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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Cinderella - What a Story! - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Todd PuntolilloCinderella - What a Story! I used to be a rescuer. I would find a damsel in distress and save her. That made me a hero, didn’t it? You’d think so. But, after a little counseling for a broken heart and lost marriage, I could see clearer and got the picture. It seems that the rescue mission is ...
Views: 2412(1 vote) - Real Behavior Change: What does it take to break a habit? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Shelle Rose CharvetMotivation, Reinforcement, Support and Accountability Behavior change is not merely a matter of knowledge or skill. If that were true, then all the information campaigns on how to improve your health would have made behavior-related illnesses a thing of the past. And birth control information ...
Views: 2412(4 votes) - Being Authentic on First Date: Can it Lead to Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Even if you perceive yourself to be an open, honest and authentic person, if you are not alert to your date and don’t keep any boundaries during first date, you might sabotage any possibility of extending the date into a relationship. Being an open person doesn’t mean you don’t ...
Views: 2411 - Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2020 from Dave ShieldsAre you and your spouse not seeing eye to eye on much anymore? Find out in this guide whether it's time for marriage therapy and get that spark back. Staying in a long-term, committed relationship is one of the most difficult things human beings demand of themselves. When you live ...
Views: 2411 - What is Needed to Clear a Withhold - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2012 from Robyn VogelIn relationships, resentment can often build and build. An amazing tool that can help reduce the negative feelings is ‘clearing a withhold.’ In clearing a withhold with your partner, family member, parent, child, neighbor or friend, the following elements need to be present: 1. Safety: ...
Views: 2409(1 vote) - Steps For Absolute Honesty – Honestly - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Dan OhlerDefinition of Honest: truthful; trustworthy; genuine; open Soooo, are you an honest person? Your response is likely, “Yes.” However, if we look deeper in our lives, we may find our response is not totally true. And if we are really honest with ourselves, we may find that our lack of ...
Views: 2407(1 vote) - Why Does My Separated Husband Even Want To Be Friends? Is It A Good Idea? Why It Can Be An Important First Step. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneSome people have the unfortunate scenario of having their separation start because of an unfortunate situation. It wasn't just a matter of growing apart or their spouse needing space. It was an issue that made both parties angry and so things went very wrong. As a result, the couple separates on ...
Views: 2407 - Christian Relationship Help: How to Honor and Respect Parents Who Aren't Honorable or Respectable - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for Christian relationship help to guide you in how to honor and respect parents who aren't honorable or respectable? One of the Ten Commandments given by God is to honor your mother and father and it came with the promise that the Israelites would live long in their land (Exodus ...
Views: 2406 - Problems With Marriage - Unrealistic Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Bellaisa FilippisHaving problems with marriage? Join the club! There are many other people out there feeling exactly like you do right now. Unfortunately, knowing that fact doesn't make it any easier to deal with as solving the problems can be easier said than done. It helps if you know what is causing the ...
Views: 2406 - ***Do You Actually Know When You're Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerRejection can be a very good thing. Until you find the man who brings you the love and joy you deserve, you should thank the men who reject you. These men are doing you a favor. I think they know – consciously or not – that they won’t be able to give you what you need; and they know it before ...
Views: 2405(1 vote) - Are You Stressed Because of Someone’s Potential Reaction? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertI’ve written about how we can get stressed over what might happen, when we jump to conclusions. Here I’d like to focus on one variant of this situation, the one in which we can almost forecast what is going to happen when someone reacts to what we say or do and, as a result, we stop ourselves ...
Views: 2405(3 votes) - The Key To Happy Relationships (First, Love & Forgive Yourself) - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Jerry JellisonSETTING the SCENE What a subject…..huge in size & scope & complexity! But is there any other ongoing process in your life that is more important or consequential than our relationship with others? This is particularly so if the relationship in question is the one you have with the person you ...
Views: 2405 - Things To Ask Your Ex - Questions To Ask Your Ex After A Breakup - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldThings to ask your ex; When dealing with a relationship break up, you will find there are five stages that a person will go through. Understanding this is a natural process and knowing where you are in this process can help you cope. Questions to ask your ex after a breakup; A complete ...
Views: 2405 - What Does Commitment Mean? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Chris HartwellCommitment in a marriage refers to how you think and how you behave. This requires you to remain committed, even when you do not necessarily feel like doing so. Commitment also refers to more than just sexual fidelity. Commitment also refers to how you spend your time. Marriage requires you ...
Views: 2405(1 vote) - Understanding the Five Stages of Getting Over Your Ex - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaThe task of fixing the break-up with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend after a separation might be made slightly less complicated as well as a lot quicker if you're able to develop the will to get your current emotions in check. Strangely enough, the emotions an individual experiences after a ...
Views: 2404(1 vote) - Codependency: Don’t Dance! (revised) - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCCodependency: Don’t Dance! Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC www.HumanMagnetSyndrome.com www.RossRosenbergTherapy.com Codependency: Don’t Dance! The “codependency dance” requires two people: the pleaser/fixer and the taker/controller. This inherently dysfunctional dance requires ...
