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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Taste the Sweetness of Life - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Julianne BentleyFebruary's message - in fact, the message for all of 2009 - is about finding your yumminess. Take the time to do the things that make you happy! What could you to do treat yourself better, to romance yourself, to woo yourself? (Isn't that a great word? Woo!) You deserve to be happy, to meet ...
Views: 2955 - ***Why Women over 40 Should Be Picky Daters…Kind of - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi Palmer"I know why you aren't married: you're just too picky!" Women who are single in their 40s, 50s and beyond hear this a lot. After all, what other reason can there be for why you haven't yet snagged a man? As a woman who became a first-time bride at 47, I heard this a lot—especially from my ...
Views: 2953(8 votes) - ACT with L.O.V.E. - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsLet’s discuss LOVE: L – Letting go O – Opening up V – Valuing E – Engaging Let’s now explore each of these elements in more detail: LETTING GO “Letting go” is the escape route from inside-your-mind, one of the elements that DRAIN your relationship. Your mind is like a master storyteller ...
Views: 2953 - What Is a Real Friend? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerFor most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend. If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well ...
Views: 2953(1 vote) - *Relationships: The Power Of Good Will - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Margaret PaulResearch into good marriages indicates that the most important choice healthy couples make is to have good will toward each other. This may seems like a simple requirement, yet many couples have anything but good will toward each other. Instead, they make it far more important to: Attempt to ...
Views: 2952 - He Doesn't Call As Much: When He Doesn't Call For Days - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2017 from James Uadiale"He doesn't call as much, why?" That's an all too familiar question for women everywhere. When you're in the throes of a new relationship and your man is attentive and charming, you have hope that it will always be that way. Unfortunately, in most cases, it won't. Once a couple becomes ...
Views: 2949 - Sexless Marriage – 5 Reasons For Your Husband’s Low Sex Drive - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2012 from Lisa Penn-JamesMarriage therapists estimate as many as 20 percent of couples are in a low-sex or sexless marriage in the USA. To my surprise, often enough it’s the men, heterosexual men, who don’t want sex with their spouse. How many times do you hear about a woman complaining about her sexless marriage? ...
Views: 2949(1 vote) - 2 Attractive Qualities In A Woman That Men Love - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2010 from Ken HauserOne Attractive Quality A Man Wants Is.... "Emotional Maturity" Most men don't understand the feelings that women have. They don't understand what the feelings are. And they don't understand where they come from. What's the largest negative stereotype out there that men put on ...
Views: 2948 - What Dating Is Like for Men (Oh…ya think you know?) - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerLast week was Men’s Health week; and as another nod to the guys, I thought I'd help them by helping you better understand them. (Did you follow that?) In particular, I want to help you better understand the experience men have when they're trying to “date like a grownup.” If you've read my ...
Views: 2948(4 votes) - *Diffusing Anger Or Feeding The Flames - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2008 from Margaret PaulHave you ever had an argument with someone - a partner, spouse, close friend, child, parent or other relative, or a business associate - that started small and spiraled into an intense conflict? Have you ever scratched your head, wondering how it got so out of control? Let's take a look at what ...
Views: 2947 - How emotionally mature are you in love? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Gina HardyMost of my lovely couples come to me in relational angst when their bag of long standing coping “tools” has run aground and they have nothing left with which to communicate their feelings and needs in a healthy way. Many couples just cope, rather than experience deeply fulfilling and ...
Views: 2947(1 vote) - The Challenge of Letting Go - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Gian Fiero |There comes a point and time in everyone's life when they need to let go. It's easier said than done, and even when most recognize the need to let go they can't do it. Letting go is about freedom; freedom that can only be experienced through the disconnection of the things - or the person - ...
Views: 2946(3 votes) - Traits That Can Kill The Attraction A Man Has For A Woman - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2018 from Godwin Terhemba IhaghSimilar to how women test men is the fact that men have the instinct of testing women as well. Most men test women so as to know beforehand how a particular lady might react in certain situations. The manner in which a lady responds to the tests a man throws at her reveals how matured or patient ...
