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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - How You Can Use Texting To Transform Your Love Life and Make Him More Passionate and Romantic - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangThe amount of time we get to spend with our partners is less and less. Commutes are longer, people often spend eight or ten hours at the computer and in meetings. Our increasingly complex lives also come with a host of professional, personal, and hobby-related commitments. As a result, the ...
Views: 11225(5 votes) - My Boyfriend Left Me - Do I Want Him Back? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangWow, what a punch in the stomach. You were just dumped. It can be a shock, even if all the signs were there. Now comes the hard part, what to do next? If you've just said 'my boyfriend left me, what should I do now?" the answer might not be what you expected! As humans it is our nature, ...
Views: 15953(5 votes) - Peace in Your Heart for the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from Noelle Nelson“Compromise!” Your spouse says. “We’ll compromise! We’ll go to your folks for Christmas Eve, and my folks for Christmas Day. That way everybody will be happy – your family and mine.” Yeah, you think, everybody except me! All you want is some peace and quiet with your own husband and ...
Views: 1459(5 votes) - The Four Urgent Breakup Warning Signs - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Jay CataldoThere’s nothing wrong with preventative medicine…. especially when it comes to relationships. Sometimes, all it takes to save yourself from the pain of a difficult breakup is a little bit of knowledge and preparation. Interestingly enough, the warning signs of an impending breakup will be ...
Views: 4430(5 votes) - The Ultimate Guide To Texting And Making Him Addicted To You - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangIf you have a new guy in your life and are in the early stages of courtship, chances are good you will be texting him and he will be texting you. Flirty texting is fun, but if you aren't careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on his attraction. If he is pulling away from you, one of ...
Views: 40221(5 votes) - What Is It Like To Live With Me? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from Susan DerryOccasionally, it is helpful to get a reality check about how we are perceived by others. We may think that because we love our partner that they know it and feel it. But if we were to take a step back and consider our behavior and the messages we send and how those are received by our partner; ...
Views: 1575(5 votes) - Rebuilding Your Relationship To Rekindle The Passion - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Katarina PhangThere comes a point in almost any successful relationship where things calm down and cool off. There is no longer a major spark between the partners. They get comfortable in their relationship and develop a routine. They no longer find as much time to spend together. Often, this is not due to a ...
Views: 9860(7 votes) - Six Secrets Of Successful Russian Dating And Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2012 from lisa yungMany men like Russian girls and many are dating them online. How can you have successful dating online and a happy marriage? Read through the six secrets, also the keys to successful date with your dream soul mate. Be Devoted to your dream Russian bride Love calls for devotion. It is ...
Views: 2997(2 votes) - #1 Strategy You Can Use Instantly to Get Back AND Stay Together With Your Ex! - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2013 from Jeff ThomasSo you've broken up with your ex. It is highly probable that you are going through emotions such as denial, frustration, sadness and anger. During this difficult time your rational thinking becomes clouded by these emotions and you may be tempted to do things that you may not do otherwise, such ...
Views: 889(4 votes) - ***Breaking Bad Dating Patterns - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMany of the questions I get about romantic and dating relationships is the one where a person keeps finding him or herself repeating a not so happy dating pattern, over and over again. Many people I work with can see they keep dating or falling in love with a variation of the same problem, but ...
Views: 1228(2 votes) - 3 Lethal Dating Flaws that Doom Your Dating Life Plus What You Can Do to Correct Them - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2012 from Lisa CMistake #1 Not being in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS! Men can’t find you if you hide every night at home snuggled up with your beloved cat or dog reading your book or watching one of your favorite TV shows like “Dancing with the Stars” or “Glee.” ...
Views: 1472(2 votes) - 3 Sneaky Techniques For Getting Your Ex Back Fast and Painlessly - Apply Them Before Your Ex Decides To Move On and Finds Someone Else! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIf you are reading this article you are probably going through a break up right now. You may still be in a state of shock and denial. You are probably also feeling feel frustrated, sad and angry. This is understandable considering the situation you are in. It is also true that you want to get ...
Views: 786(2 votes) - 6 Proven Ways to Keep Your Boyfriend Faithful by Making Him Happy and Satisfied in Bed - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Jack HutsonHey girl. There's no reason for your boyfriend to cheat on you or even think about leaving you if you know how to keep him happy and satisfied in your relationship. How do you do that? The answer may sound shallow, but it's the truth. It's sex. And not just good sex, but truly amazing sex. If ...
Views: 9287(2 votes) - A 5-Step Action Plan For Winning Your Ex Back Again - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaRomantic relationships happen to be this kind of affectionate associations that when they break may result in such tense, panicky and depressing times. Usually, no matter how much partners try there is usually the disposition for a separation to take place and when one does develop, reversing ...
Views: 3128(2 votes) - Addicted to Love - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Joeel A. Rivera“How can I love her one minute and dislike her so much the next?” “I feel he’s my soul mate, so why do we constantly fight?” Sound familiar? If so, you are not alone. Most “love relationships” turn into love/hate relationships, where feelings of love can turn into drama—hostility, attack, ...
