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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Future of Relationship - The Leader Is Us - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Bob TomesImagine a life, your life, where you're generating more joy in all your relationships than ever before. Imagine being in relationships where you can speak honestly and not be judged, criticized, blamed or told what to do. Imagine being able to learn more about yourself in every interaction with ...
Views: 1136 - Is your Psychic, Psychic? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Michelle CaporaleIs your Psychic, Psychic? Everyone has “Intuitive” abilities, we are born with natural instinct. It’s common sense. Think of those who trade on the open market. These talented people have some sense of a feeling to sell or buy. Yes, the watch the market and stocks but they still go on ...
Views: 1416(1 vote) - ***3 Ways to Manage Rejection So You Can Move On - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerRejection sucks. There’s no other way to say it. When he doesn’t show interest, doesn’t show up, or breaks it off after a relationship develops; it’s ugly and icky. No doubt about it. Thing is: rejection doesn’t have to strike a mortal blow. I know so many women who avoid connecting with ...
Views: 5081(5 votes) - A Roadmap to Intimacy - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Allan HardmanIt is not easy to be intimate in conscious relationship. In fact, everything we learned as children goes against our adult desire for intimacy and relationship. Frankly, our beloved parents taught us a bunch of lies. It wasn’t their fault, the lies were taught to them, and taught by generations ...
Views: 1809 - Speaking an Emotional Language - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2010 from Allan HardmanA new client called to tell me that she and her husband had a big fight because he wouldn’t listen to her share her feelings. He said he was tired of being made wrong; and all she wanted to do was tell him how she felt. She asked me, in a very discouraged tone; “How can I get him to just listen ...
Views: 1558(4 votes) - Anger Management Classes - Gain Skills to Improve your life! - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Ari NovickAnger is one emotion we all have. For some of us anger is the primary way we express our needs when we get upset. Anger is usually a response to some other feeling or emotion we are having. Really give it some thought. Think about the last time you were really upset. Were you upset because ...
Views: 1722 - If You’re Wondering How To Save My Relationship Then There Are Ways It Can Be Saved - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Andrew HunterAll relationships have their faults if you look hard enough. Relationships all have difficult times and you need to make sure that you do something about it before things get out of hand. If you’ve got to the point where you and your partner are constantly fighting and about to give up then you ...
Views: 1882(1 vote) - Do You Know How to Attract a Sexy Woman - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Donna MartinApproaching beautiful women is nerve cracking even for the most confident guys. Overcoming that initial approach anxiety can seem like an insurmountable task to accomplish. In fact, many men have passed up a lot sexual opportunities because of approach anxiety. Approach anxiety however is ...
Views: 1621(1 vote) - Long Distance Relationship Can Remain Alive - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Donna MartinKeeping a long distance relationship alive can be a real challenge. In addition to the usual relationship drama there is the added stress of not having the physical contact with your partner. Dealing with the distance in a positive way will require some creativity and a true commitment to making ...
Views: 1400(2 votes) - People are Innocent - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Mary Dee FreemanI have to tell you about this friend of mine. She’s been driving me crazy lately. Don’t get me wrong; she’s one of the nicest people I know. The problem is that she is a consummate fixer and can be a little pushy about it. You know the one… She always knows what’s best for everyone. ...
Views: 1331(2 votes) - Family Counselling Tips, Coping With Back to School Stress. - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Dr. Dan DaltonFamily counsellors know that there are many times of the year where change and transition cause stress for families. The beginning of the new school year is a time of excitement for some and a time of anxiety for others. Whether you are a parent, child or young adult another school year can ...
Views: 1051(2 votes) - The Connection Crisis - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Glenn BergerMy psychotherapy client, David, is 32 years old. If anything, David is neat. His blond hair is closely cropped. He wears a Banana Republic iron-free shirt, pressed pants, and shiny black shoes. This is the uniform of a mid-level guy at a major law firm. His eyes are wide and confused. “I just ...
Views: 1300 - Ending Baby Boomer Burnout: How to Stop Parenting Our Adult Children and How to Start Reclaiming Our Own Lives - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2010 from Holli KenleyEnding Baby Boomer Burnout : How to Stop Parenting Our Adult Children and Start Reclaiming Our Own Lives Holli Kenley “Both my 23 year old daughter and my 29 year old son have moved back home. I find myself doing more for them than for myself. I am exhausted, but they seem to need ...
Views: 8314(2 votes) - A New Paradigm for Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2010 from Luminessa EnjaraLately I have been pondering how quickly everything is shifting and changing. I don’t know about you, but in my world things are moving rather quickly. The world is changing rapidly and whether we like it or not we can choose to go with these changes or become like the dinosaurs, extinct. ...
Views: 3272(2 votes) - Stages of a relationship and marriage - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Dia ThabetStages of a relationship and marriage What are the stages that couples go through in their marriage and relationship? How can you deal with the arguments that occur in a marriage and a relationship? In every relationship and every marriage, couples go through stages of a relationship and ...
