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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Your Relationship Breakup: Was It Complete Failure or Just Complete? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve tried. You really have. You loved this man, you believed he truly was your “happily-ever-after.” You wanted this to be THE relationship of your life. When things started going downhill, you read all the self-help articles, more books than you can count, went to couples counseling ...
Views: 2939 - Your Relationship is Over What Next? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Chris RobertsNothing is as hard as trying to cope up with a relationship when it is over. What started as two hearts coming together into a wonderful relationship suddenly encounters bad time and breaks up causing a lot of pain. Usually the break up is connected to the heart as it all started there. So the ...
Views: 872 - Your Relationship Reflects Who You Are - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Susan DerryThe state of our relationships in many ways is a reflection of who we are. Just as a thorn bush does not grow apples, being angry and bitter inside does not tend to produce happy, contented relationships. Too often how we see our partner says more about us that it does about them. If we are ...
Views: 2340 - Your Relationships C*A*N Last Forever - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFor me, one of the saddest things to see is a relationship between two people who previously professed their deep love for one another now entering its final stage of dissolution. The divorce rate in this country is tragically high. When I was young and naive I believed that all you needed for a ...
Views: 1466 - Your Spiritual Guidance for August 2020--YOU GOT THIS!! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonI feel this is a time of sadness for some of you because you feel stuck in a relationship or marriage you feel is not going to change. You have to speak to the Universe about the partner you desire. Honest and conscientious. Devoted and friendly. Educated and determined. Be specific so that you ...
Views: 1102 - Your Spiritual Love Reading for October - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonThere’s no sense of you wasting time arguing or being involved with petty squabbling because this will get you nowhere. Adding fuel to the fire will just make things worse. The initial stages of your relationship is progressing. You need to focus on future plans and put in the required amount of ...
Views: 1065 - Your Success is Defined by Your Definition of Success - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Judy WidenerIt's common to watch as others become successful, then beat ourselves up because we're not getting as far as fast as they are. It's hard not to fall into the trap comparing ourselves to others. So how do we avoid it? First, let's explore the concept of success. What does the word success mean ...
Views: 1443 - Your Weekend Love Advice from Spirit - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonThis is a signal to walk away from what you’re contemplating. Pursuing it will only bring about a difficult situation you will be sorry you got yourself into. Stay away. Spirit has a plan, and that plan is to place you in front of the right person at the right time. You have met or are about to ...
Views: 1052 - Your Wife Wants Space! How to Handle This in a Compassionate Way - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2012 from Gillian ReynoldsThe day a man marries he's doing so with a full heart and the very best intentions. You'd be hard pressed to find a man who recently wed who will say that he doesn't believe his marriage will last. People just don't take the walk down the aisle or make the emotional commitment if they don't ...
Views: 17134 - Your Winter Wedding Invitation Inspiration - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2008 from Calvin BaileySo you've decided to have your fairytale winter wedding? Congratulations! Now comes the one step that will create an ever increasing anticipation in the hearts and minds of the guests you invite. The step of creating, then delivering your invitations, asking family and friends to share your ...
Views: 621 - Your “Self-Awareness Score” is Directly Linked to Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Doron GilMany who fail to cultivate a successful relationship often ask me “What’s the secret to succeeding”. As I explain to them that “the secret” is Self-Awareness, they often are surprised. They admit they have heard many “tips” and “words of wisdom” how to go about developing a satisfying ...
Views: 1940 - You’re Ready for Change – Good for You! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2011 from Curt GorlickAre you finally at the point in your life when you’re ready for change? Do you really want to change or are you hoping other people and circumstances will change? If you’re hoping people and circumstances will change then you can stop reading this article now and be prepared to see ...
Views: 1010 - You’re Ready To Get Married, But He Isn’t… What’s Going On? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Kara Oh“Often a man gives up his dreams: dreams of being a bachelor and dreams of the work he desires. Not only is he giving that up, but, if marriage and family have been your priority, you’re getting your dreams fulfilled.” Men Made Easy We laugh and joke all the time about how men don’t want to ...
Views: 10081 - [Video]How Do I Tell Him I Have Herpes? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerIf you are over 40 and dating, it is extremely likely that you have something about your past or your present you’re afraid to share when you meet new men. As I talked about in my last Grownup Girls’ Night Out, there is a good time AND a good way to talk about your ...
Views: 1455 - Dating: Can Being Needy Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one goes on a date, they may find that they are able to be themselves, and this is going to show that they feel comfortable in their own skin. Therefore, even if they are at a point in their life where they want to be with someone, they are not going to come across as being needy. The ...
