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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Too nice? Have I lost my edge? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellI have been called nice – a lot – frequently. I know people mean well, but nice can be…er, well…nice. It is so fluffy, so sweet, so damning with faint praise. There is no bite in nice – and that is precisely the point. Nice is toothless and gummy. It leaves no marks. Nice lacks gravitas. ...
Views: 2264(1 vote) - Tooth Implants Are Very Long Lasting - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Wendell DemontTooth Implants are very long lasting. Tooth implants are placed into the jaw bone with dental quality titanium which will create a bond with the bone. The titanium post is then available for the prosthetic tooth to be fastened to it. There are different ways to go about getting dental ...
Views: 654(1 vote) - Top Eight Characteristics Of True Friends - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2010 from Sharon MikrutOver the years, I have observed people who are real friends and people who claim to be friends. As I get older, I truly believe the old saying that you can count your real friends on one hand. So, you may be asking what makes a person a real friend. I have identified my top eight characteristics ...
Views: 8641(6 votes) - Toxic Relationships: How To Let Go And Build Abundant Love In Your Life - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonThe relationships we engage have a strong impact on our physical, mental and spiritual health. When relationships are balanced: (1) We have a release of dopamine that naturally elevates our mood (a chemical which researchers have identified as partly responsible for that elated feeling we get ...
Views: 5217(2 votes) - Transforming a Relationship into a Soulmate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tara SpringettI have given many talks on the topic of soulmates and the first question people typically ask me is, ‘what is a soulmate?’ My answer is that soulmates are two people who are deeply in love with each other and are happy together on all levels – emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and ...
Views: 1470(1 vote) - Treat your Anger as your stubborn child - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Angela SmytheAnyone that has ever babysat for their little niece or their baby brother knows how hard it can be to deal with someone that says no just because it is all they know. Little kids know little if anything about self-control so when they see something they want they don’t understand why they can’t ...
Views: 1999(1 vote) - Two Main Ingredients Why Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Maxine WhitfieldEveryone has had a relationship at least one time in their life. Love and relationships are challenging that is for sure. People are fearful of commitment, afraid of being rejected, and actually it's the fear that keep us in problematic relationships. The two main ingredients, other ...
Views: 1738(1 vote) - Understand the Scorpio Man - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2010 from Annie SherwoodScorpio men are very charismatic and love power. They can be very stubborn, and that is how they often get their way. If you are a woman who is adaptable enough to step back to avoid a fight, or who can turn the battle to her advantage, then you might be able to handle this explosive sign. ...
Views: 11601(1 vote) - Understanding Co-Dependence - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2009 from Ken FieldsThe term co-dependence is pretty familiar to many people today. It is a term that arose out of the treatment of alcoholics and refers to how one person, generally a spouse, would benefit in some way by having their alcoholic partner remain an alcoholic. And the alcoholic partner would, of ...
Views: 1475(1 vote) - Understanding Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaConflicts, challenges and misunderstandings are common bumps in relationships. Understanding relationships means understanding in your relationships. Find understanding in each situation to keep things smooth and learn compassion. When something happens that causes us hurt, pain or confusion, ...
Views: 1395(2 votes) - Using the Law of Attraction to find True Love - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2019 from Leon EdwardIt is natural for everyone to want to find a special someone to share their life with. Everybody dreams of one day meeting their real soulmate – someone who shares their dreams and ideas and someone they feel totally happy and comfortable with. For ...Using the Law of Attraction to find True ...
Views: 8884(4 votes) - Vacation to Revitalize Your Soul and Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Allura JoyIt is time to start planning your summer vacation! Have you thought about taking some time off to enjoy some fun in the sun? Whether you choose to escape for the weekend, or spend several weeks at some exotic retreat, it is so important to enjoy a fun vacation from time to time. Taking some time ...
Views: 2027(2 votes) - Verbal Aubse - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldVerbal abuse refers to the use of language as a means to control or subordinate another person for either self-gratification or to impose one’s view or will on another or to gain an unfair advantage in resolving a dispute. While both parties subject to a dispute may use inappropriate language ...
