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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- If You Want to Meet Your Soul-Mate, Meet Yourself First - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Doron GilIf you haven’t been successful in cultivating an intimate relationship in spite of your continuing attempts, and are tired of disappointments, failed relationships, unfulfilled promises and/or partners who mislead you, you may resort to believing that you haven’t met your soul-mate yet. He/she ...
Views: 2487(2 votes) - Reach Out and Connect - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Terrie AndersonThis is the first in a series of articles to help you improve your communication skills and establish stronger relationships at all levels. A lot of stress and angst can be removed from our lives if we can learn to effectively communicate. Communication is far more than words; it involves ...
Views: 2486(3 votes) - Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships! Learn How and Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you desire to have a satisfying intimate relationship but haven’t been successful until now, you can probably “predict”, your chances at success next time around based on your past experiences. In all likelihood, if you have failed until now, there is no reason to believe you will succeed ...
Views: 2486 - ***Can We Run Out Of Love? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2014 from Margaret PaulIs your experience of love that it is scarce and limited? "Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Love never decreases by being shared. ~Chinese Proverb There seems to be a myth that love is scarce – that ...
Views: 2484 - Does My Ex Miss Me? 7 Keys On How To Make Your Ex Want You Back So Bad - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2017 from Tiemo DonaldDoes My Ex Miss Me? Relationships are always beautiful until that moment when everything falls apart, and you have to break up. When your partner left, you may have realized forever doesn’t last that long. The heartache may have almost turned your life upside down. But somehow you found a way ...
Views: 2484(1 vote) - *** Overcoming Marriage Problems: Start Focusing on Solutions - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhen a troubled couple comes to me for relationship help, one of the first questions I ask is, "What have you already done to try to solve these relationship problems?" Several issues immediately become apparent as I listen to these distressed couples: 1. Many of them didn't have a plan to ...
Views: 2482 - 3 Things To Do To Survive A Breakup - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Andrew HunterDid you get dumped and are you searching for ideas to help you pull through the breakup? Breakups are hard to deal with, but there are things that you can do that can help you in the end. Do not try to get into a rebound relationship. Being solo and alone again can be challenging, but believe ...
Views: 2481(2 votes) - When Did We Become Enemies? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article: Written by Renee L. Richardson When Did We Become Enemies? Through many years of observation and failed relationships, I have become interested and dedicated to studying human interactions on an intimate level. Because I am an African American female, I spent countless amounts of ...
Views: 2481(1 vote) - How to Communicate with Love when You Only See Red - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsHave you ever been so angry that everywhere you look you see what’s made you so upset? You can just about feel that steam rushing from your ears as cartoon images depict. It doesn’t matter what’s going on around you or what another person is trying to tell you, once you get ...
Views: 2480 - Letter To Husband To Work On Marriage: Letter To My Husband To Save Our Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Niko EdisonLetter To Husband To Work On Marriage: Letter To My Husband To Save Our Marriage For those interested in how to save your marriage, it can be done if you just know how. It's not uncommon for folks to just give up, I admit. People reach the point to where nobody wants to give in at all, or ...
Views: 2479 - My Husband Bores Me To Death: What Do You Do When You Are Bored With Your Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Kelly LaceyMy Husband Bores Me To Death: What Do You Do When You Are Bored With Your Marriage Boredom in a marriage is a trap that far too many relationships fall into. If you've been married for any length of time you've probably slipped into what is sometimes a comfortable routine and at other times ...
Views: 2479 - Better Your Relationship by Avoiding Assumptions - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2011 from Ashley ArnChances are good that you've wanted, at some point in time, to better your relationship. You might have struggled, however, with a good way to go about it. If your relationship is free of the obvious, major pitfalls, then what can you do to make improvements? The answer is so simple, it might ...
Views: 2478(2 votes) - Help Your Relationship Flourish by "Popping the Question" - to Yourself! - by According to Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method, our relationship problems stem from need, not love. “We are really looking for love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways,” he says. Love gets mixed up with or covered over by other feelings, and therein lie such ...
Views: 2477(2 votes) - Clear Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from William Diedrich“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian.” Dennis Wholey Everyone has expectations. We expect people to treat us a certain way. As leaders we expect people to perform well and ...
Views: 2476(1 vote) - What's The Best Way of Expressing Your Anger? - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondDo you feel ashamed when you lash out at the people you love the most? Do you wish you could erase it for ever and be free of this beastly emotion? That’s because there is a taboo against feeling and expressing anger, particularly if done in a loud, over the top and explosive way. We don’t ...
Views: 2476(7 votes) - I Want My Ex Back - Yes You Can Have Her Back - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoIf you are thinking "I want my ex back", you have came to the right place for advice. You aren't alone, in reality you are experiencing the same thing that millions of people have felt and are feeling. Sometimes, we act on our first instincts and I am here to tell you, most of the time, your ...
Views: 2475 - ***A Problem with Today's Parenting - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2011 from Margaret PaulThere was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled "How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids' happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother ...
