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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Margaret PaulAre you aware of how you may be hurting your partner?Are you aware of how your partner may be hurting you?Are you aware of the painful feelings of loneliness, heartache and heartbreak you likely feel when you are disconnected from your loved one and unable to share love?The sharing of love is ...
Views: 3342(1 vote) - ***Discover Your Level of Narcissism - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Margaret PaulAll of us have some characteristics and behaviors that fall into the category of narcissism. Narcissism is on a continuum from mild, occasional, and subtle to the more ubiquitous, obvious or extreme behaviors of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Since narcissism is likely a part of everyone's ...
Views: 2827(1 vote) - ***Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Were you taught that if you were nice others would be nice? ________________________________________ "I had this really terrible interaction on the phone with a customer on Tuesday," Carlton told me in our Skype session. "This guy was so closed and ...
Views: 1778(1 vote) - ***Giving To Others: Draining Or Fulfilling? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2012 from Margaret PaulGiving to others can be one of the most fulfilling experiences in life, or it can be one of the most draining. What makes the difference?The difference has to do with WHY you are giving to others.Giving From A Full HeartWhen we give from a full heart, we are giving because we are so filled up ...
Views: 3204(2 votes) - ***Healing a 'Fix Others' Addiction - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you addicted to fixing others? Do you believe this is loving rather than controlling? Many of us were raised to base our identity on helping or fixing others. Fixing others is often the addiction of choice for people who have a naturally deep level of empathy and who easily feel ...
Views: 1478(2 votes) - ***Holding Your Heart Through Sadness and Heartbreak - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2011 from Margaret Paul"I've finally learned how to lovingly hold my heart when my heart hurts from the pain of disconnection with loved ones," said Meagan in our phone session. "I've discovered that it's possible to feel peaceful even in the midst of loneliness and heartbreak."Does it seem like a ...
Views: 3139(1 vote) - ***How Do I Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.You don’t. I’m sorry, but no matter who you are, who she is, and how many crazy skills in dating you have learned, you will never. ever get back that particular person. Why? It’s been programmed into us since the dawn of time, and it’s called COURTSHIP. There’s an actual set of ...
Views: 4269(3 votes) - ***How do you Make Others Responsible for Your Painful Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2011 from Margaret PaulWe have all learned many ways of trying to avoid or get rid of our painful feelings. Many of these ways are fairly obvious: addictions to substances and activities, staying in your mind rather than in your body, or judging yourself.Another major way we avoid or try to get rid of our painful ...
Views: 2792(1 vote) - ***How to Connect with Others - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2011 from Margaret PaulWe are inherently social beings, and feeling emotionally connected with another is one of the great joys in life. Yet, all too often, we feel lonely around another or others, wanting to connect and not knowing how. We may have learned numerous dysfunctional or unsatisfying ways of connecting, ...
Views: 2938(1 vote) - ***How To Meet Women - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.How to meet women is a different subject than where to meet women, and WHETHER you will meet women at all. Do you have particular goals with women? Or in the skill to meet them? Do you know what you even want in a woman? Or in what you will share with her? Do you want casual dating? Or a serious ...
Views: 3275(3 votes) - ***Oneness With God - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Have you ever felt the Grace of oneness with God? There are many things you can do to have this at will. ________________________________________ "Praying without ceasing is not ritualized, nor are there even words. It is a constant state of ...
Views: 2332(2 votes) - ***The 411 on Combating Cabin Fever: Five Relationship Tips - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from Dr. Diana KirschnerNow that winter has you closeted with your significant other, your love relationship can turn boring, irritating or downright infuriating. But you can turn this stuck-with-each-other situation into an opportunity—a great opportunity to have a breakthrough in your relationship using just ...
Views: 2965(4 votes) - ***The Law of Attraction - It's About Frequency - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Margaret PaulMany of us have heard of the Law of Attraction - that like attracts like. However, many are confused about what this really means.In my experience, like attracts like means that like frequency attracts like frequency. My high frequency attracts the things I want and my low frequency attracts ...
Views: 3098(1 vote) - ***The Law of Love - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2011 from Margaret PaulI have learned over my 43 years of counseling that no one heals without a personal connection to a spiritual source of Guidance.William was struggling with issues of shame and depression. He had struggled with feelings of insecurity and jealousy most of his life, despite years of inner work. ...
Views: 2728(1 vote) - ***The Power of Knowing What You Want - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover the great power in knowing what you want and not giving up. "What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists…and it becomes available only when you are in the state of mind in which you know exactly what you want…and are fully determined not to quit until ...
Views: 2045(1 vote) - ***The Way to Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago? "There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." ~Epictetus, AD 55-135 It's hard for ...
Views: 1398(1 vote) - ***When is it Helpful to Apologize? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Margaret Paul"When it is helpful to apologize?" asked Patricia, a client of mine, in one of our phone sessions. Her husband, Brent, often expected her to apologize and she was confused about when it was appropriate. The answer to this question is a little complex, because there are two different ...
Views: 4213(1 vote) - ***When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2012 from Margaret PaulFrequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth. A more accurate definition of selfish is expecting others to give themselves up and do for you what you can and need to be doing for yourself.Letting ...
