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- Emotional Problems: Does The Need To Look Strong Stop Some Men From Reaching Out For Support? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBoth men and women experience emotions, but it is often a lot harder for men to open up about how they feel. Now, if emotions were things that could simply be overlooked, this wouldn’t matter. The trouble is that this is not the case, which is why it can lead to all kinds of problems when a ...
Views: 1037 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Only Have Casual Sex? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men, casual sex is something that they will engage in from time to time, while there are others who only have casual sex. When it comes to the former, this could be something that takes place after a man has just been in a relationship. Going with another woman, more or less ...
Views: 1603 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Go Off Sex When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore a man has even got to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman, there is a strong chance that they will already be having sex. If this is not the case, it could show that he is religious. Conversely, it could be a sign that he is more traditional and wants to take his ...
Views: 1643 - Critical Thinking: Does It Matter If A President/Politician Is Male/Female? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how their needs to be more female politicians. The view that is often put forward is that there are far too many men who hold these positions and that progress needs to be made so that the gender gap changes. This is then something that not only ...
Views: 927 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Feel Guilty When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to end up in an intimate relationship, he may find that he feels fairly comfortable. Perhaps he is with someone who he has a good connection with and is physically attracted to. There is then going to be no reason for him to keep this area of his life to himself, with him being ...
Views: 1514 - Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being. What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At ...
Views: 726 - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Support? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are not their own island, it means that they need others in order to survive, let alone thrive. So, regardless of whether it relates to emotional or financial support, it will be provided by other people. But, even though there will be people on this planet who find that the ...
Views: 741 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Oppressed? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about how oppressed certain people are, with this being something that is often spoken about on social media and in the mainstream media. This is often seen as something that primarily affects minorities and women. Therefore, white men are in a very ...
Views: 822 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Slander To Control People? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperBefore the alternative media came along, the mainstream media pretty much had complete control. What this meant was that it was normal for most people to believe just about everything this source came out with. Nowadays, thanks to the alternative media, this source doesn’t have the same ...
Views: 712 - Anger: Do Some People Use Anger To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in today’s world who have trouble with their anger, with this being something that has taken over their life. But, while there are people like this who reach out for support, there are others who don’t. If someone in this position was to reach out for assistance and ended ...
Views: 866 - Self-Hate: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Own Self-Hatred? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIs someone hated themselves, and they were to embrace how they feel, it would undoubtedly have a negative effect on their wellbeing. In the same way that filling a boat up with water would cause it to sink, embracing their self-hate would most likely cause them to sink. It would end up being ...
Views: 914 - Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Own Success? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim. On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are ...
Views: 744 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves. When this takes place, these people ...
Views: 814 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Want People To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is easier than ever before for someone to find out about what is taking place in the world. They no longer need to turn on a TV or a radio, for instance; the only thing that they need to do is to use their Smartphone. Through having a device like this, they will be able to ...
Views: 742 - Inner Child: Your Inner Child Can Heal You - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the ways that someone can change their behaviour, what is taking place within them, and their relationships, is to heal their inner child. Or to be more precise; to heal the inner children that are within them. What this comes down to is that although many, many years may have passed ...
Views: 1091 - Relationships: Are Some Men Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Have A Relationship With A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for a woman to complain about how she keeps ending up with men who are emotionally unavailable, and it would be easy to say that a woman like this is incredibly unlucky. Time after time, she ends up experiencing the same outcome - it can then seem as though men need to get it ...
Views: 910 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up in a relationship that is abusive, there are at least two things that they can do. They can end up cutting their ties and moving on, or they can put up with what is taking place. If they end up drawing the line and decide to move on, it will be clear that they are ...
Views: 880 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men will have certain standards when they are in a relationship, there are going to be others who don’t. As a result of this, not every man is going to have same experience when they are with a woman. When it comes to the former, a man like this is not going to get carried ...
Views: 1400 - Relationships: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Rejected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although rejection is part of life, there are some people who experience it more than others. Now, at times this will be due to how someone lives their life. For example, let’s say that someone is an entrepreneur, who is constantly putting their ideas in front of ...
Views: 767 - Past Lives: Can 'Past Lives' Allow Someone To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that they only have one life, and, once our current life is over, that will be it. If someone has this view, they can believe that someone would need to be crazy to believe anything else. They will have made their mind up and there is not going to be much ...
Views: 761 - True-Self: Does Someone Need Approval From Others If They’re Out Of Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, it can be normal for them to look towards others for approval. This can then result in them doing what other people want, or they can try to achieve things. In their eyes, what they need to feel better will be given to them by people who they ...
Views: 818 - Critical Thinking: Does The ‘Chemical Imbalance’ Theory Show How Disconnected We Have Become? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to suffer from mental and emotional problems. This is then not going to be something that they struggle with from time to time and can, therefore, put to one side; it will be something that makes it hard for them to handle their day-to-day life. If ...
Views: 850 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Vegetarians Eat Meat When They Are Drunk? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, more and more people have turned their back on meat and other animal based by-products. In the past, it was often a rare occurrence to come across someone who lives in this way, but nowadays, it can be a regular occurrence. What has unboundedly played a part in all this is ...
Views: 863 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If They Are Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry. Then again, it could also ...
Views: 822 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some White People Hate Their Own Race? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether someone has spent time at university and/or on social media, they may have come across white people who hate their own race. This could be something that has made them scratch their head, so to speak, or it might not have simply gone over their head. When someone ...
Views: 1488 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act As Though They Are An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won’t believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals. It will be as though other people have nothing going ...
Views: 837 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed When They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, they may find that their behaviour doesn’t really change, and that this allows them to carry on as normal. Clearly, their life will be different as they will be with someone, but this won’t have caused them to become someone else. Also, there are still ...
