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After many, many years of pain, one could find that they have the need to keep people at a distance. At this point, it will be clear that it is not other people; it will be the person who they see whenever they look in the mirror.
But, although they will now understand that they are the ones ... Views: 603
If someone was able to go back in time a few hundred years, the only way that they would be able to find out about what is going on in the world is by reading a newspaper and speaking to others. Now, if they were to go forward in time, they would soon have a radio to inform them and then a bit ... Views: 602
In today’s world, and perhaps the world has been this way for most of human history, it is often believed that everything is separate. In other words, a lot of people only operate out of their five senses.
Therefore, even if something ‘bad’ happens that affects a lot of people, it won’t be as ... Views: 601
When it comes to achieving something, developing a skill or having an intimate relationship, for instance, it will be essential for someone to make a commitment. Through making a decision to stick with something, they will be able to make progress and to reap the benefits of doing so.
If this ... Views: 600
If a man is in a position where he has just lost his father, he could be experiencing life in one of two ways. He could be in a very bad way emotionally, or he could be emotionally shut down.
Then again, there could be moments when he feels overwhelmed with grief and moments when he is out ... Views: 599
When it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame.
What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the ... Views: 598
Now that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water.
To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and ... Views: 595
If someone’s mind and emotions were settled and they felt at peace, they may wonder what it would be like to experience life in this way more often. Then again, thanks to how rarely they experience life in this way, they could be totally consumed by what is taking place.
Perhaps they have ... Views: 594
Even if someone is not aware of the fact that they experienced trauma during their early years, what they may be aware of is the fact that they find it hard to make decisions. It might not matter if it is a big or a small decision as it could still be a challenge.
As a result of this, they ... Views: 589
Although someone may want to form deeper connections with others and to even have an intimate relationship, this might not have been possible. When it comes to the former, they may have only been able to get so close to people, and, when it comes to the latter, it might not be any better.
If ... Views: 589
In recent years, a lot has been said about how much hate there is in the world. One thing that is seen as having played a part in the rise of hate is social media, with these platforms often being viewed as breeding grounds for hate.
So, as part of an ongoing crackdown on hate, videos and ... Views: 588
If one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons ... Views: 586
One thing that can take place, that’s if someone has experienced childhood trauma, is that they can typically live ‘up top’. This means that their point of focus will primarily be in their head.
When their point of focus is in their head, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their ... Views: 585
Due to what is currently taking place in the world, it has not been possible for a lot of people to behave as they usually would. To protect themselves, others and different services, they are only allowed to leave their home to do certain things.
If they need to go shopping, to exercise or ... Views: 585
If someone is in touch with and is able to express their personal power, there will be no need for them to control others. They will have control over themselves and their own life, which will take away their desire to infringe on another person’s boundaries.
Through being this way, they ... Views: 585
In the same way that a mirror will reflect back what is taking place on the outside of someone’s being, their outer world will mirror back what is taking place on the inside of their being. However, although the former is something that is self-evident, the same can’t be said for the ... Views: 585
One thing that is often said in the self-development world is that someone shouldn’t seek approval from others. This is typically seen as something that will hold them back and prevent them from living a fulfilling existence.
A quote by Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher and author, goes ... Views: 584
The mainstream media routinely gives exposure to stories where one person, or a group of people, is the victim and another person, or a group of people, is the perpetrator. One person will then have been randomly harmed in some way by another person.
The former will have been powerless to do ... Views: 584
After living a pretty miserable existence for many, many years, someone may come to see that feeling powerless is a normal part of their life. This means that they are unlikely to feel this way from time to time, they can more or less always feel this way.
If they don’t feel this way, based ... Views: 582
The other night, I watched a video of a brown bear that kept walking around in circles. This bear was not in a cage, though, it was outside and was thus, free to go anywhere that it wanted.
Apparently, it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it ... Views: 581
If someone was deeply traumatised during their early years, they may typically live on the surface of themselves now that they are an adult. As a result of this, they are unlikely to have a strong connection with their feelings and certain needs.
However, this could be something that they ... Views: 580
On one side, there is the internal world, and on the other, there is the external world. The ideal will be for someone to be aware of what is going on within and to be aware of what is going on without.
Through being this way, they will be able to tune with their needs and feelings, and they ... Views: 579
There will be times when it is possible for someone to know what another person’s needs are and times when it won’t be. That is, of course, unless someone has the ability to read minds; if they do, they will always know.
But, if this ability is put to one side, another person will need to ... Views: 578
A few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things.
Something that caught my attention was when the main ... Views: 576
Everyone's life is filled with ups and downs, but it can sometimes be difficult to bounce back and find your way after hitting a low point. Whether you're struggling with a divorce, job loss or the death of a loved one, it's easy to feel alone and lose sight of your goals and dreams. Here are ... Views: 575
When someone has developed a good level of self-awareness, they will be able to know what is taking place inside them. This means that they will have the ability to connect their thoughts, feelings and needs.
Thanks to this, it will be a lot easier for them to behave in a way that will serve ... Views: 575
In addition to having a physical body, human beings also have a number of other bodies. There is what could be classed as an emotional body, mental body and at least one other body that can’t be perceived by the five senses.
