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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: Is it appropriate for him to still have her in his life? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am going through a break-up this week and pretty broken hearted. My boyfriend and I currently dated for the last year and nine months and it ended this week. He is my age, mid thirties but when he was in his early to mid twenties he had an affair with a much much older ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - This Is What It’s Like Dating As A Millennial Women - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Clarissa Silva“As men, we read between the lines. This is the decoder for what women say: “big boned” means ‘I can destroy your car’s suspension’, looking for a “real man” means ‘I need a chump to raise me bastards’, “No games” means ‘You will become my slave and I will get even fatter’. Why take a risk on ...
Views: 716 - Loving Yourself and Others Means Keeping Your Heart Open - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Margaret PaulRobyn and Dennis, together for three years but not married, consulted with me because they couldn’t seem to connect with each other. They loved each other but Dennis felt that Robyn had a wall up that stopped them from getting close. When Dennis stated that he experienced Robyn having a wall ...
Views: 1182 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Act Really Interested? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be moments in one’s life when they come into contact with people who don’t act all that interested, whilst there could be others moments when this is not the case. Here, another person could act as though one is the most important person on the planet. A Gradual Transition ...
Views: 1024 - 4 suggestions to have a cuckold relationship - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Mathew JohnsonKeep a cuckold relationship can often throw up a number of challenges even problems, and this kind of of relationship is not for everyone. The relationship involves one member of the partnership, usually a man we called bull, watching, or knowing about his partner having sexual relations outside ...
Views: 5736(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With The Wrong Person If They Feel Low? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find themselves in a position where they feel down, they could feel the need to get in a relationship. They could believe that being with someone else will make their life better, thereby allowing them to feel good about. A Pattern There is the chance that one is used to ...
Views: 1533 - Relationships: Does A Woman Lack Self-Awareness If She Believes That All Men Are The Same? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women in today’s world who believe that all men are the same, and it could be said that this is nothing new. It might not be inaccurate to say that this is how it has always been, but it has certainly been this way for a little while. However, what is different nowadays is ...
Views: 1538 - Will Hiring a Life Coach Help You Heal From Your Partner’s Betrayal? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen you are in a loving relationship, you trust your partner and all is right with the world until you they betray you. The thing about betrayal is that you never see it coming most times which is why it is a betrayal; else it is just a person’s behavior. When you hear about it or were ...
Views: 1164 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Controlling Behaviour When They Are Emotionally Dependent - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people are in a relationship, they can continue to express who they are and to fulfil their own needs. As a result of this, their time together will have a positive effect on both of them. There will be the effect that this has on their relationship, and there will be the effect ...
Views: 1248 - My Girlfriend is Being Distant And I Don’t Know What to Do - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Megan JohnsonBefore I begin , I must say that the other person involved has a complete understanding as to what the article is about and is in agreement that this article is to be written. This article is based on my personal experience from my past. To not be confused by the title, the title is based on my ...
Views: 1019 - 5 Red Flags and Blind Spots in Dating a Narcissist | What Is Codependency? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Darlene LancerPeople are easily charmed by a narcissist, especially codependents. Narcissists can be beguiling and charismatic. In fact, one study showed that their likable veneer was only penetrable after seven meetings. I’ve had a number of clients who claimed that the courtship with their narcissistic ...
Views: 1612(3 votes) - How To Set Boundaries and Stand Your Ground - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Christiana StarBoundaries are important. From a psychological perspective, boundaries are the mental, emotional, spiritual or relational limits on who and what kind of influences you accept into your life. How you expect to be treated depends on your personal history and self-evaluation. This is different ...
Views: 1642(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he thinks I am neglecting him - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been "dating" someone for a year to this day. We get along great and enjoy spending time together. He is very romantic. We are both full time teachers and students. We do work in separate schools. I enjoy sleeping over. However, recently I have decided that I need to ...
Views: 997(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Move on After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who can generally move on after a relationship has come to an end, there are others who find it incredibly difficult to do so. Nonetheless, when one can carry on with their life, it doesn’t mean that they won’t experience pain. Manageable What it is likely ...
