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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***Four Ways to Flirt with Flair and Class - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNo matter your age, the way to connect with a man in the "I think you're hot and would be interested in going out with you" way is to flirt. When I suggest that to the over-40 women in my dating workshops and coaching programs, I can see them cringe. Most of these otherwise outgoing women ...
Views: 2354(4 votes) - ***Healing the Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhy would someone be afraid of intimacy? Don't we all want to feel close and connected with someone?Yes, of course we want that, but there are very real fears that keep us from opening to emotional intimacy in a primary relationship.The FearsWhat is the first fearful thought you think when you ...
Views: 6475(4 votes) - ***How To Get A Woman's Number - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Under most circumstances with a woman, it’s utterly fruitless to get a woman’s number if she is a.) not sexually attracted b.) not friendly or feel a sense of fun or friendship from you, or c.) not a good match for you intellectually, in maturity, culture or tastes. Why would you even bother? Or ...
Views: 3383(2 votes) - ***How to Know if He is Merely Hot...or Maybe Husband - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerLooking for a life partner but keep picking players, paupers, or just plain zeros? Finding a partner is like finding a good job: you only need one, but making a bad choice wastes your time and sticks you in an unpleasant situation. To avoid that, you need to make a grown-up decision about ...
Views: 2282(14 votes) - ***How to Rekindle a Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Carla TaraTo rekindle a relationship when it has become stagnant is very important. Let’s face it. It takes a lot of time and emotional involvement to start a relationship. Do you remember how much quality time you dedicated to the relationship? How you used to dress up for each other and take time out of ...
Views: 8206(6 votes) - ***Is Your Partner Always Pointing Out Your Flaws? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulSome people believe that it is caring to point out their partner's flaws - that it will help to make that person a better person. But the intent behind pointing out flaws is not loving - it is controlling.Pointing Out FlawsBy pointing out flaws, you hope that your partner will let go of the ...
Views: 17299(4 votes) - ***The Dangers of a Relationship with a Narcissist - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Dr. Neill NeillIn Greek mythology Narcissus was a handsome, proud man who disdained those who loved him. He fell in love with his own beautiful reflection in a pool, and because he couldn’t stop looking at it, he starved to death. Narcissists have a great deal of resistance to change, basically because they ...
Views: 2803(2 votes) - ***When Should You Take It Personally? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2011 from Margaret PaulWe hear so often, "Don't take it personally." What does this really mean? The answer is NOT simple!Let's say that you are in a great mood, feeling loving and expansive, and someone - either someone close to you or a stranger like a clerk in a store - is withdrawn or attacking.This is ...
Views: 3198(2 votes) - ***Why Women over 40 Should Be Picky Daters…Kind of - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi Palmer"I know why you aren't married: you're just too picky!" Women who are single in their 40s, 50s and beyond hear this a lot. After all, what other reason can there be for why you haven't yet snagged a man? As a woman who became a first-time bride at 47, I heard this a lot—especially from my ...
Views: 2953(8 votes) - ***Women Who Wish Their Spouses Would Die - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Margaret Paul"I feel awful saying this," Mary told me during one of our phone counseling sessions, "but I often wish my husband would die. I feel like a terrible person saying this, but I think about it a lot.""I hear this fairly often," I responded. "You are thinking this, ...
Views: 4762(4 votes) - 3 Things To Do To Survive A Breakup - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Andrew HunterDid you get dumped and are you searching for ideas to help you pull through the breakup? Breakups are hard to deal with, but there are things that you can do that can help you in the end. Do not try to get into a rebound relationship. Being solo and alone again can be challenging, but believe ...
Views: 2481(2 votes) - 4 Ways to Survive the Hard Times and Come Out Closer - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinIs it possible for something good to come out of the economic downturn? Can a relationship, even one that may be experiencing its own hard times, come out better for surviving the hard times? Here are some ways to use the recession to your benefit: 1. Back to Basics. View this as an ...Is ...
Views: 2622(2 votes) - 5 Important Tips to Help You Talk to Your Spouse about Money - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Pamela LipeAre you and your spouse worried about what’s happening with your savings, your pension, your children’s college funds, or just staying employed? Do you find yourself fearful of your futures together? Do you find yourselves disagreeing with your partner about how to weather this financial ...
Views: 1439(2 votes) - 5 Principles of Happiness After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Iris FanningMost people are a bit "shell shocked" and anxious after a divorce. Good judgement often is lacking during this time. Learn 5 simple principles to remember so that you can come out of your divorce as a happy, healthy person. Refer to these simple principles when you feel shaky about your future ...
Views: 1456(4 votes) - 6 Essentials for a Happy Love Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from James LeGrandThere is nothing like a truly happy love relationship! This level of relationship isn’t reserved for the lucky or the favored. Happy relationships have certain things in common. If you know what they are, you can find or create happiness in your love relationship. Here are the 6 Essentials for ...
Views: 1544(4 votes) - 7 Easy Steps on How to Save a Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from Ray WeberJim works lengthy hours and Lisa doesn’t feel he's there for her. Lisa spends all of her time meeting the children’s wants and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his wants? Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved? Right here’s how one can save a relationship. First, it's ...