Views: 2474(2 votes) - 5 Actions For Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2006 from Margaret PaulCouples that have a very good relationship are not just lucky. Successful, loving relationships do not just happen. The couples that have loving relationships are taking specific actions that people in unsuccessful relationships are not taking. ACTION 1 - KINDNESS TO SELF AND OTHER Think for a ...
Views: 2474 - Overcoming Jealousy - by Submitted on May 09, 2009 from David Bonham-CarterJealousy is an emotion experienced by people all over the world, but when you have it you may feel as if you are completely abnormal or out of control. Overcoming jealousy for most people is often a matter of finding sensible practical strategies to help you deal with the insecure thoughts and ...
Views: 2473 - When it comes to dating, are you a Cougar? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Debi BerndtIn case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the ...
Views: 2473(2 votes) - Relationship Deal-Making - Shifting Love Into a Long-Term Commitment, Part 2 Of 2 - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Janice BennettIn "Relationship Deal-making, Part 1," I introduced you to Karen and Henry. While Karen loved Gary, and Henry loved Hannah, each had the desire to shift the love they experienced in the present into a committed life-partner relationship that would last into the future. It is a common ...
Views: 2472 - ***How to Write a Killer Email and Get Dates Online - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWant to know the number one trick to meeting men online and getting dates? Learn how to write a killer email. When I was online, I remember how it felt. I’d send an endless number of emails that seemed to go into the pit of Internet rejection hell. The truth is, there is a lot of ...
Views: 2471(3 votes) - ***The Need for Touch - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Margaret PaulWe are born with the need to touch and be touched, skin-to-skin. If you were not held and touched with love as you were growing up, then this might be a very deep need for you. But even if you were held and touched with love, you still need it today. It is a basic need.But not all touch meets ...
Views: 2471 - ***So What Is This Thing Called Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We live in a world of mixed messages. Our world is neither black nor white. The world we live in is full of powerful emotions. And the truth is, the world we live in is complicated – so very complicated. And for those of us who have lived in ...
Views: 2470(28 votes) - Learn how to Feel Secure and Seek True Love - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Nanette GeigerA lot of people transfer over trust issues from past relationships, or sometimes childhood events and traumas. The strong emotions from these memories can be a real factor in our ability to create and keep a lasting loving relationship. This was absolutely true in my case, and I was not able to ...
Views: 2470(5 votes) - Think Twice Before You Contact Your Ex Again - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Mika MaddelaMany people want to contact their ex after a breakup. It could be that they want to repair the relationship and give it another shot or perhaps just gain closure after the breakup. Regardless, you must understand that in order to communicate with your ex in a peaceful manner, there are some ...
Views: 2469 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm sick of waiting and feeling I'm not good enough - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am a young adult male who has always had some sort of complication in relationships. I need help on deciding what I should do from the point at where I'm at now. The situation is that I have been talking to this girl. She first started talking to me but I didn't really ...
Views: 2468(2 votes) - How To Be A Mind-Reading Master - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Joshua UebergangOur ability to infer another person's mental state is referred by psychologists as having a "theory of mind". The survival mechanism of mind-reading helps you adapt to diverse people and is powerful if you know how to use it. Researchers agree our theory of mind develops around two years of ...
Views: 2468 - ***Dating and Looking for Love? Why You Should Think of Yourself First - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you know that you are special, that you count big time, and that you deserve to think of yourself first when dating and developing a love relationship? This is such a difficult concept for so many women. Think of myself first? That’s so selfish! I’ve never done that before…ever! I don’t ...
Views: 2467(12 votes) - Should You Stay Married Just For The Kids? (Video) - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2008 from Dan And JenniferMarriage is a choice that thousands of people make every day. For many people, this is one of the best times of their lives. Unfortunately, however, marriage may not always be the best choice or the one that makes you the happiest and even worse, this is usually not realized until much ...
Views: 2466(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Needy? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means that it is not something to be ashamed of. Yet, just because this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs, and this can cause them to come across as being needless. They then act as if they don’t have needs ...
Views: 2465 - Breakup Tips That Minimize the Hurt - Unexpected Outcomes and Spiritual Words - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Richard PorrWith any breakup, there are plenty of strong emotions and great potential for long lasting harm. But the point of the greatest hurt is also the point of the greatest damage. That's normal. The challenge is to think beyond the pain and supposed consequences of a breakup and give consideration to ...
Views: 2463 - Four Tips to Fixing a Bumpy Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2011 from Teecee GoAre you looking for ways to fix your rocky relationship? If you thought you did everything to fix the relationship and it still failed, you need to consider a new point of view. Forget what you thought was right or wrong. Here are four suggestions that may help you win back that ...
Views: 2463 - Relationships – the Key to Improved Passion and Performance - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2010 from Pat HeydlauffAre your relationships draining the passion out of your personal life and sabotaging your performance in the workplace? If your relationships are out of balance, whether at home, in the workplace or both, passion and mutual fulfillment suffer at home and your productivity and performance suffer ...
Views: 2463(1 vote) - Sexless Marriage: Blocks to Sexual Desire and Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Richard NicastroPhysical intimacy is an important component in marriage and long-term relationships. The reasons why a passionate marriage might dwindle into a sexless marriage vary widely. The first step in keeping passion alive over the long haul is to understand the roadblocks to emotional and physical ...
