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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***The Real Truth About Divorce Rates - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an old saying among those who specialize in statistical data, and it goes like this – “Statistics are for liars and damn liars.” The famous Missourian, Mark Twain (Samuel Clemens) said it even better when he opined “It ain’t what you don’t ...
Views: 3833(28 votes) - ***Prenuptial Agreement - Is it for Prince William and Kate Middleton? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Prince William and Kate Middleton have dated each other since their days at the University of St. Andrews in England. However, some divorce lawyers say the second-in-line to the throne of England would be “well advised” to seek a prenuptial ...
Views: 4775(16 votes) - ***Romney Right About Marriage and Poverty - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Governor Romney was correct when he made the statement in the second Presidential Debate that “ . . . if there’s a two parent family, the prospect of living in poverty goes down dramatically. The opportunities that the child will be able to achieve ...
Views: 2675(21 votes) - ***The Enormous Economic Advantages of Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have found in our 30+ years of research on successful marriage around the world that being married has huge economic advantages. Doubters have challenged us to “prove it!” The latest proof is in the just released special report by the Heritage ...
Views: 2898(21 votes) - ***The Health Benefits of Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The health benefits of marriage, both physical and emotional, have been well documented since the 1850’s when a British epidemiologist by the name of William Farr concluded that the unmarried die “in undue proportion” to those who are married. He ...
Views: 3719(21 votes) - ***Will Marriage Improve With Time? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many travels around the world conducting our marriage research, we are often ask this question – “Does Marriage Improve With Age?” The answer is, YES! Here’s why. We have interviewed successfully marriage couples on six continents in 45 ...
Views: 4733(21 votes) - ***Keeping Your Marriage Strong While Raising Children - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Kids! We love them. We cherish them. They bring joy to our lives. When we have children in a marriage, we understand finally, and once and for all, what eternity means. While we are not immortal, we learn the meaning of everlasting life when we ...
Views: 7104(26 votes) - ***Can Marriage Survive the Isolation of Antarctica? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Understanding Antarctica and the challenges faced by anyone attempting to live and work there explains the adventuresome nature of the couples we interviewed. Antarctica has the coldest, driest, windiest, and harshest climate on Earth. Living ...
Views: 2311(20 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #1 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a lasting love. The key ...
Views: 1948(20 votes) - ***Love is Alive and Well in Antarctica - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Every once in awhile you meet extraordinary people! We had that great pleasure recently in Long Beach, California. Our lives will never be the same! We looked in the faces of love and saw an extraordinary marriage! We have seen this look before, but ...
Views: 3416(24 votes) - ***36 Great Celebrity Marriages - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Even though the media likes to make you think all celebrity marriages end in sensationalized divorce, what the media doesn't tell you is that there are many celebrity couples with great marriages. We have conducted an endless search of data ...
Views: 2391(19 votes) - ***How Can Our Marriage Survive Holiday Stress - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The holiday season is a time of celebration. It is a time to be with family and friends. It is a time to be with the one you love. The holiday season is not a time for stress! We have all seen it—the grandest of holiday plans come crashing ...
Views: 2529(19 votes) - ***Only Liars and Cheats Think Infidelity is Acceptable - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In a recent article, we discussed the “infidelity” of Arnold Schwarzenegger. The former Governor of California had a 25-year marriage with Maria Shriver. In our article, we pointed out how our three-decades of research on successful marriage on six ...
Views: 4783(19 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #3 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #3 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1813(19 votes) - ***What is the Best Valentine's Day Gift? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It is said that some 200 million stems of roses will be sold in the USA on Valentine's Day 2011. Imagine that! That’s a lot of expressions of love don’t you think! We Americans love Valentine’s Day. We relish the opportunity to express our love ...
Views: 4175(19 votes) - ***Marriage is Alive and Well in Canada - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We fell in love in Canada today. You can, of course, read that two ways. Those of you who have followed our writings and musings about love and successful marriage know that we fell in love with each other some 47 years ago. And it is true that we ...
Views: 2780(18 votes) - ***Morally Indefensible Notions About Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have never heard anything as outrageous as the views espoused in a book entitled, A Gift for Muslim Couple, by Maulavi Ashraf Ali Thanvi. Us being sick to our collective stomachs is a gross understatement of the outrage we feel about the garbage ...
