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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Definition: Alexithymia - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisAlexithymia from the Greek words λεξις and θυμος (literally "without words for emotions") is a term coined by Peter Sifneos in 1973[1][2] to describe a state of deficiency in understanding, processing, or describing ...
Views: 3088 - Legitimate Suffering: What Is Legitimate Suffering? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a saying by Carl Jung that says - “Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering”. And while this has got to be one of his most famous quotes, it is not easily understood. In today’s world it is often advocated that one should avoid pain at all costs. This is something ...
Views: 3088 - “What Is Legitimate Suffering?” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, it must have been around 2013, I came across a term that fascinated me. I can’t remember how I came across this term, but what I do remember is that I was part of a quote by Carl Jung. I even ended up writing an article about it around the same time. This was the ...
Views: 3074 - The Emotionally Healthy Woman - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeThere are some serious misconceptions about what an emotionally healthy woman is. "Protect your creative life, If you would avoid habre del alma, the starved soul, name the problem for what it is-and fix it. Practice your work every day. Then, let no thought , no man, no woman, no mate, no ...
Views: 3071(1 vote) - Facing Guilt in Your Past - by Submitted on May 08, 2011 from Karen KleinwortRIDDING YOURSELF OF SHAME FROM YOUR PAST It’s only human to make mistakes, and we all have done things of which we’re not proud. Although time can blur the memory and alleviate the pain of stressful incidents from our past, often it’s not a simple task to overcome the guilt that stems from ...
Views: 3068(2 votes) - Anatomy Of Loneliness - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2012 from Brock HansenHave you ever been lonely in a roomful of people? Have you ever been perfectly content all alone? Most people would answer yes to both questions and yet a number of the same people complain of painful chronic loneliness. What is loneliness? Why are some people troubled with it so much ...
Views: 3067(1 vote) - Normal: What Does Normal Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word normal can trigger all kinds of meanings and what can come to mind are the judgements that are made around people. How someone looks, dresses or behaves is often part of this judgement. However, this article is not going to be about what is classed as normal or abnormal about people. ...
Views: 3054 - Build a Solid Foundation of Emotional Self-Awareness - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Byron StockFor over a decade, I have worked with an Emotional Intelligence (EI) model that indicates emotional self-awareness as the foundational competency. Emotional self-awareness supports and serves as a basis upon which to build EI competencies including emotional self-management, emotional ...
Views: 3025 - Humanity: Is Humanity Failing? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to become aware of what is taking place in the world and this is because of how connected the world has become through technology. For instance, one only needs to turn a TV or a computer on or to look at their phone. Here, one will have the chance to consume ...
Views: 3018 - Learning to Control Your Emotions - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2011 from cedric riceHow many times have emotional outbursts destroyed a life or career? Our emotions can either work for us or against us depending on how we handle them. Gaining control of your emotions is a practice which requires maturity and experience. We have to learn to recognize the emotions which seek to ...
Views: 3008(3 votes) - 10 Social and Business Truths from "Social Network", The Movie - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Andrew ChowA movie based on Mark Zuckerberg and the founding years of Facebook, called The Social Network, was released on October 28, 2010. The plot – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Social_Network I was invited by Sony Pictures for the preview of “Social Network” about 2 weeks before it was launched. ...
Views: 3001(1 vote) - Five Emotional Intelligence Strategies to Develop Others - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Reldan NadlerFive Emotional Intelligence Strategies with Others: Mastering the Moment In the last blog I started with strategies to raise your emotional intelligence for yourself. In this next in the series we will look at strategies to raise your emotional intelligence with others. Mastering the ...
Views: 3001 - Emotional Intelligence Training: Case Study - Medrad. - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from Bill BenjaminEQ SUCCESS STORIES IHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential Two years ago, John Gardner, Systems Engineering Manager at Medrad, a medical devices company, was recognized as someone with a high degree of technical skills and an ability to “get things done.” But at what ...
Views: 3000 - Communication Skills - become a superb communicator with 5 easy techniques - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from David windleCommunication Skills – Become a superb communicator with 5 easy techniques Communication skills are the key to success in many areas of life, whether at work or in socially. It is true that some people seem better at communicating than others. Why is this? Why are there people that you ...
Views: 2994 - False Self: Can Toxic Shame Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often said to be a false self and a true self, and if one is into psychology or self development, they’re likely to have heard about these terms. If one hasn’t, they might sound a bit mysterious and something that one can’t relate to. But if these descriptions are put to one side ...
Views: 2984 - Book Review: Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional ...