Views: 1297 - Intimacy: Can Feeling Worthless Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things that people need in order to have a fulfilling existence. When these things are in place, one can feel as though they are on the right track. Close Connections One of the things that this is likely to include is having people in their ...
Views: 1298 - Online Dating: Should Someone Take It Personally If Another Person Goes Silent On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they wanted to start a new relationship, they might decide to join an online dating side. This could be seen as the best way for them to find someone to be with. No Shame In the past, online dating was frowned upon, and this was partly because it was ...
Views: 1317 - Relationships: Can A Man Have A Healthy Relationship With A Woman If She Has A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to meet a woman who he had a good connection with, he might want to take things further. So, in the upcoming weeks and months, he could take the time to get to know her better. A Better Understanding Through taking this approach, it will give him the opportunity to see if ...
Views: 1506 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Believe That Their Partner Will Leave Them? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, there is no guarantee that it will last for a certain amount of time. It could last for a few months, a few years, or it could come to an end when their life comes to an end. Two Sides Now, this is not to say that this is something that is completely ...
Views: 1172 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to connect with others, and then there are others who are unable to do so. When one can do this, there is a strong chance that they are going to be used to having people in their life that they are close to. One on side this could mean that they will have ...
Views: 1317 - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Attracts Controlling Men? - by Submitted on May 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can have the desire to be with a certain type of man, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. There is then the chance that the kind of guy she ends with is completely different to the one she had in mind. Not a Problem Nevertheless, she could find that this is ...
Views: 1307 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Be In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to start a new relationship, they might think about where they can find someone to be with. Alternatively, they could simply join an online dating site and see what happens there. There could also be moments when one goes out in the evening to different places, and there might ...
Views: 1145 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Someone Is No Longer Willing To Put Up With Other People's Projections? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people have the tendency to take responsibility for what takes place within them, there are others who don’t. Due to this, it can be normal for someone to believe that what is taking place externally has nothing to do with what is going on internally. It is then going to be ...
Views: 1523 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Two People Put On An Act During The Start Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together for the first time, it will give them the chance to see how they get on. This will also give them the opportunity to find out about each other, to see what their values are, and what they hope to achieve it the future, for instance. The First Step What happens ...
Views: 1263 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act As Though They Are An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won’t believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals. It will be as though other people have nothing going ...
Views: 898 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Fix Others When They Open Up? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the best thing that someone can do for another person, when they are going through a challenging time, is to simply be there for them. So, when one is in the other person’s presence, it will be vital for them to be completely present. No Agenda This means that one is ...
Views: 1499 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf woman was to focus on an area of her life that is not working, she may begin to think about how she is unable to find a man who is available. This could be how her life has been for a short while, or it may have been this was for as long as she can remember. There is Hope When she can ...
Views: 1312 - You Don't Need Anyone To Love You! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon for someone to say that they want someone to love them, and this is what will motivate them to look for another person to be with. They might believe that everything will be fine after they have found someone like this. At an emotional level, they are likely to feel empty, ...
Views: 1069 - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop Someone From Realising When A Friendship Is Over? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked why they use social media, they may say that it’s because it allows them to stay in touch with their friends. It could be said that this is not much of a surprise, and this is because this is how social media is often portrayed. One of these sites has even promoted ...
Views: 1440 - ‘TIS THE SEASON OF RECEIVING! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThat’s right. It is not easy to Receive. Some of you might question this statement and might be thinking: “Hey, bring on that diamond necklace or that new set of golf clubs!” – but just sit with it and see how it does make sense… As always, as presented by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly ...
Views: 472 - ‘TIS THE SEASON OF RECEIVING! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThat’s right. It is not easy to Receive. Some of you might question this statement and might be thinking: “Hey, bring on that diamond necklace or that new set of golf clubs!” – but just sit with it and see how it does make sense… As always, as presented by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly ...
Views: 639 - “Am I Fertile?” Fertility Tips to get Pregnant fast! - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Olivia HelmHave you found yourself asking the question “Am I fertile?” This is something many couple trying to conceive ask themselves over and over. Did you know that fertility involves both you and the love of your life, yup your husband? It’s true, there are steps both men and woman can, and should ...
Views: 1582 - “Attachment and Flight” - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Sheryl Paul“Something valid and necessary takes flight when it senses deep attachment, and this flight also seems so deeply rooted as to be an honest expression of soul. Our ultimate goal is to find ways to embrace both attachment and resistance to attachment, and the only way to that reconciliation of ...