Views: 2870(18 votes) - ***Positive Communications Can Strengthen Your Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The “heart of the matter” is this – successfully married couples report a high level of satisfaction with the way they communicate. They talk about everything and anything with each other—there are “No Sacred Cows.” Great couples attribute their ...
Views: 3928(18 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #2 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #2 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1978(18 votes) - ***Humorous Nicknames for Lovers - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over our 44 years of marriage we have met thousands of couples that deeply loved each other. We have interviewed many, many of them for our several books on successful marriage. In nearly every case, successfully married couples have an ...
Views: 6761(13 votes) - ***Arnold and Maria – Infidelity Always Leads to Bad Consequences - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Hard to imagine. People seemingly happily married for 25 years suddenly and surprisingly seek divorce. At 25+ years, divorce is, in the scheme of things, very unusual. Twenty-five years is a very long time for humans! It comprises about a third ...
Views: 4248(17 votes) - ***Making A New Year’s Resolution You Can Keep - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Are you tired of making New Year’s resolutions you know you won’t keep? We all do it. How about we do something different this year? This is the time of the year when so many of us make promises to ourselves and to others that we rarely ever ...
Views: 1865(17 votes) - ***Marriage Decline - Blame the Legal System - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Two recent and very powerful studies about the state of marriage in America offer irrefutable proof that marriage in America is in decline. A study by the Pew Charitable Trust, and another entitled the National Marriage Project at the University ...
Views: 3438(17 votes) - ***Trust is the Foundation of Love - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our interviews over the past 30 years with couples that had a successful marriage we are always struck by their undying trust in each other. They literally trust each other with their lives, their well-being, and their sacred honor. The words ...
Views: 3289(17 votes) - ***Self-Validation - How to Validate Yourself - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2011 from Margaret PaulFrom the time we are born, we need validation. Loving parents offer consistent validation to their children, validating their feelings, their perceptions, their gifts and talents, their particular form of intelligence, their interests, their kindness, caring, and intuition. You are very ...
Views: 8847(4 votes) - ***The 5 Things You Should Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzNegativism can easily creep into even the best relationships causing a pattern of negative actions and thoughts to overpower the marriage. The question often asked by couples is “How you can build positive interactions with each other on a daily basis so negativism doesn’t take hold of our ...
Views: 6169(28 votes) - ***Toilet Seat Love - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we say repeatedly, the little things matter in love and marriage. Do the little things and your marriage or loving relationship will prosper. Charley learned his lesson nearly a half-century ago! He grew up in a rural area of Missouri back ...
Views: 1974(16 votes) - ***Who’s the Emotional Vampire in Your Life? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2011 from Judith OrloffAs a physician, I've found that the biggest energy drain on my patients is relationships. Some relationships are positive and mood elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. I call these draining people "emotional vampires." They do more than drain your physical energy. ...
Views: 4253(4 votes) - The Difference Between Jealousy, Covetousness, and Envy in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerMany relationships have been destroyed over the jealousy issue. However, sometimes it isn't so much jealousy but envy and covetousness that is the real root of the problem. Here is a brief definition of each before we get into a lager discussion of these. Jealousy - The fear of losing ...
Views: 14432(4 votes) - ***Great Love Cannot Be Rushed - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.” This marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll is from Outside the Dog ...
Views: 2721(31 votes) - ***A Failed Relationship: Don't Make The Same Mistakes Again - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Marriages and relationships fail. Love sometimes ends as the flames of love die out. What started out with so much promise sometimes ends as a disaster. Now the challenge is how to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again. ...
Views: 2767(30 votes) - ***Is Marriage In Trouble in Middle America? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In Middle America, marriage is in trouble! So say W. Bradford Wilcox of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and Elizabeth Marquardt of the Center for Marriage and Families Institute for American Values in New York ...
Views: 2898(15 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #6 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #6 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 2044(15 votes) - ***The Current State of Marriage in Italy - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This week, we are on another one of our “love excursions!” As marriage researchers and writers (We have be engaged in this work for nearly three decades now!), we absolutely love to travel around the world and interview successfully married couples. ...
Views: 4171(15 votes) - ***The Current State of Marriage in Italy - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This week, we are on another one of our “love excursions!” As marriage researchers and writers (We have be engaged in this work for nearly three decades now!), we absolutely love to travel around the world and interview successfully married couples. ...