Views: 2979 - Comments: Why Do Some People Always Leave Negative Comments? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the invention of the internet, people have been given a platform to express their views and opinions. And while this need is nothing new and has not just appeared, it has made it a lot easier for people to speak out and this is due to a number of reasons. When one is expressing their ...
Views: 2979 - How to Have Charisma - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2010 from Eduard EzeanuDo you think charisma is a sexy trait and you would like to have it? I have good news for you: you can voluntarily develop your charisma by putting into practice specific action steps. Charisma is a personality trait which enables you to have a big influence on others around you, to persuade ...
Views: 2976(2 votes) - Hope is a Four Letter Word! - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2010 from Kathleen Lamoureux“Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit.” – Norman Vincent Peale What is it about hope that inspires us to keep on forging ahead? To keep trying – even when we feel like we are falling down? Hope is powerful. Hope is sometimes all that is ...
Views: 2969(1 vote) - Emotions as Weather - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaAlthough most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ...
Views: 2968(2 votes) - How to Manage Your Worries - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Nancy LatimerWorry and anxiety are caused by your emotions. Worry is a normal response to uncertainty and we all experience uncertainty from time to time; however excessive worrying will drain your emotional energy, interfere with your day-to-day functioning and cause very high anxiety levels. The good news ...
Views: 2968(1 vote) - It’s Always Personal: Three Ways to Beat Criticism at its Own Game - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Janna ChanIt’s Always Personal: Three Ways to Beat Criticism at its Own Game (Part 1 of 3) Does criticism control your life? Think about your last argument with a friend, co-worker, employer, or neighbor. Whether the subject matter at hand was missing a lunch date or forgetting to turn the office ...
Views: 2957 - I Love You Go Away - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAmong the many misconceptions that people have about love – that it’s only a feeling, that the feeling of being “in love” should exist from day one, that attraction is static and based on external attributes – the faulty belief that often gets swept under the rug more than any other is that ...
Views: 2946 - Why Can't We Change, How Comfort Keeps Us From Success - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Harlan GoergerIt's November and soon Christmas, a New Year and everyone will be talking about resolutions, goals and how 2010 will be even better than ever. All we have to do is set our specific goals, have a plan and execute! Wait a minute! That is what was done last year and the year before! My ...
Views: 2946(6 votes) - Are you romantic? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Rosemary PriceAre you romantic? It tends to be considered to be old fashioned now to be interested in charm, dating, getting to know someone and to use courtesy and court a lover. Holding hands, sending flowers, sending love letters and many other things can be a sign of living this lifestyle. But are you ...
Views: 2945(1 vote) - How to Bring Your Humanity into the Workplace - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2011 from Cynthia KivlandWithout work all life goes rotten- but when work is soulless, life stifles and dies. ─ Albert Camus Business owners, leaders and CEOs everywhere are talking about the search for humanity in the workplace. These global leaders are examining the role of true meaning and purpose, both on an ...
Views: 2943 - 3 Questions to Ask Yourself Every Day to Change Your Life for Good - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Anastasia NetriFrom the time we're small children, we are not taught a lot about how we work: how our mind works, our thoughts, our bodies, our brains, etc. The reason we're not taught this is because the loving, well meaning parents who gave birth to us didn't know either, not to mention the rest of society. ...
Views: 2938(3 votes) - Abused Children: Do Abused Children Need To Forgive Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving on and letting go of an abusive past, it is not uncommon to hear that one needs to forgive. The act of forgiveness is highly regarded by many people and in numerous schools of thought. Religion has also espoused this outlook from the very beginning. So is it really a ...
Views: 2933 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Ashamed Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who said that they can live without air, one might start laughing or they could think that there is something wrong with them. This is because human beings need air to survive; they could go against this need, but their life would soon come to an end. As ...
Views: 2915 - How To Attract Happiness and Contentment In Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Joanna VaiouWe all know that most of the people desire to be happy and healthy in body and mind. That is absolutely true. What most of the people do not understand is how to produce happiness in their life instead of letting despair lead them to the garden of misery and depression. Here are some ...
Views: 2909(5 votes) - The Value of Honesty - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Wayne KehlAs children, most of us had parents who tried to convince us that cheaters never prosper and liars will not go to heaven. The theory is of course a great one, but almost every day in the news I hear about business leaders being charged and convicted for a variety of commercial crimes. Sadly, ...
Views: 2907 - Beliefs: Do Our Feelings Create Our Beliefs? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is behaving in a certain way or not attracting what they want into their life, it is often said to be a result of what their beliefs are. And so one then needs to change what they believe, in order to act differently and to attract what they want into their reality. A large part ...