Views: 1903(2 votes) - Advantages of Online Flower Delivery - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Timothy SpencerI bought my first bunch of flowers at the neighborhood florist way back when I was a whiff of a teenager. While I feel that it was just a blink ago, it admittedly was a big block of time before the Internet became public domain. On the rare occasion that I did, I have to admit that I actually ...
Views: 937(2 votes) - After the Honeymoon: Navigating the Labyrinth of a New Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2009 from Victoria Lorient-FaibishPicture this: You have met a new person recently and you are instantly “in love”. You want to spend all day and night with them. It feels as if you are drugged with this new person’s energy and you cannot get enough. You need your daily fix and will do whatever it takes to keep the feeling ...
Views: 2021(2 votes) - Align with the Energy of Love - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Stacy CorriganYears ago when I was single and lived in Boston, I heard Marianne Williamson speak at the Berklee Center for Performing Arts. Something she said powerfully impacted me in my search for love. I cannot remember her exact words, but she said something like, “Every woman can describe the man she’s ...
Views: 1622(2 votes) - Am I Angry or Violent? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Gerald AnthonyMost of us enjoy a good action movie. Watching the battle between good and evil is always entertaining. In the end one of the co-stars is killed. Sometimes it is the good character and sometimes it is the evil leader. What we need to be careful of is transferring what we see in movies ...
Views: 2232(2 votes) - Attracting a Dream Relationship Using a Vision Board - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Barbara PellegrinoAttracting a relationship using a vision board is a hot topic. Today, Mothers day, I was very happy remembering this huge blessing, that manifested for me in 1994, in the area of dream relationships. I still love rejoicing in the "tipping point' / quantum leap that has brought me to this day ...
Views: 10524(2 votes) - Batting Below Your Average - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2011 from Kimberly Laura MaloneThe phrase, to bat above one's average, according to The Urban Dictionary is derived from the English gentleman’s sport of Cricket and means "When a male picks up a female substantially more attractive than all his previous efforts in women." The phrase to bat below one's average, according ...
Views: 3814(2 votes) - Controlling Jealousy Before It Controls You - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonJealousy is a dangerous and destructive emotion which can override logical thought and motivate one to act in irrational ways. When you are feeling Jealous you can feel like you are caught up in a tornado which twists its way through your life, destroying everything in its path leaving you and ...
Views: 1410(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented constantly ...
Views: 1851(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 3596(2 votes) - Do You Want Your Ex Back? Follow This Simple 2-Step Method – It Works Every Time! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasThere are very few moments in life that are more difficult than when you break up with someone who you were very close to or had strong feelings for. When your relationship with your partner ends, the feelings of happiness and joy you experienced when you first met are suddenly replaced by ...
Views: 706(4 votes) - Does Your Success with Dating Make You Spin Your Head? Know When to Stop & Develop a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction “Enjoying life” and “winning” date after date might give you a good feeling – a boost to your ego, to your sexual drive, to your availability. But don’t let it distract you from your initial goal of finding a partner with whom to develop a truly intimate relationship. Knowing and ...
Views: 1205(2 votes) - Don’t Drag Your Old Relationship into the New! - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve made your New Year’s resolutions, and this year you’re sticking to them, by gum! You’ve set new diet goals, fitness goals and spending – oops, make that budgeting - goals. You even have a new relationship this year, or one that solidified as the New Year began. Oh happy day, all is well. ...
Views: 1465(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here.) Relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Tina B. Tessina, PhD, "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author points out the worst mistakes to ...
Views: 2544(6 votes) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: Daily Journaling - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2009 from Sheryl PaulWhen my clients are struggling with engagement anxiety and marriage fear, they often ask what they can do between sessions to help alleviate their suffering. I offer a variety of specific exercises depending on the details of the client’s story, but there is one exercise I suggest to all my ...
Views: 5819(2 votes) - Get The Loving Relationships That You Want And Deserve - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferSuccessful living begins with loving, passionate relationships that are mutually beneficial to both partners. Many people "settle" for just any relationship and never get the love they want and deserve. If you want a loving, passionate relationship with that special someone, then you have to be ...
Views: 1053(2 votes) - Get Your Ex Back - Sneaky Psychological Trick That Works Freakishly Well! - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Jeff ThomasBeing in a loving relationship with a partner that you have a strong connection with is one of the greatest feelings one can have. However, no relationship is perfect. Some hit a rough patch and in worst cases the couple may break up. You may be in a similar situation right now. Let's say you ...
Views: 1104(4 votes) - Getting Over A Split Up And Love All Over Again - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaIn basic everyday terms, the key for you to living through a breakup is just time. This particular truth might on the other hand not really settle down nicely with anyone who is going through a breakup nevertheless it is still the only real true key element to help get over the pain of the ...