Views: 1001(2 votes) - 7 Golden Rules of Communication - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsGood communication is not rocket science. It’s also not ‘painting by numbers’ where people have to learn a set of techniques. It’s not enough to learn some skills. The key to good communication is not just having good communication skills, but also having self-awareness. Why do you react and ...
Views: 14592(2 votes) - A New Way Of Dating - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2014 from Tatia DeeCircular Dating is a tool used in the Rori Raye (www.coachrori.com) Method of relationship Coaching. Let me start off by saying that Circular Dating is NOT about “dating” a whole bunch of men at one time. Circular Dating is interacting with men! Circular Dating is all about ...
Views: 2021(4 votes) - Advice for long distance relationships by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomAdvice for long distance relationships by Rosemary Price psychic. All relationships have their problems. Even a couple who have been together for a long time have their ups and downs. One of the trickiest type of relationships to have is a long distance one. Many relationships hit a rocky patch ...
Views: 1321(2 votes) - After the Breakup: 4 Valuable Love Lessons - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanWhenever I’m at a dinner party and meet somebody new, the inevitable question comes up: What do you do? When I tell them I’m a heartbreak reinvention coach, it always leads to an interesting conversation. Usually, I get to hear the story of Their Big Breakup, and it’s always gut-wrenching, ...
Views: 5770(10 votes) - Am I Boring You? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Royce MoraelsSarah is a rather plain, fifty-something woman with limp, mousey brown hair always pulled back in a pony tail held neatly with an unpretentious brown barrette. She dresses unobtrusively, mostly donning solid-color cotton blouses and dark polyester slacks. Sometimes, rarely, she wears jeans. Not ...
Views: 733(2 votes) - Are others sabotaging your quest for abundance? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from Jenni P Parker-BrownAre others sabotaging your quest for abundance? Interesting question! It appears there are many who are struggling to discover that abundance is our birthright even after a lifetime of searching. Moreover, for all the millions of brave warrior souls who are somewhere on the path to ...
Views: 1706(4 votes) - Are You Mentally Fit? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Ron BroussardYou can stretch yourself and enjoy greater success and happiness in every area of your life when your mind and subconscious mind are mentally fit. So how do you get your mind and subconscious mind in shape? Well, I'll explain just how to do this in today's blog, so read on and enjoy. ...
Views: 1521(2 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: She Wont’t Stop Calling My Boyfriend! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. I moved back with my parents temporarily because we were fighting a lot. While I was home, he was seeing this girl he works with. I was really upset about everything even though she said she never slept with him. She assured me that she ...
Views: 4762(6 votes) - Better Emotional Intimacy - 50 Ways to Love Your Lover - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Shela DeanIn 1975 Paul Simon released his hit song "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover." I recently looked up the lyrics and discovered something I'd failed to notice in 1975 when I was hummin' along. The song is about a woman giving a man advice on how to extricate himself from his current relationship. The ...
Views: 1717(2 votes) - Better Your Relationship by Avoiding Assumptions - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2011 from Ashley ArnChances are good that you've wanted, at some point in time, to better your relationship. You might have struggled, however, with a good way to go about it. If your relationship is free of the obvious, major pitfalls, then what can you do to make improvements? The answer is so simple, it might ...
Views: 2478(2 votes) - Boundaries: How Can People React When Someone Starts To Say 'No'? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is relatively easy to say ‘yes’, the same can’t be said when it comes to saying ‘no’. In fact, there are going to be plenty of people who are unable to say ‘no’, and it could then be said that it doesn’t mean much when they say ‘yes’. What this emphasises is how important it is for ...
Views: 1587(2 votes) - Building Connection and Intimacy in Our Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Debra ReblePermission to break with tradition: Give each other permission to take time for yourselves and each other. Be open to creating new experiences and breaking the predictable patterns of what you’ve always done around the holidays. Take a short get-away, give each other massages, and spend more ...
Views: 1215(2 votes) - Can I Choose My Friends? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoHello friends, bloggers, facebookers, twitters…no matter how you came across this article, I am glad you made it here and hope that you will share the post because RELATIONSHIP MATTERS. Last night I was inspired enough to write this quote I came up with on my facebook page: “In relationship, do ...
Views: 1561(2 votes) - Challenging Stereotypical Sexuality - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Shahrazad @ the INNER FIRE TEMPLEOne thing I hear often from clients is that they are afraid to communicate their particular fetish, fantasy, or desire to their significant other. In a perfect world, partners would hold for each other a space of unconditional love within which the couple could explore together like children in ...
Views: 3334(2 votes) - Confidence in love: How to find true and lasting love ~ part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Anna AparicioWith January behind us and Valentine’s day fast approaching, a lot of people are starting to feel the sometimes inescapable pressure that comes with being single at this time of the year. And whilst many singletons take it in their stride, professing to be single by choice and celebrating ...