Views: 1200 - The Gift of Magnanimity - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Sharon ShoresWhat is magnanimity? Here are some quotes. “We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it.” ~ Abraham Lincoln “If you happened to be born on third base, you didn't rub it in the face of the guy who wasn't even born in the stadium. Self-interest was generally checked at ...
Views: 1173 - Dear Dr. Romance: I dont know what bipolar is but I wonder about him. - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating a guy for 3 years now. He still lives at home with his parents he is very polite we go to church together. He bought our rings last year and we were going to get married this year. I cancelled for this year. I dont know what bipolar is but i wonder ...
Views: 1212(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1100 - CREATING A NEW VISION for 2018 by Renee Piane~The Love Designer - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Renee Piane/CampanellaCREATING A NEW VISION for 2018 Happy New Year! I hope you had a wonderful Holiday Season. Many people use the new year to do an evaluation by taking a deeper look at their lives and reflecting on their past and the choices they have made. Often, we set big intentions for the new year to ...
Views: 1148 - Dear Dr. Romance: "that fantasy thing is right on the money for me" - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Surviving Loss & Thriving Again" and it helped me a lot. I find the older I get the more I can understand why I do what I do. But, of course, we hope things will be different (see 'Insanity' in the dictionary)! lol Anyway, that fantasy ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Always End Up With People Who Cheat On Them? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one spends a fair amount of time watching TV, there is a strong chance that they have watched programs where people have cheated on their spouse or partner. This is often a common theme when it comes to dramas and soaps, for instance. At the same time, one may have also have friends or ...
Views: 1304 - Dr. Romance on: Without Ego - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - Going through a Rough Patch? 5 Tips to Handling a Major Fight with Your S.O. - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Meghan BelnapWhen you get into an argument with a loved one, there are good and bad ways to handle it. A major argument can escalate into something worse, leading to saying or doing things that you will regret. You will want to avoid an argument that can develop into a physical altercation. Here are some ...
Views: 1142 - 4 Ways to Make a Man Fall in Love With You - helpwithmen - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Furqan ArshadAlthough catching a man's attention is easy-peasy, getting him to develop real affection for you is a whole different story. Yes, it is pretty much easy for any guy you like to like you back. The hard part is mastering the art of making him feel weak in the knees whenever he thinks about you. ...
Views: 1455(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ...
Views: 1250(1 vote) - Relationships: Do We Judge Others In The Same Way That We Judge Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that just about everyone on this planet judges others from time to time. However, one of the main differences is that some people are more judgmental than others. The Difference Along with this, not everyone judges others in the same way. What this means is that one ...
Views: 1010 - “This Guy Was Great At Approaching Women!" - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2007, I started to look for information on how to improve my success with women. After I had been reading about self-development for quite some time, this seemed like the next step. During this time, I heard about a community that existed to help men improve with women. If ...
Views: 1247 - What To Do When Your Partner Triggers You - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2018 from Dominica ApplegateEver call up your girlfriend and start off with these words “Oh my Gaah, you are never going to believe what he did?” Chances are you've been in or you're in a relationship now where you get triggered. It's actually rather challenging to not be triggered when you're in a relationship, as ...
Views: 2035 - Does My Ex Miss Me? 7 Keys On How To Make Your Ex Want You Back So Bad - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2017 from Tiemo DonaldDoes My Ex Miss Me? Relationships are always beautiful until that moment when everything falls apart, and you have to break up. When your partner left, you may have realized forever doesn’t last that long. The heartache may have almost turned your life upside down. But somehow you found a way ...
Views: 2484(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Don’t Some People Realise They Are In A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone for the first time, they can take the time to get to know more about them. This can then give them the opportunity to find out what they are like as a person and whether or not they would be a good match for them. An Interview Therefore, this is going to be no ...
Views: 1188 - Relationships: What Is The Difference Between A Man Who Hates Women And A Man Who Hates Men? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might not surprise someone is that some men hate women, yet what might surprise them is that there are some men who hate men. It might be hard for them to accept this, especially as they are men themselves. A Different Response Then again, this might be something that they are only ...
Views: 1049 - Relationships: Can A Man’s Unmet Childhood Needs Make Him Want To Sleep With A Lot Of Women? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some men who generally have relationships, while there are others who have absolutely no interest in having one. But even if a man doesn’t want to have a relationship, it doesn’t mean that he has always been this way. No Longer the Same If there was a point in their life when ...
