a fair amount of anger and frustration.
But, as they are going to want to experience a deeper ... Views: 379
What could be normal for a man is for him to feel powerless and helpless, and this can mean that he will often feel low and even depressed. What will be clear from this is that he will rarely if ever feel strong and powerful.
As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything ... Views: 378
If a woman has been with at least two men who were heavily caught up in their mother’s world, she could be totally confused and well and truly fed up. In all likelihood, she is likely to want to be with a man who is available.
But, although she will want to be with a man who is like this, she ... Views: 378
Even if someone’s early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, it doesn’t mean that they have well and truly put this stage of their life behind them. Nonetheless, there is the chance that they have completely forgotten about this stage of their life.
Or ... Views: 377
When it comes to a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother, it can be hard for someone to understand what is going on. He is going to be undermining himself, so this is to be expected.
They can wonder why a grown man would be so focused on his mother and deprive himself in ... Views: 376
Even though human beings live on the same planet, what is clear is that they are not all having the same experience. Not only are there going to be different experiences that some people have in one country and some people have in another, but there will be differences that people experience in ... Views: 376
Now that someone is in a relationship, it may occur to them that how they have behaved for so long is not serving them. The reason for this is that for as long as they can remember, they may have tried to do just about everything by themselves and rarely expressed their feelings.
They will ... Views: 376
When it comes to the modern-day world, there are numerous sources that are trying to gain people’s attention. And, thanks to the invention of the Smartphone, it is perhaps easier than ever before for them to do this.
As a result, it is no longer necessary to have someone sit down to watch ... Views: 375
Although someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. The main reason for this is that they could find it hard to be by themselves, with this being a time when they typically feel all at sea emotionally.
If they are around another or others, ... Views: 375
A man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up.
Now that it has ... Views: 375
In general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life.
This is likely to show that this is more than just ... Views: 374
If a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, it is going to show that he is out of touch with himself. However, how he lives will most likely be what is normal and thus, he probably won’t even realise that this is the case.
Based on how he ... Views: 372
If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves around women, what he may find is that he has the tendency to hide his needs. When this takes place, he will create the impression that he doesn't have any.
Or, if this doesn't take place, it will be as though he only has a few ... Views: 372
Although a man is on this planet to live his own life, if he is emotionally entangled with his mother, this won’t take place. Instead, just about his whole life can revolve around her, with him neglecting himself in the process.
This whole scenario can make absolutely no sense whatsoever to ... Views: 372
What a man may realise, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he is not very balanced. The reason for this is that he may see that he finds it hard to stand his ground and take action.
In general, he may find that he allows other people to walk over him and he only does things if ... Views: 372
If someone is in a position where they don’t feel worthy of having what they need and want, it might no matter what they do. They can then have the tendency to work really hard but it won’t change how they feel.
This can mean that they will rarely have what they need and want and will often ... Views: 372
Having the ability to trust will not only allow someone to go about their day-to-day life it will also allow them to live a fulfilling life. The reason for this is that, on one side, without it, they wouldn’t even leave their bed, let alone their home.
And on the other, it wouldn’t be ... Views: 371
When it comes to what it means to be a man, there are a number of different views. For some people, it will relate to someone who is mentally strong, is able to provide and can lead, while for others, it will relate to someone who is in tune with his feelings, cares about others and takes ... Views: 371
One thing that a man could find, that’s if he was to get into a relationship, is that he is out of touch with how he feels. Prior to this, it might not have even occurred to him that he was this way.
This would have just been what was normal and he may have been this way for as long as he can ... Views: 370
After coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting his own life, a man may end up feeling used and betrayed. This is perhaps after he has denied that he is too focused on his mother and is being used.
The reason for this is that coming to terms with what is going on ... Views: 370
Based on how a man, who is entangled with his mother, behaves, it can be as if he is his mother’s parent. So, regardless of whether or not he is actually a parent, he will certainly act like one.
As a result of this, he will spend a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother and ... Views: 370
If the average person was asked to think about both an adult and a child experiencing something that is deeply distressing and was then asked to decide which one would be harmed the most, they are likely to say the latter. They could say that as the child is not as developed it is bound to have ... Views: 369
If a man is emotionally entangled with his mother and unable to live his own life, other people could end up commenting on his behaviour. This is something that his partner could do, assuming that he is in a relationship.
She could often tell him that although he spends a lot of time focusing ... Views: 368
Although a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him.
The seeds that were planted will have grown ... Views: 368