Views: 2118(2 votes) - Control Your Mind And The Law of Attraction Will Bring You Anything You Desire - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2011 from Nanette GeigerStudies have shown that most normal humans only have the ability to access ten percent of our brain's functioning. That is to say, every conscious thought that comes into your awareness, every conscious endeavor you put your mind to, all of this encompasses only a relatively small portion of ...
Views: 1281(2 votes) - Couples: Here's How To Argue - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Bob LancerWhile couples argue, they fight against their love. They relate with one another as adversaries, turning passionate loving into passionate loathing. And yet, while it involves sorrow and pain, even the most heated shouting matches can serve as a healthy and necessary catharsis for the ...
Views: 1675(2 votes) - Cycle of Abuse and How to Leave - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Rhonda NeelyThe Cycle of Abuse and How to Leave Eleven years ago I was married to an abuser. Before I met him I had very high self-esteem (maybe even a little too high), was happy in my career, and pretty much worked and got whatever I wanted. Life was good. After I married Justin, he started showing ...
Views: 1726(2 votes) - Dating Advice for Christians: Online Dating Tips - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeMany Christians are starting to visit online dating sites like RealChristianSingles.com and ChristianCafe.com. The controversy over whether Christians should date is a hotly debated one, and often leaves Christian singles frustrated and confused. I’ve spent a year on an online dating site ...
Views: 2940(2 votes) - Dating Advice: Be A Match For What You Want - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Susie and Otto Collins“There are no good men left in the world!” At least this is how it feels to Liz. She has met and dated many men, but none of them are what she's looking for. Liz has had horrible experiences with men. She's dated guys who were disrespectful, guys who took her for granted and guys who lied ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - Dating After Divorce… - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2012 from Adele TheronI’m often asked: ‘When is a good time to start dating?’ One of the difficulties women face when they’re ready to start dating is where and how to start. Starting too soon or for the wrong reasons is not going to help re-build your self-confidence or help you become open to new intimate ...
Views: 1475(2 votes) - Dating Games Men Play - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeThis article is inspired by a dating forum where a lengthy conversation caught my attention. It amazed me how many people fear doing the wrong thing. The same questions continually pop up in the forums, and in coaching sessions. Can a woman ask a man out? What is the proper etiquette when ...
Views: 10050(2 votes) - Dating Online And Learning To Play Safely - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2012 from Kevin SparksDecades ago people would meet in crowded bars and try to start conversations with complete strangers in the hope of quickly creating a relationship that would last a lifetime. As you can imagine, that didn't have a high rate of success. Then the internet evolved and people progressed from simple ...
Views: 2532(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught him at the movies with her - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 15 years. At the present time we are seeing a Marriage counselor for our really rocky marriage. I know its going to take some time. We are working on trust, understanding, caring, appreciation, and a few others, all the essentials of a marriage. But a ...
Views: 1597(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm sick of waiting and feeling I'm not good enough - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I am a young adult male who has always had some sort of complication in relationships. I need help on deciding what I should do from the point at where I'm at now. The situation is that I have been talking to this girl. She first started talking to me but I didn't really ...
Views: 2468(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it appropriate for him to still have her in his life? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am going through a break-up this week and pretty broken hearted. My boyfriend and I currently dated for the last year and nine months and it ended this week. He is my age, mid thirties but when he was in his early to mid twenties he had an affair with a much much older ...
Views: 1373(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I Date My Girlfriend's Best Friend? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. Me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. And me and the ...
Views: 4893(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: To this day I am not sure why he became so angry - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight. I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ...
Views: 1178(2 votes) - Disadvantages of Online Dating - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeDating online has many problems not faced when dating from your church or denomination. The most common is distance. I’ve heard many horror stories in the last year. One woman reported that she dated someone over the phone for a year. Then, when it was time to meet he disappeared and she never ...
Views: 13428(2 votes) - Do Not Engage - Dealing With Your Bipolar Partners' Angry Outbursts - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2009 from Kathleen Hennessey Buchanan"I will not engage; I will not engage; I will not engage. No matter what mean, cruel or hurtful things he says, does or accuses me of, I will not engage." I can't tell you how many times that verse has gone through my head, since my husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder II, ...
Views: 9633(2 votes) - Do shy guys meet women? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2011 from Christina GarabedianDear Tina, I’m a shy guy and don’t know what to say when I meet a woman. I’m afraid I’ll never get another date. What am I going to do? ShyGuy Dear ShyGuy, First, let me tell you that you are definitely not the only guy that feels this way. Not everybody has to have a very ...
Views: 1368(2 votes) - Do Women Have An Agenda? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Radomir SamardzicOh, yes they do! Now, let’s see how this works. I understand that it is a generalization, but we are generally either men or women, so this would apply to all of us to a larger or smaller degree whether we are aware of it or not. Everyone knows what a man’s agenda is, at least at the ...
Views: 5109(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on 10 signs a guy is cheating on you - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Telling a guy you won't stand for cheating is a waste of time. Instead, be open and accepting, and encourage him to talk about his sexual exploits. If he's cheated before, he probably will cheat again. The best protection against cheating is to have open and frank ...
Views: 1733(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Friends With Benefits - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. *If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the ...
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