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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Challenge of Committed Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2012 from Jean CapangpanganCouples came together for they found themselves attracted to each other. Different studies show us on how we select our partners. We have a picture of what kind of partners we MUST and WANT to have. We select based upon traits, similarities, complementarity, what our probable losses and ...
Views: 1286(1 vote) - The Energetics Of A Healthy Marriage Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2008 from Rita LouiseMost of what we know about our relationships we’ve learn from TV, movies or even romance novels. For many women, the idea they will meet their Prince Charming and live happily ever after is something they are brought up believing is true. As a society, we are lead to believe that one day we will ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - The Fastest Way to Boost Your Mood - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Pat LaDouceurDo you ever feel stressed out about the demands of day-to-day life? My clients Ava and Leo were doing their best to balance high-pressure jobs with the needs of two school-aged kids and time for themselves. Their work got done, and well. But the number of tasks they juggled every day made ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - The Feng Shui of Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Micaela BellopedeIn Chinese philosophy there is balance in everything in the cosmos. There is a YIN and a YANG. There is the masculine and the feminine. For much of my life I was encouraged to be "masculine". Go, be, win, chase, etc. It worked well in certain areas of my life, but not in my relationships. ...
Views: 1117(1 vote) - The Finger Revolution - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from Leslie SannLast year on Earth Day I walked into a store and was given a wooden clothes pin. On one side was written "Save Energy." Turn it over and it said, "Hang Your Clothes Out to Dry." Strange, I thought. Here they are giving out pieces of trees as a way to honor the planet. I wanted to tell you ...
Views: 1762(1 vote) - The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Gary DirenfeldThe Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man Truly abusive men are out for themselves. These are the narcissists and sociopaths who walk among us in plain clothes. Abusive men rely on these five strategies to gratify their needs ahead of or at the expense of their partner: 1. Denial Even with ...
Views: 2835(1 vote) - The Five of Cups - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Jennifer Tarot JohnsonEach day I draw a card for my own Meditation and Guidance. Today I drew the 5 of Cups tarot card from the "Deviant Moon" Tarot, by Phillip Valenza. The Deck was a gift that I received last night. I thought it was perfect timing for the "Crow Moon". When a querent receives the 5 of Cups ...
Views: 3409(1 vote) - The Genius of Friendship - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2012 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriFRIENDSHIP Letter from a friend I just had to write to tell you how much I love you and care for you. Yesterday I saw you walking and laughing with your friends. I hoped that soon you’d want Me to walk along with you, too. So I painted you a sunset to close your day and whispered a cool ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - The Gift of Understanding - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2012 from Craig Toonder, MFTOne of the most common traps I see couples fall into when they are upset with each other is the… “A, but B, but A, but B”… conversations. These conversations are characterized by their repetitive nature in which each person continues to make the same point over and over again. What’s happening ...
Views: 1136(1 vote) - The Good Boss and the Bad Boss: Motivation and How to Create It - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many of my clients have come in complaining of a lack of motivation; from not being motivated enough on the job, to not being able to diet, quit smoking, or get out of bed in the morning. They desire to achieve both positive and negative motivations — positive motivations ...
Views: 1425(1 vote) - The Great Wise Man - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Tina CrumpackerThere was a great wise man who lived in a tiny village in Tibet. He was constantly sought out for his wisdom by the villagers. He was very kind and patient. His neighbors had a very beautiful unmarried daughter. She was in love with the butcher's son but saw him in secret as she knew her ...
Views: 2025(1 vote) - The Importance of Interdependence - by Submitted on May 29, 2013 from Dr. Michele BrennanPersonal development is a linear progression where we are always striving to better our self. We begin life vulnerable and dependent on our caregivers. We progress to become independent and strike out at the world on our own. As we mature further, we realize that we cannot take on the world ...
Views: 1993(1 vote) - The Law of Attraction and Love - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2013 from Yamaya CruzJust rewind back to when you were a child and you used to play with Barbie and Ken dolls. If you were a boy, you probably played with small action figures like He-Man and GI Joe. You put so much imagination into those toys. After all, you needed to bring them to life. Each toy had a story ...
Views: 1888(1 vote) - The Narcissistic Parent - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2022 from Darlene LancerA narcissistic parent behaves as they imagine themselves to be—the king or queen of the family, or someone whose activities are more important than being part of the family. As a child, your parents are your world until you’re able to leave home. Your survival and self-concept depend on them. A ...
Views: 801(2 votes) - The No Contact Rule - Does It Work Well? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Mika MaddelaPeople are usually scared the first time they find out about the No Contact Rule. This is understandable. At first, it really does feel counter intuitive. Not contacting your ex so you can get them back. You feel as though you should be with your ex right now rather than far away from them so ...
Views: 7736(1 vote) - The Number One Article on Relationship Advice - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Imtiaz AhmedWhat About Relationship Advice? No matter where else your advice comes from, you will be the one who must live with your decisions for the remainder of your life, so be certain they make sense to you. Not only are you going to get some super-great advice, but you will also gain a great deal of ...