Views: 2946 - How Long Should I Give My Husband Space: When To Reconcile After Separation - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2021 from Carmen JimenaHow Long Should I Give My Husband Space: When To Reconcile After Separation Do you want to save your marriage today and stop a potential marriage separation or divorce? Do you feel as if your marriage is lacking spark or you just can't get it right? Do you fear a marriage separation or ...
Views: 2945 - 10 Rules for a Great Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2007 from alex blackwellEffective and mutually beneficial relationships do not need to be complex or difficult to develop and maintain. Often times when relationships or marriages fail it’s because one or both partners just give up. In successful relationships, both members work at building and growing the relationship ...
Views: 2944 - Tips for Resolving Conflict for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Sally ConnollyTips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your concern or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...
Views: 2942 - 10 Steps to Creating Positive Momentum - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Ron BroussardThere is positive momentum and negative momentum. Are you creating positive momentum in your life, drawing the things you want in your life, or you pushing it away? Here are ten suggestions (or reminders) to help you focus on what really matters. 1. Take some time to decide what you want ...
Views: 2940(1 vote) - Dating Advice for Christians: Online Dating Tips - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeMany Christians are starting to visit online dating sites like RealChristianSingles.com and ChristianCafe.com. The controversy over whether Christians should date is a hotly debated one, and often leaves Christian singles frustrated and confused. I’ve spent a year on an online dating site ...
Views: 2940(2 votes) - Your Relationship Breakup: Was It Complete Failure or Just Complete? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve tried. You really have. You loved this man, you believed he truly was your “happily-ever-after.” You wanted this to be THE relationship of your life. When things started going downhill, you read all the self-help articles, more books than you can count, went to couples counseling ...
Views: 2940 - ***How to Connect with Others - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2011 from Margaret PaulWe are inherently social beings, and feeling emotionally connected with another is one of the great joys in life. Yet, all too often, we feel lonely around another or others, wanting to connect and not knowing how. We may have learned numerous dysfunctional or unsatisfying ways of connecting, ...
Views: 2938(1 vote) - ***Why You're Dating and Not Finding Quality Men - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDating can be a real pain in the butt, right? It can be a lot of work that leads to a lot of nothing. I conducted a survey recently and asked women what their biggest challenge was when they date. The #1 response was: I’m not meeting quality men. Can you relate?? I hear this from women ...
Views: 2936(5 votes) - Do Women Over-Generalize? Always & Never - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardMen and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings. Women have a tendency to over-generalize statements, using words like ALWAYS and NEVER. Women sometimes say to men, “You ALWAYS do this,” or “You NEVER do that.” The use of these words is not meant to be taken literally, ...
Views: 2936 - My Husband Is Not Turned On By Me Anymore: I Don't Turn My Husband On Anymore - Change This Now! - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Kelly LaceyMy Husband Is Not Turned On By Me Anymore: I Don't Turn My Husband On Anymore - Change This Now! Sex between the two of you was more than passionate; it was orgasmically explosive. He couldn't seem to keep his hands off you and you felt completely irresistible during the beginning of your ...
Views: 2935 - Communications and Personality Type – Extravert & Introvert - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2012 from Pam HollisterCommunication is central to our life—we communicate with others every day, throughout the day. Understanding, appreciating, and accommodating personality differences in communication style can bring major success to our effectiveness as a friend, spouse, employee, supervisor, trainer, leader, ...
Views: 2932(1 vote) - Reconciliation Counselling - by Submitted on May 16, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldReconciliation Counselling Some people look across the great divide of a fractured relationship feeling it can never exist again. In such situations, the parties may be at odds with respect to their version of events. They may feel there must be agreement on the version of events, without which ...
