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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationship Advice: Handling conflicts in your relationship - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Tim KellisAnother media inquiry regarding handling conflicts: I’m not a yeller. I never have been. When my sister and I had knock-down fights as kids, she screamed and I talked or cried (or both). Actually, that’s how our fights play out these days. I also never yelled when arguing with my parents, and ...
Views: 1276 - Who Are You Looking For? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Violet LimBefore you jump into the dating game, you should have some idea of what you are looking for in a potential partner. Knowing who you are and what you want in life is the first step in figuring out what qualities you desire in the people you date. While no one will fit your list exactly, it is ...
Views: 648 - "Today", Tomorrow, and Hope - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOn the flight home from New York yesterday, after a 4-day whirlwind trip that included a guest appearance on the Today Show, a keynote speech at a cancer survivors’ conference, and getting to watch the Letterman show live in the Ed Sullivan Theatre with my son, Brett, I expected a crash. Not ...
Views: 929(3 votes) - High Maintenance Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is a high maintenance relationship? A high maintenance relationship is when someone is making you responsible for him or her in various different areas of life. Emotional High MaintenanceWhen a person takes no responsibility for their own feelings of safety, security, worth, lovability, ...
Views: 14368(3 votes) - How To Get Your Ex Back? Just Talk to Him - TALK! - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleI was watching the TV the other day and noticed the many talk-shows that are on. I then noticed how truly amazing it is that people can talk so much and say so little. Does it seem to be that way in your relationship? When people communicate, especially people who love each other, the things we ...
Views: 675 - How To Get Your Ex Back? Maybe it’s Time to Write That Letter. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleIn this technological age, we humans have found a vast number of ways to communicate (or not communicate) with one another. There’s texting, email, cel phones, fax machines, podcasting, FaceBook, etc. However, there is one thing that all these wonderful technologies lack - the personal touch. I ...
Views: 917(2 votes) - How To Get Your Ex Back? It’s Back to School for Both of You. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleAh, I think back on those days in my youth - school was such a large part of that growing up process. It was a wonderful time full of discovery and mastery. It seemed as if the whole world were open to me, I was ready to strike out and make a difference with all the new things I was learning. ...
Views: 617(2 votes) - How To Get Your Ex Back? Act Like You Really Love This Guy. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleDo you remember when you were just a young child? Do you remember play acting like you were someone or something else? There's a freedom in that. A child knows when he/she is safe and can let their imagination run wild - they can literally be anyone. Well, it's the same when it comes to your ...
Views: 1010(1 vote) - How To Get Your Ex Back? You Gotta Get Away From it All. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleYou feel the walls closing in around you. Your man is there with you, but not really there with you - know what I mean? You swear that if you stay in here another minute with him, you’re going to go absolutely crazy. It really doesn’t matter where it is, if you feel this way about your ...
Views: 599(1 vote) - How To Get Your Ex Back? Kissing is a Vital Part. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleYou remember how it was, right - that first kiss? Two people, wanting to know each other better, ready to risk it all just to get a taste of that “undiscovered country” of the other person. It starts with a glance, then you position your bodies closer and closer, there’s a sweet hesitation ...
Views: 835(1 vote) - How To Get Your Ex Back? You Gotta Reach Out and Touch. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleReach out and touch a person - see what happens. A touch can say so many things, especially today when so many of us are physically touching less than ever. Some are afraid a touch will be misconstrued. Some are afraid of being touched physically because of some past tragedy or trauma. But to ...
Views: 636(1 vote) - Save Your Relationship and Get Your Ex Back. - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Chris BelleSo, you've decided to get serious and do what you need to in order to get your ex back and save your relationship. Great. So what's next? How do you know your ex is really that "dream guy?" Where do you start? You know your friends and family really want you to be happy. But be careful - they ...
Views: 549(1 vote) - Are you a Toxic Magnet? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Maria MarAre you an unwilling, unconscious magnet for toxic people? If you often find yourself dealing with toxic people or if the effects of toxic encounters affect you more and for a longer time than they affect others, then you may be a Toxic Magnet. Just because you have a couple of toxic ...