Views: 4171(15 votes) - ***Couples Want to be Alone Together - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the past several days, we have been in sunny southern California conducting interviews with selected celebrities including a former priest and his wife and couples with very famous last names. Tomorrow, we tape a segment of the television show, ...
Views: 4388(25 votes) - ***Love and Marriage in Ireland Today - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We arrived in Dublin, Ireland for a week of interviews on the Emerald Isle with successfully married couples. Our journey is part of our new "simple things matter in love and marriage" series and relates to our continuing search for great marriages ...
Views: 4576(32 votes) - ***Is It Necessary To Test The Loyalty Of My Man? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Guests on a recent morning TV show offered the following piece of “scientific fact” – “A woman will test the loyalty of her man each and every day!” Oh, really? As love and marriage experts for over three decades, we have NEVER had one single ...
Views: 2114(28 votes) - ***How Important Is Trust In Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Successfully married couples literally trust each other with their lives, their wellbeing, and their sacred honor. The words they use to describe the one they love more often than not include words and expressions like trust, honesty, loyalty, ...
Views: 3090(27 votes) - ***Debunking the “Hormone of Love” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Have you ever heard of the so-called “hormone of love” called Oxytocin? This hormone has been promoted in some circles as “promoting long-term attachment” between two people who purport to love each other. Some have even suggested a ...
Views: 4463(23 votes) - ***Put the Holiday Spirit in Your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it, holiday lights help put you in the spirit of the season. Like the holiday lights, the people you love and who love you light up your life. “Oh, there’s no place like home for the holidays, ‘Cause no matter how far away you ...
Views: 3368(23 votes) - ***Is Marriage Dead? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The institution of marriage is NOT dead! Statistically, there is substantial support for this view. According to the best estimates we can find, there were nearly 45,000,000 marriages worldwide last year. There were approximately 9,000,000 ...
Views: 2021(26 votes) - ***Never Go To Bed Mad At Each Other - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. On the Today Show a remarkable segment aired. It was remarkable not because it was good or enlightening, but because it wasn’t. In fact, it was downright misleading and irresponsible based upon the research evidence, and we want to comment on ...
Views: 5058(26 votes) - ***Do You Need Time Alone In Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our interviews around the world over the past 30+ years we have come to appreciate the wonderful advice we have received from happily and successfully married couples. At the top of the advice list from these couples is this simple notion – great ...
Views: 1977(25 votes) - ***Why do Some Find it Difficult to Make a Commitment to Love? - by Submitted on May 26, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Falling in love with another human being is easy, but making a commitment to love them forever is “up in the air” for many people. We like the term “up in the air” from the movie title for a whole bunch of reasons, primarily because it aptly ...
Views: 7411(34 votes) - ***Al and Tipper Gore’s Marriage – What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzLet’s face it, long time relationships sometimes end. And the simple truth is there isn’t always a compelling reason or reasons why. The separation of Al and Tipper Gore after 40 years of marriage is a good illustration of the “why” question – why did their love affair end after all these ...
Views: 8126(45 votes) - ***Are You Caring or Caretaking? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2010 from Margaret PaulCaring = giving to another from love, for the joy of it - as a free gift Caretaking = giving to get love, giving with an agenda attached, giving yourself upEven though the actions of caring and the actions of caretaking might look exactly the same, the intention is totally different, so the ...
Views: 5271(3 votes) - ***Are You or Your Partner Possessive? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2011 from Margaret Paul"I freak out when my husband even looks at another woman. I trust him not to wander, so I don't know why this upsets me so much.""My partner spends too much time with her friends and family. What's the point of being together if she's always gone a couple of nights a ...
Views: 5036(3 votes) - ***Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2011 from Margaret PaulA member of our website asked this question in our advice section:I've read several of the articles on the site, but have not seen anything mentioned about "chasing"after someone who is pulling away in a relationship. That has to be a form of protection against deeper feelings, though, ...
Views: 2874(3 votes) - ***Do You Feel Loved or Unloved? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2011 from Margaret PaulDo you feel unloved? Do you know what would make you feel loved?Ask yourself: Who do you feel loved or unloved by? Your partner? Your parents? Your children? Yourself? God?Feeling Loved or Unloved by Yourself and/or GodWhat does it mean to feel loved or unloved by yourself?You will likely feel ...
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