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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Should Women Avoid Men to Lower their Risk of Heart Disease? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAn unhappy marriage predisposes women to metabolic syndrome (the risk for obesity, diabetes, heart disease and stroke) according to a study by University of Utah psychologists (American Psychosomatic Society); by the way the unhappily married men in the study are just fine. Apparently, when ...
Views: 556 - The Female Bite - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2009 from Dr. Mona SpiegelSummer's a great time for evening walks, except for one problem - mosquitoes. Many couples like to walk at night. They'll be walking along, enjoying the cool air, when zap! One or both of them gets bitten. Mosquitoes don't discriminate between genders. I don't know how they choose their ...
Views: 1348 - Tips on Feeling More Secure in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondPity or genuine desire for connection? Watching Tom rapt in conversation with their guests made Roxy feel left out and unimportant. Almost as if he heard her wish, Tom asked her for her opinion of the movie they were all talking about. She could hardly speak. She didn’t want to be brought in ...
Views: 9791 - Relationship Magic 101 - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you want to believe in magical relationships--the click your heels three times--answer to having healthy, happy and intimate relationships? But does your own life make this desire look impossible? Do you sometimes think, if only I had a partner who was willing to do their fair share. Well ...
Views: 1071(2 votes) - Five Ways to Deal with an Emotional Hangover - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from Adele McDowellEver have one of those weeks when there is palpable, anger-inciting tension between you and a family member? Or you have had a crushing misunderstanding with one of your dearest friends? Or there is an incident at work that has had you mumbling obscenities under your breath and double-checking ...
Views: 8720(5 votes) - Two Ingredients of Good Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Jacqueline MarshallShowing respect is a way of demonstrating love. The feeling of love or affection doesn't have to be present in order to give it. When you show another (or yourself) respect, you are acting out of love. If someone said he or she loved me but consistently treated me with disrespect, I am ...
Views: 1615(1 vote) - More Men Now See a Marriage Counselor - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Lyn McDonaldCall them SNAG’s – Sensitive New Age Guys or men that are genuinely trying to rescue an ailing relationship. Our practice now sees as many as 75% of males seeking counsel. So what has lead to this new revolution? Once upon a time, the first stages of a marriage breakdown saw the wife looking ...
Views: 1257(1 vote) - Emotional Arguments and Explosions - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Donald WallachI’ve been working with a lot of couples over the years. One of the most common concerns they bring up are arguments that get too aggressive. Spouses end up getting emotionally hurt, upset and angry. While conflicts are a given in relationships, you can dramatically improve how you argue and ...
Views: 1878(3 votes) - ***How Will I Know I Can Trust Him? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words! Words are cheap. Actions mean everything! The ...
Views: 10944(39 votes) - When Love Hurts - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Michael Sean Symonds:So much has been said of friendship and love that it seems on one level redundant to even write about it. In my own life I have found insight, understanding, awareness and suffering, as I engage the pursuit of its experience and the never ending conversations that occur around the dance of its ...
Views: 1618 - The Challenge of Letting Go - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Gian Fiero |There comes a point and time in everyone's life when they need to let go. It's easier said than done, and even when most recognize the need to let go they can't do it. Letting go is about freedom; freedom that can only be experienced through the disconnection of the things - or the person - ...
Views: 2953(3 votes) - Early Signs a New Relationship Won't Last - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Gregory SmithThe following article originally appeared on www.midlifebachelor.com on June 14, 2009 ... Choosing to invest in a new relationship directly affects your own level of personal happiness especially in the near-term ... and so it is extremely important to keep your eyes and ears open, and be ...
Views: 7441(5 votes) - Toxic Relationships: Love Them, But Leave Them - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Maria MarYou’ve worked so hard to move forward, and you are finally manifesting the life you wanted. You’ve learned how to let go of self-sabotaging habits. But what do you do when what’s pulling you back is someone you love, or an old client to whom you have dedicated lots of time? I am talking about ...
Views: 11214(4 votes) - Is Marriage an Outdated Concept? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from William BerryAccording to the most recent statistics, the divorce rate, often quoted (even by this author in psychology classes) as 50% of marriages, is actually closer to the low 40 percentile. (Divorce Rate: It's Not as High as You Think, By Dan Hurley, The New York Times, April 19, 2005). But that does ...
Views: 11868(3 votes) - Do You Make or Break Your Romantic Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Cherry Norris"Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman" so writes Napoleon Hill in his iconic book, THINK & GROW RICH. According to Hill, men who accumulate large fortunes, gain power and fame do so to satisfy their desire to please women. If this is so, you have to consider: If a ...
Views: 1780(3 votes) - Tales from the Therapist's Couch: Why Smart Women Stay with the Wrong Guy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Jennifer GauvainAs a relationship therapist, I meet women every day who know they are dating the wrong guy. They are bored, they feel lonely, and their relationship is unsatisfying—yet they stay. Why? As different as the women are, their reasons are shockingly similar. Here are the top four reasons I hear over ...
Views: 1820(1 vote) - Release the Pressure - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaWe are so intense about our relationships that it sometimes feels like we’re in a pressure cooker! Here are a few suggestions to release the pressure, remember what is real and enjoy your relationships more. • Have more fun. Go for a drive. Take a walk or a hike. Cook a meal together. Watch ...
