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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Are You Terrified of Social Rejection? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDoes your shyness and fear of getting rejected keep you from having the relationships you want? Are you lonely much of the time? Everyone gets rejected at times, but for those of us who are socially confident, rejection is a minor matter, and people who are confident quickly bounce back from ...
Views: 2622 - How to Cope with a Narcissist? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2008 from Sam VakninNo one should feel responsible for the narcissist's predicament. To him, others hardly exist – so enmeshed he is in himself and in the resulting misery of this very self-preoccupation. Others are objects on which he projects his wrath, rage, suppressed and mutating aggression and, finally, ...
Views: 2621 - How To Romance, Seduce a Girl Or Woman on Dates - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreRomance ideas for a date, Here's a familiar story... How To Romance, Seduce a Girl Or Woman on Dates; Boy meets girl Boy gets girl's number Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date. Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift), brings her to an expensive ...
Views: 2621(1 vote) - Jealousy...The Green Eyed Monster - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2006 from Susan Russo“Love that is fed by jealousy dies hard” -Ovid Jealousy can be consuming. It creates stress and anxiety in a relationship. Jealousy leaves you feeling insecure, vulnerable and frustrated. There is nothing good that comes from being jealous; regardless of whether you are the one ...
Views: 2621 - We are all created equal - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Wayne KehlIf you put yourself ahead of me, I might not follow; If you ignore me, I will have no one to follow; If you put yourself above me, I will not look up while you are looking down; If you put yourself beside me, we will walk as one with the strength of two. Wayne Kehl This quote is a ...
Views: 2621 - 4 Simple Ways to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2011 from Kevin TeoMany articles tell you how to get your ex boyfriend back, and not how you can turn the tables and make your ex boyfriend want you back instead. The truth is, if you make your ex boyfriend want you back instead, your chances of making up is higher because you let him come to his own ...
Views: 2620 - When Others Put You Second - by Submitted on May 23, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhat do you do when others think they are more important than you? How do you deal with people who always put themselves first? It seems like there is always someone who believes they deserve more than others. It is not just that they put themselves first, but it is that they put you second. ...
Views: 2617 - Nobody’s Perfect - by Submitted on May 23, 2011 from David SamuelEveryone accepts that nobody is perfect and it is impossible for anyone to be perfect. At the same time, almost everyone would like to know and be in unity with God, or whatever term you use for what you perceive as a greater being. The problem is that God is perfect and there is no way for ...
Views: 2616 - Relationship Toxins: Keeping toxic behaviors in check for more positivity in your relationship - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Judy TsoWith the divorce rate often reported at 50%, it becomes ever more important to focus on the behaviors that keep a positive feeling between you and your romantic partner or spouse and refrain from the behaviors that damage that lovin’ feeling. John Gottman the noted marriage expert talks about ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - Romantic (and Sexy) Dinner for Two - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Rebecca Savidge GrayThe Menu Dinner: Artichokes with Basil-Lime Dipping Sauce Lobster Tails with Butter Dessert: Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries Drinks: A rich, buttery Chardonnay such as Bryon Chardonnay, or Franciscan 2002 Chardonnay. Champagne works too Whoever you break out ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - ***5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage are Universal - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our continuing search for great marriages around the world has brought us to the incredibly beautiful country of New Zealand. Our travels have taken us to the cities of Auckland (the largest city) and Wellington (the capital city) on the North ...
Views: 2614(25 votes) - Dating a Sociapath - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomIn my thirty odd years of working as a relationship expert, life coach and agony aunt most of my clients have been women who have been upset because of the broken promises and commitments of a man they trusted. Very often it has seemed to them that their whole World has come to an end because ...
Views: 2614(1 vote) - ***Dating Over 40: Why He's Not Asking You Out (Part 2) - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerContinuing from yesterday, it's important to make yourself memorable when you are dating. There are tons of women out there; you want to be the one he wants to know. When you follow this advice and get your story out in the right way, the guys who are good matches will take notice. They are ...
Views: 2613 - Following the Four Agreements - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneHave you ever heard of the four agreements? This set of very simple concepts can literally transform your life; profound, yet extremely difficult to practice on a daily basis. “You need a very strong will in order to adopt the four Agreements – but if you can begin to live your life with these ...
Views: 2613(1 vote) - Save My Relationship! Helpful Relationship Advice To Any Troubled Couple - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2011 from Michael Lee"Save my relationship!" Well, that's a cry for help if I ever heard one! There's no need to be embarrassed or shy about asking for help. Everybody has hit a relationship block at one point or another. The important thing here is that you realize that something needs to be done about it. A lot ...
Views: 2613 - Getting Your Ex Back – Learning The Dos And Don’ts - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2011 from Kevin TeoThere are some dos and don’ts you have to apply should you want to get your ex back successfully. That means doing the good and avoiding the bad. So here are a couple of things that you can use in getting your ex back. Do Give Your Ex Enough Time Breaking up is never easy on anyone, so ...
