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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unattractive When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of ...
Views: 2403(2 votes) - Tips for Clearer, Cleaner Communication with your Partner! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Karen Hood CaddyLately, I’ve been coaching a lot of couples and noticing some of the nasty communication habits people often fall into. To help you talk to your partner (or really anyone else) in a better way, here are some things to keep in mind. 1) Ask for what you want. Even though we’re usually more ...
Views: 681 - ***Great Love Cannot Be Rushed - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.” This marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll is from Outside the Dog ...
Views: 2721(31 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Attract Controlling Men? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can want to experience a relationship with a man that is healthy and functional, there are numerous things that can get in the way if this actually taking place. And one of these things is when a man is controlling. To a one degree or another, both men and women are ...
Views: 5175 - Dr. Romance Video: Is it normal to argue with your spouse about your kids? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2013 from Tina Tessinaclick here for video It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what hteir parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids: 1. Don't do ...
Views: 1749(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: 5 Common Mistakes in Relationships - 5 Common Mistakes when Asking your Spouse for What You Want - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere are some common mistakes couples make when asking for what they want in a relationship. Here are some things that may be keeping you from achieving success with your spouse. They are the most common mistakes you can make when trying to ask for what you want when you're struggling to make ...
Views: 1621(3 votes) - ***Getting Out of The Negative Relationship Cycle - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulShould you leave a relationship that is stuck in a negative cycle? It is quite common for me to work with clients who are stuck in a dysfunctional relationship cycle. Sarah describes a common cycle that she wants to resolve: "I am stuck in a two year uncommitted ...
Views: 1671 - ***How Do I Stop Sabotaging Myself? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover why you may be sabotaging and punishing yourself with your self-judgment and self-rejection. Would you love to manifest your dreams and have the life you want? Most people would unhesitatingly respond with a resounding "YES!" Yet, do you sometimes find yourself ...
Views: 1364 - ***The Way to Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? "There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It's hard for ...
Views: 1398(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I don't know - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 1816 - Should I Marry Him: How Long Should You Wait For A Commitment? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Virginia ClarkI recently received this question that I believe a lot of women can relate to. 'Should I Marry Him' wrote: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we live together. I’m 36 and he’s 38. He’s told me many times that he wants to marry me but he needs more time before he settles down for ...
Views: 1458(1 vote) - Overcoming Jealousy - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Virginia ClarkJealousy… is a mental cancer. ~B.C. Forbes Jealousy will make you crazy. When you are in its grip the feeling is almost unbearable. It can make you physically sick and unable to focus on anything else. Jealousy will compel you to do things and say things you will later regret and you can ...
Views: 892 - How To Create More Intimacy In Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Virginia ClarkDo you need more intimacy in your relationship? This may be a hard question to answer. You may be experiencing “physical intimacy” with a man but you can mistake that for being truly intimate. But there comes a time after you’ve been dating a while when you have to ask yourself — am I feeling ...
Views: 1246 - Relationships: What Do People's Friends Reveal About Them? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to getting to know someone who has the potential to be a friend or a lover, it is not always easy. During the early interactions, there is the tendency for people to show their best selves. To present themselves in a way that is different to how they normally are or to exaggerate ...
Views: 1812 - Why Are You Still Single? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2013 from Joanne RobinsonWhy Are You Still Single Jo"? I can still remember cringing at being asked that question by well meaning friends and family members and my response really depended on my hormones and how I felt about being single at the time. For the most part, those that know and love us, ask from good ...
Views: 1277 - Relationship Secrets That Will Help You Build a Happy Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2013 from Michelle SearsRelationships are hard. They can go from good to bad to nonexistent in a matter of a few moments. So add kids to that mix and you have a whole heap of trouble to work out in any relationships. But we all can't get divorced over every little quarrel so we have to figure out a way that works ...
Views: 1308(3 votes) - One Surprising Way Men Help Us While Hurting Us - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerIt’s your fear of rejection that is getting you rejected. ~~ Bobbi Palmer I know…I write about rejection a lot: how to recognize when it is and isn't real; how there’s no such thing as rejection when you’re meeting guys using online dating; and how to learn from it, recover and move on to the ...
Views: 1359(3 votes) - 4 Reasons To Swap Regret Over Your Breakup for Excitement - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Michael BroderIf you’ve recently experienced a relationship breakup, regret is one of the many emotions you might be experiencing. But regret is usually just a form of temporary and needless pain. Here are a few perspectives to make the end of your relationship an exciting and bright start to a new ...
Views: 1973(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home ...