Views: 1390(4 votes) - How to stop snoring recognized with “National Stop Snoring Week”. - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Jennifer Ross-TaylorIt is estimated that the US has over 90 million snorers but it is the UK which formally recognizes for a whole week each year, the problem suffered by 4 out of 10 British males and 3 out of ten British females. (and not to forget the millions of partners, family members and neighbours who suffer ...
Views: 1598 - Anger Management Tips for Hot Heads - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Ari NovickAnger management classes are a excellent way to get your life back together after damaging or destroying a relationship or partnership that you hoped would succeed or flourish . If you are a hot head, or even feel that your temper can get you in trouble, considering an anger management course ...
Views: 1915 - Guilt Trips and Divorce - How to Handle Religious Issues, Family and Friends - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungHandling intrusive family members, prying friends and nosey parishioners while going through a breakup is never easy. It’s tough enough coming to grips with the fact your relationship is over. Throw in the frustrations, disappointments, stress and anger, plus, dealing with guilt as you ...
Views: 2568 - How Online Anger Management Classes Can Help You- But Pick the Right One! - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2010 from Ari NovickOnline anger management classes are a somewhat new and innovative way to gain skills . With the advent of technology, most quality training programs can be put in an online format. But how does one discern between what is a good online program and what is not. Some of that question is ...
Views: 1572 - Love and You: Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Lynda KlauLove and You: The Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships Lynda Klau, Ph.D. How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written ...
Views: 2433(1 vote) - Tips And Ways To Get Your Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2010 from Jancar TsangSometimes, events conspire to separate you from your girlfriend. However, looking at her image or thinking of her presence all elicits overwhelming feelings of desire. If it is clear that you are going to be unable to move on and find someone else, then there are tips and ways to get your ...
Views: 1391 - ***From Prague with Love - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here we go again – interviewing successfully married couples around the world! This time we have made a return visit to Europe and are pleased to say that we have added two countries we have not been in before – Andorra and the Czech Republic! In ...
Views: 3838(20 votes) - “My spouse wants a divorce and there's nothing I can do about it...” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsLindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems. She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ...
Views: 2870(1 vote) - Bringing out the best - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Glenda GibbsBringing out the best Ponderings... by Glenda Gibbs Several years ago I was working with a couple who were deciding whether they wanted to continue their marriage or bring it to an end; they chose the latter. Both were concerned about the family gossip. They didn’t want to feed it so what ...
Views: 2030(1 vote) - Apologizing- How To Make It Right Again - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAs human beings, we are all prone to mistakes, as a matter of fact; it is synonymous to making mistakes. But as human beings, we are also given a choice to redeem ourselves from the mistakes we did through apologizing. For some, it is an arduous task, because their pride gets in the way. But if ...
Views: 2033(1 vote) - 4 Communication Techniques To Remember When Talking To Your Man - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraA lot of women find themselves getting frustrated over the fact that it’s hard to get their message across to their man. She says one thing, and he does another. Do men and women actually speak the same language? Can they really communicate? The answer is yes, here are 4 simple communication ...
Views: 1252 - Decoding And Understanding Men And Their Hormones - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraUnderstanding men is an unending quest for us women. It seems as if, no matter how we try, the world is still divided with, “us” on one side and, “them” on the other. The needing and wanting to dissect the opposite sex becomes a mission for life. We squeeze our brains out with all these dilemmas ...
Views: 3035 - The X-files: What To Do When You Meet Your Former Boyfriend - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraEveryone has a worst nightmare. For some, its bathing suit season, for others, its knowing that their birth certificate can never be legally destroyed, and for the rest, it’s meeting THE FORMER BOYFRIEND and making a total fool of themselves. For those who can relate, I believe that each and ...
Views: 816 - "Where's My Stuff?" - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Susan FoxleyWhere is the relationship? Where is the money? Why do other’s have it so easy and I have it so hard? Life is not fair! These are some of the questions and ruminations I hear from my clients. Well, this equation is quite simple. Lack breeds lack and abundance breeds abundance. If I want to ...
Views: 2200(4 votes) - How to Create a Strong, Satisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2010 from Yvonne SinclairSlow down and listen. When we communicate, sometimes we ignore what our partner is saying. Instead of focusing on our partner, our thoughts are consumed with what we plan to say next. If you pay attention to your partner's words, and then you reflect back what you hear them say or ...
Views: 4025(1 vote) - Why Rebound Relationships Don't Work - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Velma MerrickWhen you separate from your partner, whether it is dating, a long-term relationship or a marriage, it leaves an emotional gap in your life that you feel the urge to fill. Your confidence and self-esteem will be low and you may feel as if no one will love you again. Essentially, you are looking ...
Views: 15005(2 votes) - Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Still Loves You - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Velma MerrickThere is a feeling of emptiness when a man goes through a breakup with the woman they are in love with. Even if they know that the relationship with their love one has come to an end, but their feelings tell them they still want to be with her. Most of us men will seat around thinking of what we ...
Views: 19623 - How To Apoligize To Your Ex - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Velma MerrickHow important is an apology in the magic of making up? Well, it's just about the most important aspect of making up with your ex yet many spurned lovers completely get it wrong when apologizing. Free Tips On How To Get Your Ex Back Simply saying sorry is not enough and will get you ...
