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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Seven Essential Skills of Emotion Management - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Janie BehrYour emotions and feelings protect us, and give our lives richness. If emotions become overwhelming they can also be the cause of undue stress, and erratic behavior. Journaling can help balance and regulate your emotions and feel more comfortable and directed in your emotional life. Every day ...
Views: 8591(2 votes) - So What? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Hal WechslerSo What? Did you ever notice that there is an endless conversation going on in your mind called Self-Talk or Internal Dialogue? We stopped being aware of it because it has always been there. It is called – Thinking or Steam of Consciousness. We hold conversations between our – I, ...
Views: 1586(3 votes) - Speaking Up: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Some People From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to share their views on something, they might not have a problem speaking out. Also, if another person was to do something that they disagreed with, they could also be happy to speak up. What this can illustrate is that this is someone who doesn’t have any trouble ...
Views: 570(1 vote) - The # 1 Reason You Lose Control of Your Subconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Victtor Da PonteMost experts have been focusing their teachings on the great power of the subconscious mind to assimilate 1000 times more information than the conscious mind. The typical idea is that in order to have full access to the subconscious mind, you must be in a meditative state. Only then can you ...
Views: 6553(2 votes) - The Art of Having a Bad Day - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Paul DaltonA lot of personal development teachers and motivational guru’s like to drill home that the key to success is ‘State Management’, i.e. your ability to manipulate your physical and emotional being so that you are constantly aligned with success producing thoughts and actions. In fact, much of what ...
Views: 1750(2 votes) - The Eye Of The BeholderSubmitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Santi ChaconEye of The Beholder In January 10, 2006 The NewYork Times reported: On a hot summer day 15 years ago in Parma, Italy, a monkey sat in a special laboratory chair waiting for researchers to return from lunch. Thin wires had been implanted in the region of its brain involved in planning and ...
Views: 1197(1 vote) - The Great Equalizer to Fearful Thinking - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Tambra HarckIf you listen to the news media, or read it, or talk about what's being reported, it's easy to lose focus on how amazingly abundant and joyous life really is. Recently I asked a group of 30+ business people how they feel when they engage in the "bad economy" talk that has now been going on ...
Views: 1509(1 vote) - The Language of Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaToday’s busy lifestyles make it very hard for people to find a moment to disengage from daily frantic activity and find some meditation or reconnection time, a time to regroup or reintegrate one’s energies. However, Spirit has found the perfect solution to this problem: if it is efficiency ...
Views: 1469(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Control How Some People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone does something or not can all depend on how they feel, and this shows how powerful their feelings are. There are going to be people who are defined by how they feel, and then there are going to be others who are able to take a step back. A Slave When someone’s behaviour is ...
Views: 1024(1 vote) - The Media: Is It Important For Someone To Be Sceptical When It Comes To The Mainstream Media? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to read a newspaper or to watch a news station, they might keep a mental distance (psychological distance) from what they are exposed to. Said another way, they won’t let what they hear to go straight into their mind. Through being this way, they will be able to take a deeper ...
Views: 550(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the mainstream media has spoken a lot about mental health. What this has done is created greater awareness around this important topic; something that might not have occurred otherwise. There are at least two ways that this source has played a part. Firstly, it has spoken ...
Views: 813(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Behaving Like A Petulant Child When It Comes To The Presidential Election Result? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNow that the presidential election has ended, it has given people the opportunity to focus on something else. Therefore, if someone was caught up with what was taking place; their life may have gone back to how it was. Alternatively, the whole experience may have had a big effect on them, ...
Views: 1270(1 vote) - The Power of Impulse Control - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from Harvey Deutschendorf“A true history of human events would show that a far larger proportion of our acts are the result of sudden impulse and accident than of reason of which we so often boast”. Albert Cooper Have you ever spoken out in anger and regretted the words almost as soon as they came out? Ever acted ...
Views: 1695(2 votes) - The Purpose of Emotions: Our Built-in Spiritual GPS System - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from John GrobergOur emotions play a big role in our lives- but for many of us the role they play is too much the improper role of master of our behavior and not enough the proper role of trusted informant of where we are placing the creative power of our attention and thus what we are in the process of creating ...
Views: 3275(2 votes) - The Purpose of Your Life and How to Find It - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Teal ScottThe purpose of life is to live it. To be immersed in that which we call “experience” to such a degree that we may know what it is that we truly want. And because we are the furthest most ripple of that which we call source or god, when we reach out eagerly and without fear for that newer and ...
