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- I Have Already Lost One Child – Please Help Me Not To Lose Another - by Submitted on May 03, 2006 from Barry RocheI once acted for a woman who had four children, ALL of whom were the victims of extreme Domestic Violence. In fact, by the time she came to see me she had already lost her eldest son to suicide brought about through extreme and repeated abuse inflicted by his father. I will never forget her ...
Views: 1547 - Why Is This Fantastic News So Scary? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysNote: the real names of the author and her publisher are used with their permission. “Mr. Hays, I really loved the book your book, “Search For Peace.” I spent all weekend reading it, and I just couldn’t put it down. I’d like to talk to you about publishing it.” Those are thrilling words ...
Views: 1547(2 votes) - I Saw the Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Keith BrayAlways interesting to see what thoughts run through my head as I try to shut down my conscious thinking and spend quiet time in the morning. About fifteen years ago I sat in a treatment centre, Homewood, in Guelph, Ontario. I had been alcohol and drug free for about 3 months, and this did allow ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - There Is No Need To Experience Alone - Get Help For Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2012 from Thomas GibbsThe information and internet are packed with activities of sex-related neglect. Whether it be an elderly people woman, the next entrance next entrance neighbor boy across the street or a efficient young entrepreneur, no one is stored from the chance of being very well abused. It does not have to ...
Views: 1543(1 vote) - Violence in Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Kim OlverAre you in an intimate relationship where violence is a part of your exchange? Does one or the other of you lash out physically toward the other? Do you want it to stop? There is lots of information out there about intimate partner violence. Just google the term and today there were 4,680,000 ...
Views: 1543 - Avoiding Your Abuser - The Submissive Posture - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from Sam VakninThere is nothing special about the body language or behavior patterns of the abuser. If your abuser is a narcissist, his pathology is evident on first sight (read "How to Recognize a Narcissist"). But not all abusers are narcissists. Regrettably, most victims find themselves trapped long before ...
Views: 1542 - How Can the Trauma of Childhood Still Be Afffecting Me? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Margaret (Maggie) KerriganEvan exploded. His one-year-old son had dropped cereal on the floor for the third time. Usually, Evan has lots of tolerance when his son dropped things, but today he had none. He knew his reaction was over the top for something relatively minor. Later, when he thought about his reaction he ...
Views: 1542 - 4 Steps for Improving Your Life After a DUI Arrest - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Anica OaksAfter a DUI arrest, your whole life feels thrown off course. A single mistake could cost you your career and future, but it doesn’t have to. Although having a DUI on your criminal record (or a criminal record at all, for that matter) could complicate certain things, a DUI arrest is also a ...
Views: 1540 - LIFE COACHING STRATEGY: RESOLVE ABUSE & TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2005 from Piercarla GarusiLife Coaching is all about the present and the future; it is all about taking control of our lives, now, and creating the future we want. It is not about analysing events of the past or going back to old emotions. But it is true that what we are today is the result of what we have experienced, ...
Views: 1537 - Are our voices really not heard? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Teresa JoyceI’m sitting in a big room that makes me feel so small I don’t even recognize the man sitting in front of me but he seems to know all about me by their conversation. My mum is telling him about the fact that I have started wetting the bed, how could she tell this stranger that about me? I feel so ...
Views: 1529(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Do Parents Lack Empathy When They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written. I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ...
Views: 1528 - Surviving Abuse and the Long Term effects of Eating Disorders - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tamiel McAfeeSurviving Abuse and The Long Term Effects of Eating Disorders From the Prospective of a Very Grateful Survivor Index Chapter 1- Gratefully, I’m Still Here Chapter 2- The Gallery of Eating Disorders Chapter 3- Medical Delights to Come Chapter 4- It Is Your Choice Chapter 5- ...
Views: 1526(2 votes) - Adult NPD Survivors Defenseless Against Ignorant Judgment - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAdult NPD Survivors Further Assaulted By Ignoramuses When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father they always tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and must ...
Views: 1525 - Recovery And Healing - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Sam VakninVictims of abuse in all its forms – verbal, emotional, financial, physical, and sexual – are often disorientated. They require not only therapy to heal their emotional wounds, but also practical guidance and topical education. At first, the victim is, naturally, distrustful and even hostile. The ...
Views: 1523 - Traumas as Social Interactions - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She"). We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ...
Views: 1520(1 vote) - connecticut drug rehab:Patient Drug Abuse Are Curable - by Submitted on May 05, 2012 from harry kenSubstance abuse is a very complex problem, which is characterized by uncontrolled drug craving, irrational and anti social behavior. Drug abuse for most of the time will have devastating consequences on the mental and physical health of a person. Although substance abuse begins as part of unpaid ...
Views: 1518(1 vote) - Guidelines for Determining a Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 1518(2 votes) - Healing from Emotional Abuse: The Memory is in the Muscle - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The memory is in the muscle. We hear people vividly taste remnants of the feelings surrounding old trauma when faced with a trigger of the context in which that original trauma was experienced. It’s truly as though the memory is in the muscle. We know this phenomenon to be characteristic of ...