Views: 1741(3 votes) - ***A Failed Relationship: Don't Make The Same Mistakes Again - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Marriages and relationships fail. Love sometimes ends as the flames of love die out. What started out with so much promise sometimes ends as a disaster. Now the challenge is how to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again. ...
Views: 2767(30 votes) - Dr. Romance: Boundaries with your Ex - Tips to Help if your Ex is Doing Things that Make You Feel Used, Resentful - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaPersonal space and respect are to the smoothness of a relationship. All personal relationships require boundaries. Boundaries are the limits you place on how much others can ask of you, verbally or otherwise. If a friendship or relationship is between two people who both have solid boundaries, ...
Views: 2298(3 votes) - When Your Love Life Seems to Be On A Merry-Go-Round - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2013 from Erica JohnsonDoes it seem like you’re running in circles when it comes to your love life? Well, you’re not the only one. I have come across a lot of ladies who seem to find themselves running around in circles. They keep getting themselves into the same situation over and over again and have no clue why. ...
Views: 1234 - [Video] What To Do When It Doesn’t Work Out - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here I had a disappointment today. I blew an opportunity to do well at something that was super important to me. I was struggling to find a way to fix it…to make it right. So I thought: What would I tell another sister to do in this situation? I came up with the ...
Views: 1417(1 vote) - [Video] Dating New Men: How to Tell Him the Scary Stuff - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Ungrateful children. Mortgage that’s killin’ you. Surgical scars. Chronic health problems…these are all realities of life after 40. Let’s face it: we’ve been around a while. We have “stuff!” When you’re dating ...
Views: 1249(1 vote) - [Video] How Do I Get Myself to Think Nice Guys Are Hot? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Last weekend was my live event in Los Angeles: Mastering the Art of Magnetizing Men. During this two-day event I gave women tons of advice and step-by-step tips to help them attract quality men so they could finally meet their loving lifetime partner. If ...
Views: 1267(1 vote) - How to Magnetize the Men You Like: Top Tips [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Since you all can’t all attend my upcoming Live Event “The Art of Magnetizing Men“, I wanted to share my #1 Top Tip for being a midlife man magnet. Then I figured: why not invite my two guest experts to share theirs! Let me know your ...
Views: 1358(1 vote) - How to Say “No” (Whether You Like Him or Not) [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here What do you do when a man asks you out and you aren’t interested? Are you worried about hurting his feelings? I get this question quite frequently because, after all, we want to please men, right? Here are my simple tips for how to say “no” to a ...
Views: 1335(1 vote) - How to Answer Those Personal Questions You Don’t Want to Answer [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Were you at last Friday’s Grownup Girls’ Night Out Live Man Panel? I had three men — ages 40s, 50s and 70s – generously share their thoughts and feelings about what attracts them to women, what to do on dates, how to tell if a man is into ...
Views: 1330(1 vote) - How to Shake Up Your Love Life This Weekend [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Sometimes, especially when we’re older and haven’t dated for a while, we can start feeling bored, boring or invisible when it comes to men. I recorded this video to help you shake things up! With very ...
Views: 1375(1 vote) - Beware: An Internet Dating Horror Story - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Virginia ClarkI feel compelled to write this warning to all you wonderful women who have been reading my blog for the last 3 years. I want to tell you about my newest client and give you a heads-up if you’re Internet dating. Marcie is 52 years old and a highly accomplished woman. She’s recently divorced ...
Views: 874(1 vote) - Where Are All The Good Men? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Virginia ClarkWhere are all the good men?! I asked myself this question over and over again when I was dating and trying desperately to find a man to marry. For years I was a magnet for men who weren’t good for me, men who were not the marrying kind. I couldn’t stop myself from dating them and getting ...
Views: 1303(1 vote) - Relationship Fitness - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Susan DerryJust as muscles atrophy, or shrink and weaken, with lack of use relationships atrophy when the actions required to keep them strong are neglected. Most people understand that if you want to keep your body fit and healthy then you have to exercise fairly consistently. We do not gain strength or ...
Views: 1243(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite ‑‑ because it's new and exciting. However, what’s exciting in the newness of romance often becomes ...
Views: 2393 - 3 Ways He's Telling You He Is Not Going To Marry You - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Virginia ClarkI want to spare you the disappointment of getting your hopes up over a man who's going to waste your time, get you to fall for him and then leave. You can find out early in a relationship which men are good prospects for marriage and avoid a lot of heartache. But you need to pay attention, ...
