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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Where Does Your Fear Come From? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2010 from Lisa MininniHave you ever been stopped by fear – fear of conflict, fear of taking risks or fear of failure? The problem is, it is innate for some people and holds them back from doing what it takes to get more clients and create a life and business of their dreams. We’re all naturally hardwired a certain ...
Views: 3715(5 votes) - Relationships: Do Some People Reject Others To Avoid Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what someone looks like or where they have come from, they will have experienced rejection. What this comes down to is that it is part of life and this is because it is not possible for one to always be accepted. And if one was to look back on their life, they would also realise ...
Views: 3714 - Thoughts Become Things: Does This Mean You Are What You Think? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2010 from Stephanie GoddardDo you want to know why you feel badly most of the time? I've done the reading. I've done the work. I KNOW what makes you (and me) feel stress, discomfort, anxiety, nervous, upset, angry, irritated...call it what you want. Bottom line: You're not happy. You can treat your unhappiness like ...
Views: 3712(1 vote) - Objectification: Why Do Some People Objectify Others? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo objectify someone is often described as what happens when they are seen as an object. And when this takes a place, they are not seen as a human being who has feelings or their own cognitions for example, they are just a physical body. Here another person may well be seen as an object that ...
Views: 3708 - Upgrading Yourself - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2010 from Clive MillerKnow-how is no use at all when your heart chooses a different direction to your head. It has nothing to do with falling in love and everything to do with unconscious programming and neural chemical response. Stop reading now if you are one of the mythical people who have never found ...
Views: 3678(5 votes) - Unmet Childhood Needs: Is It Important To Grieve Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ...
Views: 3668 - Six Steps to a Positive Body Image - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2012 from Kristin GerstleyA positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight. You believe in ...
Views: 3666 - Isolation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAristotle once said that human beings are social animals and although this was said many, many years ago, it may as well have been said yesterday. Some of the environments that humans live in are different to how they were in the past, but this hasn’t changed the fact that humans need each ...
Views: 3650 - Psychological Validation: What Is Psychological Validation? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes achieving psychological well being; validation plays an incredibly important role. This primarily consists of two aspects: On one side this means that one’s thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviours will be acknowledged and accepted by other human beings; and on the other side ...
Views: 3649 - Anxiety and Trauma Recovery: Wild Animals Know the Secret - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Suzie WolferWild Animals Know the Secret. Scientists have made a fascinating discovery about the way animals in the wild discharge anxiety and trauma. They are able to release the experience and move on. If they didn't do this and had to live in the wild in a shut down state, uptight or confused as ...
Views: 3614(4 votes) - Meekness: the quality which safeguards you. - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2007 from johnny romanHave you been the victim of cruelty or injustice at some point of your life? Are you presently despondent over your personal circumstances in life? Has someone broken your heart because of treachery or rejection? If you answered yes to one or all of these questions, you are not alone. Many ...
Views: 3601 - Anger: Do You Feel Uncomfortable When Other People Get Angry? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt unhappy and they were to meet a friend who was happy, they could soon start to feel different. Their emotional state has then been transformed through being in the other person's presence. This can happen without one having to really do anything, and their life doesn't have to ...
Views: 3597 - 16 Ways to Avoid Failure - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Mackenzie PearceLet me get right to it: There is no failure, only an unwanted result. That being said, at times I know that unwanted results can feel like failure. To make matters worse, if you continue to try the same method you will risk getting the same result again and again. Examples of an unwanted ...
Views: 3590(1 vote) - Actors: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Actors? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice how powerful and influential actors and actresses are in today’s world. And although they have had this power for a number of years; with the assistance of the mainstream media, this has gradually increased as time has gone by. One only has to go a film ...
Views: 3581(1 vote) - How To Identify and Transform A Victim Mentality - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteIn one of the Harry Potter books Harry comes face to face with a mirror in which he sees his parents staring back at him. He longs to stay with the mirror to continue to see his parents and Professor Dumbledore tells him he must stop. This mirror shows exactly what the viewer wants to see ...
Views: 3561(1 vote) - Emotional Dumping: What Is Emotional Dumping? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments in everyone’s life when things are not running smoothly, with this being a time when they may need someone to open up to. If they were to reach out to someone, they could just go over what has been going on. After this has taken place, one could soon direct ...
Views: 3560 - Acceptance: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Accept Themselves? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest needs a human being has is to be accepted for who they are. But while this is the case, it doesn’t necessarily mean that one has been able to fulfil this need or that they believe it is even possible for them to fulfil it. If people were generally encouraged to be ...
