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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Develop a New Heart and Mind (Attitude) About Dating - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Angie LewisMany of you reading this may have already made the mistake of having romantic attachments and a faulty attitude when it comes to dating. But rest assured all of this can be changed with the right attitude and biblical steps that put you on the right foundation. Whatever your circumstances were ...
Views: 2184 - Make Love, Not War - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Amy TorresMaking love starts in the mind. It is what we're thinking that turns us on or off. Making love can be using the body sexually to express love, tenderness, and pleasure. Making love can be purely sensual-e.g., giving your partner a massage or a bath-fragrant with essential oils. Making love can ...
Views: 2184(1 vote) - The Trouble With Compromise - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Pat LaDouceurHolidays are supposed to be meaningful, relaxing, and connecting, but they’re often stressful. It’s easy to get caught between travel, family obligations, your own wishes, and tricky negotiations with significant others. If you try to do it all and make everyone happy, it can feel like you’re ...
Views: 2182(1 vote) - JUPITER EXALTED: The Trip to Bountiful - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from joan pancoeWe have just until July 16th, 2014 to remember all the lessons and reasons for gratitude we've received from the passage of Jupiter in the sign of his exaltation, Cancer. To review: "What is the body? That shadow of a shadow of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe." ...
Views: 2181(1 vote) - ***The Trials and Tribulations of Having Children in a Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. One of the many important caveats about marriage is this – children change the dynamics of a marriage. Make no mistake about that. Kids! We love them. We cherish them. They bring joy to our lives. When we have children in a marriage, we ...
Views: 2180(44 votes) - How to Tell if He Is Second-Date Worthy - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerI read this quote recently: I love that feeling of being in love, the effect of having butterflies when you wake up in the morning. That is special. ~ Jennifer Aniston I love her, and no offense meant, but how has that butterfly-thing been working for Jen so far? During my 35-plus years ...
Views: 2179(1 vote) - Taming the Butterflies! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Azzrian VisionsOh that new feeling ... the tummy flutters, the palms are sweaty, heart races, constantly checking email. Its the tale tale signs of a new relationship! But how do we keep our wits about us and know for sure that its really a love connection and not just the excitement of the possibility of ...
Views: 2179(6 votes) - Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back - Find Out If You Still Have a Chance to Win Him Back! - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2015 from James Uadiale“Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?” This is common question asked by women who have been dumped by someone they love. You never believed the relationship would come to an end too soon. You wonder if he could breakup with you after all the happy moments you both shared. Once you accept that it’s ...
Views: 2177 - Change the Way You Do “The Dating-Game”- and Succeed in Developing an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION If you have been in the dating-game for quite a long time now and still are not successful to develop a successful intimate relationship, maybe it’s time for you to change tactics. Having the courage to do things differently may prove to be “the right way” to succeed in finding a ...
Views: 2177 - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 2176 - Dr. Romance Video: Why does my husband insist on being right? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance video, click here for video When your partner refuses to help solve the problem, you have no choice but to focus on your own need until you get cooperation. As long as you offer every opportunity to cooperate and you extend an invitation to your partner to join you whenever he ...
Views: 2176 - Law of Attraction Coach: Desire is to Intention Like Fuel is to the Flame - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2010 from Nanette GeigerDesire is both healthy and natural. The most natural thing we can do is to have a desire. Desire is the impulse and intention that propels the entire Universe. Quantum Physics and Spiritual teachers are all telling us that the nature of the Universe and the nature of God is ever expanding, ...
Views: 2176(6 votes) - Competition into Collaboration - A Formula for Success - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageIt’s one thing to know our own strengths and weaknesses in business. It is also important to know the same about your competitors. Unfortunately, many entrepreneurs don’t take the time to find out about their competitors until it is too late. Knowing your competitors’ strengths and weaknesses ...
Views: 2174 - Recovery from Codependency is Possible - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserRecovery from codependency means getting yourself and your life back. It is caring about you again. It is about reclaiming yourself and your life. Recovery is an internal agreement and a process that lasts a lifetime. Remember, yesterday’s choices are the consequences you live today. The choices ...
Views: 2174(1 vote) - Are You Listening Competitively? Or Listening to Learn? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou know how you can be going along in a conversation with a friend or a loved one, and it all seems to be good, and suddenly, you say something and the conversation stalls or stops entirely. And you’re thinking “What happened?” You didn’t say anything insulting or mean, you just voiced your ...
Views: 2173 - Digital Dementia Wreaks Havoc on Personal Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Pat HeydlauffWhat you focused on five years, five months or five days ago is what you have in your life today. The relationships you have with your family, friends and contacts are the direct result of how you spent your time in the past and what you decided to focus upon. What you focus on today is what you ...
Views: 2173 - Power Up Your Endorphins and Enhance Your Relationships With Compliments - by Submitted on May 12, 2011 from Monica Strobel“There is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” William James I’ve always been told that the key to keeping your spirits up and getting the most out of life come from having a positive attitude, an optimistic ...
