Anger And Desires

Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure or hostility occurring in oneself or in others at any point of ones life due to non fulfillment of ones desires .It can happen as an active reaction to the hostile deeds of others in the form of lashing out on others physically or verbally, or it can be a passive reaction leading to things like sulking, brooding ,etc.This show of power or anger gives us a feeling of a lovely temporary high ,saying I have got it all no one comes in my way or else I manipulate you secretly or control you openly with my displeasure.I hide in this false show of strength &power and scare you to bow down in front of my desires &I continue doing so till all my desires are met or else I come back to control you more with my secretive dismal and shocking behaviour. But any form of it is basically not a form of strength ,power or control but is actually a toxin that creates confusion, narrowed focus and defensive attitudes towards the others and its an emotional blackmail of others emotions to get ones will or desires fulfilled through anger.

In every conflict there is your side of the story and their side of the story. And when their story is accepted while yours is not , you feel that there is no choice left in front of you than to emotionally blackmail others with anger. But this is not true you always have a choice.Choice to first letting go to thinking only in terms of yourself and your desires.Remember you have plenty of time to put your voice on top but you also need to make the other party feel heard as well for letting a holistic solution to dwell. For then only real growth and integration of different thoughts ,desires and feelings occurs as it did never before.

But the truth of the moment is far beyond this.This anger is nothing but the souls desire
to break free from the time the body is taking to reach its goals and desires that it seeks to achieve in its abode on earth.Thus anger can be tackled without cursing God by keeping patience in your mind for the fulfillment of ones earthly desires and appreciating a feeling of high or power in who you are and what you stand for,that is feel a high to be just a loving & compassionate person.That is learn to have more respect for people and life patiently than to rush to participate in rat race & get worldly desires and things you want to accomplish in your life fast.Very little is required to make life happy.Thus keep your hidden hostile desires low & compromised with and you keep your anger to its lower side & compromised too.The hostile desires need to be told that they are false and momentary what exists for life is desires of love & happiness & these you get in the moment called now!.And in Now if your hostile desires are gone then your anger is gone to blackmail people to getting things done at your wills end too.Learn to say I am bigger than my desire and almost always you will see through any of your anger that comes along the way. Best of luck!
Swati.