Views: 1010(1 vote) - The One Who Got Away - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaWhen I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - The One Word You Can Use to Magnetize the Right Man - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerA single man I know once said: If a woman I'm interested in doesn't seem to love herself, why should I love her...and trying to convince her that she's great would be too exhausting. When a man meets this kind of woman he may be attracted initially, but after figuring out that she is a ...
Views: 2147(1 vote) - The Pattern Organ - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2010 from David SamuelThis article is about an organ which you have never heard of or been aware exists. It is the ‘pattern organ’ and is located in your mind. Since science has not yet located the ‘mind’ we have no idea how big it is or where it is, and so that means it could contain several other organs within ...
Views: 1321(2 votes) - The Pitfalls of Romance - by Submitted on May 31, 2011 from Jacqueline MarshallBEING IN LOVE WITH ROMANCE Romantic love is exciting and feels wonderful but it is not the love that keeps couples together over time. There comes a day in every committed relationship when you look at your partner and mumble, “What was I thinking?” At that point romance seems gone for ...
Views: 2595(1 vote) - The power of intention - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Scott Q MarcusBeing a news junkie, I’m glued to the cable networks. Wedged between the peccadilloes of badly behaving starlets and inappropriately tweeted photos, the anchor brings in two political panelists to discuss the upcoming election (Already? Really? Oy!) To feign “balance” he has a GOP strategist and ...
Views: 1439(1 vote) - THE POWER OF SELF-TALK - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Darlene LancerAre you aware that you talk to yourself all the time? We all do. Our self-talk makes a huge difference in our lives for better or for worse. The question to ask yourself is whether your inner voice is your friend or foe. Our unconscious is impacted by the words we say in the same way that it ...
Views: 2277(2 votes) - The Powerful Secret to A Loving Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2005 from Margaret PaulThere are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and ...
Views: 3015(1 vote) - The Prayer Formula - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Robert HookerVomit on God. Psalms 142. The Bible says pour out your complaint to God. Tell Him all of your hurts, your pains, your anger, your hatred, your sorrow, whatever it is that torments your thoughts and emotions. Buried feelings never die; they always come back to ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - The Recovery Ground Rules for Love Addicts - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Jim Hall* The following are some very critical ground rules needed for love addicts in order to pave a healthy, successful path in love addiction recovery. 1) Understand the Dynamics of Love Addiction & Intricacies of Love Addicted Relationships A very important first step in recovery is to ...
Views: 2134(1 vote) - The Sorrow at Bereavement – It Can Help Us Understand Our Life and the After-life - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranMany issues of life can function as our teachers if we adopt an attitude of looking into them with the eagerness to understand what lies beyond the apparent. Reflection on the sorrow at losing a near and dear one can lead to a life of compassion. As we all know, bereavement is indeed a hard ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - The Startling Reason We Sabotage Love - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2019 from Darlene LancerMost relationships fail and nearly half of American adults are unmarried. Why can’t we find love and why don’t relationships last? Paradoxically, as much as we want love, we also fear it. Fear of not being loved is the greatest reason we don’t find love and sabotage it in our relationships. In ...
Views: 1236(2 votes) - The Therapeutic Value Of A Hug - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Gian Fiero |Have you hugged your child today? It was a popular slogan that was coined in 1969. I think it’s time to modify the phrase to: Have you hugged your loved one today? Most couples report the perfunctory kiss upon their greeting or departure as their most consistent form of affection outside of ...
Views: 3625(2 votes) - THE TRAUMA OF CHILDREN OF ADDICTS AND ALCOHOLICS - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2017 from Darlene LancerLiving with an addict (including alcoholics[1]) can feel like life in a war zone. The addict’s personality changes caused by addiction create chaos. Family dynamics are organized around the substance abuser, who acts like a tyrant, denying that drinking or using is a problem, while issuing ...
Views: 1662(3 votes) - The Triangle Game -- Freeing Yourself from Victim, Villain and Hero Roles - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comI'd like to tell you about a game called The Triangle Game. There are 2 levels to this game, and most of us are already playing on the first level but we're not aware of it. This first level isn't really very fun -- I call it the Bermuda Triangle Game, because basically we get lost in it -- ...
Views: 6619(1 vote) - The Truth about Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerOver three million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year, and that includes men as well as women. One-fourth of U.S. women and one-third of women worldwide will experience violence in her lifetime. What isn’t talked about, but is serious, is emotional abuse that ranges from ...
Views: 1966(2 votes) - The Truth About Free Psychic Readings - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2010 from Free Psychic Classifieds AdminA free psychic reading is usually offered to confirm the psychic’s ability to connect with the person interested in receiving the reading. Psychics often offer a free reading to prove their ability before the inquirer actually has to pay for the reading. It is important to consider that many ...
Views: 3163(1 vote) - The Ultimate Truth about How to Meet People and Turn Strangers into Friends or Lovers Instead of Getting Blown Off - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2021 from Kynan PatramWhat’s the difference between someone you consider a stranger and someone you consider a friend? Isn’t a part of it found in the fact that, with a friend, you know things about each other and about each other’s lives? And if that’s true, how do you intentionally go about getting to know ...
