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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The 600-pound Gorilla: How to Reduce Money Fights in a Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2010 from Dr. Patty Ann TublinFew issues bring out the worst in relationships and couples like money. Whether you’re rolling in the dough or struggling to make ends met, money is the number one reason couples fight. When people enter into a romantic relationship, they bring a portfolio of emotions, hopes, fears, strengths ...
Views: 679 - Sexless Marriage: Blocks to Sexual Desire and Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Richard NicastroPhysical intimacy is an important component in marriage and long-term relationships. The reasons why a passionate marriage might dwindle into a sexless marriage vary widely. The first step in keeping passion alive over the long haul is to understand the roadblocks to emotional and physical ...
Views: 2470 - Love In Recession Times - Part 3 - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Daniela RoherThe current recession in the U.S. presents some unique challenges to couples. This is due to a very specific set of circumstances that came together in the past two years, particularly in the Southwest and in Florida. Adding to job loss and depletion of savings, couples in these parts of the ...
Views: 1349 - Love in Recession Times - Part 2 - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Daniela RoherA clear correlation between economic pressure and interpersonal conflict in intimate relationships has been established by many experts in relationships. In a 2005 paper on “The Effects of Economic Pressure on Marital Conflict in Romania” (Journal of Family Psychology, 2005, Vol. 19. No 2, ...
Views: 1375 - Change in Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Diana and Richard DaffnerHow Can Change Happen Within a Relationship? “The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” This quote by French writer Marcel Proust is especially applicable when speaking of change in committed relationships. A relationship is indeed a voyage of ...
Views: 2153(2 votes) - Love In Recession Times - Part 1 - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Daniela RoherA lot has been written on the various areas of our lives affected by the current economic recession. One area that deserves attention, albeit not as immediately identifiable as others, is that of intimate relationships. When under a lot of stress, intimate relationships often cease to be haven ...
Views: 1400 - ***Dating and Looking for Love? Why You Should Think of Yourself First - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you know that you are special, that you count big time, and that you deserve to think of yourself first when dating and developing a love relationship? This is such a difficult concept for so many women. Think of myself first? That’s so selfish! I’ve never done that before…ever! I don’t ...
Views: 2474(12 votes) - You’re Ready To Get Married, But He Isn’t… What’s Going On? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Kara Oh“Often a man gives up his dreams: dreams of being a bachelor and dreams of the work he desires. Not only is he giving that up, but, if marriage and family have been your priority, you’re getting your dreams fulfilled.” Men Made Easy We laugh and joke all the time about how men don’t want to ...
Views: 10091 - How To Win Someone’s Heart - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Greg BakerEver tried to penetrate the tough guy facade? Or been turned away by the ‘I don’t need you or anyone else’ face? There is a secret to winning someone’s heart. This article does not guarantee that you will it merely equips you with the best tools to do so. It does not matter if the situation ...
Views: 9693(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Make Her Happy: Relationship Tips for Men - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsThe cover story on the men's magazine read, “Make Your Woman Deliriously Happy.” This article title immediately caught Jeff's attention. He was, however, disappointed to see that most of the suggestions involved bouquets of flowers, expensive romantic get-aways or extravagant jewelry. A big ...
Views: 4340 - ***The Happiness Choice - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Margaret Paul"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."--Stephen R. Covey, Author and SpeakerThis is a powerful freedom. And, from my point of view, another way of putting this is that the ultimate freedom is the right and power ...
Views: 3563(2 votes) - ***Fear of Anger - Yours and Others - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Margaret PaulAre you terrified of others' anger? Are you afraid to open to your own anger for fear of getting out of control?If you grew up in an angry or violent home, there is a good possibility that you have a fear of both your own anger and others' anger.Fear of Others' AngerI grew up with a very angry ...
Views: 3742(1 vote) - Keep Anger from Spoiling Your Holidays with 3 Tips from Anger Management Experts in 23 Countries - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2010 from Tom WilsonHoliday stress can ruin the holidays when anger raises it's ugly head. Here's a deadly formula; add together holiday stress, poor communication, poor anger control skills and alcohol. Stir together and you get a deadly anti-love potion that is sure to increase verbal and physical conflict among ...
Views: 1027(3 votes) - Love vs. Attraction - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2010 from Tapiwa ChitembureLove and attraction are some of the most confused and misunderstood human emotions when it comes to relationships. You may have experienced deep unexplained feelings for another at some point in your life, but things did not turn out as you had hoped. What happened? You may have also been ...
Views: 1020(5 votes) - 5 Surprising ways to Improve any Relationship for the next 12 months! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Lea DevDo you find that your relationship with certain folks is in a holding pattern or has subtly degraded, and no matter what you do, interactions keep heading toward the Vortex of Nebula? Look at this list and see if any of these describe the sort of change or changes you've sensed within the last ...
Views: 1497(3 votes) - Everything Is Just Memories - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from David SamuelEverything we are, meaning our reactions to situations, thoughts and emotions, is all based on our memories. Many of our pains and pleasures are felt when we think about, or associate the current moment, to an event that happened in the past, thus a memory. As soon as you realize something ...