Now, although each person on this planet has a number of different ... Views: 574
There are some people who are left-leaning/right-leaning who see all people on the other side of the spectrum as crazy. In fact, it could go even further than this with these people seeing all of the people on the other side as less-than-human.
When someone is in this position, they are ... Views: 572
When someone is in a relationship, the ideal will be for them to be in touch with who they are and to express their true-self. By being this way, being close to another person will have changed them, but it won’t have caused them to abandon themselves.
Therefore, when they are around the ... Views: 571
When it comes to how someone behaves and what their life is like, there is the chance that these two things are a reflection of what is taking place internally. In other words, there will be a connection between their inner world and their outer world.
This is not to say that their behaviour ... Views: 571
When someone is in touch with their emotional self around others, it will allow them to feel connected to them and to fully embrace the moment. Being this way will also allow them to develop deeper relationships with others.
So, whether it relates to a friend or an intimate partner, one will ... Views: 566
If a certain area of one’s life is not going very well, they could end up focusing on what is going on externally. Through doing this, they could come up with a number of reasons as to why it is this way.
Let’s say that their relationships are not very fulfilling, with this being an area of ... Views: 566
It has been said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations; however, it has also been said that having expectations is simply part of the human experience. If they are simply part of the human experience, it is not going to be possible to remove all expectations.
So, if someone was to try ... Views: 565
If someone was to take the time to reflect on their own behaviour, what they may find is that it is a challenge for them to express themselves. This is not to say that this won’t ever take place but what it could mean is that this rarely takes place.
Furthermore, they may generally only be ... Views: 565
It could be said that, at this point in time, there are more people than ever before who are looking into what is taking place behind the scenes, so to speak. Thanks to the amount of information that is available, this is not something that takes much effort.
There are numerous websites, ... Views: 564
Once someone has left home, it could be said that they will be their own person. Undoubtedly, what they learnt during their time in their caregiver/s presence will have influenced who they are but now they will be free to express themselves.
If they have trouble expressing themselves or ... Views: 564
When it comes to something that someone fears, there are at least two things that they can do. One option is for them to face what they fear and resolve it; another option is for them to avoid what they fear and to try to make sure that what they fear doesn’t take place.
Not only can someone ... Views: 562
The very fact that someone is on this planet – has incarnated – could be put forward as evidence that they deserve to exist. But, although this is so, someone could still believe that they don’t deserve to be here.
Through having this belief, it won’t be possible for them to see that they ... Views: 560
In a very short period of time, America will have a new president, and this president is likely to be in the white house for at least four years. For a lot of people in America and around the world, this moment can’t come soon enough.
They will be pleased that the current president will be ... Views: 559
Although experiencing emotional pain from time to time is simply part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everything can relate to this experience. For some people, this is something that they will experience after a breakup, a loss, the end of a job, or when something doesn’t go as they had ... Views: 558
For a number of weeks now, a lot of coverage has been given to what is taking place in America. This is somewhere where some people have been protesting, whilst others have been destroying property.
But, although both of these things have been taking place, it doesn’t mean that every media ... Views: 557
When it comes to whether or not someone has a felt sense of their own worth, it can all depend on what their early years were like. Now, this is not to say that if someone’s early years were not very nurturing, it won’t be possible for them to develop it as an adult.
The truth is that this is ... Views: 556
If someone’s inner world is not in a good way, they could simply tolerate what is going on and not do anything about it. Then again, they could end up looking for a way to change their life.
When it comes to what is taking place inside them, they could find that their thoughts and feelings ... Views: 554
Although a man may want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to fulfil this need. What he may find, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has only been able to get so far when he has been in a relationship.
He could see that he has been with a number of women ... Views: 553
Inner and outer problems could be seen as being part of the human experience; it is not possible to avoid them. This doesn’t mean that living in a certain way won’t minimize the chances that someone will have inner and outer problems.
But, no matter what someone does, they are not going to ... Views: 553
Even if someone is not connected to themselves and rooted in their body, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, there will be no reason for them to do anything about their life; they can just carry on living in the same way.
Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that they will ... Views: 552
If a man was brought up by a father who was physically and verbally abusive, he might not be in a good way now that he is an adult. In fact, he could be in a very bad way and each day could be a challenge.
However, if he is in a bad way, it doesn’t mean that he will realise why he is this ... Views: 552
From the outside, someone can look whole, but that doesn’t mean that they are actually whole on the inside. This is not to say that they will be missing certain organs; it means that they might not be an integrated human being.
If another person was to get to know them, they may soon realise ... Views: 549
After having been out of touch with their needs for as long as they can remember, one could now be in a position where they have decided that enough is enough. Perhaps the pain of living in this way has got too much for them to handle.
Now, this doesn’t mean that they will be out of touch ... Views: 549
Nowadays, it is not uncommon for exercise to be seen as something that is not only far more effective than therapy but as something that is far cheaper too. Like mindfulness, then, it is often seen as a panacea.
Based on this outlook, no matter what someone is dealing with or what is ... Views: 548