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- Summary Of The Company She Keeps - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Georgia DuranteModel, Mafia Wife, Mother, and Stunt Driver—has packed a lifetime of lessons into forty-eight years. This is the true story of one of Hollywood’s most successful female commercial stunt drivers. A woman who can dominate a two-ton vehicle at high speeds, but off road has careened from one ...
Views: 1626 - Alcoholism Facts - Ten You Should Definitely Know - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Charles SomerCheck out this quick list of alcoholism facts. I'm sure you'll be surprised at some of the items in this list. Alcoholism cuts across gender, race, and nationality. Learning about the disease and how to protect yourself from it is essential. Here are the ten facts on alcoholism you ...
Views: 1625(1 vote) - Need A Recovery Program? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Keith BrayNEED A RECOVERY PROGRAM? I am blessed to be acquainted with a great group of people who are involved in addiction recovery and helping others. Patrick Meninga who operates the web site www.spiritualriver.com is one of those people. Over the years, Patrick and I have collaborated on several ...
Views: 1625(2 votes) - Rehab Centers in Florida: Which Rehab is Right for Me? - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Doug MeadWith the staggering amounts of rehab centers in Florida in place, it is difficult to determine which drug rehab program is best. For anyone who is dependent on drugs or alcohol looking for recovery, it's a choice that can change their lives. For anyone who has suffered through the devastating ...
Views: 1625(1 vote) - Abusive Relationship: Subtle Communication Patterns Of Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.People ask me what kind of domestic abuse assessment screen helps someone who is abused to see the light. In providing assessments for thousands of people, I’m convinced that a tool that reveals the subtle communication patterns of abusive relationships helps someone being abused to awaken ...
Views: 1622 - Bullying: What is being done? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2013 from Margo JohnsonBullying is a HUGE issue in schools these days. I watched a video and in the video I watched an bigger (physically not older) child being bullied by the smaller child and in the end both of the children were given the same punishment, four day suspension. I don’t think that the child ...
Views: 1622(1 vote) - How To Prepare For Alcohol Treatment - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Gareth CarterWhether it’s a job interview, an examination or even sport, for most things in life, the key component to doing well is preparation and when it comes to alcohol treatment, it’s no different. If you or a loved one is addicted to alcohol and have just decided that getting professional help is ...
Views: 1622(3 votes) - Selfishness is OK - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2015 from Roni Weisberg-RossSelfishness has a negative connotation in our culture; but it’s not selfishness, it’s a lack of empathy that hurts others. While I am no Ayn Rand acolyte, I do agree with her argument in “The Virtue of Selfishness”. Taking care of oneself is not only reasonable; it is necessary – necessary for ...
Views: 1622 - Wisdom and Wellness: Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2014 from Lynn BlanchardThis week I've been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. It's a fact that you can't set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person's feelings at the same time. For many, the prohibition against hurting someone ...
Views: 1616(1 vote) - A Conversation With Dad - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten August 5, 1990 All I really wanted to say was "I'm sorry." I had said some hurtful things to my Father. But he had been dead for three years. How do make amends after they're gone? It wasn't perfect, not like him being there, but I was talking to him anyway. Just making up a ...
Views: 1613(5 votes) - Can Dexter™ Overcome His "Dark Passenger"? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Sara DillingerCan we ever really be free of the past that haunts us, the voices in our heads that tell us lies and make us do things that we don’t want to do? Can we be free of our subconscious? The Showtime Entertainment™ series Dexter™ is a dramatic statement of those questions. Dexter Morgan is a genial ...
Views: 1612 - Drug Addiction Recovery for Pregnant Women - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2012 from Brian WalkerWhen a pregnant woman is suffering from drug addiction, the situation is more serious because the effects of drug use not only applies to her, but her fetus is facing danger as well. It’s quite likely that when the child is born, it will suffer from bad health from day one. Illegal drug ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - Will The Real You Please Stand Up? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2010 from Mark GillespieI used to want and expect someone, a counsellor, a lover, a psychiatrist, a priest to cure me. I thought they owed me the answer to my problems and had it in their power to relieve me of my pain. After all, they were professionals, for the most part, who were qualified or positioned to see my ...
Views: 1612(2 votes) - Why - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceWhy? It’s a question I have been asked many times both personally and indirectly through my web page. So which why am I being asked here? There are so many whys in my past; it’s quite difficult to pin each one down. This scenario I am sure mirrors the lives of so many people, still unable to ...
Views: 1610(1 vote) - Forgiveness Begins with Our Self - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Cindy Powers ProsorIf we truly want to live a happier life, we must dig deep and learn to forgive. Forgiveness is the most precious treasure that we can give ourselves and each other. When we are willing to take responsibility for forgiveness, we are guaranteed a life of peace, gratitude, wisdom, expansion and ...
Views: 1608(2 votes) - The Life in Between Recovery and Relapse - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2012 from Cheryl HinneburgSobriety is a lot more than not picking up a drink or chasing that drug. It is a constant process of preventing relapse. The reason that the process is constant is because there are certain factors and obstacles that cannot be avoided and only stand to complicate the process of recovery. This ...