Views: 3376(4 votes) - How to Save Your Marriage: Coming Back from the Edge - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Jack PowersOne of the most challenging moments as a coach or a counselor comes when your client tells you that their spouse just stormed out saying that they want a divorce. But would you believe that it’s possible for the SAME couple to be doing better than EVER just two weeks later? If you think this ...
Views: 1340(2 votes) - How to Stop Letting Self-Consciousness Ruin Your Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Jack PowersSelf-consciousness can certainly make it difficult to attract and to keep healthy relationships. Not only can it keep you from building new relationships, it can cause needy behavior, jealousy and clinginess...all the things which kill attraction and which drive people out of your life. However, ...
Views: 8173(2 votes) - How to Find Healthy Relationships by Stamping Out Self-Doubt - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Jack PowersThere’s no doubt that self-doubt can keep you from having the relationships that you really want. If you doubt yourself, that doubt will cause all kinds of things like jealousy, insecurity, clinginess and all those things which drive people away and keep you from having high value relationships ...
Views: 3258(1 vote) - Super Confidence-The #1 Secret to Stamping Out Insecurity - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Jack PowersSelf-confidence makes a world of difference in the quality of your relationships, both those which you attract AND those which you already have in your life. Just think about the people who you know that have great relationships in their life, both in their friendships and in their romance. I ...
Views: 1891(1 vote) - 4 Tips to Help Under Stand How to Manage your Anger - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Ari NovickOne of the most common questions asked of me, "is there a an simple way to not get so absolutely angry?". There is not a quick and simple answer to that very innocent question. Anger is an feeling. Recent psychological research shows that we still don't know if we have "control" over our ...
Views: 1285(2 votes) - Wake up in your relationship! - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Susan SheppardThe Wake Up Call by Susan Sheppard Be conscious, aware, and alert. Pay attention. Remember when you were in elementary school and the teacher used to say pay attention now, this is important? Well, this is important. Wake up! What does it take to wake up an adult? Many people go ...
Views: 1094(1 vote) - How to Find Your Dream Man - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Susan SheppardHow to find your Dream Man To find your dream man when you are serious about wanting a committed relationship, just follow the steps below, and then apply my strategy. 1. Visualize the perfect mate for yourself. Get very specific. Be sure to include the values and principals that mean the ...
Views: 2312(9 votes) - Domestic Violence - Understanding How It Starts - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Helen ThompsonDomestic Violence and abusive relationships start will small things and develop into behavioural and thought patterns. Identify how you got there, so you can follow the path to the future you really want. Understanding the behaviours and patterns is the first step to changing your life for ...
Views: 1956 - Relationship Help: 5 Tips to Survive & Thrive This Holiday Season - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Richard NicastroIf it's the season to be jolly... ...then why are there so many stressed, beleaguered couples walking around? Is it more fitting to say, 'Tis the season to feel tense, frustrated and constantly on-the-go? Whether you're feeling totally overwhelmed or slightly frustrated during the holiday ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - Marriage Counsellor Suggestions: 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts for a Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Dr. Dan DaltonA marriage counsellor can help you make your marriage loving and long lasting. Whether you are already married, or are considering getting married, whether you live in a small town in Ontario or a big city like Toronto, it’s a good idea to find a marriage counsellor in your area to help you ...
Views: 1297(1 vote) - How Do You Know if You are Connected to Someone Psychically? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Judy Lynn KoonsAre You noticing a stronger attraction to someone, than normal? Do You remember dreams where the person You are feeling connected to shows up, in your dream, but they look different? Does it seem like maybe You have known this person before? Did You meet seemingly in a synchronistic ...
Views: 4483(1 vote) - Love and the Four Noble Truths - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneThe Four Noble Truths are concepts derived from Buddhist philosophy - simploe yet profound principles to live by. Once we truly understand these principles, we can truly live in the moment, each moment. We can more readily accept whatever life is offering us, find the joy wherever we can, ...
Views: 2734(1 vote) - Following the Four Agreements - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneHave you ever heard of the four agreements? This set of very simple concepts can literally transform your life; profound, yet extremely difficult to practice on a daily basis. “You need a very strong will in order to adopt the four Agreements – but if you can begin to live your life with these ...
Views: 2620(1 vote) - HE Said; SHE heard. - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from PD RiversHE said "You are gaining weight every day. Your body looks like you swallowed the Pillsbury Doughboy." SHE heard "Oh, God, I have to stop taking this medication. It doesn't matter that it is all that is keeping me alive. I am fat and my husband doesn't love me any more." Are you laughing? You ...
Views: 1452(1 vote) - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - Know His True Feelings. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Charles UadialeBreak ups can leave us totally depressed however more devasting than the break up itself is wondering and watching out for signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you. The usual question you ask yourself after break up is why did your ex boyfriend leave you if he still loves you. Love is not ...