Views: 1924(1 vote) - Visualization for Relationships - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from Leslie StewartWhether you’re single, married or dating - no matter what the status of you’re relationship, no doubt the tool of Visualizing will change your life - it has mine. Over, and over, and over again (it works wonders when I’m in an argument with my love). Visualizing is one of the most powerful ...
Views: 11676(4 votes) - Walls Or Barriers In A Relationship - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are in a close relationship with another person, sometimes we can feel the walls between each other. Sometimes, one of us may be trying to protect ourselves or hiding what we really are from the other person. After a while, this behavior becomes normal and thus is prolonged. If you ...
Views: 1630(1 vote) - Ways To See If Your Ex Wants To Be With You Again - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Michael LoisIf you definitely want your ex jealous after the break, there are some steps you can take to be able to know or realize if it can revive some spark … Or maybe it is just for fun. Here are some tips that will help you decide whether your former partner might want to be with you again … Ways ...
Views: 603(1 vote) - We Inherit A Relationship “GPS” – Book Excerpt - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2013 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCWE INHERIT A RELATIONSHIP "GPS" An Excerpt from Ross Rosenberg’s book: The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us From Chapter One: Emotional Manipulators and Me – The Evolution of the Concepts Buy the book: www.pesi.com/bookstore Read the book introduction: ...
Views: 1463(1 vote) - We should all live for others - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Wayne Kehl"Life becomes harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier.” Albert Schweitzer Albert Schweitzer was perhaps, one of the greatest minds of the twentieth century. He lived from 1875 to 1965. During the course of his long life he was a doctor, an ...
Views: 7619(2 votes) - What are the Akashic Records? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Denise JonesThe Akashic Records is a dimension of consciousness that contains a vibrational record of every soul and its journey. It exists everywhere and is available at all times. It is the past, present and future knowledge of all things. The Akashic Records contain everything that every soul has ever ...
Views: 2258(2 votes) - What Can I Do to Win Back My Girlfriend -- 3 Secrets That Will Work Today! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2010 from Michele WrobleskiIs there really a source that can answer the question “What can I do to win back my girlfriend and get that loving relationship back once more?” Just ask the thousands of people who have learned how to fix their broken relationships -- many when it seemed totally impossible to get their ex to ...
Views: 562(2 votes) - What Choice Do You Have? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Rebecca MoreheadDid you know that you are ten times more likely to make a change in your life by setting a New Year's resolution than someone who does not set one? That gives you pretty good odds to stack against making no resolution this year at all. You are even more likely to achieve your goals if you write ...
Views: 1227(2 votes) - What Comes To Mind When You Think Of Dental Surgery - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Wendell DemontDental surgery sounds like something that should only be done at a hospital. But, dental surgery is frequently carried out inside of a dental office. It sounds funny to say but, teeth aren't he only thing inside of your mouth! Your oral health is reflective of your overall health. Bone ...
Views: 654(1 vote) - What Is Love, Really? To Whom Should You Give It? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Dr. Shirley Cheng, Blind Author with VisionWhat is love? Is it a fluttering of the heart? A giddy feeling? A mind intoxicated by someone's charm? Many would answer yes to all three descriptions. We are all familiar with the story of handsome guy meeting beautiful girl and falling in love in each other. But what if the girl grows old--and ...
Views: 3848(2 votes) - What is Needed to Clear a Withhold - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2012 from Robyn VogelIn relationships, resentment can often build and build. An amazing tool that can help reduce the negative feelings is ‘clearing a withhold.’ In clearing a withhold with your partner, family member, parent, child, neighbor or friend, the following elements need to be present: 1. Safety: ...
Views: 2409(1 vote) - What Your Relationship Is Teaching Your Kids - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2014 from Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPCLook deeply into your relationship. Is it the kind that you would want for your kids when they receive adulthood? This question gets asked of my new clients frequently. They looked puzzled at first then expressions of shame and guilt spawn across their faces. As you might imagine, their ...
