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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- *Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help) - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaFreedom means different things for different men. For some, the main joy of relationships is challenge. They happily pursue a woman as long as they don't have her, but once they do, they start feeling trapped. These men feel as if excitement and new possibilities are now cut off. Once ...
Views: 27536(1 vote) - Healthy Relationships: Assessing the Emotional Safety - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2007 from Lisa KiftCouples seek relationship counseling for numerous reasons. As a professional who works with many different couples with a variety of issues, I’ve identified one similar thread that runs through all of them. Their relationships lack in varying degrees of “emotional safety.” Typically, the ...
Views: 1243 - Stop the Defensive Behaviors and Start Communicating - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Jennine EstesDefensive behavior is one of the leading causes of on-going painful conflicts within a relationship, the type which can lead to long term damage. Defensive behavior sends the message to your partner that their experiences and ideas are wrong, and that you are in the right. However, as you may ...
Views: 10784 - Great Relationships Turn Negatives into Positives - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2007 from alex blackwellInstead of dwelling on the parts of your relationship you aren’t happy with or letting them upset you or cause tension, make them positive by turning the negatives into an action list for the relationship. You may have heard the expression: “When you are given lemons – make lemonade.” Overtime, ...
Views: 1179 - Office Romance: Worth the Risk? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardShe regularly sees her handsome coworker at the coffee pot. In fact, she has started drinking more coffee just to increase her chances of an encounter. He occasionally sees her in meetings and tries not to stare. They both know there is a spark between them, but they have been trying to act ...
Views: 2028 - All Work and No Dating? Find Time to Find a Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardYou love your new job and you are working 60 hours a week. After work, you head to the gym for an hour of exercise, and then drag yourself home to fix dinner, spend time with the kids and sleep. You spend your weekends doing laundry, grocery shopping, arranging play dates for the kids and maybe ...
Views: 1490 - Fireworks All Year Long! - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2007 from Mark WebbHas your relationship fallen into a routine in which the passion has fizzled or perhaps even been extinguished? How would you like to rekindle the spark that used to burn so passionately? You may have a solid marriage that has weathered the storms of life, but this can still lead to ...
Views: 755 - Table for Two? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2007 from Dielle CiescoHere is a math problem for you. You are in love. He’s perfect…everything you ever dreamed. He even loves you back. It’s a miracle! As he opens the really expensive restaurant door for you, you are quite sure you make a beautiful couple as you walk arm in arm toward the maitre d. Now, for ...
Views: 708 - You Get Out of It What You Put Into It - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2007 from alex blackwellIf you want the best your marriage or relationship can offer, then you need to put your best into it. The amount of energy you give your relationship will determine the degree of passion and its long-term success. Successful relationships just don’t happen; they happen because both partners ...
Views: 1265 - Building Quality Long Lasting Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2007 from Don McNamara CMCDon’t you get a little weary listening to all the experts trumpeting, then droning on-and-on that ‘it’s all about relationships’. It troubles me since no one has taken time to analyze what it takes in developing quality long-term relationships. It’s important because all of us in one degree or ...
Views: 941 - Real Love vs. Romance: Why Settle For Crumbs? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2007 from Gayle GoldwinRomantic love is a modern invention, a myth born of Dependency and Need. It did not exist in prehistoric times because the predominantly matriarchal societies that existed then didn't make women dependent. They didn't restrict women's wealth-producing activities or confiscate their rightful ...
Views: 5323 - Reawaken the Lost Romance After Children - Tips to Rekindle The Flame - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2007 from Danette HibberdHas the romance in your relationship survived after children? Can the absent love and sex be rekindled? Learn to reawaken the romance of yesterday. Many couples are both emotionally and physically drained as a result caring for children and lovingly watching them grow. Usually both parents ...
Views: 2429 - Heal Relationships This Crazy New Way - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreWhen any event happens - when ANYthing happens in your personal reality, it brings up thoughts and feelings. A certain amount of thought; a certain amount of feeling. Together, those thoughts and feelings possess a certain amount of VOLUME. Someone makes an insulting statement to you... ...
Views: 1192 - On Soulmates: 1+1=One - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2007 from Stacie ColeOn Soulmates: 1+1=One Many people have asked me over the years if I believe in the concept of "Soulmates." My answer has always been consistent: If you believe you are meant to be with "the one," then you are. On the other side of it, if you find that belief not resonant with how you feel, ...
Views: 1013 - Using the Law of Attraction to find True Love - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2019 from Leon EdwardIt is natural for everyone to want to find a special someone to share their life with. Everybody dreams of one day meeting their real soulmate – someone who shares their dreams and ideas and someone they feel totally happy and comfortable with. For ...Using the Law of Attraction to find True ...
Views: 8884(4 votes) - 10 Rules for a Great Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2007 from alex blackwellEffective and mutually beneficial relationships do not need to be complex or difficult to develop and maintain. Often times when relationships or marriages fail it’s because one or both partners just give up. In successful relationships, both members work at building and growing the relationship ...