Views: 2403(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unattractive When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of ...
Views: 2403(2 votes) - Tough Love - Stop Blaming Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2011 from Lisa PerryOkay I’m going to sound a bit like your mother today . . . because I’m ranting! But here goes: Here are the facts: the divorce rate is down, but so is the marriage rate. We’re still having babies. We are up to nearly 41% statistically, of children born to unwed mothers today. Less divorces, ...
Views: 2403 - Making Sweet Love To My Husband: How To Make Your Husband Happy In Bed - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyMaking Sweet Love To My Husband: How To Make Your Husband Happy In Bed It can be very beneficial for your marriage if you know how to make your husband happy in bed. After the start of the marriage, things slowly start going down, and this is especially the case in the sexuality department. ...
Views: 2400 - The Key To His Heart and Your Happiness - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Kara OhThe Feminine Grace is the foundation of everything I teach. It is what causes a woman to be truly happy. It’s actually the key to enjoying more fully every aspect of your life. We think we’re our own person, able to choose how we live our lives. But a lot of how and why we make the choices we ...
Views: 2400 - Beware the Enemies of Effective Communication - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Rachel MohebanNo matter how much you really want and need to get your point across to your partner, there are a number of methods of communication that are strictly off limits. Using them will get you nowhere productive. These methods include, but are not limited to the ...
Views: 2399 - How To Keep A Woman Happy - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoMany of us have hard times keeping relations. Here are a couple of tips on how to keep your woman happy. These steps are fairly basic, all you need, is to follow these simple steps and you are off to building robust relationships. 1- You want to begin with making sure you're emotionally ...
Views: 2399(1 vote) - #1 Tool to Help Your Relationship: Sharing Appreciations - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2012 from Robyn VogelIn this article I'd like to take the conscious communication tools a bit deeper -- and teach you how to skillfully share one of THE MOST VALUABLE love tools: Sharing Appreciations. But not just any old appreciations, any old time -- it needs to be 'right' in order to pierce your sweetie's heart ...
Views: 2398(1 vote) - Healing Your Relationships With Z-Point - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2008 from Brother Bert WilliamsHealing relationships with Z-Point is a very simple process that clears away the debris of past anger, resentment, disappointment, hatred and other negative emotions that are often expressed through our everyday relationships. In the next ten minutes, you will learn how to heal and release those ...
Views: 2398 - How To Get My Ex Boyfriend to Want Me Back After A Breakup! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2011 from John VickiI want to know how to get my ex boyfriend to want me back. Breakups are complicated, and a good number of us experience some bad ones in our lives. The depressing aspect is that not every breakup ought to be extremely bad; actually they are not supposed to be breakup in any way. It is one ...
Views: 2398 - 2 Secrets To Staying Connected In Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2013 from Jennifer JonesWhat’s the secret to ongoing intimacy, in and OUT of the bedroom? Most couples agree that they feel more emotionally, mentally, and physically connected with each other, after a good romp in the sack. But generally that yummy feeling of mutual connection begins to wane over time, ...
Views: 2397 - Be Empathetic Not Sympathetic - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Steve DavisAs leaders, we are often called to help people get perspective and to see and move through apparent inner and outer limitations. During this process, people will sometimes experience emotional reactions as they face challenges in their personal and professional lives. Our conditioning might ...
Views: 2397 - What To Say When Your Ex Calls You: When An Ex Calls To Check On You - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Michael BradWhat To Say When Your Ex Calls You: When An Ex Calls To Check On You There is no one thing that you can say that will make your ex girlfriend come back to you. You have to understand that there are a few things that you will have to say and some words that you will have to put in action if ...
Views: 2396 - Generation "Y" will soon rule the world! - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Wayne KehlGENERATION "WHY" The world is strangely concerned about generation “Y” these days. I don’t understand it! Generation “Y” is just the current crop of kids that will eventually rule the world. They are the children of Boomers and Generation “X” parents and they were born between 1980 and 1994. ...
Views: 2394(1 vote) - Positive Signs That Your Ex Still Likes You - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you looking for signs that your ex still likes you? Our world are usually turned upside down when we lose someone we care about. No one can blame you for feeling the way you do. Our relationships with the ones we love are so important, when they walk out of our life, we have to deal with the ...
Views: 2394(1 vote) - ***Are You What's Holding You Back from Finding Love? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhy do we hold on to the man who isn’t good for us, our feelings of insecurity and being less-than, or our pattern of picking jerks and liars? These are all self-sabotaging behaviors and beliefs, and intellectually we know it. Yet we cling on for dear life, feeling powerless over our unfortunate ...
Views: 2393(12 votes) - Dr. Romance on Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite ‑‑ because it's new and exciting. However, what’s exciting in the newness of romance often becomes ...
Views: 2393 - My Husband Is Leaving To Find Himself: Rebuild When Your Husband Wants Space - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2019 from John BraxtonMy Husband Is Leaving To Find Himself: Rebuild When Your Husband Wants Space At that moment when your partner walks out of the front door, you probably feel that your marriage separation is it. That's it, all over! However, I'd like you to know that if you prepare well and have the right ...