Views: 2173(1 vote) - 7 Tips for Dealing with a Jealous Boy/Girlfriend/Spouse - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2009 from Dr. Dar HawksFirst, let’s review the dictionary definition of jealousy: 1. Feeling resentment against someone because of that person’s rivalry, success, or advantages (often fol. by of): He was jealous of his rich brother. 2. Feeling resentment because of another’s success, advantage, etc. ...
Views: 2172 - I Need Help in Getting My Ex Boyfriend Back to Talk to Me - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreI Need help In Getting My Ex Boyfriend Back. How to Save Your Relationship By Avoiding An Attitude of Neediness To Your Ex Boyfriend. Showing Neediness most times can be a girl's worst enemy in a relationship. Acting needy and clingy can make a guy get turned off really immediately all the time. ...
Views: 2172 - Keeping Hope During Separation: How Do You Know When Things Are Improving During A Trial Separation - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesKeeping Hope During Separation: How Do You Know When Things Are Improving During A Trial Separation Some of the mistakes in life can lead to matrimonial discord but there are some absolute methods that can save a marriage after separation. Generally, the decisions that create imbalance in ...
Views: 2172 - Christian Codependency: Four Biblical Reasons You Need Strong Relationship Boundaries - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2012 from Karla DowningIf you are struggling with Christian codependency, you probably have weak boundaries. This article will give you four biblical reasons you need strong relationship boundaries. People will know their choices carry consequences. God has established the law of reaping and sowing to teach people ...
Views: 2171(1 vote) - How to Fix a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Andrew HunterIt just seems to come out of the blue. That "Let's take a break" moment when it seems like your relationship is in danger. Your life seems to be caving in on you and your heart is left in ruins. Sure your friend and family are trying to comfort you and make you feel better, but they really don't ...
Views: 2171(2 votes) - How To Date Your Best Friend: 3 Important Things To Know - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2011 from Michael LeeIt's not easy to know how to date your best friend. In fact, not a lot of people take the leap for fear of ruining the friendship. While there is that risk, there are a significant number of best friends-turned-couples who end up living happily ever after. If you're thinking of taking that ...
Views: 2170 - Emotional Honesty and Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Kenneth MacLeanRelationships are ruined by the buildup of negative emotion. Eventually, you just have to get away from the other person because you can't stand it anymore. Here's a simple way to get things off your chest and keep your relationships on an even keel. I've always admired people who can be honest ...
Views: 2169 - Thinking Of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Dan And JenniferDid you know that love does NOT conquer all? You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever. However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this ...
Views: 2169(1 vote) - Marriage Help: making sense of the withdrawn husband - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhen you and your spouse/partner are locked in cycles of conflict, you probably assume you have nothing in common—especially during those times when your husband seems to shutdown emotionally and withdraw from you. However, the likelihood is that you and your mate share common threads in all ...
Views: 2168(5 votes) - The 5 Questions to Ask When You're Meeting Your Girlfriend's New Man - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Katie KrienitzThe 5 Questions to Ask when You’re Meeting Your Girlfriend’s New Man I pulled up to the restaurant and sat in my car for a moment. I couldn’t believe that I was actually nervous! One of my best girlfriends, Angelina, had been talking about Charlie for a few weeks now. They had shared ...
Views: 2168(1 vote) - Aha! Eureka! - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2012 from George SewellThere are those thoughts that go bump in the night – the Aha! and Eureka! moments of mental clarity. Such thoughts solve problems, begin new ways of doing things, and herald a better situation for the thinker. Such moments indicate a shift in perspective – a new and fresh approach to thinking ...
Views: 2167(1 vote) - Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children - How Much Involvement Is Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2012 from Karla DowningHow much involvement is enough when setting boundaries with your adult children? Just enough! You raise your children with the idea that when they turn 18, they will be completely independent with the exception of possibly paying for college. But just because a child turns 18 doesn't mean ...
Views: 2167 - ***Life: Security or a Daring Adventure? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits ...
Views: 2165 - Signs Your Ex Is Still In Love With You - Know If They Still Have Feeling For You? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from John OnyekaRegardless of how desperate you are to get your ex boyfriend back, you must know that it is going to be a total waste of time to attempt to do this at the moment. There are signs if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you, however you are excessively emotional at present to observe them, ...
Views: 2164 - The Three Myths of Flirting - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Meghan GehanANYONE can be successful at flirting and dating, however there are certain misconceptions that you must overcome in order to flirt effectively and naturally. After all, isn’t the goal of flirting to improve not only the number of dates you have ahead of you…but also the quality, strength and ...
Views: 2164(1 vote) - Do You Have to Hide Your Happiness to Please Your Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondRita was happy and Norman hated it! Rita was on top of the world and Norman hated it. He couldn’t stand seeing her so comfortable in her own skin, and in such good spirits. It turned his stomach. It was unfair. What right did she have to feel so good when he felt lousy? Despite her ...