Views: 2944 - How To Stop The Fighting In Your Relationship - by For some couples fighting is the fire that keeps their relationships alive. It lets them know the other cares. Many are determined to win a battle that never ends. Others try to right the wrongs they have experienced in the past with someone new. Unfortunately, this kind of behavior is doomed to ...
Views: 845 - Relationships - by One of the things that strikes me about relationships is that this is an area of great challenge for very many people, and that we are currently having to look at our thinking about relationships in a way that people of our parents' generation didn't have to.
Last weekend, I completed the ...
Views: 733 - E-Arguing: A New Concept in Conflict - by Email, oh joy! It is fabulously fantastic! Countless office hours have been lost to lovers sharing secrets and saucy suggestions on the electronic highway. This terrific tool facilitates global communication. We are able to contact people regardless of where they are in the world. We can ...
Views: 790 - Achieving Love and Happiness Within the Framework of Your Own Life - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2007 from Deborah LeighPersonal Prophesy intuitive readings center on choice and change as powerful instruments to help us achieve a greater sense of happiness and stronger loving relationships within the framework of our own lives. Many of you might be wondering, "What in the world is the 'framework of my own ...
Views: 1819 - You Are Somebody's "10" - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, JULY 20, 2007 You Are Somebody's "10" In desperate moments, we just want somebody to have dinner with … but in our heart of hearts, we want to be cherished. We want to be completely known and loved by somebody who thinks we're ...
Views: 863 - Regaining Control of Your Emotions After a Break-Up - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2007 from Paul GermanThey say that breaking up is one of the hardest things to have to go through, even more so if the break-up in question is your marriage (and subsequent divorce) or the death of someone close to you. It’s hard to know how to handle the rollercoaster of emotions that you’ll undoubtedly be feeling, ...
Views: 6382 - Your New Best Friend - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreYou know the best thing I got going for myself? Deep down inside, where it really counts, I love and accept myself. I'm at peace with who I am. Not totally. But enough. I am my own best friend. Who's your best friend? For some, it's the Marlboro Man. Or Mr. Jim Beam. Or the U.S. Sugar ...
Views: 1340 - Prescription for a Broken Heart - by Being heartbroken is a pain that no one can understand until they have experienced it for themselves. You obviously have, therefore are aware of how fragile your heart is right now. Healing a broken heart will take time, but is not impossible, though it may feel that way at the time. It is never ...
Views: 2025 - Tracking down your Soul Mate - by Sure, we all dream about meeting the right person. . . the one that we are meant to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all fun and easy, but the real question is, where do you find this soul mate of yours? Fate? Well yes, if you believe in fate, then yes, it will have something to do with it, ...
Views: 693 - Recipe for a Healthy Relationship - by First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a ...
Views: 884 - Why Men are Afraid of Investing in a Serious Relationship and Why They Should Be - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2007 from Marci CraneThere is a rumor and it goes like this: Men are afraid of getting involved in a serious relationship. They are the “vagabonds.” The exasperating, peripatetic meat-eaters that won't put down their clubs and stay for dinner. Whatever will the cave women do? Ladies. There is ...
Views: 4701 - Staying In The Energy Of Love-Conscious Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Anita AsmanAt the beginning of a relationship, it is easy to love. You don't have to do much to receive love. Both of you give and receive, like in a wonderful dance. We tend to believe that love should remain like this forever. In reality, love is a continuous state of being. Love is not something ...
Views: 718 - Five Ways to Increase Intimacy in Your Mid-Life Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Casey DawesWhile many think of sexual relationships when they hear the word “intimate,” the true meaning of the word is much broader than that. To be intimate, according to the American Heritage Dictionary, pertains to one’s deepest nature. For most women, and a significant segment of men, the best sexual ...
Views: 1873 - Re-enlivening Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Sharon WalkerHow is your relationship with your significant other these days? Are you aware of the preprogrammed patterned games you play with each other? Are you willing to become conscious and choose to really look at where you are and choose where you desire to go with the love in your life? Do you ...
Views: 997 - When to Have a Reading - Chichen Itza and More - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Semiramis AppiamoThere is a reason why Chichen Itza again tops the list of 7 wonders of the world. One very good time to have a reading is at the change of the season, like vernal equinox and summer solstice. Another good time to have a reading is when you're in a transition - divorce, marriage, a new baby, ...
Views: 1840 - Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Anita JacksonIt is important to make love work in our relationships. Stay true to yourself, is one of the most important pieces of relationship advice that I would give. You must know what you want. You must know how you want your relationship to be. You must use your imagination, one of your faculties, to ...
Views: 1335 - You Can Have It All in Your Love Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Susie and Otto CollinsAfter many years of being in a love relationship, you might be asking yourself: “Can I have it all?” It’s a good question and here’s what we find in our experience working with couples…. --A couple may have friendship or compatibility, but little or no passion. --A person might feel like he ...