Views: 4115(14 votes) - Is Low Self-Esteem a Stopper to Attracting a Lasting Love Relationship? Law of Attraction Life Coaching Can Be the Answer - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Nanette GeigerA woman named Janice from Colorado contacted me with a common concern about keeping a love relationship in her life. Janice is troubled and feeling unworthy and is wondering of the answer to the question: "How do I start to feel capable of a soul mate relationship"? Getting help from a Law of ...
Views: 1307(1 vote) - 3 Tips in Saving A Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Sean CauzeeFor the most part, you may be surprised at how many people have had problems with their relationships. Some help that you get from your friends may not be the proper advice, and lead you into making the wrong decisions. Read and get 3 tips in saving a relationship. Most women seem to think ...
Views: 850(1 vote) - Dealing with Resentment in a Relationship? Find out Why! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonHave you ever noticed the labels people have placed on you over the years? Have you been branded with comments like, “selfish” or “clean freak” In the resentment of the moment, have you also applied labels to people you know? The Label Me This- Brand You That contest is all about proving who’s ...
Views: 2511 - Everything is possible in nature - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI love being with nature, with trees, because of the way they relate. There is no "noise" in relationship with trees. There is no "little voice in my head", there are no stories, no "right way" to be, to talk, no "right thing to do". There is only space to be. There is no talking. I realized ...
Views: 564 - "My Mother, the Now" - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Cary BayerMY MOTHER, THE NOW By Coach Cary Bayer http://www.carybayer.com This is a happy story, though don’t be surprised or disappointed if it brings a tear or two to your eyes. It concerns my 88-year-old mother, who lives in a nursing home in Dallas and who’s now among the most present ...
Views: 704 - CAN YOU TRUST HIM? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jordana SandsTrust is vital in a good relationship, and of all the ingredients that create a really good relationship, trust is a biggie. How much should you trust? How soon should you give this trust? Are you jaded by some past jerk that lied to you or cheated on you? You don’t want to judge someone by ...
Views: 1368(3 votes) - Spousal Support - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Anilise StarreSpouses are of course independent thinkers and doers, who happen to be in a committed relationship with other independent thinkers and doers. It's no wonder marriage can be tough. "How do I get what I want?" (look to the right)..."Oh no, no, no, how do I get what I want?" (look to the left). ...
Views: 1189 - Heroes and Role Models: The People We Admire - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from James KrehbielI think that it is important to make a distinction between some heroic figures that we value and the role models that have impacted our lives. What are the characteristics that differentiate heroes from people who have acted as role models for us? How do heroes and role models affect our ...
Views: 9660 - Real Behavior Change: What does it take to break a habit? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Shelle Rose CharvetMotivation, Reinforcement, Support and Accountability Behavior change is not merely a matter of knowledge or skill. If that were true, then all the information campaigns on how to improve your health would have made behavior-related illnesses a thing of the past. And birth control information ...
Views: 2420(4 votes) - Influencing and Persuading Macho People at Work and At Home: The Macho Test - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Shelle Rose CharvetAre you Macho? Not sure? Take the Macho Factor Quiz! One of the most irritating aspects of day-to-day communication is trying to convince someone who takes a Macho attitude. Close colleagues are often dismayed to find that while amongst ourselves we can build on and critique each other's ...
Views: 1788(3 votes) - 3 Simple Yet Powerful Ways to Stay Connected to Your Partner - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsNo matter how long you and your partner have been together, it doesn't take long for the two of you to become disconnected. Between work and family demands on your time and energy, staying close to your mate can easily get lost in the shuffle. And from a place of disconnection, ...
Views: 1931(4 votes) - Surviving a Break-up - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Joanne ParrottaSo you’ve just gone through a devastating break-up. My heart goes out to you. There is nothing quite as painful as being dumped by someone you thought was the One. I know you’re probably feeling like your heart has been ripped out and stomped on and that your hopes and dreams have been ...