Views: 1259(1 vote) - The Secret of Being Happy - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonThe most important thing in life is finding happiness and promoting happiness to everyone you come into contact with. There are dozens of happiness quotes. One so often hears the phrase that "you cannot buy happiness"; it's true; you cannot buy happiness. But how do you go about the task of ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - Those Who Mind Won’t Matter! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2010 from Richard (Dick) WarnSir Lawrence Olivier, British actor and director, said, “I have to act to live.” Sir Lawrence Olivier had gotten so good at professional acting that he loved what he did. That type of “love” occurs when someone becomes one with what they are doing. No one has the ability to become that good ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2014 from William CottringerTHREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE By Bill Cottringer “We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - True-Self: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Expressing Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about a time when they were able to be themselves, they could say that it was possible for them to express their true-self. Whereas as if they were to think about a time in their life when they were unable to be themselves, they could say that this was a time when their ...
Views: 1054(1 vote) - Trust Your Knowing - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBe honest. When was the last time you leaped out of bed, threw open the window and said, "Thank god I'm alive! This is the most glorious day, and today I'm going to do something so fabulous it will change my entire life?" -- Kathleen Neville Over the last several days, people have ...
Views: 5183(1 vote) - Twitter Fights - A New Medium for Celebrity Self-Sabotage - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteHA! That's often my first reaction when I open up the daily Calendar Section in the Los Angeles Times in the wee dark hours of each morning. This Monday morning's edition was no exception. Matea Gold reports that celebrities are taking their egoist rants about each other to the public stage ...
Views: 1871(2 votes) - Uncontrollable - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBetween the wish and the thing life lies waiting. -- Unknown When you're stuck in a situation you can't control, how do you handle it? Really think about that. When you have to sit in traffic on the highway for two hours because a truck overturned up ahead and there's no way ...
Views: 1628(1 vote) - Ungrounded: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Feel Ungrounded? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a ...
Views: 2606(1 vote) - Victim Mentality: Is There A Benefit To Being A Victim? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life. However, if they were to ...
Views: 2240(1 vote) - Viewing the World with Different Glasses - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Steven AitchisonWe all have different glasses we wear when looking at the world, and in particular, when dealing with certain events that happen in our lives. I'd like to give you an example of what I am talking about here. A few years ago when I was driving my eldest son home from one of his clubs, I ...
Views: 2790(2 votes) - Walking on Thin Ice, is Your Career Secure - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Harlan GoergerEarlier this morning I commented on a debating blog about true security. By the time I was done with my rant the realization was, here is an article with some punch. Does life limit us? Do we limit us? Does positive or negative thinking limit us? Do others limit us? When you think of ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - Ways of Meeting New People in School - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuWhen you’re in school, there are lots of opportunities to meet new people and make friends. You just need to know what these opportunities are and how to use them. The best thing about school is that it’s a social environment. It may have the primary purpose of educating young individuals, ...
Views: 1860(1 vote) - What Does Passive-Aggressive Mean? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Len SonePassive-aggressive means that you first do something passive and then you do something aggressive. In other words, first you do something you don’t want to do, then you do something hostile. Let me give you an easy example first. Your friend tells you to wash her dishes. If you wash the ...
Views: 2307(2 votes) - What is EQ and Why Do You Care? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Margaret MeloniEQ is the acronym for Emotional Intelligence. So not only do you and I have an IQ (Intelligence Quotient), we also have emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is not about traditional intelligence. It is about our ability to handle ourselves and others. It is all about our ability to get ...
Views: 1167(2 votes) - Whats Your Aim In Life - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Deepak LodhiaHave you ever been asked the question, “What’s your aim in life?” Have you ever understood what the person asking the question meant? It’s quite a powerful question because it is a pretty direct and incisive way to ascertain what your purpose in life is and what you aim to achieve as a goal. ...
Views: 20343(1 vote) - Why Is Volunteering Important? Can One Person Make a Difference? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2011 from Steve ZabilskiIf you are considering volunteering and are wondering if you can really make a difference. The simple answer is “Yes!” A single person that volunteers at the Society of St. Vincent de Paul joins forces with over 16,000 other people who volunteer their time and talents to help the homeless and ...
Views: 1402(1 vote) - Would you like to feel good? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Larry CranePretty certain, most folks would love to feel good at all times, although many may think it’s not possible to always feel good. Ok, what’s right about feeling good? Feeling good encompasses many things… Perhaps it is working on an incredible project – getting involved – being inspired. Maybe ...
Views: 1364(1 vote) - What Helps You Expand Your Thinking? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2009 from M.J. RyanSo many of us think about creativity in the context of being an artist or musician. However I prefer the definition that resiliency expert Frederic Flach uses. Creativity is “a response to a situation that calls for a novel but adaptive solution, one that serves to accomplish a goal.” That’s ...
Views: 1743(9 votes) - No More Stress: 3 Steps to Lasting Inner Peace - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2010 from Eugene Yiga“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu The biggest part about dealing with stress is about dealing with our emotions. Most of us are so ...