Views: 1054(2 votes) - Giving and Receiving: Allowing Both - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Mara FisherGiving of oneself this is a challenge for many people and often around holidays seems to be on the minds of everyone I speak with. Am I giving enough? Am I giving the right thing? Who do I want to give to? Who do I have to give to? Can I afford to give? These are some of the questions that my ...
Views: 1482(2 votes) - How to Avoid a Love Break Up - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Nea Joy JusticeA love break up is one of the most painful experiences you can ever have. If it’s happened to you then you understand the truth of this. But what about all the things you realize in the aftermath of a break up. No matter how shocked you were when it happened, you can usually think back and ...
Views: 1585(2 votes) - How to Empower Yourself to Find a Suitable Partner with Whom to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Doron GilWhen you see a couple holding hands, does it make you feel unhappy? At times, whether you are single or in an unsatisfying relationship, you feel unhappy when you see others who seem happy in their relationships. You see couples holding hands, even walk embraced, and this makes you think you ...
Views: 1236(2 votes) - How To Get Ex Boyfriend Back With Positive Thinking - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Sean CauzeeIf your reading this then you may be going through a breakup, and hoping for a way to learn how to get ex boyfriend back. You may be willing to do just about everything you can do to solve this problem immediately. The pain is horrible, and it tugs at your heart every hour of the day. You may ...
Views: 2996(2 votes) - How to Get the Gumption to Stop those Assumptions and Feel Safe! - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzHow do You Feel Unsafe? It appears that the human experience has largely evolved into one where many people are experiencing the lack of feeling safe. The number of ways in which that appears in our lives is something that we need to bring into our awareness so that we can change our ...
Views: 2076(2 votes) - How To Get Your Ex Back? It’s Back to School for Both of You. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleAh, I think back on those days in my youth - school was such a large part of that growing up process. It was a wonderful time full of discovery and mastery. It seemed as if the whole world were open to me, I was ready to strike out and make a difference with all the new things I was learning. ...
Views: 610(2 votes) - How To Get Your Ex Back? Maybe it’s Time to Write That Letter. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleIn this technological age, we humans have found a vast number of ways to communicate (or not communicate) with one another. There’s texting, email, cel phones, fax machines, podcasting, FaceBook, etc. However, there is one thing that all these wonderful technologies lack - the personal touch. I ...
Views: 915(2 votes) - How to successfully survive the holidays when you are single! - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Rhonda RabowAs you know, the holiday season is quickly approaching. For many people it is a time of joy, celebration with family and friends and a whirlwind of activity. For others, it can come with a lot of mixed feelings. For those who are single, and don’t want to be stay that way, it can be a time for ...
Views: 1063(2 votes) - It Takes Two Healthy Joyful Whole People to Make One Healthy Joyful Whole Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere is an American myth that two halves can come together in a loving relationship and become whole. However, contrary to cultural myths, close intimate relationships are not additive, where one half plus one half equals one. Close relationships are actually multiplicative. It is the whole ...
Views: 605(4 votes) - Law Of Attraction Love Relationships: Living Your Unconditional Life Part One - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Nanette GeigerWhat if you knew, you absolutely KNEW that your money, your body, your love life, your children, your career, your home, and everything else in your life was absolutely PERFECT - just the way it is right now?! What if your mind, the present state of life was that everything - exactly as it is ...
Views: 2350(4 votes) - Lessons After a Marriage and a Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Justin HansenHe wore braces and his hair parted in the middle with heavy gel, I was 2 years older than him and thought he was a brat… but we ended up being high school sweethearts, got married and had two wonderful children. Around the seven year itch the ‘non fights’ began, what do I mean by this? He would ...
Views: 1437(2 votes) - Make Your Own Decisions in Finding a Partner & Developing an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction The “choices” you make when choosing a partner as well as when reacting and behaving in a relationship are often unconscious and affected by many factors from the past which control you, and are liable to harm your relationships. Self-awareness enables you to understand which ...
Views: 1325(2 votes) - Making Relationships Less Difficult - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from William CottringerMaking Relationships Less Difficult By Bill Cottringer “Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.” ~Anonymous. It is not easy to be successful at anything today because of the many obstacles that ...
Views: 1975(2 votes) - Moving on After a Tough Breakup - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2011 from Brooke AlexandriaMoving on after a breakup is one of the hardest things to do. Most of the time, it's not something that just happens, but rather something you must will yourself to do. No matter how impossible it may seem, just remember that it will happen; you will move on. All you need is to make slight ...
Views: 3880(2 votes) - Persuading Others - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: How does one go about trying to persuade others to awaken their spirit, and to pursue enlightenment - if those that one wishes to help are too stubborn and egotistical to allow themselves to be helped? Answer: You don’t need to try to persuade anyone to awaken their spirit. ...
Views: 859(2 votes) - Relationship Attraction: Understanding Yourself So You Can Own The Dating Scene - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Nanette GeigerFive Practices To Stay Away From While On a Date. 1. Competition. This is not the place to judge yourself, your Ex-, your achievements, with his or hers. 2. Skill. Having to project how good you are at being a good partner is unnecessary consideration and that will manifest. 3. Chance. ...
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