Views: 1607(1 vote) - Childhood Abuse and Adult Survivors: Notes from a Seminar - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2013 from Roni Weisberg-RossLet's begin with the statistics - and they are daunting: Approx. 1 in 4 girls & 1 in 8 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18. Even the most conservative estimates put it at 1 in 6 girls & 1 in 10 boys. It is estimated that as many as 40 million Americans - one in six people - ...
Views: 1606(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1599 - The Newborn - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.It was more than twenty five years ago, and it was a day that I will never forget. I had given birth to my second son in the beginning of September. I brought him home to a one bedroom apartment. The bedroom was big, both of my sons slept in there and my husband at the time and I slept on a ...
Views: 1593(4 votes) - ACRONYMS for all HEAL & GROW Articles - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna Torbicopgs. = http://www.acoarecovery.com – Then click on SITE MAP ACoAs = adult-children of alcoholics & other abusers A = Abandonment (A) = Adult As = Actions A/A = Abuse & Abandonment AC = Adapted Child AEC = Adult Ego State B = ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - The whole story On Steroid Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Brian CaldwellAnabolic steroids are abused by people, both sports stars and non-athletes, to enhance performance or physical appearance, or both. Steroids may also be used to increase muscle size or reduce excess body fat and therefore widely used by men and women suffering from muscle dysmorphia, that is ...
Views: 1591(1 vote) - Love, Loss, Trauma, and Community - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsOne characteristic of human societies is that people come together and seek closeness with others in the face of traumatic experiences. "Emotional attachment is probably the primary protection against feelings of helplessness and meaninglessness; it is essential for biological survival in ...
Views: 1589 - Overcoming Addiction: Believe It Or Not It Is Possible - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2017 from Anica OaksAddiction can ruin lives, derail dreams and finally, it can even kill. When you are living in the throes of your addiction can seem like there is no way out, and that no one can help you. Long term addiction can change a personality, ruin someone financially, separate you from your family and ...
Views: 1589 - Ritualized Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2014 from Roni Weisberg-RossThere is ritual sexual abuse and there is ritualized sexual abuse. The terms are sometimes interchanged, but for the purpose of this article I am delineating between the two as Ritual Sexual Abuse being cult or cult-like abuse in which “the abuse has a spiritual or social goal” (David Finkelhor, ...
Views: 1584 - Heartbeat - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysIn the fall of 1986 someone said to me "You write very lyrically. Are you a poet?" I replied pretty vehemently, "No, no, I'm not a poet!" as if I was physically trying to push away the concept. I was also ignoring the fact that I had published poetry in a school literary magazine when I was in ...
Views: 1584(2 votes) - How Narcissistic Tendencies in Others Allow Us to Grow - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Amy AdamWhen we understand narcissistic tendencies, we see how living through a False Self is a recipe for discontentment, anxiety and disappointment. Narcissistic tendencies such as needing approval, status and significance from ‘outside of self’ create a painful life. Rather than establishing being ...
Views: 1584(1 vote) - Signs Of Traumatic Stress in Adults and Adolescents - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2011 from Leila McKay, MA, LPC.All of us have had painful life experiences in the past. If we are lucky, we can just shake them off and get on with our lives. But sometimes experiences of trauma and loss can affect us so deeply that months and even years later; we still feel the impact in our daily lives. The aftermath of ...
Views: 1584 - Young Prisoners Battle With Self Harm And Self Injury - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Jennifer McLeodIn 2009 Rob Allen published an article on the Guardian website called Prison is no place for children. That statement still rings true today. He continues to say that "The prison inspectorate's disturbing report of the culture of violence and fear in Cookham Wood Young Offender Institution (YOI) ...
Views: 1582 - ACoAs’ Need for REVENGE - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoMAKE THEM SUFFER ! The same way they made me suffer! This post, of course, is about those of us raised in a variety of abusive, dysfunctional families & communities AS CHILDREN a. External CAUSES - Growing up, our parents & other adults: • blamed us unfairly, for all kinds of things ...
Views: 1581 - Rape in the Military - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Abigail FazelatAn Oscar-nominated documentary called “The Invisible War” tackles the seemingly taboo subject of rape and sexual assault in the military. ABC News covered a quick story of the documentary and featured three women who bravely volunteered their personal stories of being raped while enlisted in the ...
Views: 1576 - Smoking Cessation Programs – Are they Effective? - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Igor StilerPeople who try to quit smoking on their own are often unsuccessful in doing so. Enrolling in smoking cessation programs like auricular therapy is the right solution. Smoking creates numerous health problems and can lead to early death. Many people want to quit smoking, but this is far from ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1576 - IDENTIFTYING PTSD FROM CHILDHOOD- And 3 Steps to Begin Healing - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Bettina Sparkles ObernuefemannIDENTIFYING PTSD FROM CHILDHOOD ABUSE And 3 STEPS TO BEGIN HEALING Bettina “Sparkles” Obernuefemannn I’ve learned during the past 20 years that almost all of us on planet earth have experienced some kind of trauma or loss, now more commonly recognized as POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER ...