Views: 2612 - The First Date Ideas & Rules - by Submitted on May 08, 2010 from Neil SmithThe First Date Ideas & Rules The golden rule is to meet somewhere: public, chilled out & relaxed. A coffee shop is a great venue for this during the day and a wine bar is a great place for the first date idea in the evening. The first date should be kept casual. If you want to fully ...
Views: 2612(2 votes) - Women over 50-Find out Why Quality Men of All Ages Want to Date You as a Mature Dater - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2012 from Lisa CI hear so many women mistakenly think they are too old to date now. Not True! One of the coolest things about dating over 50 is that you NOW have CHOICES when it comes to dating men of all ages! Believe it or not younger men are standing in line to date you along with men our age as well as ...
Views: 2612 - ***Do You Isolate? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2011 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often have clients who tend to isolate as a way of protecting against their fears - especially their fears of rejection and engulfment. They are so afraid of being disliked, disapproved of, attacked or having demands made on them, that they choose to avoid ...
Views: 2611(3 votes) - Are You Giving Away Your Power? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Sharon Ball“Locus of Control” is a psychology term that identifies our beliefs about the amount of control we have over our life. Having an" internal locus of control" indicates that an individual believes that events are largely controlled by one’s own actions. But if we feel that what happens to us or ...
Views: 2611 - How To Accept Differences - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Dr. Rick SchaeferPerception is far more important than reality. My seventeen year-old son James and I were talking about playing tennis this weekend and our focus went to how it feels to hit a tennis ball with the racquet. I described it as similar to swinging a badminton racquet with the strings and the ...
Views: 2611(3 votes) - Do All Men Make You Mad? The Bitter Woman - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerDo All Men Make You Mad? (FemiType #5: The Bitter Woman) In an effort to help you understand the man side of this midlife dating experience, I’ve introduced you to The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat and The Wow-Me Woman: all FemiTypes* that send good men running. Today I’m going ...
Views: 2610(3 votes) - How to Get Your Ex Back - Simple Steps that Works Like Charm! - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from John VickiIt’s probably past few couple of weeks since you broke up with your ex; and now you are terribly missing your partner and would want to do whatever it takes to get back together. Well, it’s obvious that you can’t move on without your ex and so you want to know how to get your ex back. In the ...
Views: 2609 - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 2608 - Should You Snoop on Your Guy? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Lisa DailyOkay, let’s get past the fact that in our greatest moments of weakness or weirdness most of us may have inadvertently looked through our guy’s bedside table (for hand lotion!) while he was otherwise occupied, or casually inventoried the dry cleaning receipts, straw wrappers and lint in his ...
Views: 2607(3 votes) - Have a healthy relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2014 from Frank HealyWhile everyone has times when they are in an extreme mood, a person with bipolar can be very depressed and at other times be so happy that they seem like they are driven by a motor. Their mood can change very suddenly, and it often seems that there is no apparent cause. This is called bipolar ...
Views: 2605 - Neechey Lagna – a toxic concept of Patriarchal Culture of Pakistan - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2018 from Dr. Mona AeyshaIn Pakistani culture, many sayings/ concepts have taken the place of cultural things, and people consciously/unconsciously accepts them and adopt them in their life. One of those concepts is, “ to be overly obedient to your wife” ( beewi key neechey lag jana). It means that if someone is taking ...
Views: 2605 - Ten Life and Love Enhancing Attitudes and Behaviors - by Since 1975 I have sat on my office couch talking with clients in person and on the telephone about their lives and relationships. Most of my clients are contributors to society, hold jobs, raise families, and generally want to do
the right thing. Yet, over and over again I see the same kind of ...
Views: 2605 - How to Restore Respect in a Relationship – Overcome Marriage Problems - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2017 from Nicola BeerLack of respect is one of the key reasons many couples get divorced. It is one of the major marriage problem signs. It destroys love, connection and intimacy. Many individuals and couples that join my online save my marriage program, share that respect has been missing or lost in their ...
Views: 2603 - Premarital Counseling Questions - Most Effective 10 Questions Ought to Ask - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2013 from Olivia PeterYou can actually be caught within the fascinating thought of marriage. Very often we feel we are going to end up being swept off our feet, possess the wedding of our dreams, maybe purchase a property, possibly have children, and probably live happily ever after. Occasionally will people ...
Views: 2602(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a fool - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instrudtions, and got the truth. You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ...
Views: 2601(1 vote) - Three Ways of Increasing Your Communication for Greater Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship. - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2010 from Jim BowenAren’t sexual intimacy problems everywhere? People who have come in for emotional intimacy issues can be communicating clearly to their partner: “Get lost!” “It’s all YOUR fault!” It’s so very normal to get caught up in these communication pitfalls. It’s a negative loop of hope, desire, ...
Views: 2601(2 votes) - ***Giving Up the Fantasy of the Perfect Mate, What REAL Marriages Are All About - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWe all seem to think that we need to find our perfect mate or soul mate. But does a perfect mate even exist and, if so, does this mean that the only way to be happy is to find this perfect soul mate? What if you don’t? What if you spend your entire life looking, only to end up alone in your ...