Views: 1615 - “Experiences From The Flow (23): The Ex Returns! Part 1.” - by Submitted on May 01, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“After taking months to recover from a brutal heartbreak, out of nowhere, the Ex returns. She hands me a belated Christmas gift (a small stuffed toy), wraps her arms around me, buries her head into my shoulder and says, ‘I love you.’ Uncomfortably, I accepted her gift and returned her embrace ...
Views: 1041 - “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent. I would say that even if someone doesn’t have a borderline personality or even know ...
Views: 744 - “I knew it was over!” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Australia and Bali in 2003, I started to change quite rapidly. Before I had been away, I had only read a few books, and these were books that I had to read for school. But after being drawn to a book whilst I was in Australia, I was now reading on a regular basis. ...
Views: 1258 - “I Think You Expected Too Much!” - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days after my father passed away in august 2011, I went to Ibiza for just under two weeks. At the time I was in two minds about going away: part of me felt I should stay at home, and another part of me felt that it would be good for me to get away. The mentor that I spoke about in the ...
Views: 1179 - “I Thought All Women Were The Same!” - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI started speaking to a woman who was a few years older than me on an online dating site and, before long, she called me up. As we hadn’t been speaking for very long this surprised me, and what also surprised me was that she opened up about her own history. This was something that took ...
Views: 1510 - “I Was Completely Ignored!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA little while before I headed to Bournemouth for New Years Eve, in 2012, I had been texting a woman I had met online. At this point, I didn’t know a great deal about her, but I was keen to meet her. I think it was just after New Year’s Day that we arranged a time to meet and, when I met ...
Views: 1479 - “Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own.” - by Submitted on May 10, 2011 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriWOMEN 1) A good woman is like good wine—— she gets better with age. 2) Types of women: hot stuff; foxy; hot chick. 3) Good communications is when a woman talks and a man listens. 4) Men hang; women gather. 5) Be the woman that is a breath of fresh air rather than the cloud that bring a dark ...
Views: 1392 - “Set aside ego, resolve a misunderstanding and see how good you feel.” - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Rahul KapoorMisunderstanding and conflicts are part and parcel of everyone’s life; it is not possible to eliminate them from our lives. However, converting them into ego battles and not resolving them can take away the joy and happiness out of our lives. Life is so unpredictable, so, let’s stop the game ...
Views: 1170 - “She Was Emotionally Unavailable!” - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met the woman who I would go on to spend a number of months with in 2013, I remember seeing her from a certain angle and thinking about how much she looked like my mother. It wouldn’t be accurate for me to say that this was something that I consciously thought about, though, as this was ...
Views: 1211 - “This Guy Was Great At Approaching Women!" - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2007, I started to look for information on how to improve my success with women. After I had been reading about self-development for quite some time, this seemed like the next step. During this time, I heard about a community that existed to help men improve with women. If ...
Views: 1247 - “This Was Someone Who Was In Touch With Their Emotions!” - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I got back from Mexico in 2014, I started spending more time with a friend who I had met a few years before. This was someone who I had met whilst I was at a social club. I remember seeing someone who was friendly and outgoing, and I felt the need to go and talk to them. At ...
Views: 1319 - “We Were Together In A Past Life!” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been on the path for a number of years, I ended up doing a fair amount of healing work around my own path lives. At the time, this appeared to be something that would allow me to make progress. Once I stopped doing this, I rarely thought about past lives. This all changed many ...
Views: 1022 - “Why Did He Ask To Delete My Number?” - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Lorraine JacksonDear Lorraine, I met a guy a year ago. We dated weekly for 2 months. Our dates were fun and passionate. Then after that he started asking me out on dates every couple weeks or so for the next 4 months. The dates were still very passionate and so much fun. One day he started to invite me ...
Views: 7214 - Relationships: Are Relationship Problems Caused By Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to fixing something, it is not uncommon for some kind of diagnosis to take place. Once this has taken place, the appropriate action can then be taken, and before long, it could be back to normal. Alternatively, someone could find that something doesn’t work and instead of ...
Views: 1565 - Relationships: Can A Bad Relationship Cause Someone To Believe That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are in relationships that could be described as ‘functional’; there are others who are in relationships that could be described as ’dysfunctional’. And as a result of this, their experience on this planet is going to be radically different. One Experience ...
Views: 1539 - Relationships: Do You Push People Away When They Trigger Your Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings. The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ...
Views: 1640 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Treat Others How They Would Like To Be Treated? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to treat someone with respect, there is the chance that they will get a certain response. Whereas if they were to treat someone with disrespect, there is the chance they will get a completely different response. When it comes to the first example, one might expect another person ...
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