Views: 3205(3 votes) - *Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help) - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaFreedom means different things for different men. For some, the main joy of relationships is challenge. They happily pursue a woman as long as they don't have her, but once they do, they start feeling trapped. These men feel as if excitement and new possibilities are now cut off. Once ...
Views: 27537(1 vote) - 3 Effective Parenting Techniques for Really Effective Parenting that Works to Produce Happy, Self-Disciplined Children and Teenagers - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2013 from Bonnie LiottaWe have all heard and used the word “rules.” When you go to a swimming pool there are a list of rules, which tells the child or teenager what not to do: no running, no diving, no eating, no drinking, no horse play, no, no, no. Are you getting the picture? It’s like the child is thinking, “What ...
Views: 1283(2 votes) - 3 Prominent Steps Required to Restore Love In A Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2012 from Justin HarigWhat are the prominent steps required to restore love in a relationship and marriage? How to restore love in your any type of relationship? A sheer number of couples seek for different ways daily to restore love in their relationship after it hits bottom low. Some feel hopeless and helpless ...
Views: 728(1 vote) - 3 Steps To Improve Your Conversation Skills - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Joshua UebergangCommunication is the secret to any happy life and relationship. You'll be surprised at how easy it can be to improve your conversation skills when you know the following three steps. Ask Better Questions You probably already know to ask more open-ended than close-ended questions. My ...
Views: 2115(4 votes) - 3 Surprising Ways Being "Selfish" Makes Your Relationship Happier - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Peggy SealfonSometimes you have to take a stand for your own happiness! I have a client who, on one hand, says she's always considerate and helpful to her husband, making valiant efforts to please him. But then, in the next breath, she complains that he treats her like a doormat. She continues doing ...
Views: 5806(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Receive Community - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Jennifer UrezzioIf you wish to receive more community, then you get to shed light on where you are not allowing that to happen for yourself. The following suggestions about where they noticed where they could open up more to receive more of their community came from some of the Business of Soul peeps. 1. ...
Views: 1392(1 vote) - 4 Tips To Keep A Healthy Sex Life - by Submitted on May 16, 2011 from Eng Hou NgWhen most relationship first begins, sex is full of discovery, intimacy and fun. Over time, this new-found excitement and intrigue starts to wane as demands of life may get too overwhelming to an extent that you begin to neglect your sex life. This does not mean you can no longer have a ...
Views: 1292(1 vote) - 5 Reasons Your Relationship Doesn't Work - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Erin HeavenRelationships are never cut and dry. There are so many varied dynamics at work. Not only do you have to consider the different interests, temperaments, and personalities involved, but there is also an energetic component that most people aren't ever aware of. We are essentially a collection of ...
Views: 2569(1 vote) - 5 Reminders to Help Build Stronger Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Chalene JohnsonYou're distracted and upset. The dull ache in your stomach has robbed you of your appetite. You just can't focus. Your day is a blur. You nearly ran a red light. The most recent events keep playing through your mind. Something is awry with one or more of your closest relationships. You ask ...
Views: 1355(4 votes) - 5 Signs that It's Time to Go - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2011 from Susie and Otto CollinsJessica is a mess. She has cried herself to sleep-- all alone-- more nights than she can even keep track of. Her husband, Charles, has been absent a lot of the time. He stays out all night, partying with friends or, when he does come home, he sleeps on the couch. When Jessica and Charles ...
Views: 2047(2 votes) - 5 simple steps to forget someone you love - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Raymond FohjemHow would you forget someone you love? Would you continue to dwell in the past memories and ruin your health through thinking or crying for the rest of your days? If you want to stop loving someone, you will and the process is completely easy to follow. We have many types of relationships but ...
Views: 19778(2 votes) - 5 Simple Tips to Keeping the Romance Alive - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Rachel MohebanRelationships take work. They don’t just magically happen and fairytales are never true. The truth is that being in a positive and healthy relationship requires attention from both ends in order to make it grow and work for the long term. If you, as a couple, have taken a turn for the worse, ...
Views: 1314(2 votes) - 5 Steps for Dealing With Anger After Infidelity - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from C Mellie SmithThe intense anger that you feel after discovering that your partner has had a sexual or emotional affair is a natural and appropriate emotional response to the injustice, betrayal, and pain that you are reeling from. Now, while the anger may feel like it is the primary emotion in your mind’s ...
Views: 1274(1 vote) - 5 Techniques On Winning Ex Back - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Amuro WesleyIn my last few articles, I discussed and even repeated various ways to get over breakup. In this article I am going to show you different techniques on winning your ex back such as:- 1. Apologize. If you are the one at fault, you need to take full accountability by apologizing. It is not ...
Views: 714(1 vote) - 5 Top Tips To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2007 from Chris GreenAre you like millions of other people who've endured the frustration of relationship breakdown? Perhaps you're disillusioned with love because relationship after relationship never lasts. Here are 5 reasons as to why many relationships breakdown to help you form lasting, happier unions. ...