Views: 2928 - 5 Things that Women Notice in Men at First Sight - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Clair RobertsYou surely don’t want to end up looking and feeling unattractive, especially when you want a stable relationship with a woman. It is profoundly significant to know what is it exactly that a woman notices in a man when she is meeting him for the first time. Of course, the first impression may not ...
Views: 2927(3 votes) - 5 Things that Women Notice in Men at First Sight - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Clair RobertsYou surely don’t want to end up looking and feeling unattractive, especially when you want a stable relationship with a woman. It is profoundly significant to know what is it exactly that a woman notices in a man when she is meeting him for the first time. Of course, the first impression may not ...
Views: 2927(3 votes) - 5 Things You Don’t Do To Sustain A Long Distance Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Will YapIt has been seen from our experience in working with couples who have been married for a long time that there are certain things that are required to be done and a few things that should not be done to keep the relationship going. We have given below some of the things, based on our ...
Views: 2927 - Coping With A Break Up Isn’t Easy, But Here Are Some Secrets That Will Help - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2010 from Andrew HunterDealing with a bad breakup can be one of the worst things you’ll experience in your life. However, there are things you can do to deal with a break up. Time is a great healer, but if you need that extra push in the right direction then follow these tips: Coping With Break Up Tip #1 To start ...
Views: 2926(6 votes) - Don’t Let “The Fear of Being Alone” Drive You to Stay in an Unsatisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Doron GilStaying in an unsatisfying relationship might be driven by many fears, one of which is THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE.You convince yourself that it is better to have a partner and be in a relationship, albeit not a satisfying one, rather than being alone. The problem is that you the give up on your ...
Views: 2923 - Negative Words Can Poison a Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2011 from Tina TobinPositive words are not enough to guarantee that a relationship will be successful, but negative words can quickly guarantee that even a great relationship is heading for trouble. Speaking positively about one’s partner as well as speaking positively about committed relationships in general is a ...
Views: 2923 - ***C-Level Selling Tip 19 - The Fastest Path to a Relationship and Sale Is Through Your Ears - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2010 from Sam ManferListening is the key to establishing relationships and selling. If you learn what your prospects want, and/or forgot to mention, and/or don’t know about, and what they mean by the words they used to describe what they want, you’ll have a complete description of what it will take to win these ...
Views: 2922(4 votes) - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2921 - Five Tips for Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Aila Accad, RN,The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. The truth is other people are not responsible for any of these things. When you give others control over your feelings, thoughts and choices, ...
Views: 2921(10 votes) - Law Of Attraction Coach: Appearance Isn't Everything - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Nanette GeigerHere are the findings from a study done by a popular dating site. What are the most important aspects in a lover: 1. Appearance 11% 2. Personality 30% 3. Physique 5% 4. Sense of Humor 14% 5. Eyes 10% 6. Popularity 0% 7. Smile 12% 8. Hair 7% 9. Education 7% 10. ...
Views: 2921(4 votes) - Fear of Commitment - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Susan, 38, sought my help because she was in two relationships at the same ...
Views: 2920 - Fears of a New Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2006 from Margaret PaulKatie had not been in a relationship in ten years, and she was scared to death. In her last relationship, she had lost herself completely and then felt devastated when her boyfriend of three years left her for another woman. After working on herself emotionally and spiritually for a number of ...
Views: 2920 - How To Reduce Hurt Feelings When You And Your Partner Disagree - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2008 from Nancy WassonOne of the biggest on-going problems for couples is how to reduce the hurt feelings that can result from arguments and disagreements. The fall-out from a no-holds barred “kill your opponent” verbal altercation can last for decades. I have worked with numerous couples in counseling who have ...
Views: 2920 - THE TIGER WOODS AFFAIR: WHY NICE GUYS CHEAT - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Lisa DailyBy now you've probably heard the sordid details of Tiger Woods alleged affairs with cocktail waitress Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin. The scandal comes as a bit of a surprise to his many fans, especially considering his ...