Views: 2463 - Signs Your Partner Is Being Unfaithful - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Brooke AlexandriaFew things in life can impact a person’s happiness as much as their relationship with their partner. As a result, suspecting that a mate is being unfaithful can be one of the most emotionally trying experiences for an individual to go through. If you suspect that your mate is being unfaithful, ...
Views: 2462 - How Disagree Peacefully - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Laurie PappasDo you ever find yourself arguing with your spouse, boss, co-worker, friend or family member about something that seems to have no solution? Of course, you see it one way and they see it another, and never the twine shall meet, it appears. To add to the predicament, you feel strongly that ...
Views: 2461(2 votes) - Learn to Fight "Smart" - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2012 from Rhonda AudiaCouples have "dumb" fights when they don't have a clue about what they are really fighting about. Fights about stuff like buying the wrong bagels, bedroom frustration, and clothes strewn on the floor are really about someone feeling neglected, ignored, or misunderstood. When we feel ...
Views: 2461 - My Husband Won't Talk To Me After A Fight: After An Argument Comes Silent Treatment - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Wont Talk To Me After A Fight: After An Argument Comes Silent Treatment While conflict in marriage is inevitable, fighting is optional. The secret is in how you approach and handle the conflict. It can make the difference between a really great relationship and a breakup looking ...
Views: 2461 - Stop Fighting And Make Love-Love Rituals To Create Passion And Romance - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2008 from Annie LawrenceDo you want more love and passion in your relationship? What causes you to fight and push love away? Is it old habits learned in your childhood? What is more important your ego and old habits or making love? It took me forty years to learn that I train my mate how to treat me and if I want to ...
Views: 2460 - Branches of Psychology - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Christina XioPsychology as a whole is quite a broad subject so to study it properly it has been divided in to various branches that tell about the different aspects of the human behavior, thoughts and experience. In this article some of the branches are mentioned and explained briefly below. Firstly it ...
Views: 2458 - Capricorn Women Compatibility - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Annie SherwoodThe Capricorn woman is a strong, hard working woman who is as practical as she is realistic. This woman is very determined and ambitious. She doesn't let anything stand in her way. A Capricorn woman only takes risks when she absolutely has to, and she never takes them without first doing a lot ...
Views: 2458(1 vote) - How Can I Fix My Broken Relationship With My Ex Boyfriend - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2015 from Franklin FashayaA relationship gets broken when the parties involved no longer see the need to continue especially when the relationship has been subject to incessant conflict, bickering and all manner of abuse. However, no relationship is perfect thus, it is expected that there will be diverse issues ranging ...
Views: 2458 - How to Attract My Ex Girlfriend Back Secrets - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreHow to Attract My Ex Girlfriend Back Secrets; Most of the time, when you look at a break up from an outsider's perspective, you often get a different view of what might be going on than the people involved in the break up. This can be a good thing, because the reality is that unless a ...
Views: 2458(1 vote) - My Husband Is Insensitive To My Feelings: How To Deal With A Self-Centered Husband - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Kelly LaceyMy Husband Is Insensitive To My Feelings: How To Deal With A Self-Centered Husband Sometimes, your man doesn't listen to you. He doesn't prize your feelings. Especially after the wedding, he fritters away his time in his office, or with his friends... If he lingers in the home, he watches a ...
Views: 2458 - Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her. - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read an article that focused on interfaith couples and their impact on raising children. You were featured in the article and I wanted to reach out to you as a last resort to saving my relationship. My girlfriend and i have been together for three ...
Views: 2457(1 vote) - I Haven't Spoken To My Husband In A Month: How To Influence Your Husband To Talk - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2021 from Maci AspenI Haven't Spoken To My Husband In A Month: How To Influence Your Husband To Talk "My husband doesn't communicate with me anymore." This is a problem a lot of wives have. It's not in men's nature to talk openly about their feelings and problems. But when this goes to the extreme and your ...
Views: 2457 - Learn how a happy sex life may safe your marriage from divorce - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2011 from Hans NeukommA marriage without happy sexual romance is no true love marriage To understand the importance of a truly divine sexuality within a marriage or relationship of love between a man and a woman, you may want to look at one of the main causes for divorce. Often one of the partners has an out of ...
Views: 2457(4 votes) - ***Dating Over 40: Why He’s Not Asking You Out (Part 1) - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerI can answer this in three words: You’re not memorable. That’s it. Whether it’s the hot man you had a nice chat with at the local coffee shop or the guy you had a great first date with, getting him to ask you out can take some skill. Yep, I said skill. You’re not 18 anymore, and the ...
Views: 2456 - How To Deal With In Laws That Ignore You: My Mother In Law Completely Ignores Me - Living With In Laws No Privacy - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesHow To Deal With In Laws That Ignore You: My Mother In Law Completely Ignores Me - Living With In Laws No Privacy Interfering in laws; they are one sure way to ruin a great relationship with your husband. And since I assume you got married to be able to stay married, then the quicker you find ...
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