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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Defensiveness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gregg OliverLast time I wrote about Advocacy as an impediment to the logical give and take that distinguishes collaboration. I characterized it as a learned behavior, and one that can be partially or fully managed by a skilled communicator that recognizes it and knows how to steer a group around it. I also ...
Views: 2904(1 vote) - Husband Loses Temper Over Little Things: My Husband Gets Angry At The Smallest Things - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesHusband Loses Temper Over Little Things: My Husband Gets Angry At The Smallest Things Understanding men is often made out to be something that only occurs if you spend a lot of time communicating with men. That's true, but it's also affected by the type of communication; typically in a ...
Views: 2904 - The Art of Active Listening -- A Magic Bullet to Healthy Relationships. - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2007 from Rita Bigel-CasherListening is hard work. Countless thoughts interrupt our focus, distracting us and blocking our understanding of one another. All too often, we are more interested in expressing our thoughts, than in hearing someone else’s. Obstacles to good communication magically melt away when we learn how to ...
Views: 2904 - How to Make Dinner Conversation - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuMany times, dinner is more than a moment during the day to eat; it is also a moment of social interaction. Thus, it is a good idea to also make the best out of it socially. Many of us have dinner in social settings. We don’t eat alone; we eat with other people at the table: our spouse, our ...
Views: 2903(1 vote) - “I work so hard for my relationship...so where's my payoff?” - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsDoes it seem to you that you're always the one in your relationship being flexible, giving and self-sacrificing? If it does, you're not alone. Many men feel like they bear the brunt of the work. They keep the yard mowed, go to work everyday, change the oil in the car, watch the kids and ...
Views: 2903(3 votes) - Ways To Make Your Ex Boyfriend See How Much He Needs You - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversWays To Make Your Ex Boyfriend See How Much He Needs You; The moment your boyfriend breaks up with you is a terrible time in your life, but the next day can be even worse. That's when the shock begins to wear off and you realize exactly what has happened. You have lost the only man you can ever ...
Views: 2900(2 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: How Can I Stop Freaking Out? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyLisa, I believe that a large part of my problem is that I am what you referred to as a “nightmare girl.” I don’t know how to be one of those “dream girls.” I can hold it together for anywhere from a few days to a few months, but I get sooooo incredibly insecure that I end up losing it. I ...
Views: 2899(5 votes) - Eating Cake - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2010 from Mike EdwardsIn a recent article by JD Dean Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend there appears a reference to a well know incorrect saying; "You can't have your cake and eat it" Why is this incorrect? Simply, you can have your cake and you can eat it, it is just that there will be no cake left. However, ...
Views: 2899(2 votes) - ***Is Marriage In Trouble in Middle America? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In Middle America, marriage is in trouble! So say W. Bradford Wilcox of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and Elizabeth Marquardt of the Center for Marriage and Families Institute for American Values in New York ...
Views: 2898(15 votes) - ***The Enormous Economic Advantages of Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have found in our 30+ years of research on successful marriage around the world that being married has huge economic advantages. Doubters have challenged us to “prove it!” The latest proof is in the just released special report by the Heritage ...
Views: 2898(21 votes) - Improve Your Relationships - Agree to Disagree - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Cynthia OrtizHow often do you find yourself in an intense argument over a disagreement? Too often, relationships tear apart due to disagreements. Why do we feel the NEED to be right? If someone does not agree with you why give them the cold shoulder? Is it really worth it? Does it make you feel good? ...
Views: 2898(3 votes) - Law Of Attraction Love: Are You Failing To Grasp The Law Of Attraction? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Nanette GeigerRecently I got an email from one of my subscribers. He asks ... I'm trying to manifest my desires but fear and anxiety keep creeping in. And then there are a lifetime of bad habits, lack conditioning, low self esteem and the tendency to focus on my previous disappointments. What can I ...