Views: 3539 - Are You Afraid of Success - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2009 from Troyann WilliamsOn many occasions while giving a talk on Success Esteem I will ask audience members to raise their hand if they believe they have some fear of failure. Typically about 80% of the audience will raise their hand. Then I ask them to raise their hand if they believe they have some fear of success. ...
Views: 3483(5 votes) - Role Reversal: the Good, the Bad, and the Unexpected - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2007 from Linda SapadinRole Reversal – the Good, the Bad and the Unexpected Have you sometimes wished that your spouse (or someone else close to you) could walk in your shoes for just one day? And did you hope that this role reversal would enable your spouse to have a better perspective on what your day is really ...
Views: 3482 - Social Media: Can Social Media Give People A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many different needs, and one of those needs is to feel important. However, this is not to say that everyone will be influenced in the same way by this need; as some people will have a greater need to feel important than others. It could then be a need that is no more ...
Views: 3466 - Perserverance - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2017 from Mercy Abbey"For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise". (Hebrews 10:36). SOMETIMES WE GET FOOLED INTO BELIEVING THAT OUR DESTINY will just drop in our lap and the promises of God will automatically manifest themselves, but that's not the case. ...
Views: 3443 - The Importance of Self Acceptance - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Carol GignouxKaren is a 23 year old woman who felt extremely uncomfortable around people. She originally contacted ADD Insights for coaching services, because she felt she had nothing to offer. By her own admission, she felt she was unattractive and had nothing interesting to say. Karen did not attend ...
Views: 3438 - Horses and Human Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from veronica garrettHorses and Human Emotional Intelligence in Equine Assisted Life Coaching Equine Assisted Life Coaching is similar to Equine Assisted Therapy in that the horse becomes a bio-feedback mechanism for personal growth however it differs from EAT in that our Life Coaching programs primarily focus ...
Views: 3426(1 vote) - The Three Gs: Gratitude, Giving, and Generosity - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Jenni WrightHow do you feel when someone gives you a gift? In particular remember a gift that you have really wanted, or a gift that has been handmade. Or how do you feel when you receive a gift from a child that they have lovingly prepared for you? If you say that you “feel warm and fuzzy”, that you “feel ...
Views: 3385 - IQ Or EQ?: What More Important In Business? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Baiju SolankiBeing members of Selfgrowth puts us in a unique position of appreciating the power of social networking, and networking sites like Ecademy, LinkedIn, and Facebook. So what is the power of social networking? Well those in the know say it is about forming relationships. OK then what? Well then ...
Views: 3376 - Defence Mechanism: Repetition Compulsion - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences pain and it is not possible for them to face the pain that they’re experiencing, they’re going to end up using a number of defence mechanisms. This could be due to how traumatising the experience is or because it would be too much for them to face how they feel. A ...
Views: 3358 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Identify Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations. This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ...
Views: 3349 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Want To Be Worshipped? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is relatively easy for a woman receive attention; the only thing that she needs is a social media account. And if one is not enough, then she can join a number of different sites. A Big Audience Once she has uploaded a few pictures of herself, it might only be a ...
Views: 3328 - Money! Power! Sex! - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2012 from Pam GuthrieMoney! Power! Sex! When we have them, and use them well, they are so much fun. When we don’t have them, we have feelings about them. When we misuse them, we have feelings about them. And sometimes we have serious mis-learning around them, and become either abusive or abused with them. As ...
Views: 3321 - ***Intuitive Hits & Misses - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Bruce SchneiderIntuition is knowing without knowing how you know. It’s that flash of insight you get about something. You’re an intuitive being, even though you might think you’re not. Some people are more in touch with their intuitive self than others, but we all have similar innate abilities. The more ...
Views: 3318 - Right vs Wrong Decisions - How Do You Know? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Kimberley CohenThere really aren’t right or wrong decisions. There is the choice you make, what transpires when you make it, and what you do from there. When you make a decision and it doesn’t turn out the way you had hoped, it doesn’t mean it was the "wrong" one, or if you would have chosen differently, ...
Views: 3310(1 vote) - 7 Conflicts an Absent Father Can Cause in His Daughter's Work Life - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Carna Zacharias-Miller,Fathers can be physically or emotionally absent in their children’s lives for many reasons, and all of them hurt. Some of them are death, divorce, abandonment, prolonged work-related absences, or abuse. While the impact of a missing father on his grown-up daughter’s relationships with men has ...