Views: 1458(3 votes) - The Healing Power of Love - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThis week my friend, Caroline Sutherland, a brilliant medical intuitive, shares her story with us on how she met her soulmate. When she was 40 a famous astrologer told her that her life” would begin at 60.” Not what she wanted to hear but at the age of 60 she found and married her soulmate, ...
Views: 587(3 votes) - When Two Guys Hold Hands.. - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDriving through the streets of Cochi, India in the winter of 2006, I saw two guys, mid 20's, rather masculine in their appearance, on a leisurely stroll. They were conversing, laughing, have a grand old time. But something was different. These two guys were holding hands. The guide proceeded ...
Views: 780(3 votes) - How to Recognize an Unhealthy Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachThere are 12 red flags you should be aware of before you commit to love. Whether you are a teenager or an adult, if you see any of these red flags early on in the relationship, look out and move on! Avoid setting yourself up for heartbreak and don’t become intimate with anyone you do not ...
Views: 1645(1 vote) - Why look at your past? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Michelle GottliebWhy look at the past? I can’t tell you the number of clients who have asked me that question in one form or another. What is the point of looking back? It will just bring me pain, or stir up old feelings of hurt or anger. It won’t help me to poke around in it, or so my clients often ...
Views: 1661(2 votes) - Giving and Receiving: Allowing Both - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Mara FisherGiving of oneself this is a challenge for many people and often around holidays seems to be on the minds of everyone I speak with. Am I giving enough? Am I giving the right thing? Who do I want to give to? Who do I have to give to? Can I afford to give? These are some of the questions that my ...
Views: 1488(2 votes) - Getting Over a Break Up - Find Out The Ways To Relieve The Pain - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Finley StewThe break up of a serious relationship carries the burden of emotional turmoil and injury. It can be one of the hardest moments of an individual’s life and understandably so, when the one person who was the focal point of your life has chosen to move away from you Getting over a break up will ...
Views: 1156(1 vote) - Answer The Question; “Why Am I Here?” An Explanation of Limitations, Business Success, Life Purpose, and Regaining Motivation - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from David SamuelWhen we are young we ask the question of why am I here. This is normal for most people. Some have stopped asking and forgot they asked at all, and others still ask no matter how old they are. We look for an answer, ask our parents, teachers, anyone, but do not find anyone who can give a ...
Views: 1651(1 vote) - What is your objective? (Communication is more than words) - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellI remember the year I felt eager to try out some new communication skills I was learning. I trusted they would help lessen confusion and help me to get more of what I wanted out of my relationships. When I spoke to one person I knew for many years, I was confused because my new skills seemed ...
Views: 1283 - It Takes Two Healthy Joyful Whole People to Make One Healthy Joyful Whole Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere is an American myth that two halves can come together in a loving relationship and become whole. However, contrary to cultural myths, close intimate relationships are not additive, where one half plus one half equals one. Close relationships are actually multiplicative. It is the whole ...
Views: 612(4 votes) - FEAR OF LONG TERM COMMITMENT? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Renee Piane/CampanellaFEAR OF LONG TERM COMMITMENT? THE SHORT TERM COMMITMENT SOLUTION Dear Renee I have a fear of long term commitment. I’m still building my career and I find most women want me to make long term plans. I’m not a player but making a life long commitment scares me. I’m not ready for ...
Views: 3156 - Stress in Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Susan Del GattoStress in Relationships signal trouble. Did you ever wonder why relationships go from wonderful, to mediocre, to breaking off of the relationship? Every relationship could end this way but sooner or later you meet up with that one special person who you are most compatible with and this ...
Views: 1494(3 votes) - Fear Of Commitment - Are You As Strong As This Woman? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Sarah MichaelsAre you facing a relationship – or even a NON-relationship – that is prevented from moving forward due to fear of commitment? Have you taken any steps to try to confront and banish this fear, or, like many women, do you resort to needy behavior such as clinging or unproductive displays of anger? ...
