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- The People Who Have Influenced Me: Dov Baron - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Dov Baron. This is a guy who was born in Manchester in England and is based in Canada. The Interview Many years ago I heard him speak on ...
Views: 2298 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Play Games In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is often the intention to have a relationship that is free from games and all the drama that they can create; this does not always mean that one will avoid them altogether. And as a result of this, one may come to the conclusion that they have absolutely no control as to whether their ...
Views: 2379 - Communication: Are Manners Important? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past manners were often drilled into children by their parents and then by teachers and as one grew into an adult; it would then have typically become a habit to have manners and the need to be reminded would not be as necessary. However, in the modern day world this process doesn’t ...
Views: 3958 - Words: Do Words Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that words have cannot be denied or dismissed. And there are many points and areas to look at when it comes to words. However, the primary focus of this article is going to be the role that the ego mind plays. Words have certain meanings in the dictionary and socially for example; ...
Views: 1711 - Relationships: What Does Love Mean To You? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships love is often used to describe how someone feels about another person and as a description of what one is looking for. The world is made up all of kinds of relationships and although there are general meanings when it comes to love; there are also radically different ...
Views: 1926 - Success: What Does It Mean To Be Successful? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word success is widely used in today’s world and it is something that is sought after by many people. People from all backgrounds and walks of life are driven to attain success. And through the media and other means, we are constantly exposed to people who are successful in certain ...
Views: 2169 - Relationships: Can Relationships Be Unconditional? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo love without conditions or requirements is often spoken about when it comes to evolved or adult relationships. And then there are also other needs that can come into this, such as; acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, attention and many others. To be loved by another and to have ...
Views: 1766 - The Truth: What Does Your Ego Believe To Be True? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are often many descriptions of what truth is and what truth is not. Absolute truth is often used when it comes to religion or spirituality. These are all fascinating areas to study and to then form one’s own opinion. And there is also another form of truth; which comes from the ego ...
Views: 1888 - Communication: How Do You Make People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this ...
Views: 1999(2 votes) - Abusive Mothers: Why Are Some Mothers Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some mothers out there who are loving and supportive and these are the epitome of the mother archetype in action. And then there are mothers who are anything but loving and supportive. These are mothers who have gone against their natural inclination to nurture. Instead of doing all ...
Views: 2868 - Defence Mechanism: Reaction Formation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe ego mind uses defence mechanism for protection and to ensure its own survival. There are many of these available and this will often depend on two factors. This can be: the type of experience that one has and how one interprets the experience. Reaction formation is a way for the mind to ...
Views: 2711(1 vote) - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 2122 - Abusive Relationships: Why Does Abuse Make People Feel Uncertain? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain ...
Views: 2267(1 vote) - Emotions: Why Do Some People Feel Uncomfortable With Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to human development, emotions are generally ignored and have been exceeded by other areas. In recent years there has been an intense focus on ones physical side and this has lead to people joining gyms or going for runs for example. And when it comes to ones intellectual side; ...
Views: 9385 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from another. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and yet this doesn’t mean that the impact ...
Views: 27767 - Child Abuse: Why Has Child Abuse Gone On For So Long? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAwareness around child abuse has gradually increased over the years. This can only be a good thing and something that will help to reduce the amount of child abuse that is in the world. However, in this day and age it may be hard for some people to comprehend why this has gone on for so long ...
Views: 2525 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Find The True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. ...
Views: 2046(2 votes) - Reactive Behaviour: What Causes Reactive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have our own style of behaviour and this can change when one is around different people and based on how one feels. As one grows and changes as person; this can also lead to ones behaviour altering. And there will be times when ones behaviour is a response to situations and other times ...
Views: 9222 - Invisible: Why Do Some People Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feelings, there can often be a disparity between how one feels and how something actually is. And feeling invisible is the perfect example of this. Part of being human is to have a physical body and yet at an emotional level, one can feel that this is not the case. One can ...