Views: 1517 - Self Medication - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Sobriety GirlThere are times in my life where I do not question my decision to be sober. I would say this is about 99% of the time, to be honest. The beauty and decisiveness in my life has become apparent due to the decisions I have made. Overall, I am absolutely in agreement with my heart and ...
Views: 1517 - Child Abuse: Do Some Parents Try To Live Their Lives Through Their Children? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met. However, this is not going ...
Views: 1512 - Domestic Violence and the Legal Abuse Syndrome - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Married women on their way out of an abusive relationship are frequently found navigating the system en route to safety. But is their path safe? Not necessarily so. We frequently see women struggling in relation to their legal counsel just as they struggled in their battering relationship. And ...
Views: 1512 - OBJECTIFYING WOMEN SHAMES EVERYONE - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Darlene LancerPervasiveness revelations of sexual harassment and assault have surprised most men, but not women. However, both genders are largely unaware of the damaging impact that objectification of women can cause. It perpetuates a cycle of shame in both men and women. Even if never overtly harassed or ...
Views: 1511(3 votes) - Alcoholism And Depression - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Charles SomerAlcoholism and depression often go hand in hand and there is good reason for this as we will see later. Firstly, though we should take a look at some of the basic depression symptoms: Eating disorder Sleep disturbance Decreased interest and pleasure in one's daily activities Feelings of ...
Views: 1509(1 vote) - What is GUILT? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoGuilt is not a primary emotion, like anger, joy, sadness... But it is one of the most intense & often-felt emotions by ACoAs. It is a familiar companion of negative self-talk & to actions we believe to be bad, but may not be. Guilt is connected to self-hate: since our default position is that ...
Views: 1504 - How can you be lonely in a room full of people? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceThis situation for me was something I had to contend with for many years. The room is full but for me it may as well have been empty. All I can hear is white noise, were they talking to me? Why would they want to talk to me? Someone asks me if I am ok but the voice seems so far away, somewhat ...
Views: 1501(1 vote) - Human Trafficking – Greatest Socioeconomic and a Multicultural Threat to Human Race! - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Muhammad Saad KhanReading through a book named as Human Trafficking by Courtney Farrell regarding Human Trafficking in relation to Modern Slavery, I was shocked by listening to a story in the beginning of the book which tells about a nine year old girl Williathe Narcisse, who was a slave in Haiti before she ...
Views: 1501(3 votes) - ***Violence Prevention Agenda For New President - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Kathy SeifertA 12-year old South Carolina boy was shot and killed while trick or treating on October 31. Members of his family were shot and injured. Werner Lippe, a 66-year old jeweler, has confessed to killing his wife and disposing of the body. Four men have been charged with the deadly shooting of ...
Views: 1497 - In the Playhouse of Your Mind - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Richard (Dick) WarnBrian Tracy, Canadian-born American trainer and author, said, “Our mind is the most valuable possession we have. The quality of our lives is, and will be, a reflection of how well we develop, train, and utilize this precious gift.” It has been said that 2% of the people think, 3% of the ...
Views: 1495(2 votes) - Growing Domestic Violence Against the Disabled - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Abigail FazelatIntimate personal violence, which is similar to domestic violence, affects an estimated 12 million people, both men and women, per year. That is according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s website, where plenty of similarly shocking statistics can be found. For instance, “more than 1 ...
Views: 1493 - Warning Signs Of Problem Drinking - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieMaybe you’re not sure if drinking is a problem in your family. Alcohol can be in our lives without it being a problem. But can you tell when it goes from “no problem” to “problem”? What’s the Cat in the Hat got to do with warning signs of problem drinking? I remember when the ‘Cat in the Hat’ ...
Views: 1493 - When early abuse blocks your success in life - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Felicity MuscatI find it interesting how many counsellors, therapists and life coaches seem to miss the realisation that the biggest obstacle in achieving success is based in negative beliefs that come from experiences of early abuse. This implies that strategies promoting the limited notion that one simply ...
Views: 1492 - Removing Toxins - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from B.L. AckerEverything that is toxic can kill you. Some work quickly, dropping their victims almost immediately. However, not all toxins are fast-acting. Some build up slowly over time. But they are all poisons and, regardless of the speed in which they work, all will eventually kill you. When most ...
Views: 1491 - Abuse By Proxy - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Sam VakninIf all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers – in short, third parties – to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate ...
Views: 1489 - Drinking: The 'Relationship' to the Bottle - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken HowardOver my 18 years as a psychotherapist, one of the most frequent issues my clients bring to me is a concern about their drinking, or perhaps their drug use. There is a wide range; some people don’t have large problems with drinking or using, but they have some concerns about it after a ...