Views: 2896(7 votes) - My Husband Never Says "I Love You" To Me: Husband Doesn't Say I Love You Anymore - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2017 from James UadialeMy husband never says "I love you" to me is a complaint that is made frequently. Once a marriage has settled into a predictable routine, some men just start to neglect their wives. They no longer put in the effort to make her feel special and they certainly don't go out of their way to ensure ...
Views: 2896 - Being Acknowledged - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Gregory DrambourLast week on a Sedona Vortex experience I said something that penetrated deeply through me and my clients: “There is nothing more powerful than an acknowledged human being.” Wow! I am still trying to absorb that awesome statement. Of course, this was coming from the Old Ones so I ...
Views: 2894 - Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 2 - by The first step toward being able to attract and create your ideal relationship is to clear the way for it by eliminating baggage from your past. This baggage refers to any resentments, hurts, or fears you have toward anyone who either was a role model or who
participated directly in a ...
Views: 2893(1 vote) - Intimacy: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings need to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that this always take place. In fact, one might be in a position where it is not part of their life and never has been. This means that some people are used to experiencing intimacy and this is ‘normal’, and others are not used ...
Views: 2892 - What Not To Do After A Break Up If You Want To Get Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Back - New Ideas - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreWhat Not To Do After A Break Up If You Want To Get Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Back - New Ideas. Most of the time we concentrate on what we should do after a break up to get our ex's back. It is a good idea to think about what you shouldn't be doing after a break up too. Lots of people ...
Views: 2892(1 vote) - Getting Back Together After A Breakup : Making Up With Your Ex With Just A Simple Approach - by Submitted on May 26, 2012 from Franklin FashayaIn getting your ex boyfriend back, you must realize that after accessing the breakup and the reason you guys decided to let go; you must never beg. You might be wondering! Why this is the first point: well, it is because despite the fact that you want him back, you should still have your dignity ...
Views: 2891 - A Romantic Reconciliation of a Past Relationship - Two Sure Ways to Get Back With Ex - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Jenna JamesMaking up with your ex is not at all a bad idea. If you think that the problem you had in your relationship can be settled, there is definitely a greater chance to get back with ex. More importantly, the feelings you have for the person is a huge deal when it comes to getting back together. As ...
Views: 2890 - Dysfunctional Family Christmas: 6 Tips for Making the Holidays Functional - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you dealing with a dysfunctional family Christmas? Use these 6 tips for making the holidays functional. Togetherness, love, family, tranquility, magic, unity, happiness, and gifts--We are told we should have all these things at Christmas and when we don't have them, we feel disappointed and ...
Views: 2890 - How to Get My Ex Boyfriend To Want Me Back - Find out How With These three Ideas - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Michael LoisBefore answering your question "how to obtain my ex boyfriend to want me back"? Let me tell you that having a boyfriend is from the priceless gifts in life, a boyfriend whom you can take into account as your secret box. Unfortunately, quite a few couples found themselves struggling in their ...
Views: 2890 - Become Aware of Your Perception of Reality: Don’t Let it Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION You and your partner react and behave in your relationship each from your own Perception of Reality – your personal view point of how things “should be”. Your perceptions are affected by many factors you have internalized over the years while growing up. As long as you are NOT ...
Views: 2889 - Husband Talks Too Much: Husband Talks Incessantly - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2019 from Rodrigo ArjunHusband Talks Too Much: Husband Talks Incessantly Yes, I know-lack of communication is one of the big problems marriage counselors cite as leading to divorce. But what if your spouse talks too much? Or worse yet, what if you are the one who talks too much? Unfortunately, quantity of talk ...
Views: 2888 - The Many Faces of Jealousy - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Patricia FasonJealousy, most of us feel it at some time or other. Some people experience it more strongly than others and some even let jealousy consume them. Sometimes the feeling is justified and at other times it isn't. It's an ugly emotion, both for the one feeling it and for the person at the other end. ...