Views: 5929 - Cheat-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYour one-and-only isn’t behaving his one-and-only self lately. He’s distracted, spends more time at work, on the Internet, everywhere but with you. He’s not that interested in being intimate – oh, he joins in just fine if you make the moves, but he’s not initiating things. You hear “yes, dear” ...
Views: 2063(3 votes) - Stuck on Words - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Dr. Mona SpiegelThe Chairman of the National Republican Committee, Michael Steele, was recently interviewed by NPR reporter, Steve Inskeep. And they got stuck on words. The Chairman was the first to attack: "You're doing a wonderful little dance here and trying to be cute," he stated. Inskeep entered the ...
Views: 1166(2 votes) - The Four Urgent Breakup Warning Signs - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Jay CataldoThere’s nothing wrong with preventative medicine…. especially when it comes to relationships. Sometimes, all it takes to save yourself from the pain of a difficult breakup is a little bit of knowledge and preparation. Interestingly enough, the warning signs of an impending breakup will be ...
Views: 4437(5 votes) - How to Say No to an Online Partner - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Irina TimchenkoBeing a relationship counselor who works mostly with international couples and families, I frequently communicate with couples who met online. When two people are separated with huge distance, they have to develop their relationship by using all possible modern means of communication - ...
Views: 1213 - Relationship Toxins: Keeping toxic behaviors in check for more positivity in your relationship - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Judy TsoWith the divorce rate often reported at 50%, it becomes ever more important to focus on the behaviors that keep a positive feeling between you and your romantic partner or spouse and refrain from the behaviors that damage that lovin’ feeling. John Gottman the noted marriage expert talks about ...
Views: 2624(1 vote) - Astrological Compatibility - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Vishaal RajHave you ever wondered about what type of person you are astrologically compatible with, or astrologically how compatible are you with your present partner? No..? According to the principles of astrology, nobody is born perfect, but once you know what the reasons for your problems are, you're ...
Views: 2144(4 votes) - What’s Love Got To Do With It? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLove has everything to do with every cell of life. The ripple effect of being hit by a car is interesting. This was not just about me. This event defines those around me in our life’s journey. The cards and letters from friends have been overflowing with love. People have offered to take ...
Views: 554(3 votes) - Sharing Space and Energy: Cohabitating with Others - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOur homes are our havens. These places where we come to rest, recharge, and dream in safety and comfort allow us to better face the challenges of the world outside our doors. When sharing a living space with others, an awareness of the thoughts and feelings of everyone involved is essential in ...
Views: 580(3 votes) - How to Choose when to Help and when Not to Help - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Christine SherborneSometimes I find that I am helping the same person repeatedly, and nothing improves. Have you found that you do the same? For most of us it is natural to want to be helpful and fix problems for friends and family if we can, but very often the best action you should take is no action at all. ...
Views: 1709(4 votes) - Signs Your Ex Wants You back - How To Read The Signs - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Catherine KOZARHere are some of the major signs your ex wants you back. They try to reach you with no particular reason. They are always in places where you seem to be. You have heard on the grapevine that they have no interest in new relationships. Their appearance seems to have improved. They seem to ...
Views: 1994(2 votes) - A Woman's Mystery - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2011 from Cornelia PowellDuring the clear days of my first summer living in my little mountain cabin, I enjoyed moving my office to my long front porch -- with my laptop perched on a little make-shift desk. Here I would write and watch the various birds with the glorious mountain-scape all around me. To my delight, ...
Views: 1054(2 votes) - Letting Go of the Need to Know - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: Back in December I found myself at the edge of desperation. After months and months of constant prayer I started to wonder if God does exist or if it was just an illusion that we cling to in order to survive. I happened to be at my mother's house at the time to spend a few days ...
Views: 607(2 votes) - Solving Marriage Problems With Effective Communication - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Sharon Wells-AckermansMarriage problems are as old as marriage itself. How we deal with problems has changed over the centuries, though. Once we were stuck in a marriage no matter what and people stayed for a lifetime, through abuse and unhappiness. Now, it seems, the pendulum has swung the other way and we are often ...
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