Views: 861 - Self-Rejection: Can Someone's Inner Critic Cause Them To Reject Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that in order for someone to feel comfortable in their own skin, and to even experience inner peace, it will be important for them to accept themselves. If they are able to do this, their life is likely to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. But, although someone can ...
Views: 895 - Relationships: Is There A Difference Between Helping Someone And Trying To Rescue Them? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that a friend or a family member is going through a tough time, there are a number of things that they could do. They could end up calling them up, or they could go and see them. Once they have made contact, they could the take the time to find out what has been going ...
Views: 827 - Critical Thinking: Did The Ego Create Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to end up having Cognitive Behavioural Therapy if they are going through a tough time. This is due to the fact that this is seen as the ideal tool to deal with a whole host of different challenges. It has been said that one of the good things about it ...
Views: 920 - Social Anxiety: Can Someone's Inner Critic Cause Someone To Experience Social Anxiety? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is only possible for them to relax when they are by themselves. Spending time around others is then going to be something that causes them to experience a lot of tension. It might not matter if they spend time around friends or family either, as they could ...
Views: 833 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Believe In Conspiracy Theories? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the internet, it is easier than ever before for people to not only get hold of information, but to also disseminate it. What this has meant is that no matter what someone wants to know, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find out about it online. And, someone is ...
Views: 793 - The Media: Are You Buying Into The Mainstream Media's Story? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the mainstream media doesn’t need to prove that what it is selling is the truth, the only thing it is needs to do is to gain people’s attention. By doing this, it will have an effect on what people think about and, of course, what they don’t think about. There are going ...
Views: 748 - Fear: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Too Much Fear? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while some people in the world are controlled by fear, there are others who aren’t. Consequently, these people are likely to live lives that are radically different. Therefore, although these people will live on the same planet, it will be as though they live on two ...
Views: 886 - Relationships: Does Our Unconscious Mind Define Who We End Up With? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges that someone can have in today’s world is ending up with people who are not right for them. This can mean that they end up in relationships with people who are simply not a good match, or it can mean that they have the tendency to end up with people who are ...
Views: 755 - Depression: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Feel Depressed? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child will most likely perform a task better if their parent is speaking to them in a supportive manner, an adult is also likely to be able to perform a task better if they are talking themselves in a supportive manner. Not only this, it will be a lot easier for them to do ...
Views: 966 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To The People Who Will Allow Us To Replay Unresolved Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what causes one person to be attracted to another, it is can be easy to believe that it is simply due to effect that the other persons personality and/or appearance has had on them. These two factors will then have had the biggest effect on why someone is sexually attracted to ...
Views: 832 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Injustice Collectors? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear about people who have experiences each day where they feel taken advantage of or harmed in some way. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to feel oppressed and/or victimised, along with feeling offended. And, it might not matter if they are ...
Views: 1000 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Put Up With Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is used to spending time around people who are abusive, they can come to the conclusion that they are a victim. It is then not that one is playing a part in what is taking place; it is that this is just how their life is. So, while these people will have control over their own life, ...
Views: 686 - Being Teachable: Are You Teachable? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t know how to do something, there are at least two things that they can do. Either they can reach out for the guidance that they need to move forward, or they can just accept what is going on and not do anything about it. This could relate to something that is fairly ...
Views: 859 - Intimacy: Can Someone Be Unaware Of Their Own Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the desire to be in an intimate relationship, they may find that it is only a matter of time before they meet the right person. Alternatively, they may find that they are only able to get so far. The months will then pass and this area of their life won’t change, causing them ...
Views: 1159 - Empowerment: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is an empowered human being, they will know that they do have an effect on their life. In each moment of their life they will have the ability to decide how they will behave, and they will be able to decide the meaning that they give to what takes place. One is then going to see ...
Views: 924 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easy For Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Trump? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anything good to say about president Trump, there are least two things that can happen, and what happens will most likely depend on who is around them. One could end up receiving positive feedback or they could end up receiving negative feedback. There is the chance that one ...
Views: 960 - Self-Esteem: Is Self-Acceptance The Key To Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves or simply wants to feel better than they do, they can end up trying to change one area of their life. At the same time, they may try to change a number of areas of their life. When this happens, someone is likely to believe that they will feel ...
Views: 956(1 vote) - Emotional Problems: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have Mental/Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, there has been an ever increasing focus on mental and emotional health, and this can be seen as a good thing. For so long, this was something that was brushed under the carpet. Nowadays, this is something that is spoken about in the media and people talk openly about what is ...
Views: 1062 - Critical Thinking: Can Religion Cause Someone To Have A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an elevated view of themselves, it can be normal for other people to see them as deluded. This person is simply going to be another human being, but they will create the impression that they are different. It can be as though they are from another planet, with this being ...
Views: 1009 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Develop A Sense Of Safety And Security After Being Abused? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a house will need strong foundations, a human being will also need strong foundations. When strong foundations are laid down for a house, this part will be strong enough to handle the other levels that are added, and, when it comes to a human being, strong foundations will ...
Views: 1087 - Critical Thinking: Why Are The People Who Talk About Tolerance Often The Most Intolerant? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, a lot has been said about how important it is to be tolerant. This is something that someone is likely to have heard if they follow the mainstream media or listen to what politicians have to say, for instance. It is as though tolerance is the ultimate western value - ...
Views: 1095 - Self-Love: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Make It Hard For Them To Feel Good About Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to talk to themselves in a positive manner, it is going to be a lot easier for them to feel good. This is similar to how one is likely to feel better if they are in the company of someone who treats them well. Through being around this person, they can feel good in their ...
Views: 882 - Victimization: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimized By Others? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination. It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also ...
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