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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: What Is A Relationship Triangle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a relationship there are typically two people involved. And what goes on in this relationship is primarily between these two individuals. This could be between: lovers, friends, colleagues or family. And this relationship it is almost certain to lead to moments or stories ...
Views: 2565 - Relationships: What Is Emotional Cut-Off? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one made a mess somewhere, they could either clean it up or they could leave it where it was. If they were to take the first option, it might take them a while, and this may mean they have to put something else on hold. However, if they were to take the second option, it might allow them ...
Views: 5984 - Relationships: What Is Our Most Important Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDuring our lives we can have many relationships and some of these relationships can last for what feels like moments and others can seem to last a lifetime. It could be greeting someone we might never see again or embracing someone we will see many times. These relationships can range from a ...
Views: 2004 - Relationships: What Is The Difference Between A Man Who Hates Women And A Man Who Hates Men? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might not surprise someone is that some men hate women, yet what might surprise them is that there are some men who hate men. It might be hard for them to accept this, especially as they are men themselves. A Different Response Then again, this might be something that they are only ...
Views: 1051 - Relationships: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I am referring to by the term ‘roles’ is the way one behaves in the relationships in their life. So with the description out of the way, the first question is; what causes one to behave as they do in relationships when their behaviour is dysfunctional and disempowering and doesn’t lead to ...
Views: 2675 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1714 - Relationships: When Someone Tells Other People How To Live Their Life Does It Show That They Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with the people they are close to, they may find that they are happy to listen to them. This is likely to show that they are there to support them, and their life is then going to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. The Perfect Scenario Through being treated ...
Views: 1087 - Relationships: When To Stay And When To Go - by Submitted on May 23, 2011 from Craig HarperThe Relationships We Choose Before I go any further, let me make an important distinction about relationships: some are optional (husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, business partner, friend, associate) and some aren’t (family). Like it or not, your dad will always be your dad and your mum ...
Views: 943 - Relationships: When to stay, when to walk away, and when to RUN. - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2022 from Telka Arend-RitterRelationships: When to stay, when to walk away, and when to run! "In my last relationship I realized that my partner was self-centered, self-serving, arrogant, ignorant, unfaithful, hypercritical, abusive, an under-achiever and an alcoholic. I was devastated when he broke up with me.” ...
Views: 928 - Relationships: Where Do Men’s Expectations Of Women Come From? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a woman is going to be like, a man will have a set of expectations. And sometimes these can be consciously known and at other times, they can be completely unconscious. However, no matter whether these are conscious or unconscious, they will still have a massive impact ...
Views: 2361 - Relationships: Where Do Our Relationship Models Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe relationships that each one of us has are being defined by the relationship models that we have. And this can range from the more meaningful and intimate ones, to the ones that are platonic and carry very little meaning. However, although we all have our internal models of what our ...
Views: 1699 - Relationships: Where Do Women’s Expectations Of Men Come From? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a man is going to be like or what a woman is going to be like, we all have a set of expectations. And although these can be consciously known, they are very often out of one’s conscious awareness. So while a woman may be unaware of what their expectations are of men, they ...
Views: 1848 - Relationships: Where Does A Woman's Idea Of A Man Come From? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the outlook of what men are like, there is clearly not just one idea that a woman can have. And while some have an idea that men are a certain way, others view them in a completely different way. And no matter what this view is, it is one that is going to have massive effect ...
Views: 1842 - Relationships: Where Does Someone’s Idea Of The Perfect Partner Come From? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to attracting someone for a relationship or something that involves less commitment, there is the chance that someone can have a certain type that they go for. And then for others, this is not always the case; with them having no set idea of what another needs to be like. ...
Views: 1718 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Always Look For Someone Else Before They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, they could decide to talk to their partner about what is taking place for them. This will stop them from having to cover up how they feel, and it will give them the chance to bring the relationship to an end. A Cover Up ...
Views: 1480 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Focus On Other People’s Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people’s problems. When this takes place, they could end up being seen as ...
Views: 759 - Relationships: Whose Problem is It? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Kim OlverIn relationships, it is not uncommon for couples to have difficulties. Sometimes there are things your partner does that drives you crazy! In my work with couples, a common, innocent complaint of women is that their husbands don’t put their dirty clothes in the hamper. They will leave their ...
Views: 1065 - Relationships: Why Are People Who Act Superior Attracted To People Who Act Inferior? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship were each person is at the same level, one person is not going to see themselves as being above the other. This is not to say that each person is at the same level materially, for instance, but this is not going to affect the amount of respect they have for each other. ...
Views: 2972 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Unavailable Women? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man may have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with a woman, he may continually end up with women who are not available. Through having been with a number of women who are like this, he may find that this area of his life causes him to experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 919 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Women Who Need To Be Saved? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to find out that a woman is unable to handle life and needs other people to prop her up, he could soon come to the conclusion that it would be better for him to move on. It will be only too clear that being with a woman like this is going to be more trouble than it’s worth. Two ...
Views: 2265 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Critical Of Men/Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be critical of both men and women, they could also be in position where they have the tendency to criticise the opposite sex. And so if they do criticise the same sex, it could be something that rarely takes place. This could mean that they will have moments where they ...
Views: 1537 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Moody? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when someone feels happy and moments when they don’t, and while they may prefer to be happy all the time, this is not going to be possible. When it comes to the people someone spends their time around, they may also find it easier to be around them when they are ...
Views: 2963 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Emotionally Unstable? - by Submitted on May 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, being in a relationship with someone who is unreliable, unpredictable and who has the need to keep them on edge and in a place of uncertainty is not going to interest them. If they were in this position, it might only be a matter of time before they walk away. Being with ...