Views: 1435(3 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: How Can I Stop Freaking Out? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyLisa, I believe that a large part of my problem is that I am what you referred to as a “nightmare girl.” I don’t know how to be one of those “dream girls.” I can hold it together for anywhere from a few days to a few months, but I get sooooo incredibly insecure that I end up losing it. I ...
Views: 2906(5 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: Broken-hearted Swim Guy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I just got jacked around pretty good by a gal. I’m too nice, as people say, I just don’t want to play games. I haven’t done anything yet that can be construed as being a jerk about it. (Just an email venting a little, but nothing mean.) I have never been able to play the game ...
Views: 1768(1 vote) - 5 Things to Never Say to a Woman - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyIf you’ve ever said something you considered to be completely innocent, only to have your wife or girlfriend flip out, you may have stumbled on to one of these taboo topics: 1) “Relax” You may think you’re being helpful, but to us, it feels like you’re being dismissive of how we’re feeling — ...
Views: 2269(10 votes) - Crash and Burn-ology: 6 Signs There Won’t Be a Second Date - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyYou like him, but does he really like you? Is there any way to tell how well a first date is going? 1) What day of the week did your date ask you out? It’s generally a good sign if your date asks you out with a few days notice — it means he’s thinking about you and wants to lock in weekend ...
Views: 6630(3 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: She Wont’t Stop Calling My Boyfriend! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. I moved back with my parents temporarily because we were fighting a lot. While I was home, he was seeing this girl he works with. I was really upset about everything even though she said she never slept with him. She assured me that she ...
Views: 4771(6 votes) - *** Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is Emotional Dependency?Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, ...
Views: 7679(6 votes) - Are You Stressed Because of Someone’s Potential Reaction? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertI’ve written about how we can get stressed over what might happen, when we jump to conclusions. Here I’d like to focus on one variant of this situation, the one in which we can almost forecast what is going to happen when someone reacts to what we say or do and, as a result, we stop ourselves ...
Views: 2415(3 votes) - Are your thoughts causing your stressful feelings? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertThere is a prevalent theory making the rounds, time and again, that your thoughts are what create your emotions and therefore your stress. One of the expressions of these is what is called “Appraisal Theory”, which has been summed up as follows: Event ==> thinking ==> Simultaneous arousal ...
Views: 1974(3 votes) - You Can Only Be Replaced If You Let It Happen! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2021 from Dr Rick GoodmanIt was 1994 when the papers were delivered to my apartment; I had just joined the ranks of 50% of the population when my wife filed for divorce. As a single father my biggest fear was that someone would come in to my ex-wife's life and that person would eventually replace me as the figurehead ...
Views: 1580 - The BIGGEST Mistake Women Make with Men (without even realizing it!) - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2009 from Cherry NorrisGina is a great coach. She's smart, beautiful and successful. She's well traveled and well respected. She has great friends. Gina's life is full. Gina loves to make people feel special. She loves sharing ideas and giving advice. When Gina meets a man she likes, she gives him phone calls, ...
Views: 2317(5 votes) - Moving In Together: Do You Have What It Takes? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraA typical relationship has very important milestones: the first meeting, first date, first kiss and all the other firsts. Although some couple can be quite contented with taking things slow, there are some who believe that moving in together is the next step in taking the relationship to a more ...
Views: 962 - The Stimulus Plan - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“I am convinced, both by faith and experience, that to maintain one’s self on the earth is not a hardship but a pastime- if we live simply and wisely.” Henry David Thoreau Franklin D. Roosevelt is most famous for his statement “there is nothing to fear but fear itself.” He uttered these ...
Views: 580(1 vote) - The How-To of Relationship Confidence - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonRelationship Confidence! It begins by identifying WHAT you want that's missing from your relationship, and then learning how to craft a clear INTENTION that will support you in getting it. Intentions - What Do They Have To Do With Relationships? You may believe that intentions are mostly ...
Views: 1222 - Couples and Money: Don’t Let Financial Stress Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2009 from Karen McCallFinancial fear is creating tremendous stress for many couples. Yet, money problems can actually help couples draw closer together, rather than tearing them apart. The “statistic” that money is the number one cause of divorce is absolutely false. While financial disagreements may be the ...
Views: 4220(2 votes) - ***Does Online Dating Lead To Marriage? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Oh, the times, they are a-changing! This refrain is from a very famous Peter, Paul, and Mary song. And the truth is, people are finding love in different ways than they did is year’s past. Online dating is a reality today. According to recent ...
Views: 8128(37 votes) - Who's The Driver?: How to Stop Fighting and Start Communicating - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from John KuypersWho's The Driver? is an innovative communication method for solving power struggles for couples. Near and Far define two opposite styles of "driving" decisions in your marriage by using or NOT using your personal power and authority. Once understood, either person in the relationship can ...
Views: 2123(3 votes) - Is Your Partner the Marrying Type or Not? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen two people are in a relationship, it is often because of the love and special bond that they share. Whether or not there is an outright affirmation of commitment, the question of whether the partner is the marrying type or not will somehow cross the mind of anyone involved with another ...