Views: 1487(2 votes) - SELF-RESPECT = SELF-ESTEEM. Want some? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Keith BraySelf respect = Self esteem Last week I had the opportunity to talk with you a little bit about the meaning of RESPECT. Ultimately, in the addiction world, we have to add SELF into the equation. How important is self respect/self esteem and have I got it?I have had the opportunity to ...
Views: 1487 - Spousal Emotional Abuse - 3 Deadly Mistakes in Hiding from Verbal Abuse in Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Verbal abuse in marriage makes for a toxic home. You feel it in the air, smell it in your living space, see its brutal impact on yourself as well as on little ones dependent upon you. You know this from the core of your being, yet when victimized by verbal abuse in marriage, there is a tendency ...
Views: 1485 - Domestic Abuse Victims - 5 Tell-Tale Signs That You’re Still Wearing “The Abused” Hat - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic abuse victims heal and transform themselves at different rates. You can tell when their recovery process remains in progress, yet to be completed. And if you are a domestic violence survivor, you know when you’re still wearing that “I’m a Victim” hat. Here are some tell-tale signs that ...
Views: 1484 - How to Radically Turn Back the Clock and Discover Youthful Radiance - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Colleen MeheenBasic inflammation is a natural process of the human body where white blood cells and various naturally occurring chemicals work together to protect the body from infections and foreign bodies, such as viruses and bacteria that can create acute illness and disease if not confronted through the ...
Views: 1482 - Leaving an Abusive Relationship – The Victim’s Power After the Altercation - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.When is the best time to grab a victim out of an abusive relationship? There are two points of intervention. That is, there are two times when she/he is MOST amenable to leaving the abusive relationship. What are these times? 1) Before she/he settles into the relationship and becomes part of ...
Views: 1482 - Why Charlie Sheen and others are so angry at the mainstream treatment culture and society. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Hank HayesHank Hayes author of the book “You’ve been lied to… the untold truth about the alcohol and addiction mainstream treatment industry and the secrets on how to eliminate the problem for good” due to be released at the end of May 2011 say’s… “I absolutely identify with why Charlie Sheen and ...
Views: 1482 - 5 Signs You’re Ready for Drug or Alcohol Rehab - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2017 from Desiree PattonIt can be difficult to admit that you have a problem with drugs or alcohol, but it truly is the first step to recovery. Once you’ve taken this step, and recognize your addiction and its impact on yourself and others, your new focus should be choosing a strategy to get sober and change your ...
Views: 1481 - Coffee (caffeine) addiction – a cup too many (Part 1) - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Steven ThomsonCoffee is a widespread hot beverage and also an additive in some foodstuffs. Its high prevalence is possible because of several factors, such as its common international availability and affordability, the absence of alcohol in the raw coffee, and the ease with which the beverage is prepared. In ...
Views: 1481(1 vote) - Restraining Orders and Peace Bonds - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from Sam VakninIf you want the nightmare to end, there is a rule of thumb which requires courage and determination to implement: Involve the courts whenever possible. In many countries, the first step is to obtain a restraining order from a civil court as part of your divorce or custody proceedings or as a ...
Views: 1478 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Need To Live In Denial In Order To Get On With Their Parents? - by Submitted on May 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their parents, they may find that they start to feel good. What this can then show is that they have a good relationship with them, and this could be how it has always been. Now, this is not to say that they have never had any arguments with them; what it means is ...
Views: 1477 - Abused Men – When Women Batter Men, What Do Men Do? - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Many women say they where glad when their partners hit them, because in that moment the light went “on” and they knew exactly what they were dealing with: domestic abuse, intimate partner violence. But for abused men, the physical abuse doesn’t always turn the light “on.” More often it sends ...
Views: 1475 - Domestic Violence: Descriptions of Physical, Emotional, and Psychological Abuse—Part Two, in a Series of Six. - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“Even to this day, it is difficult to discuss with some people and provide vivid descriptions what really happens in a domestic violent situation. This is because some do not want to hear the truth and the facts. More than ever before, I feel it is my duty to tell, to inform, to educate, anyone ...
Views: 1474(1 vote) - Abusive Spouse: Are There Two Kinds of Batterers? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.They say victims of domestic abuse come in all shapes and sizes, yet have some very distinct commonalities characteristic of being in an abusive relationship. Abusive spouses, on the other hand, come in two very distinct breeds. What are they? Two Kinds of Batterers: There are those that ...
Views: 1472 - Are you eating over losses and disappointments? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from Julie SimonMost of us don’t like to spend much time thinking about our losses and disappointments or painful childhood experiences. Yet, without much effort, they are brought to the forefront of our minds when something in our environment triggers thoughts of them. We see a happy couple and think ”Oh, ...
Views: 1470(2 votes) - Child Abuse: Why Do Some People Disown Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who have a close connection with their parents, there are others who don’t. And if one is close to their parents, it might be hard for them to understand why someone wouldn’t experience life in the same way. This could mean that one lives in the same ...
Views: 1469 - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
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