Views: 915 - *The Greatest Gift - What Is It? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaThe greatest gift we can give one another in a relationship is our true selves – being who we are. For some this is not difficult, but for most it takes practice to take off the masks and become real. At first it can seem frightening to stop playing games, and just be. However, much of the ...
Views: 7072 - Make "The Judge" Sit Down - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2007 from Lori RadunIs everything always what it seems? A daughter blames her mother for staying in an unhealthy marriage. A neighbor drinks too much and is ruining his health. This child is disrespectful because his mother doesn't discipline him. As human beings, we are quick to "judge" others and even ...
Views: 960 - Attracting Healthy Relationships - by I have often said that there is no one in my life that I don’t want there. In consideration of the thousands of people that I’ve encountered over the past half century, I’m pleased to report that no one who chooses to come around me is abusive, resentful or parasitic. Of course, it wasn’t always ...
Views: 772 - The 4 Most Important Things In A Good Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2007 from Kip WinsettFor all of the formulas and words of advice and techniques and tips and artifice that have been published on good relationships, these are the 4 most basic and by far the most important. 1. You 2. The other person 3. Knowledge 4. Understanding A good relationship, like almost anything, else is ...
Views: 1726 - How to Cure a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2007 from Paul GermanEvery day thousands of people are hurt by break-ups, divorces or the death of a loved one. Some seem to plummet into the abyss of broken hearts and others appear to brush it off and go on. So what’s the difference between these people? They both feel the hurt acutely. It may be only a matter of ...
Views: 915 - Why Do You Want to "Communicate" With Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2007 from Margaret PaulWhen partners are having problems, they often say that the problem is communication. What exactly does this mean? What are they trying to communicate? There are various reasons for communicating: 1. Sometimes we communicate to offer information about ourselves, such as, "I'm going out for a ...
Views: 3175(1 vote) - Dealing with Others - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2007 from Lau Poh ChaiIn all purpose of magnetism to individuals, you are urged to remember that your very key goal, always and primarily, is an agreeable feeling within their minds. You have to never try to provoke a appearance to act your way until you have comprehensively conventional in him a good feeling toward ...
Views: 884 - 7 Signs Your Honey May Cheat - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2007 from Dr. Gilda Carle7 Signs Your Honey May Cheat By Gilda Carle, Ph.D. Reprinted from MSN.com Dating & Personals – with Match.com Most of us — even the not-so-jealous types — know that feeling of, “Is my love really working late… or could this person be two-timing me?” ...
Views: 1792 - Dear Prince Charming - by Dear Prince Charming Or can I call you Charming? We've known each other so long, really from grade school. My mother plied me with fairy tales like I'm sure alcoholics ply themselves with drink. And I believed it. I believed that if I were good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, you'd come ...
Views: 944 - Don't Compare Partners - by Have you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past, and finding your current partner lacking? Worse yet, have you found yourself telling your current partner he or she is being compared to someone in your past and falls short?
What is it we are really after ...
Views: 943 - Body Imagitis - by There is a terrible disease among us. It primarily affects women and, to a smaller degree, men. It is a killer of self-esteem, self respect and joy. It's called "Body Imagitis" and it strikes people from all walks of life.
Beautiful, heart-centered people stricken with this disease begin to ...
Views: 894 - Personal Freedom - by Many singles express concern about losing their personal freedom once they get into a relationship. They often cite this as one of the reasons they are still single. After all, no one likes to be told what to do or to ask permission to do something. This is true in most areas of our lives and ...
Views: 1018 - Five Ways to Improve Any Relationship - by Want to improve your relationships, both romantic and otherwise? Want to grow in intimacy and closeness with your friends, family, co-workers, your special someone? Then include the following five easy steps into your interactions with those important to you.
1. Acknowledge the big and the ...
Views: 920 - Compassion, Part 2 - by Having compassion toward others is a gift of connectedness you give yourself and a gift of presence you give others. While difficult to define, compassion is a way of being, and you will see the definition emerge among the three concepts presented here.
1. Compassion involves seeing others as ...
Views: 752 - Compassion, Part 1 - by "Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves."
~Unknown
Webster's Dictionary defines compassion as the sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. But the first step toward having compassion for others is having compassion for yourself. It ...
Views: 720 - Journaling: Why, When and How - by Question for singles:
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What do you do with your occasional feelings of loneliness, frustration with dating, perhaps frustration with yourself and/or the opposite sex? Do these feelings and thoughts run around and around in your head, interfering with your ability to think ...
Views: 811 - Overreaction - by Has the following ever happened to you? You are discussing an issue with your partner when the discussion suddenly turns into a heated argument. Neither person knows what happened or how to make it better. A battle ensues and lots of feelings are hurt.
This is overreaction in progress.
If ...
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