Views: 1729 - Every Behavior Has a Positive Intention - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Charles BenderWhy drilling down to a behavior's true purpose changes everything One of the most powerful NLP presuppositions is that every behavior has a positive intention. This does not imply that everything that a person does is 100 % positive - that would be utter denial of the truth - this presupposition ...
Views: 4297(1 vote) - Keep Your Friends and Family Out of Your Business - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungInvolving third parties in relationship matters doesn’t solve your problem, it compounds the issue. If you discuss your private affairs in public, it is going to backfire. Managing relationships by committee condemns them to a premature death. The best approach is to allow time, patience and ...
Views: 10535(6 votes) - Self Esteem and Marriage - Would You Marry You? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Shela DeanWould you marry you? If you were/are single, are you the kind of person you'd be looking for and want to hook up with? Sure, we all want a partner who is our version of the Perfect 10. But truth be told, we cross our fingers that said Perfect 10 will settle for a Strong 7 and overlook a few ...
Views: 1957(4 votes) - ***Should I Waste My Time Meeting or Dating an “Imperfect” Guy? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi Palmer30 minutes. That’s about how long you generally have to “get to know” a man before deciding to have a cup of coffee or date with him. You meet online, or at the local bank, and that’s about it. But he seems imperfect. He’s clearly missing one of your must-haves. Should you gracefully decline? ...
Views: 2438(4 votes) - Anger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesAnger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers At times, every marriage or significant relationship has times in which anger management would be helpful. Its pretty hard to live with someone and not get angry with them at some point. Interestingly, research has shown that its not the number of ...
Views: 5908(2 votes) - Getting to the Heart of What Matters in Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2010 from Sandy Brewer, PhDGetting to the Heart of What Matters in Your Life. This is what the Sandy Brewer Show is all about! Experience the powerful voice of Human Behavior and Relationship expert, Sandy Brewer, PhD, as she provides empowering perspectives about life’s everyday challenges. Sandy gets right ...
Views: 2507(1 vote) - How to Be a Good Partner - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2010 from Roseanna LeatonThe essential elements required which serve to position you as a good partner are similar in both business and personal arenas. Empathy is probably one of the most important assets - the ability to put yourself into the other person's shoes. How are they feeling? What are they thinking? ...
Views: 1719 - Loving yourself Completely - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2010 from Doris CollierI have been married a couple of times and I think the most important aspect of marriage outside of loving someone else unconditionally is loving yourself. A strong sense of self and what you will and will not accept and desire out of that relationship must be understood. You must also be ...
Views: 1214(1 vote) - Top Ten Mistakes Men Make With Women - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Etienne CharlandFinding a mate is one of the most fundamental aspects of life, but it is also a problem many people struggle with. Here are the ten biggest mistakes men make with women. Mistake #1: Pursuing women. Most guys will try all kind of things to get women, such as subtly hanging around a cute ...
Views: 8393(7 votes) - Better Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2010 from William DiedrichEvery relationship has a goal, yet we often don’t know what that goal is. If the relationship is personal, we might think the goal is happiness. If it is professional, we might think the goal is to be profitable or to help each other (teamwork/cooperation). It seems that goals such as happiness ...
Views: 1588 - Honey, you choose - what powerful words! - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2010 from Lindsey DawsonNice men have always tried to get to grips with what women want. You can imagine, in ancient times, your caring cave man squatting over a beast he’s just speared and wondering anxiously if his missus wants the kidneys as well as the chops because he really, really wants to please her. On the ...
Views: 1284(1 vote) - ***How To Attract Love - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Morgana RaeThere’s nothing more irresistible to what you want, especially in realms of romance and love, than feeling good about yourself. And nothing kills your sense of self worth faster than settling for what doesn’t make you happy. There’s a sick little trend going around the love advice community, ...
Views: 2985(7 votes) - Marriage Counseling: How to Get the Results You Want - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2010 from Joe JamesOne of the questions I am most frequently asked is what makes for successful marriage counseling. Naturally the training and background of the therapist is very important in making for a successful marriage counseling experience. However, I am going to focus on that in a separate article which ...
Views: 1643(1 vote) - ***5 Tips to Help You Stick to Dating, Even When It Sucks - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerYesterday I wanted to quit. This is too hard. There are days things seem to be clicking and I’m finally getting it…marching boldly toward my goal. Then there are days like yesterday when I feel clueless…like a failure with no hope of success. And I can’t help but take it personally. I know I ...
Views: 2156(5 votes) - Learning to Trust and Believing What is Right - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2010 from Beatrice ElderDuring our life time, we meet people from all walks of life. Some may go on to be lifelong friends, while others may flit in and out of our lives for whatever reason. In the meantime we may have doubts and disbelief about the friendship, this will create a sense of mistrust between the two ...
Views: 1419(2 votes) - What is Seduction - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Etienne CharlandYou are learning about seduction… but what is seduction? It is not about seducing women, it is about living a seducing life. It is about seducing yourself, seducing life, seducing friends, seducing strangers, seducing customers, seducing allies, seducing enemies — and seducing women. How can ...
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