Views: 2888 - Dr Romance Video: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo watch the video, click here. It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee success. When dating and getting to know ...
Views: 2887(1 vote) - Five Deadly Dating Mistakes Women Commit - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Jonathon AslayThe very nature of a man drives him to conquer, protect and provide. With that being said I wish to conquer wrong thinking many women may have entertained and protect you from harm by providing you with information that could prevent you from getting hurt and damaging your relationships. When ...
Views: 2887(4 votes) - Get Your Ex Back - Most Powerful Strategy For Giving Your Relationship a New Lifeline Fast! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasBeing in a relationship with someone who you share a strong bond with is one of the most fulfilling experiences you can have during your lifetime. It brings out feelings of love, closeness and intimacy between you and your partner that very few can compare to. The problems you face tend to not ...
Views: 2887(3 votes) - The Art of Approaching Groups of Women - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2012 from Richard LisoAs human beings, we tend to gather and travel in groups. Especially when it comes to social venues, such as restaurants, cafés, bars and clubs – people will rarely be alone. Women are not different, and in fact will be almost always hanging out in groups, usually groups of ...
Views: 2886 - Do You Have Permission To Grieve Well? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachThough mourning the many losses (broken bonds) across our years is a natural (instinctive) reflex, it can be slowed or blocked. Incomplete or "complicated" grief can promote serious mental, emotional, physical, and relationship problems. Our feelgood, warp-speed society ("Don't Worry - Be ...
Views: 2884 - Yin Yang Relationships - How to Find YOUR Perfect Partner - by Yin Yang is the ancient, Chinese symbol for balance. It depicts the strong attraction and complementary nature of opposites. Just as magnate and metal attract, while oil and water repel, we too are subject to these laws of nature in our relationships. For example, we have all met people for whom ...
Views: 2883 - ***Is the Seven Year Itch in Marriage Real? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Seven-Year Itch is real according to the U.S. Census Bureau. There were a number of interesting highlights reported in the U.S. Census Bureau’s press release entitled “Most People Make Only One Trip Down the Aisle, But First Marriages Shorter.” ...
Views: 2882(10 votes) - ***Why Do We Seek Approval? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2011 from Margaret PaulMany years ago, I became aware of feeling anxious much of the time. Since this feeling had been with me as long as I could remember, it had seemed normal - until it stopped being okay with me. It stopped being okay when I went back to school to become a psychotherapist. I realized then that, ...
Views: 2882 - no contact rule, contacting an ex, contact your ex boyfriend - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2011 from Andrew HunterIf you’ve decided to use the No Contact Rule, you probably already know how difficult it can be. Fighting off those urges to pick up the phone and call your ex boyfriend can be extremely difficult. But sooner or later, you start to feel better. Those feelings of desperation seem to die down ...
Views: 2881 - The Importance of Attractive Lifestyle To Improve Your Dating Success - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Richard LisoI often think and wonder about the issue of attraction. In fact, attraction is kind of the basic and most important part of this whole world of dating advice. Our goal as men is to make women feel attracted to us. Now, although many gurus discuss various "loophole" methods to push a woman's ...
Views: 2878 - Dr. Romance on Dealing with Disappointment or failure - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trashbin. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that acting out ...
Views: 2875(1 vote) - ***9 Secrets For A Joyful Life - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Joy is our birthright - a gift of Spirit. Discover the choices you can make to lead a joyful life. ________________________________________ 1. Self-Compassion Rather Than Self-Judgment In the 44 years I've been counseling clients, I've never had a ...
Views: 2874(3 votes) - ***Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2011 from Margaret PaulA member of our website asked this question in our advice section:I've read several of the articles on the site, but have not seen anything mentioned about "chasing"after someone who is pulling away in a relationship. That has to be a form of protection against deeper feelings, though, ...