Views: 1617(7 votes) - 3 Simple Ways to Meet Amazing People & Create Outstanding Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Danish AhmedHey there everyone!! The people that are part of my community love coming out to my parties, shows, and events. The experience people have is extraordinary, and they rave about it. Why? What’s so special about the people I know? I’ve been distinguishing what attributes of people’s being ...
Views: 3781(5 votes) - How To Attract Happiness and Contentment In Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Joanna VaiouWe all know that most of the people desire to be happy and healthy in body and mind. That is absolutely true. What most of the people do not understand is how to produce happiness in their life instead of letting despair lead them to the garden of misery and depression. Here are some ...
Views: 2909(5 votes) - What is Your Definition of Love? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Andy O'NeillWhat is Your Definition of Love? Love is probably the most written and talked about subject of all time. I have had a few long-term, intimate relationships and have met many thousands of people over the course of my lifetime. I am a company director and personal-development specialist. ...
Views: 2550(5 votes) - Your Inner Guidance System - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Allison Moseley MossWhen you have a problem or a question that you are working through or asking yourself, use your inner knowledge to find the answers. We each have our own inner wisdom and guidance system. The key is understanding how to listen. The first step is to set aside time to quiet your mind. With ...
Views: 1598(5 votes) - *** Artist or Creative Block? Are You Running Into Foolish Assumptions? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteYou're blocked, stuck in your creative expression and flow, and it doesn't feel good. You hate being in this emotional state. In your despair you give attention, energy and focus to your block thereby strengthening the very block you wish to overcome. And you feel worse. You are literally and ...
Views: 1589(4 votes) - Crying Spells - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreI had a good crying spell yesterday. Actually, I felt pretty okay about it. Because it showed me where my boundaries of pain were, and it showed me I was going into those boundaries. As a way to expand myself. In other words, the crying spell was a signal, or a manifestation, of the process ...
Views: 8503(4 votes) - Dealing with Difficult People in the Workplace - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Stephanie GoddardI know you’ve selected this article, because you want a 1-2-3 step formula for dealing with the jerk down the hall or in the next cube to make them permanently go away and possibly even like you for it. And you know it doesn’t exist, so don’t be irritated with me. I do have the solution, but ...
Views: 1845(4 votes) - Selling is a Mind Game that Starts on Home Turf - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Clive MillerSelf sabotage stems from unconscious interference. We desire a certain outcome yet sometimes, a part of us refuses to cooperate. Yet if we could train our unconscious mind to work in harmony with our purpose, almost anything ought to be possible. How can we train our unconscious mind to ...
Views: 2363(4 votes) - The Art of Critique - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2010 from Eugene Yiga“Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.” – Douglas Adams We all make mistakes. What matters most is how we respond to them. But what often stands in the way of this is ...
Views: 2383(4 votes) - How to Avoid Being a Victim of Persistent Failure and Become a Winner - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Andre ZiziThe truth about the physics of positive emotions may not always please moaners, and losers, especially when you try, with your best of intentions, to help them overcome their own limitation. People will always resist that which they cannot understand. They will always tell you “this is how ...
Views: 1992(3 votes) - Beating Road Rage - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfThe other day I was driving down a four lane road at about 3:00 in the afternoon. There was light traffic and I was in the right lane. All of a sudden this car cuts right in front of my as he swerves into my lane and THEN he hits his brakes. My first impulse was to get both of my hands ...
Views: 1712(3 votes) - Cultivating Self Trust - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from M.J. RyanSelf trust is a virtue, like patience, that has been all but lost in the externally focused society that has increasingly evolved over the past fifty years or so. It is the capacity to know ourselves deeply and to rely on ourselves confidently as the source of our decisions. It is a combination ...
Views: 1778(3 votes) - Does Your Boss Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfFiona was Corrie’s manager at a branch of a large financial institution that had branches across the U.S. Europe and Asia. They had recently come up with a new process that Fiona was hoping that the organization would adopt throughout their operations. As Corrie was instrumental in developing ...
Views: 1670(3 votes) - From Slavery to Freedom - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Victoria Lorient-FaibishWhat is change? How do we achieve this illusive concept? How do we master going beyond what we have been taught to do repeatedly either because we saw it or because it was drilled in to us on pain of who knows what? The thing I ask most readily when a client enters my office is “What is it that ...
Views: 1597(6 votes) - How to Make a Really Difficult Decision - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Claudia LuizPatients often contact me for therapy in the throes of a difficult decision. They want to know if they should get a new job or change their child's school, move to another city or leave their spouse. When they can’t make a decision, it is usually not for lack of relevant information and advice ...
Views: 12602(3 votes) - Overcoming Fear and Paralysis That Can Derail Promising Careers - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfAt the end of the unit meeting Jeremy once again felt very frustrated. Janice and Alan had once again taken up the majority of the time, talking about things which he felt were trivial and inconsequential. It seemed to him that every little thing that they did they had to embellish it so that ...
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