Views: 1028(1 vote) - What's LOVE Got to Do with It? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2004 from Danish AhmedWhat’s Love Got to Do with It? Well, I got dumped... As a performer in the DECIDE urban musical, that is. I was having so much fun on stage, doing what I loved, and making a difference for people. Most importantly, I loved working with Stuart Knight, the director. How could he do ...
Views: 1521(2 votes) - What’s That One Decision That Can Break You Or Make You - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from pooja brahmiIt won’t be wrong if we say that - All of us have endured letdowns, breakups, depression and low self esteem in our lives. These are just one of the few distressing times that leave you emotionally hurt. Some people continuously endeavor in life and are indeterminate of reasons of their failures ...
Views: 1327(1 vote) - When Do You Get On Your Partner’s Nerves? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2014 from Emma ViglucciDo you know when you get on your partner’s nerves? There is a general underlying theme to the complaints couples usually share and that is that their partner is being egocentric. Egocentrism gets in the way of witnessing our partner’s beauty, gifts and contributions. It keeps us trapped in our ...
Views: 1874(1 vote) - When It Hurts Say OUCH! - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghThat's Got to Hurt! I recently had a Twitter friend ask me to post some uplifting quotes related to “taking kindness as weakness” and “being pushed too far.” Of course I did my best to find a few that might assuage her pain. At least I hope they helped a little. This reminded me of a common ...
Views: 2113(2 votes) - When Saying Nothing Is Best - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Karen KleinwortI have been noticing there is a fine balance between being able to express your thoughts, perspectives and observations to another individual and it being seeing as such – just observations and being taken as “this is what is wrong” or “this is what you should do.” People seem to think that ...
Views: 1552(1 vote) - When Someone Rejects You, Who Are They Rejecting? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Margaret PaulThe fear of rejection is a huge issue in relationships. For some, the fear is so huge that it stops them from being in a relationship. For others, it plagues them throughout their relationships and causes much anxiety.Rejection is a part of life, and learning to lovingly manage it is very ...
Views: 14598(4 votes) - When Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word (How To Win Her Back) - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Archer Kiernan“I’m sorry…” While for most people these days, that sentence is as easy to say as breathing, but for cases wherein you have caused a special woman in your life grave heartache, resulting in her blocking you on social media and kicking you out of her life when your relationship is supposed to ...
Views: 1114(1 vote) - Where Is FEAR Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2011 from Helen Roberts“The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.” Mahatma Gandhi I recently heard this acronym at a seminar and it made so much sense. FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real Then it was followed up with a statistic that 80% of our fears never happen. Where In Life Is Fear ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - Why Do Happy Couples Suddenly Fall Out Of Love? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from Dan And JenniferIt seems to be a complete mystery. Something we cannot understand. And yet it happens every day all around us: People who used to love each other madly suddenly fall out of love, just like that. What are the reasons? Sarah's Story: Sarah and her boyfriend had been the perfect couple. It was as ...
Views: 17003(1 vote) - Why Do Those Migraines Keep Messing With Your Life? - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondThe cures don't last, but it's nice to have care and concern! Bonnie was a hostage to migraine attacks. They lasted for hours and she was unable to do anything but lie down in bed until it passed. Sometimes her migraine was accompanied by nausea and other times by cramps or acid reflux. ...
Views: 1480(2 votes) - Why Do You Want to "Communicate" With Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2007 from Margaret PaulWhen partners are having problems, they often say that the problem is communication. What exactly does this mean? What are they trying to communicate? There are various reasons for communicating: 1. Sometimes we communicate to offer information about ourselves, such as, "I'm going out for a ...
Views: 3175(1 vote) - Why Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsThere are many areas in life where it can be noticed that men and women respond differently to a number of situations, recent research with brain imaging has shown that each gender responds differently to stress. The main difference is that stress caused changes in men's rights prefrontal ...
Views: 2340(1 vote) - Why Mindfulness 101 is a Career Saver - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2010 from Hal WechslerWhy Mindfulness 101 is a Lifesaver Are you curious about new scientific research on baby-easy meditation that can help overcome chronic insomnia, reduce high blood pressure, and support self-control over anxiety? Would you be interested in scientific research on how about 9 minutes of ...