Views: 2874(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: How to Deal with an Annoying Boyfriend - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2012 from Tina TessinaGuys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 2874 - How to Flirt and Start a Conversation With “What’s Your Sign?” - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettStarting a conversation with men and women is easy. Follow these tips and “What’s your sign?” will lead from casual talk to flirting to genuine first-date conversation. The conversation starter “What’s your sign?” had its heyday in the 60′s when the musical Hair turned everyone’s attention to ...
Views: 2874(8 votes) - Gifts of Communication: The 5 Love Languages - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Stacie CampanelliThe Five Love Languages By Stacie Campanelli How many of us are familiar with the 5 Love Languages? Are you curious or interested to learn & discover or re-discover what your first Native language is? According to Gary Chapman, best selling author of the book The 5 Love Languages, we ...
Views: 2873 - He's Rich, She's Hot! So What? - Beyond Appearances and Towards Real Love - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt's the stereotypical trade - sex objects for success objects. Attractive women (or men) for wealthy men (or women). This barter of status (looks and wealth) is ancient and deeply ingrained in the human psyche. And, it is pitched to us as the ideal over and over again in the media (television, ...
Views: 2872(2 votes) - Pay Attention to Your Feelings – They’re Your Friends - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2011 from Joan ChamberlainA Deeper Look at Your Feelings. After all these years of talking with people, I’m still surprised at how many people aren’t acquainted with their feelings. I don’t mean that they don’t have feelings. I mean that they’re (1) unaware of having them, and (2) even when they become aware, ...
Views: 2872 - 5 Relationship Mantras That Will Shift Any Couple - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2015 from Ken FierhellerI challenge all my couples in my practice to create a higher standard for what is possible in their relationship. I think all of us believe that we are capable or deserve a great and fulfilling relationship. Yet if you take a good hard look around, you will find examples of a lot of ...
Views: 2871 - ***Morally Indefensible Notions About Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have never heard anything as outrageous as the views espoused in a book entitled, A Gift for Muslim Couple, by Maulavi Ashraf Ali Thanvi. Us being sick to our collective stomachs is a gross understatement of the outrage we feel about the garbage ...
Views: 2870(18 votes) - Are You Waiting to Be Wowed? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerNewsflash: Women constantly push really good guys right out of their lives without even knowing it. We do it by behaving in ways that, until pointed out by someone else, are a complete mystery. Finally having this pointed out to me in my early 40s was a huge part of my transition from a ...
Views: 2870(5 votes) - My Husband Wants To Leave Me But I Still Love Him: What Should You Do When Your Spouse Doesn't Want To Be Married Anymore - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2021 from Carmen JimenaMy Husband Wants To Leave Me But I Still Love Him: What Should You Do When Your Spouse Doesn't Want To Be Married Anymore Marriages sometimes have problems and that's completely normal! Couples may argue every now and then. But what if your marital problems are driving you to the brink of ...
Views: 2869 - Compatibility for Love & Marriage by Acharya V Shastri - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Acharya ShastriAstrology has a great significance while analyzing how compatible two people are while in a relationship. This unique flow of knowledge gives an unbelievable insight into a variety of human traits. By acquainting yourself with these special qualities characters, one can ascertain the ...
Views: 2868(3 votes) - “If I always do as I’ve always done, I’ll always get what I always got?” - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellI have pondered over that saying for years. It gives me great encouragement when on the rocky road to somewhere. Challenges we are faced with make us stronger. This we all know. As anticipation builds, the adrenaline in our bloodstream gets our minds flowing. As with many coined phrases, “If ...
Views: 2866(1 vote) - Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Is Still In Love With You - 18 Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Wants You Back - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Michael UadialeWe have collected a pretty good list of signs your ex girlfriend wants you back. How many signs? 18 signs your ex girlfriend wants you back. To learn the killer, advanced strategies to get your ex back, simply click here! Why did we make this list? Well, at first, when your heart is ...
Views: 2865 - “My spouse wants a divorce and there's nothing I can do about it...” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsLindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems. She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ...
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