Views: 2393 - ***36 Great Celebrity Marriages - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Even though the media likes to make you think all celebrity marriages end in sensationalized divorce, what the media doesn't tell you is that there are many celebrity couples with great marriages. We have conducted an endless search of data ...
Views: 2391(19 votes) - Can Involving a 3rd Party Really Help a Deteriorating Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2012 from Clif KEveryone experiences ups and downs in relationships. It is normal for there to be rough patches and little problems in every relationship. Most people manage to get through them by talking it through with their partner (or family member, friend, etc.) and coming to a solution. Sometimes the ...
Views: 2391(1 vote) - 589 How To Get Your Ex Attention - How To Make Your Ex Beg For Your Attention - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Michael UadialeHow To Get Your Ex Attention? So you are sick and tired of your ex acting as if you don't exist. You know your ex sees you, but they don't seem to notice you enough to want you back. Crushed, you try harder and harder, only to find your ex still having no response. Let's stop this game right ...
Views: 2390 - Listen Up (2013) - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2013 from nancy traversEver heard the expression “Listen up?” Sometimes coaches say it when their team is in a huddle. They want everyone to pay particular attention to their message. Listen up. Lift your chin up; direct your gaze up into my eyes. Listen carefully and hear what I’m saying. Listen up. How often do ...
Views: 2390 - Love Tarot: Using the Tarot to find Love - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Carolyn NaimanWithout doubt, the most common inquiry during a Tarot reading is about love. It often seems as though true love is something that is outside of one’s self, that it is an external force or act of fate that we have little control of. In truth, finding love begins within our own selves. Love is a ...
Views: 2390(3 votes) - IS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from William CottringerIS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS? by Bill Cottringer “There is a point at which everything becomes simple and there is no longer any question of choice, because all you have staked will be lost if you look back. This is life's point of no return.” ~Dag Hammarskjold. I have ...
Views: 2389 - Men: Treat Her Like A Lady - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2012 from Timothy HollandMen, we’ve heard this before when it comes to dating and relationships. But the truth is in order to gain a women’s love you’ve got to treat her like a lady. Doing this is not very hard. It simply means being nice to her. You can still be the ‘macho’, manly man and treat her like a lady. I’ve ...
Views: 2389 - The Victim Tyrant Cycle - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The Victim Tyrant Cycle By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ...
Views: 2389(1 vote) - Composing A Letter To Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2011 from Andrew HunterIf you want your ex back in your life there are several ways that you can accomplish this. Personally talking to them would be the simplest method but then, it could leave you open to mistakes that would eventually dash your chances. The level of emotions usually displayed in personal ...
Views: 2387 - Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Immediately after You may have Driven Him Away - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Michael LoisYou began to date an individual and almost everything seems to be going great. You felt that you have ultimately identified the best man for you. Then, inside a flash devoid of any kind of warning, he begins to back off and kept distance. You can not fully understand what happened as well as a ...
Views: 2387 - How to meet on the Internet — 6 useful tips - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from waqas ButtThe Internet has long taken over the world. We can't think of a day without it today: we work and study on the Internet, make purchases, receive news, useful information, and even get acquainted. It is much easier for a modest, indecisive person to start communicating through written ...
Views: 2386 - How to Forget Someone Who Doesn’t Love You – Save Yourself With These 5 Tips - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonIf someone loves you then they do. If they don’t then they don’t. That’s it. However, it is utterly painful to forget someone who doesn’t love you. It’s hard to see that your LOVE is not returning the feelings to you. I was in the same situation. I felt a lot for her but she always ...
Views: 2385(1 vote) - Improving Your Marriage May Begin With You - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachMy approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the ...
Views: 2385(2 votes) - How to Fix a Troubled Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Gerry RestriveraRelationships sometimes went through rough times and during this time you have to be equipped with the right knowledge and information on what to do to avoid separation, breaking up or divorce. Relationships are really complicated and you could fall into a situation that seems to be hopeless but ...
Views: 2384 - Love and Respect in Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Joan ChamberlainI’m always a little bit surprised when people who live together don’t respect each other enough to (1) listen, really, listen, (2) try to understand their partner and then, (3) work to compromise. It actually seems illogical. If you buy the idea that we’re each unique human beings, then it ...
Views: 2384 - Misguided Hope in Marriage and Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2012 from Bryce Kaye"Love is the most powerful force in the universe." Most of us actually believe that, if love is strong enough, it will create a healthy relationship in addition to changing the course of rivers and moving mountains. Forgive my indulgence in cynicism but the parallel is appropriate. For some ...
Views: 2380(1 vote) - Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Emotions or Attend Therapy… - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Martin Phillips-HingOf course it’s not completely true that men don’t attend therapy, however, women are more likely to attend therapy in greater numbers. According to Statistics Canada, there are also differences in the types of mental health disorders and addictions reported by men and women. Approximately 6% of ...
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