Views: 16747 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Losing Themselves In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe whole idea of someone losing themselves in a relationship may sound completely ridiculous. And if this was to be taken literally, then yes, it does sound crazy. Because physically it is impossible to lose oneself in another person; there is nowhere to go and it is clearly not possible. ...
Views: 2488(2 votes) - Compliments: Why Can’t Some People Accept Compliments? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to compliments there are some people who can accept them gracefully and others who completely reject them. It may be that one rejects all compliments or only compliments that come from certain people. This can relate to men who reject all compliments from women or women who ...
Views: 12533 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stay In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo see or hear about someone who is being abused in a relationship and yet continues to stay in the relationship is hard to comprehend. Logically it makes no sense whatsoever and sounds completely dysfunctional. The type of abuse can vary from what may seem to be fairly moderate, to extreme ...
Views: 1860 - Muscle: Why Are some People Obsessed With Gaining Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe popularity of muscle building has grown significantly in recent years. Gym memberships have soared and this is not only for men. Women are just as likely to be a member of a gym as men are. And then there is a whole range of supplements to assist with building muscle for men and this has ...
Views: 5763 - Ego Boundaries: What Are Ego Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe purpose of ego boundaries is to protect the self. And through having these in place, one will know the difference between who they are and who someone else is. They allow for ones inner space to be protected and looked after. These are not visible to the naked eye like a physical body ...
Views: 13543 - Astrology: What Does Astrology Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI do not claim to be an expert on astrology or someone that see's astrology as the be and end all. For me, it is another point of interest and something that can be used as a mirror; to assist in self awareness and awareness of others. What I am going to take a closer look at here is how the ...
Views: 2302 - Abuse: Why Do Some People Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong ...
Views: 3241(1 vote) - Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning of human evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it would be in short supply. However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this ...
Views: 2097 - Relationships: What Causes One Sided Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is made up of what are often described as opposites and giving and receiving is part of this dynamic. When one of these is done and not the other, it will lead to an imbalance being created. One may receive from another and be unable to give in that situation. Or one may give in one ...
Views: 5483 - Normal: What Does Normal Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word normal can trigger all kinds of meanings and what can come to mind are the judgements that are made around people. How someone looks, dresses or behaves is often part of this judgement. However, this article is not going to be about what is classed as normal or abnormal about people. ...
Views: 3082 - Associations: Do Associations Create Our Perceptions Of People? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard of the saying ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’ and yet this is generally what happens. We see that someone is wearing a certain item of clothing, looks or acts a certain way and a judgement is made. This judgment is automatic and is a consequence of the unconscious ...
Views: 1900(1 vote) - Selfless: Why Do Some People Always Put Others First? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperPeople who put others first are often revered and are seen as an example of how to live. The fact that they appear to always put others first, is what makes them different to people who appear to always put themselves first. This could be to do with helping a friend, partner or colleague at a ...
Views: 25862 - Trust: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperBeing able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ...
Views: 5273(1 vote) - Mother Enmeshed Men: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what enmeshment is, it helps to look at what boundaries are. Boundaries are what create a sense of individuality between people. And although we are all physically separate, it does not mean that we are emotionally separate from another person. This becomes what ...
Views: 23912(2 votes) - Brands: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Brands? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where brands are everywhere and there is more or less a brand for everything. From branded water; to branded clothes and anything else that one could imagine. Part of the brand experience is that it creates sense of trust for people; that they can rely on the brand to ...
Views: 11605(1 vote) - Abandonment: Why Do Some People Fear Abandonment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe fear of abandonment can affect someone's life in many different ways. There is the internal experience and the external experience. And this doesn't mean that abandonment actually has to occur, in order for one to feel abandoned. As a result of the power and the imagination that the mind ...
Views: 2612(3 votes) - Self Image: Why Do Some People Take Things Personally? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who take just about everything personally and this doesn’t have to be the words that other people say. It could relate to how another person looks at them and what one experiences in the world around them. This can also relate to specific situations where one is being given ...