Views: 2903 - Emotional Intelligence - Benefits for Business Professionals - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2009 from Byron StockFor more than a decade, organizations have been helping their employees improve their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. People at all organizational levels - from executives to administrative staff - experience the same emotions even though the challenges, pressures and demands they face at ...
Views: 2902 - Relationships: Do You Expect The Same Person To Meet All Your Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about their ideal partner, they may imagine someone who can fulfil all of their needs. They may even describe this person as their ‘soul mate’; with this being someone who will end up transforming their whole life. There is then the chance that they will have been with a ...
Views: 2902 - Relationships: Why Are People Who Act Superior Attracted To People Who Act Inferior? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship were each person is at the same level, one person is not going to see themselves as being above the other. This is not to say that each person is at the same level materially, for instance, but this is not going to affect the amount of respect they have for each other. ...
Views: 2894 - Robert Smith And His Progeny – FasterEFT - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Suzanne ZachariaRobert G. Smith is the founder of FasterEFT, a tapping method with a huge NLP-style component and influences from BSFF, amongst other powerful components. The EFT in FasterEFT is hugely inspired by EFT and stands for Emotionally Focused Transformations. Robert has helped thousands with his ...
Views: 2892 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Moody? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when someone feels happy and moments when they don’t, and while they may prefer to be happy all the time, this is not going to be possible. When it comes to the people someone spends their time around, they may also find it easier to be around them when they are ...
Views: 2878 - Five Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: For Self - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Reldan NadlerFive Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: Mastering the Moment, Part One Self-Development In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to ...
Views: 2876 - How to Deal with Depression, Abandonment and Anxiety: We All Need Healthy Self-Mothering - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Laura FrisbieHow to Deal with Depression, Abandonment and Anxiety We don't know how to deal with emotions because we've never been around people who do know. We don't even know that we don't know. Most of us are emotionally illiterate. We have no power to change anyone or to make them happy. We lose ...
Views: 2865(1 vote) - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen other people are unhappy, it can cause someone to feel a sense of concern and to be curious as to why they feel as they do. As a result of this, one can hope that this person begins to feel better and even see what they can do to help them. This could apply to anyone one meets that ...
Views: 2845 - The 10 Reasons Why You Need Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Reldan NadlerWhat are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 years, both individually and in their organizations, I wanted to ...
Views: 2843 - Celebrities: Why Do Politicians Get Celebrities To Endorse Them? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a politician has the desire to get into a certain position, they can end up looking towards different celebrities. And while some of these might be known by people who fall into a certain age group, for instance, there can be others who will be known by people of all ages. Therefore, it ...
Views: 2836 - Being Aware of Being Aware - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Claude WarnerWe all see the world through our normal eyes, but we are aware that there is much more that exists that we can only see through microscopes and telescopes. Similarly, we see the world through our normal perspectives, paradigms, and beliefs, but there is much that exists that we may not be ...
Views: 2830(2 votes) - 10 Reasons Why Teams Need Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Reldan NadlerTeamwork is very popular and a necessity in organizations, but it is an unnatural act that takes a strategy, discipline and practice. Most organizations talk about teamwork and put a group of workers together and say “you are a team now." Duly formed the team is marched out onto the field to ...
Views: 2824 - How Your Memories Can Make You Angry And How You Can Manage It - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Frank HealyAnger and vindictiveness always comes from the belief that one is cheated and their life is unfair. For Eliott Rogers, it seems that the memories that he focused on were of two varieties which, in combination can cause anger and rage. The first type of memory is one that you are a nice person ...
Views: 2818 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2817 - Empaths: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Empaths? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile all human beings have a physical body, that doesn’t mean that they experience life in the same way. If one was to think about why this is, they might focus on how we are born into different environments and how these environments can be the defining factor. However, without even going ...
Views: 2815 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Try To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile trying to please others can be something everyone does from time to time, for others, it is the focus of their lives. What this person wants from life as whole or what they want to do from moment to moment is then secondary. The needs and wants of others are far more important than ...
Views: 2809 - Emotional Intelligence and Virtuous and Vicious Spirals - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2010 from Shaun LindberghWe all know what it’s like to feel bad about doing something thoughtlessly. We wake when it’s too late, after the damage is done. And then there are the things we do over and over again, hating ourselves for it every time. Seemingly unable to stop. But what about the joyfulness of doing ...
Views: 2798(2 votes) - Needy: Why Are Some People Needy? - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part is part of being human and this means they are nothing to be ashamed or something that one should try to remove. If each and every one of us was inherently independent, then we wouldn’t have needs. But as we are all interdependent, it means that we all have needs. ...
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