Views: 1572(3 votes) - Weighted Which Way - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI have just been asked by my counsellor about my sexuality, a question I have been waiting for that took its time to arrive. The answer has been in my mind for so long waiting to be announced. I truthful didn’t know. So what were my options here? It seems through choice that I am Heterosexual, ...
Views: 1571(1 vote) - Families With Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Roni Weisberg-RossAbusive situations in families do not happen in isolation. It is neither bad luck, nor is it the fault of the victim of abuse. Abuse happens within a culture of abuse. That is, there is something that is handed down over the generations that encourages those who abuse and allow those around the ...
Views: 1570 - How To Have A Happy Childhood After All - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsOne of my favourite sayings is "It's never too late to have a happy childhood". This is particularly true for survivors of sexual abuse. When you are a survivor and you struggle to function in daily life, you missed out on the vital ingredients to a happy childhood: emotional support, care, ...
Views: 1569 - Abusive Behavior Part 3 - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2007 from Wayne MisnerAbusive Behavior Part 3 By Wayne L. Misner (MenDontListen@aol.com) 18. Were you abusive with your children? The breakdown of the 94.71% who answered: Male Female ...
Views: 1568 - Overcome Addiction Immediately - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Michael GeorgeThere is a method that any person can use, in any situation, to overcome any addiction immediately. That is a powerful statement - one that you might have a hard time believing. The very idea seems rather ridiculous, doesn’t it? I am not just talking about the more common addictions such as ...
Views: 1568 - Adult Children of Abuse living with a Chronic Illness: A Challenge to Self Care - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2006 from Keesha MayesI grew up in a very violent and dysfunctional home. I endured many abuses that haunt me to this day! I believed, that when I left home at 15 years old, I was leaving behind the agony, pain and confusion of my family. But there was still so much suffering within me that I had not recognized and ...
Views: 1567 - The Spark Remains - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThroughout my childhood I received consistent messages that demonstrated the power of a dysfunctional family. The disease of my parents and abusers robbed me of my boundaries and individuality – the right to have a self. Remembering back now, through the years of oppression and sexual abuse, ...
Views: 1566(1 vote) - Victim Reaction to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2007 from Sam VakninPersonality disorders are not only all-pervasive, but also diffuse and shape-shifting. It is taxing and emotionally harrowing to watch how a loved one is consumed by these pernicious and largely incurable conditions. Victims adopt varying stances and react in different ways to the inevitable ...
Views: 1566 - Overcome Alcohol Dependency - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonWhen you reach a point in your life that you realize that alcohol is creating problems, then you know that a change is required. Some people drink far more than the doctor recommends but are completely happy with the effect upon their life and their health, and that's fine; you are the person ...
Views: 1562(2 votes) - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorBlaming others Scapegoating comes into common practice through processes that have been repeated throughout recorded history – in family, classroom, interracial and international settings. The targets of anger are always dehumanized. These “others” are painted by the blaming group as being ...
Views: 1561 - Verbal Abuse Signs & Help – Understanding and Thriving beyond Verbal Abuse in Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on May 02, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Verbal abuse, as well as emotional abuse, result in wounds and scars deep within. In the following interview we look at the impact upon the victim and offer recommendations for her surviving and thriving beyond the battering. The following is part two of an interview with Kate Carlson, OTR/L ...
Views: 1560 - A bitter Pill To Swallow - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceIt’s dark and I have no idea of where I am nothing around me looks Familiar, I can hear voices just out of eye shot. My head feels as if it may explode and I am fighting the urge to throw up. There is a swell of disinfectant hanging in the air which is not helping me much. I sit up in bed and ...
Views: 1555(2 votes) - Gratitude is Empowering for 12 Steppers! - by You've heard it at meetings, "Have an attitude of gratitude."
It's one of those sayings that gets tossed around and is often greeted with a moan or rolled eyes because it sounds so sappy. Often the mind-set behind the resistance goes something like this:
"Ok, sure, I'm grateful that I'm ...
Views: 1554 - Is Attitude Everything? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2011 from Richard (Dick) WarnNothing is everything. Nothing is that absolute. The next time someone tells you that nothing is impossible ask them to dribble a football. However, your attitude does play major roles in everything you do, what you become, and how happy you are. We see everything through the filters in our ...
Views: 1554(1 vote) - Your environment is everything! - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2013 from Heather WattersOur environments are all that matters. The people in it have a direct impact on the quality of our lives. Ways to ensure a life free from abuse and torment, is to clean out your environment. No matter how small or insignificant the interactions may be, we must always be aware that everything ...
Views: 1553(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships - 3 Deadly Mistakes in Assuming Responsibility for the Battering Behavior - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We hear it all the time: “You’re not responsible for your abuser’s battering behavior.” Yet, victims of domestic abuse spend an inordinate amount of time trying to alter this behavior. Fix it. Change it. Account for it. Often, and usually unknowingly, this invites three deadly mistakes victims ...
Views: 1550 - How to Know If Your Elderly Relatives are Being Abused - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Jeff RasanskyIf you reckon that something is shady in the retirement facility where you have a beloved one taking supervision, but you're not confident, don't be depressed. Neglect in nursing homes is infamously difficult to anticipate. Employing a worst-case situation as an illustration, envision that you ...
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