Views: 3282(1 vote) - The Purpose of Emotions: Our Built-in Spiritual GPS System - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from John GrobergOur emotions play a big role in our lives- but for many of us the role they play is too much the improper role of master of our behavior and not enough the proper role of trusted informant of where we are placing the creative power of our attention and thus what we are in the process of creating ...
Views: 3275(2 votes) - Feeling is Healing - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2007 from Steve RyalsFrom my perspective, our emotional wounds don't live in our minds. So healing our minds, as Dr. Eve Woods teaches on her show Healing Your Mind, Body, and Spirit, from September 19, 2006 titled "Rewrite Your Internal Script," does not actually get at the core issue. I find this idea - that ...
Views: 3273 - Thoughts and Feelings and Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2010 from Shaun Lindbergh1. You cannot control every thought you have but you can control the flow of your thoughts. The most important thing to understand is the difference between initial and reactive or response or thoughts. An initial thought is one that either just pops into your mind for no apparent ...
Views: 3271(8 votes) - How an Introvert Handles Awkward Situations - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Ron EdmondsonOne thing middle age has done for me is make me more aware of who I really am and how I respond to life. I can wish I was wired differently, I can somewhat adapt my personality to my environment, and I can’t use my personality as an excuse for bad behavior, but I am coming to terms with how God ...
Views: 3261(1 vote) - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Exhibitionism? - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has often been said that some people require more attention than others, and this is something that can be seen in all areas of life. For example, one could think about what it was like when they were at school or college, and they might soon see how different people are in this regard. ...
Views: 3253 - The Business Case for Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2009 from Chris WilliamsHigh Emotional Intelligence (EI) Translates to Big Bucks!! In a previous newsletter about energy management, I mentioned the tool of Emotional Intelligence and how it relates to profitability as well as to our credibility as leaders. Emotional Intelligence is being aware of our own emotions and ...
Views: 3251 - Inner Voices, False Narratives, Narcissism, and Codependence - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Sam VakninThe narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ...
Views: 3226 - Abuse: Why Do Some People Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong ...
Views: 3225(1 vote) - What Are the Top-Ten Worst Human Fears? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Hal WechslerWhat Are the Top-Ten Worst Human Fears? Who cares? Inquiring Minds must know. #10. is the mind-boggling fear of Public Speaking and being unprepared. # 9. is the stomach-churning fear of Heights and maybe falling off the roof. # 8. is the panic attack by the thought of Claustrophobia ...
Views: 3216 - Managing Impressions - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2008 from Julie DonleyEvery morning you get out of bed and go about your day. You say good bye to your spouse, get the kids off to school, and make your way to your job. At work, you attend meetings, greet customers, and chat with colleagues. Maybe you go to the gym a few times during the week. Weekends, you spend ...
Views: 3199 - The Ego at Work: Eight Ego Beliefs That Hold Us Back - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Tony CashThe word "ego" is used here to refer to the collection of thoughts and beliefs that people identify with and regard as who they are. It’s the basis of the idea of a self separate from everything else. So the word is used here as it is in spiritual wisdom traditions. It is neutral - a natural ...
Views: 3198(1 vote) - The Flow: Is It Good Or Bad To Go With The Flow? - by Submitted on May 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a stream, they would see that it goes in one direction, and this will take place without too much force being utilized. This is because the water is going in the same direction and there is little, if any, resistance. However, this wouldn’t be possible if each drop of ...
Views: 3180 - Self-Love: How Can Someone Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a person gets to a certain age, there is a strong likelihood that they will attend some kind of school. During this time, they will begin to learn about different areas of life and the kind of subjects that will allow them to function in today’s world. While their time in education may ...
Views: 3175 - Emotional intelligence & Emotional Quotient - The Psychological Mantra - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Dr. Madan TripathyEmotional intelligence & Emotional Quotient - The Psychological Mantra ************************************************************************ Madan Mohan Tripathy “Mitti Kahe Kumhaar se, Tu Kyaa rundhe mohi Ek din aisaa aayegaa, main runghungi tuhi” (The clay tells the potter ...
Views: 3169 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Groupthink? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks to people over social media, it is not going to be the same as talking to them in person. It could be said that this is pretty obvious, and that it is not something that needs to be pointed out. What this primarily comes down to is that one is going to be using a device to ...
Views: 3167(1 vote) - Definition: Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisEmotional Intelligence (EI), often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ), describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. As a relatively new area of psychological research, the definition of EI is ...
Views: 3125 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Are Some People Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either. It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ...
Views: 3113 - Intellectual Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe Anything? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperInformation can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ...
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