Views: 934 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Other People To Be Unconditionally Loyal? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to be in a relationship, there can be a number of things that they will be looking for in a partner. Firstly, there can be the need to be with someone who has a certain appearance and, secondly, there can be the requirements that they have when it comes to their ...
Views: 1102 - True-Self: Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Acts Strong To Feel Weak On The Inside? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there is going to be how someone behaves and, on the other; there is going to be how someone feels on the inside. At times, what is taking place within them will be expressed through how they behave. An Authentic Human Being In this case, one is generally not going to put ...
Views: 939 - “Set aside ego, resolve a misunderstanding and see how good you feel.” - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Rahul KapoorMisunderstanding and conflicts are part and parcel of everyone’s life; it is not possible to eliminate them from our lives. However, converting them into ego battles and not resolving them can take away the joy and happiness out of our lives. Life is so unpredictable, so, let’s stop the game ...
Views: 1170 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do you get unstuck and really talk? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was so interested in your article "Getting to Yes" about Attentive listening...what a powerful strategy and descriptive techniques. Here is a but.....I have????? Now, what if ....as you are listening you recognize the signals you ...
Views: 1190 - NARCISSUS AND ECHO: THE HEARTBREAK OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH NARCISSISTS - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Darlene LancerThe poignant myth of Narcissus and Echo crystallizes the tragic problem of relationships with narcissists. They were tragic Greek characters in a story told by the Roman poet Ovid in Metamorphoses. Sadly, both partners are locked into a painful drama, where neither feel satisfied or sufficiently ...
Views: 2036(3 votes) - HOLIDAY GIFT – Create A New Beginning - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Nicola BeerWith Christmas & New Year ahead of us with all the rejoicing it is the time to let go of all old unnecessary strings to find peace, serenity and start the new year fresh and make it a great success. It can bring up a lot of pain and stress this time of year. So I have a very special gift… If ...
Views: 1374 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Dependent On Their Partner? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to say that they need to be with another person in order to feel complete. Yet, even if they don’t say this explicitly, their behaviour could say this implicitly. Popular Culture When it comes to films, music and TV shows, this is a theme ...
Views: 988 - Do You Have Each Other’s Back? 6 Tips To Make Your Marriage More Loving… - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Nicola BeerDo you and your partner have each other’s back or are you operating more in a mode of attack? We wouldn’t be human if we did not experience times in our lives that challenged us. It’s natural that certain events, people and our own behaviour will trigger fear, anger, stress, jealousy, ...
Views: 1501 - HOW TO PREVENT PEOPLE FROM PUSHING YOUR BUTTONS - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe've all blamed others for how we feel at times. "You really make me angry!" "You hurt my feelings!" "You totally embarrassed me!" Most people don't realize that by allowing others to push our buttons and determine how we feel, we actually give away our personal power. Others decide for us ...
Views: 2116 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just over one year ago, my girlfriend cheated on me. It wasn't the standard 'met a guy, went to his place' kind of thing, she did it via the internet. He had her cell number but she swears they never talked (though she admits he left voicemails). Everything seemed fine with ...
Views: 2637(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Fix Others When They Open Up? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the best thing that someone can do for another person, when they are going through a challenging time, is to simply be there for them. So, when one is in the other person’s presence, it will be vital for them to be completely present. No Agenda This means that one is ...
Views: 1499 - Dear Dr. Romance: "Love advice would be greatly appreciated!" - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am in my late 20's and single. My problem is that I am in love with a man (who is the same age as I am) who reciprocates my feelings, but when we start getting close he backs completely off. When we run into one another while we are out with friends we talk and it is like we ...
Views: 1339(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Feel Comfortable With Their Own Emotions In Order To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there could be moments when they share how they feel, and this could mean that they are also able to be there for their partner. As a result of this, this area of their relationship is going to be in balance. A Close Bond Through sharing their inner ...
Views: 1234 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Neglect Their Own Needs When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could pay attention to their own needs when they are single, this could be something that changes when they are in a relationship. It could then be said that one will have a sense of self when they are single and end up losing their sense of self when they are not. Two ...
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