Views: 854 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Overbearing? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was go shopping, they could end up trying a number of different things on, and while some of these items may be a good fit; there could be others that are not. When something fits them, they are going to feel comfortable; whereas when this is not the case, they are going to feel ...
Views: 1369 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Clingy In Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain behaviours that are going to cause problems in a relationship and could even sabotage one from taking place, and one of those behaviours is when someone is clingy. This can appear at the start of a relationship or it can appear as a relationship develops. For the person on ...
Views: 2059 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Drawn To People Who Come Across As Certain? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes what someone can do in order to be able to influence others, there are a number of things that are often put forward. One thing that they could hear about is how important it is for them to have the right body language. Through using their body in the right way, it will allow ...
Views: 1197 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Dependent On Their Partner? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to say that they need to be with another person in order to feel complete. Yet, even if they don’t say this explicitly, their behaviour could say this implicitly. Popular Culture When it comes to films, music and TV shows, this is a theme ...
Views: 997 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a relationship with another person, ideally, their body, heart and mind will be shared. This means there will be a physical connection, an emotional sharing and an intellectual exchange. But this doesn’t always take place and this means that one could have a relationship ...
Views: 8601 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Other People's Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either. This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence ...
Views: 4860 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People They Can Overshadow? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up with people who on a similar level, there are others who end up with people who are not. As a result of this, not everyone is going to be drawn to people who are as developed as they are. Equal When it comes to the former, it could be said that one’s relationships ...
Views: 1224 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship with someone who is available, they might also find that they are with someone who is unavailable. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how fulfilling their relationship is. One Experience If one can relate to the former, they are ...
Views: 1310 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Need To Be Rescued? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across a magazine or a newspaper, for instance, they may be told that if they are a man, they will be attracted to a certain type of women and vice versa. For example, when it comes to women, it is likely to say that their hip to waist ratio is important, and for men, it could ...
Views: 1571 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Unable To Move On From Their First Love? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone, they may find that they unable to take the next step. What this is likely to show, is that they are experiencing inner conflict. And until the part of them that wants to start a relationship is stronger than the part of them that doesn’t, ...
Views: 1563 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Attracted To Abusive Men? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some women out there, it can seem as though they have a sign on their forehead that says ‘’abusive men only’’. And this is due to their experience of only attracting men who are abusive. It may even go further than this and a woman could come to the conclusion that all men are the same. ...
Views: 3788 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon to hear that women want to settle down and that men want to ‘play the field’. And based on this, women want to be in a relationship and men are not bothered about being in one. This is how men and women are generally portrayed and in some cases, this is going to be true. ...
Views: 4106 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Needy? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means that it is not something to be ashamed of. Yet, just because this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs, and this can cause them to come across as being needless. They then act as if they don’t have needs ...
Views: 2471 - Relationships: Why Can't Some People Maintain Eye Contact? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships. And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ...
Views: 3178 - Relationships: Why Do Friendships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about a close friend, it could be someone they have known for a number of months or it may be a number of years. Yet regardless of how long they have known each other for, they will have a strong connection. And through having this bond, their life is going to be a lot ...
Views: 1587 - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt Men More Than Women? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed. Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ...
Views: 4023 - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne may experience the end of a relationship without experiencing too much pain or they could experience immense pain and suffering when a relationship comes to an end. It could then be hard to comprehend what is taking place and why this person is having this affect. And it doesn’t even ...
Views: 1941 - Relationships: Why Do Some Intellectually Developed People End Up With People Who Are Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out. By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate ...
Views: 857 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men and women are both human, they are often portrayed as being radically different. It is clear that they are different on the outside, but what is not as clear is that there are differences when it comes to their brain structure. One outlook is that these differences are due to ...
Views: 1815 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Women? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs men are often physically stronger than women, it often makes it hard to comprehend that they could be fearful of women. This is something that can sound illogical and abnormal. When some people hear this, it can sound like some kind of joke. But while this may sound illogical and even ...
Views: 2014 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Need A Women’s Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a certain amount of approval seeking is part of relationships; when it is out of control and taken to the extreme, it can create dysfunctional consequences and unnecessary pain. And when this happens, a man’s mental and emotional wellbeing is going to suffer. However, in order for a man ...
Views: 12091 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Only Attract Women Who Are Dependent On Them? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kind of women that men are attracted to, it could be said that there is not one type. There is what is spoken about in the media, for instance, and then there is what takes place in reality. If one was to read an article about what kind of woman a man is attracted to, ...
Views: 1335 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away After Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than ...
Views: 12062 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men will have certain standards when they are in a relationship, there are going to be others who don’t. As a result of this, not every man is going to have same experience when they are with a woman. When it comes to the former, a man like this is not going to get carried ...
Views: 1456 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Suffer In Silence When They Are Abused By Women? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone thinks about abuse, there is a strong chance that they will think about what some men do to women or how some parents treat their children. But if this is not the case, they might think about men who are abused by women. The reason they are more likely to think about this kind ...
Views: 1401 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Want A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man looks like a man, it doesn’t mean that he feels likes like a man on the inside. What is going on externally is then going to have very little to do with what is going on internally. Still, even though his physical appearance will create the impression that he is a man, it ...
Views: 764 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Aggressively When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves at the beginning of a relationship can be different to how they behave as time goes by, and while a certain amount of change is normal, it doesn’t mean it is normal for someone to completely change. This could mean that as time passes they end up becoming someone else, or it ...
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