Views: 912(1 vote) - The Unchangeable - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2013 from Womens Recreation, Inc.We can’t get back the time that we spent trying to change someone else. The energy and time is irreplaceable. You truly have to look at each and every circumstance and evaluate the time and energy that you’ve put into it and come to the conclusion that it is unchangeable. It could be the ...
Views: 1672(1 vote) - The Urban Goddess Secret - An Emotional Beauty Toolbox - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachThis article was featured in the Huff Post: In today’s hectic world we often seem to forget the importance of taking the time to restore ourselves and the essence of who we are. Outer beauty may be a head-turner but inner beauty rules. Though beauty can be reflected in our fashion style, ...
Views: 1167(1 vote) - The Victim Tyrant Cycle - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The Victim Tyrant Cycle By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ...
Views: 2389(1 vote) - The Way to Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2012 from Dianne Eppler AdamsPerhaps nothing brings more people to their knees (or to an astrologer) than the trials and tribulations of relating to others – especially family, coworkers, neighbors and intimate relationships. It was my number one challenge for years – and having loving, supportive relationships remains of ...
Views: 1705(1 vote) - The wonderful power of unconditional love - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Lais StephanToday I would like to blog about love. To be more precise: Unconditional love. A few years ago I thought I had it all figured out what unconditional love means. Of course as the name says you would think that loving someone unconditionally means loving that someone without putting conditions, ...
Views: 2548(1 vote) - Thinking Of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Dan And JenniferDid you know that love does NOT conquer all? You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever. However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this ...
Views: 2169(1 vote) - THIS HIDDEN SECRET WILL TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWith the exception of impersonators, most people believe that they only have one voice. That voice is used to express one's feelings and needs. It can be vocalized either loudly or softly; it's tone can change from one of sarcasm to that of compassion; one's voice can be used to express ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - This Particular Way of Dating Came into My Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2024 from Ida ZhongMy wife and I started dating four years ago and have been married for two years. We've been together four years, that's quite a long time. In the beginning, our marriage relationship was very smooth and there were no problems. But the last year has changed dramatically, including my wife's view ...
Views: 570(1 vote) - Time to Let Go...Your Spiritual Love Reading - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonAs you shift and evolve and commit to your own growth, you long for support but may be disappointed and hurt by others who are not providing what you feel you deserve. Perhaps you are in a new relationship and discovering that you don’t share the same values and beliefs, so you feel out of place ...
Views: 1042(1 vote) - To Be Who You Are Meant To Be - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Therese BenedictTO BE WHO YOU ARE MEANT TO BE By Therese Benedict We tend to think that just because we have freewill that we can be whom we want to be, instead of being who we are meant to be. This is a wrong way to think about whom we are and what is the reason of why we are here. God has created us with ...
Views: 2753(1 vote) - To Love Is To Be Loved - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Therese BenedictTO LOVE IS TO BE LOVED By Therese Benedict We all want love in our lives. We all want to be loved and understood. We want people to hear our hurt, when that hurt is caused. We want each other to listen to what actions caused that hurt, so it is known and can be stopped. What hurts us the ...
Views: 3597(1 vote) - Top 10 Reasons NOT to Be the Side Chick - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2016 from Christina MichelleIt may be a touchy subject but it happens all too often that beautiful, otherwise morally sound and intelligent women find themselves in the position of being the "side piece", or the umm… supplement to his main romantic diet. Regardless of whether it was intentional or accidental, once you're ...
Views: 3078(1 vote) - Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Dan And JenniferLadies, you know in your heart if your man is cheating on you. You can feel it... Maybe you've suspected for a while that things aren't quite right in your relationship and you're worried that maybe he's stepping out on you, but you just can't put your finger on exactly what's bugging ...
Views: 3090(1 vote) - Top 3 Tips For Processing Jealousy When Surviving An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Brenda StewartJealousy can be a really big obstacle when two partners are surviving an affair if they don't know how to manage and process this emotion. There are some healthier ways to process jealousy so you can prevent any problems in your effort of surviving an affair. Here are 3 important tips for ...
Views: 1356(1 vote) - Top 3 Why Should You Celebrate Your Anniversary - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2021 from Daniel BrainCelebrating your anniversary is much more than just spending some time with your loved one. Most of the people think that anniversary is just a formality which they need to celebrate every year. However, if you know the real purpose and meaning of your wedding anniversary, you could get the best ...
Views: 723(1 vote) - Top 5 Reasons Why Women Cheat - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Nea Joy JusticeWhen it comes to infidelity, men are the usual suspects. It's a well-known fact that guys are more likely to cheat than women, but that doesn't change the fact that women cheat too. What is interesting is that the reasons behind women cheating are more complex than the reasons of unfaithful ...
Views: 5376(1 vote) - Top 5 Signs Of A Husband Having An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2011 from Brenda StewartFinding out that the only person that you love and trust the most in this world has cheated on you it is the most painful experience that someone can live. In order to catch you cheating husband you have to look for some evident signs of a husband having an affair. Telling your husband that you ...
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