Views: 1009(1 vote) - How To Stop Waiting For His Call - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Virginia ClarkWe’ve all been there, a phone clutched tightly in hand waiting for him to text, email or call. So afraid you might miss him, you carry the phone from room to room, from place to place. You check your phone a hundred times while you refresh the mailbox again and again. You send an email to ...
Views: 3651(1 vote) - ***I Fall Too Hard In Love - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you find yourself getting hurt over and over in relationships? Discover why. ________________________________________ Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the ...
Views: 1355 - ***"I Lose My Cool In Relationships." - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you find that as soon as you really like someone – whether as a friend or as a partner – you 'lose your cool?' ________________________________________ Relationships offer us more opportunities for personal growth than just about anything else in ...
Views: 1298 - How To Get A Man's Attention By Embracing Your Flaws - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Virginia ClarkI wish you could see the picture of my dog, Buddy, I am holding. When we rescued him he had a mouthful of rotten teeth. The vet had to remove 22 of his teeth. When we brought him home I noticed he looked different. Because of his missing front teeth his tongue now lolls out the side of his mouth ...
Views: 1171(1 vote) - Want Some Real Relationship Advice? Don't Fake It. Ever! - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Virginia ClarkThere are few exceptions to this rule and at the moment I can’t even think of any! If you’re faking it in any area of your relationship it’s only a matter of time before it comes back and bites you. Once you’ve faked it, you’ve painted yourself into a corner with only two options: staying in ...
Views: 1176(1 vote) - How To Get More Love In Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Virginia ClarkNo matter where you are on your journey to romance there is always a reason to get more love in your life. The magical thing about love is that it’s free; you can’t buy it, trade it or win it in a lottery. Love is an action you extend to others that benefits you more than it does them. So why ...
Views: 1121(1 vote) - Stop Giving Away Your Power In Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Virginia ClarkOne reason your relationships tend to fail is that you start out well enough, but then slowly, without realizing it, you start to give away your power. This process is insidious and before you know it, instead of having a healthy give and take, the relationship has lost its balance. When you ...
Views: 4234(1 vote) - Attract Love By Being In Love With You - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Virginia Clark“For all eternity you will be with you. There is no escaping your Self.” ~ Jacob Glass If there were ever a reason to make the effort to love and appreciate who you are, this would be it. Just imagine you’ll be keeping yourself company for all time — so you better find a way to enjoy who you ...
Views: 964(1 vote) - Healing From Heartache - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Virginia ClarkNo one gets a free pass when it comes to healing from heartbreak. I’m not just referring to the grown up kind when we breakup with a lover, I’m referring to the heartbreak we experience as the natural result of just being a human being. It begins in childhood; young people suffer a great deal ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - How to Love a Man - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2013 from Erica Johnson4 Steps to Loving a Man Were you taught how to love a man or did you just figure it out on your own? If you’re anything like me, you weren’t officially told how to love a man. You either modeled what you saw your mother do or you mimicked what you say on TV. The key to having a successful ...
Views: 1276 - Dating at the Hospital & What You Need to Know - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Derek WhitneyDating on the job is always fraught, but what happens when you are doing it in a high-stress environment? Whether you are a nurse, a doctor, an EMT or administrative staff, you know that hospitals are places where the pressure is turned up high and emotions run hot. This can make dating seem ...
Views: 3966 - 7 Strategies for Preventing Relationship Burnout - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Laura RichterIt’s not unusual. The glow of a new relationship begins to dim as time goes by. As excitement and novelty turn to contentment and familiarity, the relationship begins to shift and become more predictable. Excitement wanes and you may begin to wonder how to get it back. This is normal. But ...
Views: 6406(4 votes) - How Long Did The Pearl Harbor Battle Last? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Terry WeberBy Terry Weber Article Word Count: 1841 I'll always remember the attack on Pearl Harbor on December 7th, 1941. Even now, seventy-two years later, I am still aware of the many ways that attack forced the "sleeping giant" that was the USA; to become today's major advocate of worldwide ...
Views: 1793 - Dear Dr. Romance: Is she bipolar or what? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some help. My partner has had some emotional problems and I don't know what they are. is she bipolar or what else? She gets angry about everything and is very negative, she is very incecure and thinks I dont love her even if I told her 10 mins ...
Views: 1602 - Do's and Don't's of Positive Conflict - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Darlene LancerIt’s normal to have conflict in relationships. People are different, and their desires and needs will inevitably clash. Resolving disagreements in a healthy way creates understanding and brings couples closer together. The objective should be the betterment of the relationship. This is positive ...
Views: 2492(5 votes) - Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - How to Stay In Touch When You Barely See Each Other - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ...
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