Views: 2599 - The Mirror of Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2006 from Margaret PaulNedra, one of my clients, was quite upset when she received an email from her friend, Roxanne, ending their friendship. The email was quite blaming, telling Nedra that she was narcissistic, selfish, and uncaring. Roxanne complained that Nedra just talked about herself and was never there for ...
Views: 2599 - Self Love - The Greatest Love Of All - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2008 from Tania KotsosSelf love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not simply a self esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite to ...
Views: 2598 - Dating/Relationships & Independence: Women over 40 keep your life in balance - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2006 from Trisha StoneHow do you find the balance between your own independent life and being in a relationship? For some women this is about facing your worst fear that you will somehow lose yourself along the way. You can find out how to make sure that you don’t give up on yourself whilst being in a ...
Views: 2597 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to Leave without Saying Goodbye - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have developed feelings for my co-worker and during the past several months, we have had very brief encounters that were limited to greetings. Due to the small work place, I could not go and talk comfortably to him without eliciting attentions/rumors. I will be leaving ...
Views: 2596(2 votes) - The Pitfalls of Romance - by Submitted on May 31, 2011 from Jacqueline MarshallBEING IN LOVE WITH ROMANCE Romantic love is exciting and feels wonderful but it is not the love that keeps couples together over time. There comes a day in every committed relationship when you look at your partner and mumble, “What was I thinking?” At that point romance seems gone for ...
Views: 2595(1 vote) - How Will I Know When It's Time To Reconcile With My Husband During Separation: Average Length Of Separation Before Reconciliation - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2021 from Carmen JimenaHow Will I Know When It's Time To Reconcile With My Husband During Separation: Average Length Of Separation Before Reconciliation Marriage separation is resorted to by many couples for three major reasons: it can give them perspective on their marriage, it is a step towards divorce and it can ...
Views: 2594 - Meaning of Wholesome Way of life - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Regina SetzlertOverweight, heart illness, high blood pressure or hypertension, diabetes and cancer - these are couple of from the medical conditions connected with unbalanced diet regime and improper physical exercise. Some fat loss programs are developed to assist get rid of the undesirable impact of having ...
Views: 2594 - Is Text Messaging An Ex Boyfriend A Mistake? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Mika MaddelaDo you wish to have your ex boyfriend back into your life? Are you having a difficult time getting through the day because you're riddled with thoughts of your ex? If so, I am truly sorry for what you're going through. Breakups seriously suck. Your fingers are itching to call or text message ...
Views: 2593 - My Husband Can't Get Over My Past: Husband Obsessed With My Past - by Submitted on May 01, 2019 from John BraxtonMy Husband Can't Get Over My Past: Husband Obsessed With My Past Hurting the person you love can make the both of you suffer. Human beings are full of faults and we often do things that we later regret. When you hurt your romantic partner or spouse, sometimes, you're not only hurting them, ...
Views: 2593 - The 4 Secrets of Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsWouldn't it be great if we were born with an inbuilt manual that shows us how to relate successfully to others? Although everyone has the capability to relate successfully to others, often people react in ways that are distorted by past experiences. The culprits are usually one or all of the ...
Views: 2592(1 vote) - Breaking the Cycle of Unfulfilling Relationships, an excerpt from How to Create a Magical Relationship, The Three Simple Ideas T - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIf you want to create a working, supportive relationship with another, it is imperative that you be willing to be complete in the relationship you have with your parents. The dictionary defines complete as "lacking no component part; full; whole; entire." But what does being incomplete with your ...
Views: 2591(7 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself. - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ...
Views: 2591 - How Jack Canfield helped me Manifest My Man - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2012 from Stacy CorriganWhen I was 37 and single, again, I felt depressed for a while, but then I became determined that I was not going to settle for less than I deserved in a man again. I had been exposed to quite a bit of Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) thought processes through my Mary Kay business, and while there ...
Views: 2590 - Is Texting Your Ex Girlfiend Effective In Getting Her Back? Learn More Here - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Mika MaddelaDid your girlfriend recently decided to end your relationship? Being left by someone you love is a very traumatic experience. It isn't really surprising if you want your ex back with you. You must have already texted or called her a few times with absolutely no response. If this is your ...
Views: 2590 - How To Interest A Guy In 3 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Michael LeeGirls, listen up! If you want to know how to interest a guy, then this article is for you. Truth be told, it doesn't take a lot to catch any man's attention. It just takes a few subtle and simple moves to get his tail wagging. If you're ready to learn how to interest a guy, then read on! ...
Views: 2589 - What Do I Say to Get My Girlfriend Back? The Right Words to Melt Her Heart - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Patrick UadialeIf you're one of many men wondering "what do I say to get my girlfriend back?" you'll be glad to know that there are many things you can say that will help. The really important thing is that she understands what you are trying to say. There is a lot of truth to the rumors that women here things ...
Views: 2587 - Family Communication - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Jo-Anne CutlerCommunication...it is the root of many misunderstandings and conflicts that we experience in our relationships, whether it is with our partner, our parents, our kids, friends, siblings, bosses or anyone! Sometimes we may keep silent because we don’t know how to say what we want to say and ...
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