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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: I really wish I could go back in time and fix this. - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We ...
Views: 930(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, movies as ...
Views: 2414(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I sabotaged the relationship because I was afraid - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in my late sixties, and I . For over the past 14 months I was in a very loving, intimate relationship with a man in his mid thirties. It has ended because I could not let go of the age issue in my mind. We live in different states and we traveled back and forth to ...
Views: 1039(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I seem to ruminate all day about myself - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Scotland and I think we are quite backward when it comes to mental health issues. I have spoken to 2 therapists now about my obsessive thinking, both of whom seem strangely perplexed by what I perceive to be quite a common problem. I seem to ...
Views: 1376(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I still can't seem to get over it -- Is that normal? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. There is a seventeen year difference in age. I left for two and a half months to help my older sister during her second pregnancy because her husband was in Iraq. When I came back I found out ...
Views: 1785(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself Dear Dr. Romance: I am a women in my early twenties from India. I have gone through your website and i think u can help me. For the first time in life I am so confused, so helpless, and I don't know what i want. Everything ...
Views: 1447(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I have a tendency to lose myself in a relationship - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ...
Views: 813(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I'll be eternally grateful - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2019 from Tina TessinaThank you Dear Dr Romance: I've stumbled across your website, and think I'm going to be eternally grateful for having done so. Your advice is a pleasure to read, with helpful action-plans for effecting change. I love your articles on relationships with parents/children, being one's own ...
Views: 793(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think she is really scared to go to therapy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: To be honest I think she is really scared to go to therapyI have been many timesAnd I know it worksAnd I really want her and I to learn how to communicate stumped Dear Reader: she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go ...
Views: 724(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 908(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I walked away when she needed me most - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ...
Views: 2705(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want my wife and family back. - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "The One Who Got Away " about getting back together with your ex. Can this really happen? My wife is divorcing me because she has fallen out of love with me. We aren't divorced yet but are in the process by going to a mediator. It's something I do ...
Views: 1245(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want my wife to be my lover - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get someone else's take on what is going on in my marriage right now. My problem is that right now my wife and I do not have sex all that often, we average about once every month and half to two months. I have tried talking to my wife about this subject before and ...
Views: 1221(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to break-up with him, but I don't know how - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to remain friends with him, or is this just wishful thinking? Dear ...
Views: 1255(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I was tired of being his 'booty call' - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm at a loss as to what to do. I'm married to a man that I sleep in the same bed (our daughter co-sleeps with us) with but other than that not much else. We are in our thirties, and we've been married about two years but have been living together for longer. In ...
Views: 1176(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I went through hell on earth with him until he quit drinking. - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had two divorces, and both men turned out to be gay. By this time my self esteem was shattered, I felt there was something wrong with me. To make a long story short, I basically started dating and slept with men, just because they showed they desired me. ...
Views: 1109(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her. - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your article "The Challenges of Blended Families" focused on interfaith couples and their impact on raising children. I wanted to reach out to you as a last resort to saving my relationship. My girlfriend and i have been together for three ...
Views: 888(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, I used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 922(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four year old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 944(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance; I read your article "Age Differences in Dating" I am dating a man who is 22 yrs, younger than myself. He appeared older and I appeared younger to him. Now I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work. Would you be ...
Views: 942(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Desperate: What Else Can I Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I suffer with sleeping alone in "our" bedroom while my wife of 14 years, sleeps in our two pre-teen sons' bedroom. I've tried to talk and reason with her about this important problem, only to fall on deaf ears. I'm desperate. What else can i do? How can i get ...
Views: 906(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ...
Views: 774(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having trouble letting go of a guy who mistreats me - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm still having a bit of trouble letting go and cutting off communication with a guy who mistreats me. I understand in my head that this is not right, but I can't seem to get it emotionally. Yesterday was his birthday and particularly difficult to ...
Views: 746(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my late 40s and feeling very unhopeful about my future love life. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a terrible funk over a failed relationship that lasted 2 years and I thought would lead to marriage. We met online and now I'm afraid if I go online again, he will see my profile and/or I will see his. I took this breakup so hard, the thought of that happening just ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ...
Views: 1054(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm just wondering what I can do for him to like me - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: i wear make up skinny jeans hollister shirts cardigans uggs and converse or just boots I love to act sing dance I'm a gr8t actress I'm always working out love to run I'm smart funny short brown hair sometimes jewlery now I have a crush on someone I always talk to him we ...
Views: 905(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married and I still can't forget about my first love - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't even know where to start… I just did the most stupid thing alive!! I send the man I can't forget a text message…and he did not reply. I don't think he wants to speak to me. He knows I'm married. I was 20 years old when I fell in love with him. I was ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ...
Views: 790(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm sick of waiting and feeling I'm not good enough - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am a young adult male who has always had some sort of complication in relationships. I need help on deciding what I should do from the point at where I’m at now. The situation is that I have been talking to this girl. She first started talking to me but I didn't really ...
Views: 924(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm terrified to recommit - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm terrified to recommit Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my mid-twenties and a professional. I recently brokeup from a bad relationship with my fiancee, and lost everything. Its been sometime and I've moved on I'm doing well, but find ...
Views: 1127(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I've learned my lesson - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article: "Debunking Dating Myths" Great article, good advice. I couldn't agree with you more. It was a very timely message for me. Just recently, I decided to let go of my partner...for good...It's only been 2-1/2 months since ...
Views: 892(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Incomparable? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Incomparable? I was in a beautiful meaningful relationship that led to a too brief but wonderful marriage until tragedy struck and my husband died two years ago. I rejoined the dating world nine months agoand am having a difficult time finding someone who can measure up to my ...
Views: 959(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating On Me? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my bf have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are u happy?” and stuff. We broke up ...
Views: 991(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it appropriate for him to still have her in his life? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am going through a break-up this week and pretty broken hearted. My boyfriend and I currently dated for the last year and nine months and it ended this week. He is my age, mid thirties but when he was in his early to mid twenties he had an affair with a much much older ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it more important to be balanced or compatible? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:What is more important in a relationship: being balanced or compatible? Dear Reader: Compatibility trumps balance, but balance may be an important component of compatibility. Compatibility means having similar core values, living together well and comfortably, and ...
Views: 950(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love? Dear Reader: Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend ...
Views: 1141(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is this unhealthy and what should I do about it? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Do I have an unhealthy celebrity obsession? I really need answers and help! I feel this is still unresolved? Does anyone else have an obsession with a particular celebrity to the degree that you wanna look, act, talk, dress and live like them. I do, I wanna look like ...
Views: 933(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It is sad that I cannot stop loving him - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I told my husband that if he cannot be with me as his wife and does not give me the place that a wife should have that I wanted to go on with my life and file the papers. He stopped seeing the other woman for a weekend. Then, on the Thursday that followed, he called me ...
Views: 1274(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It seems to be going in a circle. - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I would like your advice in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when I try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ...
Views: 714(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's as if something turned out bad - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ...
Views: 661(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tough because we work together and I see her everyday - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I ran across the post from the man who was being "patient" with the wounded woman who kept projecting her thought and blowing him off. I thought it was so close to my situation, it blew me away. I am a drug and alcohol counselor and found myself attracted to a coworker. ...
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