Views: 2278(2 votes) - Why Passive Aggressive Behavior is so Hard to Grasp When You Are in Love - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Neil WarnerIt seems to be a silent but growing epidemic of miscommunication between people in any kind of relationships. If you read forum comments, help requests are popping up everywhere, and the hurt from miscommunication seems to be a shared national pain. Several factors have contributed to the ...
Views: 5594(1 vote) - Why Rebound Relationships Don't Work - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Velma MerrickWhen you separate from your partner, whether it is dating, a long-term relationship or a marriage, it leaves an emotional gap in your life that you feel the urge to fill. Your confidence and self-esteem will be low and you may feel as if no one will love you again. Essentially, you are looking ...
Views: 14996(2 votes) - Why Success is Awesome - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2012 from Ken DonaldsonSuccess is often aligned with prosperity, wealth, honor, and achievement, among many other “feel good” words. Success has a Latin origin that means to follow, prosper, and to go into action. Why success is awesome is because achieving it will allow you to experience your greatest sense of you. ...
Views: 1627(1 vote) - Why you avoid being intimate - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2010 from Erwan DavonPeople resist intimacy primarily because they are hurt and afraid. To whatever degree you find yourself pulling away from your partner, resisting having one or buffering yourself from really being close with someone is the degree to which you are caught in a cycle of hurt and fear followed by ...
Views: 1986(2 votes) - Will He Commit To Me? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Andriette CYou have been dating for a while and now are finding yourself at the point in your relationship where you are wondering if he will make a commitment to you. Is he commitment-material? For once in you life you want to use your head (not heart) and make the right decision. You want to make a ...
Views: 1545(2 votes) - With Relationships Come a Few Responsibilities - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellWhen you get involved in any kind of a relationship, that connection comes with a few responsibilities. In fact, in many connections there are loads of responsibilities. Trouble presents itself when someone engages with another person with the intention that the interaction is all about ...
Views: 5073(1 vote) - Women Bullies - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMany of us are familiar with teen bullying. If you didn’t see Mean Girls with Lindsay Lohan, you probably heard about it. Girls being mean to girls – backstabbing, back-talking and sabotaging. Pretty depressing, but pretty true. Where does this come from and does it go away as we get older or ...
Views: 905(1 vote) - Writing Your “Relationships-Autobiography” Enables you to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilWriting one’s autobiography has become trendy these days. Old people write their autobiographies, looking-back at their life, to “leave something” for the next generations in their family. As they work on their autobiography they “look-back” at their life, remember the high points and ...
Views: 3776(1 vote) - You ALWAYS Get What You Want - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2005 from PaulYou ALWAYS get what you want You ALWAYS get what you want The role of the subconscious in secretly shaping your life. If you’re like me, you’re probably thinking “I definitely don’t always get what I want!” I hear you, but hang in there a minute, open ...
Views: 1407(1 vote) - You Can’t hold on! And Let go to! of Your Failing relationship - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2011 from joanne williamsYou Can’t hold on! And Let go to! of Your Failing relationship By: JoAnne Williams If you all of a sudden woke up one day and discovered that you have been in a worthless or unhappy relationship for an extended period of time, you should begin to prepare yourself for exiting that ...
Views: 1890(1 vote) - “If I always do as I’ve always done, I’ll always get what I always got?” - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellI have pondered over that saying for years. It gives me great encouragement when on the rocky road to somewhere. Challenges we are faced with make us stronger. This we all know. As anticipation builds, the adrenaline in our bloodstream gets our minds flowing. As with many coined phrases, “If ...
Views: 2866(1 vote) - “Loving Your Partner” or “Loving Too Much” Determines Whether the Relationship Fails or Succeeds - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Doron GilYou may see yourself as someone who loves “taking care” of your partner. You do “all you can” to pamper, give and be there for him/her. But is it really “love” or are you driven by insecurity and a deep unconscious need to be loved? “LOVING” and “LOVING TOO MUCH” Do you, each time you ...
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