Views: 1049(1 vote) - How To Improve Marriage And Slow Down Life At The Same Time - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEverywhere you look, things are moving at a fast pace. Hurry up is a common phrase. When I want something, I want it right now. “What? You mean I have to wait 45 seconds for the book I just bought to download? Where’d I put the number for my Internet provider, I need a faster connection!” The ...
Views: 1128(2 votes) - Finding the Love You Want: The Cure for Being Single When Nothing Else Has Worked - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Stefan GonickFinding the Love You Want by Healing the Inner Child with EFT Many people find themselves in an endless and frustrating search for love. They either have an very hard time finding a partner or end up having a series of unhappy and unsuccessful relationships. Why is finding love so hard ...
Views: 4516(17 votes) - On Being a Man - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I just want to say thanks for helping to transform me into a better man than I was! Growing up, I had a dad that was often not available due to work. He and my mother would frequently get into fights with him screaming and yelling (he never hit my mother however) but my limited time ...
Views: 1830 - Do Men Cheat More Than Women? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Mack TacticsSo who cheats more, men or women? This is a popular and controversial question. There aren't any exact statistics available on this, and the numbers would surely be innacurate, anyway. This is because when it comes to people admitting their cheating in polls and surveys, men tend to inflate ...
Views: 16649(3 votes) - Love in Same Sex Couples - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: Your book on Love makes many references to the love relationships of male/female couples. I am half way through the book and I have yet to see the principles of the book applied to same gender couples. Is there a difference? Or perhaps it is your belief that same gender couples ...
Views: 1049(1 vote) - Relationship Wish List - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaIt’s time to get real with your relationships. Whether you are currently single or in a relationship, I invite you to ask yourself the following questions because this is part of the process of healing your relationships. In doing this you can heal those from the past, embrace the present and ...
Views: 4918(5 votes) - *** Relationships: Giving Yourself Up Can Kill You - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from Margaret PaulYears ago, when on a book tour for our book, "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", my ex-husband and I had dinner with a couple on the East Coast with whom he had become friends. I connected with Allison (not her real name) immediately. Warm and open, I could see that she was ...
Views: 5654(8 votes) - Dealing with Difficult People - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWe all have difficult people in our lives, and unfortunately, we must deal with them to get things done in life. It can be your ex, your parents or your in-laws. It could be your employer, employees or co-workers. Sometimes it’s the store cashier, the customer service agent or another ...
Views: 5808(2 votes) - Emotional Freedom Technique: Empowering Tool for Achieving Success in Everything! - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Ellen RichterMaybe by now you have heard the buzz about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) but are not really sure what it is or what it’s used for. Emotional Freedom Technique is a simple, effective and powerful modality that is changing lives! It entails tapping on acupuncture meridian endpoints while ...
Views: 2675(4 votes) - Should You Snoop on Your Guy? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Lisa DailyOkay, let’s get past the fact that in our greatest moments of weakness or weirdness most of us may have inadvertently looked through our guy’s bedside table (for hand lotion!) while he was otherwise occupied, or casually inventoried the dry cleaning receipts, straw wrappers and lint in his ...
Views: 2614(3 votes) - Is He Mr. Right? Or Mr. Right Now? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Lisa DailyWe’ve all done it. We’re smack in the middle of a ho-hum, so-so, not going anywhere relationship. But, we don’t break up. We stay. We go out for linguini and clams every Friday night, have a sleepover every Saturday night, and continue on as though we might actually want to be with this ...
Views: 1975(15 votes) - Are You Crazy, or is He Cheating? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Lisa DailyThe weird hang-up calls. The erratic work hours. The stories that just don’t quite add up. You have the gnawing, sickly feeling that your man is cheating on you. But how do you know for sure? Finding signs of cheating is like pulling a stray piece of yarn in a pair of socks. It only takes one ...
Views: 1637(3 votes) - Crystal Clear Communications - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Hunter PhoenixOne of the biggest issues I've seen over the years working with clients is that of communications. So often, situations can go array simply for lack of crystal clear communications. Part of the problem is also part of the beauty; we all have different communication styles. And as much as this ...
Views: 1724(2 votes) - How to Choose a Couple Therapist - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Mark KauppWith couples divorcing and splitting up at the highest rate modern time, quality couple therapy is a must. And, finding a qualified couple therapist is essential. Only 14% of therapists in the United States that state they do couple therapy have actually had training in how to do couple therapy. ...
Views: 1822(1 vote) - ***Great Marriages Require Unencumbered Time - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Make no mistake about it – great marriages require unencumbered time! You have read our musings about the fundamental predisposition of every human being to have time alone – to have time only to their private thoughts. In our book, Golden ...
Views: 4145(37 votes) - Hooked Again! How to Break the Cycle of Relationship Addiction - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2009 from James KrehbielDana kept getting hooked in a relationship that was going nowhere. He came for counseling because he understood the self-defeating nature of his association with Kim. What he didn’t comprehend was how to break a convoluted connection that had a tight grip on his life. Dana confided that Kim ...
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