Views: 2163(1 vote) - My Husband Would Rather Play Golf Than Spend Time With Me: How Much Time Should Married Couples Spend Together - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from John BraxtonMy Husband Would Rather Play Golf Than Spend Time With Me: How Much Time Should Married Couples Spend Together What does it really mean when a husband doesn't spend time with his wife? Does it signal the end of marriage? How serious is it? What can you do to turn this situation around? I will ...
Views: 2163(1 vote) - ***Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2009 from Jim ManganielloRelationship stress can be a huge source of misery and health problems. Studies show, for example, that marital stress and dissatisfaction go hand in hand with depression and heart trouble for both men and women. In one study, University of Pittsburgh researchers studied 500 middle-aged ...
Views: 2162(7 votes) - How To Fix A Failing Marriage: Ways To Save A Failing Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackHow To Fix A Failing Marriage: Ways To Save A Failing Marriage It can be quite challenging and frustrating trying to save a failing marriage. If your spouse is very serious about leaving, it can be a very traumatic and depressing experience. Here are a few tips on how to save a failing ...
Views: 2162 - The Worrier’s Guidelines - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2013 from Tina TessinaThis exercise is especially effective when you can’t sleep or when you experience anxiety attacks. If you worry a lot, or obsessively think about future events and problems when you should be concentrating on other things, follow these simple steps: 1. Write it down. If you’re feeling anxious ...
Views: 2162(3 votes) - "To Really Choose a Man" - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2018 from Barry and Joyce Vissell(An excerpt from the Vissell’s new book, To Really Love a Man) TO REALLY LOVE A MAN IS TO CHOOSE HIM OVER AND OVER AGAIN. It’s not enough to say marriage vows one time, though that is certainly important. The relationship is deepened if you let him know often that you would choose him all ...
Views: 2160 - Shared Life, Shared Space, Shared Schedules - Tips for couples getting organized - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Mary DykstraDo you share space with a loved one and find it challenging at times because you have very different organizing or time management styles? I have a number of women and men who call asking for organizing help frustrated with their spouse/significant other's habits. When I enter the situation, ...
Views: 2160 - ***When is Anger good and when is Anger bad? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Julie HartAnger is the natural emotion we humans experience in response to a perceived threat, frustration, assault or obstruction to our humanity and who we are. Anger can basically fall into 2 categories: - 1. Our native response to not being taken care of properly or our needs being met (which is ...
Views: 2159 - 10 Tips To Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Dan And JenniferInfidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships. According to an infidelity poll conducted by WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not. With the increase in technology, cheating has ...
Views: 2159(1 vote) - 8 Choices That Will Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2012 from Susan DerryThe state of our lives and our relationships are the result of our seemingly small everyday choices. If for some reason we are unhappy with our relationship or our life, the best place to begin is to consider the choices that we have been making. William James said, “Human beings, by changing ...
Views: 2159(3 votes) - ***Should I Try To Save My Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not ...
Views: 2158(24 votes) - What is the most Essential Factor for a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2010 from Greg BakerWhat would be the most important ingredient to any healthy, successful relationship? Would it be love? Trust? Attraction? Or something else? This article explains the one factor, the one ingredient that is required for any relationship to be healthy and successful. Sitting in front of my desk ...
Views: 2156 - Wife Doesn't Care About My Feelings: What Does It Mean When Your Wife Says She Hates You - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2021 from Carmen JimenaWife Doesn't Care About My Feelings: What Does It Mean When Your Wife Says She Hates You You never imagined you'd be looking for an answer to that question. You thought your wife and you were different and that your marriage was on an indescribable level. Now, you're faced with the knowledge ...
Views: 2156 - $$$ When you started with love don’t let it go unattended! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Prakash Binwal$$$ When you started with love don’t let it go! Seen around the world of mine, there are people very happy in their relationship at the same time very frustrated with their relationship too. I feel very sad, when I see such people who are frustrated with their relationship and by their act and ...
Views: 2155(1 vote) - 5 reasons marriages end in divorce - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I'm getting married in a month and want to know why so many marriages end in divorce. What should I look out for? How can I prevent divorce?" ~Sandra, Houston TX A: Understanding why a marriage or relationship might fail can alert couples to their own unique relationship ...
Views: 2155(3 votes) - Knowing When It’s Time To Move On…And Doing It - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2013 from Ann Catherine C.Ht., D.D.Peacefully releasing an intimate relationship is one of our greatest challenges in life. There are few things in life more painful, difficult, and traumatic than breaking up with someone we have loved…what’s even worse is being released by someone we love when we “aren’t ready”. What ...
Views: 2155 - Why Magical Relationship Beliefs Never Last - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Master Coach Hu DalconzoMagical relationship beliefs are a subtle challenge for the consciously awakened. Magical relationship beliefs are unrealistic, fantasy-based beliefs. Many of these beliefs are rooted in childhood while watching Prince Charming save and protect his beautiful, but un-empowered, princess. Magical ...
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