Views: 5927(1 vote) - 5 Ways To Get Someone Who Doesn’t Know You To feel Comfortable Talking - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoYou have about ten seconds before a person decides, subconsciously, whether they like you or not. Also, the image or impression someone has of you the first time the person meets you will last the next seven time the person will come to meet you. All that to show how important and delicate it ...
Views: 4348(1 vote) - 5 Ways to Stop an Argument in Less Than a Minute - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Pat LaDouceurThe trouble with arguments is that they don't work. I'm not talking about a good debate, where you have some great ideas, and they clash, and you start a healthy back-and-forth that feels fun. I mean arguments – where tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, and you go around ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - 5 Wretched, But Liberating Romantic Truths - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2007 from Scott & Stephen PetulloThe love life realities we’ve discovered through our work since 1992 aren’t entirely easy to digest, especially for those with old-fashioned romantic values. Even we find some of them troubling. We’ve been accused of having fatalistic viewpoints, yet even though some of the below information ...
Views: 1094(1 vote) - 6 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Michael FehlauerBy Michael Fehlauer Long-term healthy relationships are possible. There are fundamental skills, as well as a perspective in the way we approach our relationships, that enable us to experience solid friendships. The people we allow into our world either add to our lives or subtract from our ...
Views: 4566(4 votes) - 6 questions to ask - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2013 from chari farmer ogogoSix Questions to Ask yourself 1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school 2. Name 3 friends who have helpfed you in a difficult time 3. Name 5 people who have taught you something worthwhile 4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special 5. ...
Views: 1261(2 votes) - 6 Ways Of Getting Over Breakups - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Amuro WesleyBreakups are extremely tough. Even if nobody likes to have their relationships ending that way, differences in the their thinking behaviour and lifestyles without being compromising to one another as couple inevitably led to that. Here are 10 different ways of getting over ...
Views: 801(1 vote) - 7 Little Communication Tips with Big Payoffs for Your Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Rhonda NeelyEven a few little changes can make a huge difference when communicating to your spouse, helping you reduce arguments and frustration. But most of all they’ll help you improve the state of your marriage. Isn’t that, kind of magical? 1. Wake up on the right side of the bed – The first 15 ...
Views: 1258(1 vote) - 7 Principles to Embrace in Creating Lasting and Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAlthough there is no proven formula that applies to all relationships, embracing a few key principles in your heart will reduce conflict and enhance the flow of love. These principles are valuable in friendships and business relationships, as well as in families, marriages, and intimate ...
Views: 853(2 votes) - 7 Secrets of Happy Couples - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Jonathan HuieWhy do some couples stay happy together for a lifetime, while others are in conflict almost from the beginning? Part of the answer is compatibility - making the initial choice of a partner with whom you share common values. Equally much, however, depends upon the choices each partner chooses ...
Views: 1961(2 votes) - 9 Playing Hard To Get Strategies That Keep Him Or Her Interested - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOnce you've piqued a man/woman's interest enough for him/her to be attracted to you, how do you keep him/her there? One way to enhance the attraction and keep his/her interest is play hard-to-get. Playing hard-to-get when done right is much more important than most people think, realize or are ...
Views: 7614(1 vote) - A Beautiful Smile and Perfect Teeth - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Jonaha KnaacikA beautiful smile and perfect teeth is something that everyone strives for nowadays, with the media stressing teeth perfection more and more. That is why more people are looking for a great cosmetic dentist Sandy or cosmetic dentist Draper that can make their teeth and smile look great while ...
Views: 786(1 vote) - A Fractured Fairytale - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2011 from Susan McNeal VelasquezI think I have landed on the underlying problem between men and women. The core issue. Probably the basic cause for all misunderstanding. Are you ready? Here it is. The story of Cinderella. Little girls are brought up with this story implanted in their brain at a very young age. Our ...
Views: 2076(1 vote) - Accepting Love - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from BHASWETI GEWHASBy Bhasweti Gewhas, Ph.D., C.Ht. Love is a high vibrational energy. In fact, it is the strongest energy in all living beings. The energy of love generates from within. To enjoy love we must look at our inner-self and appreciate our innate nature. Love also means that we introspectively study ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - Advice And Tips On Relationship - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Amuro WesleyEverybody wants to be happy, especially in a relationship. However, the reality is that the relationship can be difficult especially in dating and marrying. Here is my advice on relationship especially for you when you think you are giving my best but your partner thinks otherwise. To ...
Views: 714(1 vote) - Alcoholism in a Relationship - When to Stay, When to Leave - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Jonathan Huie"Alcoholic" is one of those words that raises high emotions. We tend to think of an alcoholic as someone who is violent, dangerous, and self destructive. We may also visualize an alcoholic as being selfish and not caring about anyone but themself. Sometimes those stereotypes are appropriate, ...
Views: 1856(2 votes) - Allowing Our Loved Ones To Be Human - Putting People on a Pedestal - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don’t seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting ...
Views: 2284(1 vote) - Always Being Nice - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellWomen tend to always do things they don’t want to do because they don’t want to seem unkind. They want to be labeled as being nice. They take comments from others, food orders that are less than satisfactory, to treatment from their partners that is below their standards. How do we stop reacting ...
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