Views: 2917(2 votes) - How To Be A Good Boyfriend: Doing 3 Simple Things That Matter A Lot To Your Girlfriend - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2009 from Michael LeeLearning how to be a good boyfriend is important if you want you and your girlfriend to stay together. If you think you’re already doing enough, think again. Women are wired differently from men, so what you think is enough may actually be a few nice gestures short for her. Learning how to ...
Views: 2916(1 vote) - Avoid Dangerous Dating Personalities - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeWhen coaching post divorce, one of the first things I do is introduce clients to the different types of people they will run into. It is vital to understand that some people have baggage. Also, some personality types just do not mesh. In the past people dated from work or social settings. There ...
Views: 2915(3 votes) - How You Can Seduce Women Using ‘Deflection Theory’ - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Mac RobinThere’s something normally happens when you’re out there engaging in the ‘seduction game’ - which is, when you’re actively scouting out for women you believe you’d like to hook-up with. Lots of men experienced it, and many guys nevertheless do experience it when they are out playing the game. It ...
Views: 2914 - Make No Deals with the Devil: He is Deaf - by Submitted on May 22, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Renee L Richardson, M.Ed. Article Do Not Make Deals with the Devil: He is Deaf As we have been told since forever, the “Devil” as you know him has the following characteristics: A liar, cunning, a tempter, deceitful, totally evil, a thief, an adversary, wicked, cowardly, a murderer, ...
Views: 2912 - Relationships: Conflict Resolution Without Words - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling ...
Views: 2911(1 vote) - Your Relationship is a Dance - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Jennifer Zurick-WitteHave you ever marveled at how a couple dancing can flow with grace and energy and then your eyes shift from seeing them as singular entity and you distinguish the distinct movements of each person? While as a couple the dancers display harmony, each dancer also expresses his or her character ...
Views: 2911(3 votes) - Husband Said Hurtful Things I Can't Get Over: What To Do When Your Husband Says Hurtful Things - by Submitted on May 01, 2019 from John BraxtonHusband Said Hurtful Things I Can't Get Over: What To Do When Your Husband Says Hurtful Things Do you sometimes feel you might be in a verbally abusive marriage? Is your husband nice, kind and polite on a certain social level, but the way he treats you in private leaves you wondering if it's ...
Views: 2910 - Relationship help: Bring intimacy back into your relationship - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from Richard NicastroCouples often seek out my relationship help or marriage advice because of difficulties with intimacy—they no longer feel a deep emotional connection with their spouse/partner. Why are so many couples struggling with emotional intimacy? In order to experience the gifts of emotional ...
Views: 2907(3 votes) - How OverFunctioning Could Be Ruining Your Relationship According to Rori Raye - by Submitted on May 08, 2011 from Sarah MichaelsA key aspect in the success of a relationship, according to Rori Raye, is the balance of the feminine and masculine energy. One way that we, as women, drive a relationship into imbalance is by overfunctioning within the relationship. Put very simply, overfunctioning is doing too much. Rori ...
Views: 2906(2 votes) - ***3 Steps to Healing from Betrayal - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Betrayal is one of the hardest things to go through, and it is vitally important that you deal with it in a way that doesn’t cause you even more pain. ________________________________________ It is devastating when someone whom we believe cares about ...
Views: 2905(2 votes) - Feeling Taken For Granted In Marriage: How To Stop My Husband Taking Me For Granted - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2019 from Henry JosephFeeling Taken For Granted In Marriage: How To Stop My Husband Taking Me For Granted One of the main factors contributing to the downfall of long-term relationships or marriages is being taken for granted. After a while, all of the things that made you feel special, wonderful, and unique are ...
Views: 2905 - Key to Successful Relationships: Put Yourself First - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBefore you can have successful relationships with others, you must master your relationship with yourself. Here’s a radical challenge: Make it a goal to fall back in love with yourself. When I say that to a roomful of people in my seminars, I usually hear lots of nervous giggles. Even the ...
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