Views: 10860(1 vote) - Assertive: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Assertive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough assertiveness is largely described as the ideal, what is often found is either submissive or aggressive behaviour. So if submissive behaviour was at one end of the spectrum; aggressive behaviour would be at the other end of the spectrum. This means that assertive behaviour would be ...
Views: 3312(2 votes) - The Life Of Pi: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first saw the trailer to this film I thought it looked like the kind of film that is rarely made. Ang Lee came up as the director, and it appeared to be the ultimate adventure. After seeing the trailer I soon forgot about the film until I decided to go the cinema and it was showing. My ...
Views: 4497 - Power: Why Do Some People Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that I am talking about here is personal power. And this is more about the power that one has over oneself than it is about having power over others. Another term that is often used for this is self control. And although having power can lead to having influence over others, this is ...
Views: 12356 - Being Enough: Why Do Some People Not Feel Good Enough? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can come under many names, from self esteem, to self worth, self belief and confidence. And no matter what words are used, what it ultimately comes down to is the feeling or sense of being enough. Here one feels that who they are is enough, and this relates to who they ...
Views: 4334 - Sense Of Self: What Is A Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a sense of self is an illusion and that it is simply an idea. Regardless of this viewpoint and any other point of view that is similar; it is clear that having a sense of self makes a big difference and that ideas are powerful. I wouldn’t describe a sense of self as ...
Views: 2064 - Relationships: Are Patterns Running Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who have relationships that are generally: supportive, secure, loving and what could be described as functional. And there are others who are in relationships that are: unhealthy, dysfunctional, disempowering and even abusive. Functional Now, for people in the first ...
Views: 1860 - Emotional Insecurity: What Are The Signs? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotional security is something that few individuals have and what many would like to have; for the latter, it often seems elusive and hard to come by. And that’s if one has even challenged their instability; for these people it may appear to be how life is and this means that it is often ...
Views: 7798(1 vote) - Attention Seeking Behaviour: What Causes it? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be acknowledged, mirrored and validated are psychological needs that we all have. This is a perfectly normal and natural part of being human and something that is vital for mental and emotionally stability. And like most things in life, there can be extremes and when this healthy requirement ...
Views: 17288 - Consumerism: What Causes Consumerism? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need much awareness to see that consumerism is a big part of the modern day world. And depending on one’s point of view or position, it can be described as either positive of negative. A small company or large business for example, that’s main focus is on selling physical items, ...
Views: 8370 - Relationships: Where Do Our Relationship Models Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe relationships that each one of us has are being defined by the relationship models that we have. And this can range from the more meaningful and intimate ones, to the ones that are platonic and carry very little meaning. However, although we all have our internal models of what our ...
Views: 1629 - Patterns: Do Patterns Run Our Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen we look at our lives or at the lives of others, we can see life through one of two ways, or as a combination of the two. On one side we can see that there are patterns to how we behave, think and feel and in how other people behave. And on the other side, we could also view our internal ...
Views: 1838 - Expectations: Do Our Expectations Create Our Experiences? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article that I write on expectations, I looked at where our expectations come from. And here I want to take a closer look at how expectations are influencing our day to day life. Expectations can become part of one’s nature and how they see life or they can be expectations that ...
Views: 1981 - Meaning: Where Does Our Meaning Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is classed as meaningful can vary from person to person. It is not something that is set in stone or fixed. The meaning that one has in life can change as one grows older and has different experiences. The countries and cultures of the world can have meanings that are vastly different to ...
Views: 1897 - Interviews With Successful People - Raphael Yadgaroff - Krav Maga Instructor - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperKrav Maga was something I had only heard about recently, when a friend of mine mentioned that he knew someone who taught it. My friend put me in touch with this guy, Raphael Yadgaroff, and we soon arranged a time to conduct an interview. One of the primary things that interests me about ...
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