Views: 2020 - The Law of Attraction Can Help You Manifest Your Desires, Including Wealth Attraction - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2010 from Nanette GeigerPeople often ask me how to manifest their desires. One person asked how it was possible to stay positive when faced with the prospect of losing his house. Imagine you're in a car barreling towards the edge of a cliff. There's already a lot of energy and momentum racing forward. The only way ...
Views: 1729(6 votes) - Six Steps to Dating Men Effectively in Today's World - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Lorraine JacksonSimilar to a job interview, a date should be used as a screening process to determine if both you and he have the same objective in mind and would be compatible. Implementing the following six steps will allow you to immediately weed out less suitable men and stay focused on attracting what you ...
Views: 4804(6 votes) - Compliments and Their Meaning - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Julian SaganHow important it is for every woman to know that she is beautiful! How important it is for every man to be sure that he is the strongest and most reliable! To understand this and to believe in this is only possible when you know that it is really true, and the proof of that can be the ...
Views: 1234 - Easy tips to get ex boyfriend back - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Hugo C. CercilTraditionally, we assume that a guy is the one who often runs after a girl. But things are different when the relationship is over. Because of different issues, he may be finding it awkward to approach you like he did when you first met. If you’re serious about getting ex boyfriend back, ...
Views: 724 - Obervation to Preservation - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyI was inspired today after my hot yoga class, to write about how people really get stuck in to the drama of their emotions. I watched people as they literally fought with their bodies throughout the class, one to deal with the extreme temperatures which were well over 80 degrees and two, to ...
Views: 941(2 votes) - Is it Time to Move on or is it Just Your Stuff? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyIt struck me recently that there is a distinct difference between knowing when to throw the towel in and call it a day with your dear heart and when it's just your "stuff" surfacing again. But how do you really know ? I don't profess to nailing scientific proof to either side, even ...
Views: 991(4 votes) - The Ferris Wheel - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyDear readers...I have created my ferris wheel analogy in response to years of observations in friends and my own love relationships. This is the scene....you are in a relationship that is beyond the honeymoon period, where the rose coloured spectacles, viewing your once perfect partner, are ...
Views: 1935(4 votes) - Expectations to Ruinations - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyWhen you wake up in the morning. What do you expect to happen ? I expect my alarm to go off in the morning. I expect daylight to have arrived. I expect that I can move my body and get out of bed. I expect my breakfast Radio 2 programme to be on and I expect the kettle to boil when I switch it ...
Views: 898(4 votes) - Single and Happy This Christmas - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyI sat down to write today and have changed the title so many times ! There is just so much to discuss in the fascinating world of love and relationships, but I couldn't let Christmas go by without writing something apt. My word bag is slowly starting to open so who knows where this will end ...
Views: 1801(4 votes) - Tame the Beast - Insecurity - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyA battle field for the heart and emotions...insecurity. It plagued my life and the men I dated, so many times in the last 25 years and was the source of great angst too many times, often with disastrous consequences. Insecurity is a feeling that can't always be intellectualised and virtually ...
Views: 2733(2 votes) - God and Your Relationship - 3 Doesn't Have to be a Crowd - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyThose first glorious moments of spiritual or religious awakening can be huge. As we begin to open and seek our true ”selves” we start to ask questions such as “who am I?” or “why am I here?”. The first experience that connects you to your inner self is one of the most, or maybe best of your ...
Views: 1062(4 votes) - Happily Ever After - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyOnce upon a time, in a land far far away, there lived a princess. A princess so beautiful, her Light shone, mesmerizing the people of the land. They talked only of her purity and kindness and regularly left gifts at the steps to her castle to show their appreciation for her being in their lives. ...
Views: 1047(2 votes) - To Text or Not to Text, That is the Question - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyLeading nicely on from my last piece about how to "tool up" to communicate properly in your relationship, I find myself compelled to mention the wonderful world of non-verbal communication, in particular, texting. Daily life seems to cocoon us more and more within the world of laptops and ...
Views: 895(4 votes) - Is Love Something to Obtain? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyI get an overriding sense these days, upon observation of the many trials and tribulations in 21st Century relationships, that the ultimate goal is about getting love from a partner like it is something to be owned....a possession or a thing; but how that method is working less and less and ...
Views: 866(3 votes) - A Conscious Union - The Ultimate Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Gina HardyIn the past year I have endlessly blogged and chatted to radio hosts about the intricacies of intimate relationships from communication styles to self observation, with unending awe as I explore the certain mysteries of love and how it affects us all. There are heaps of experts and books out ...
Views: 953(2 votes) - Relationship Help: 5 Tips from Successful Couples - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Richard NicastroWhen it comes to building a healthy marriage/relationship, one of the best resources is to hear from couples who have been together for many years and, most importantly, would do it all over again with the same person. In the marriage/relationship enrichment workshops I run, there are often ...
Views: 2529(1 vote) - ***Healing Envy - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Margaret Paul"I have a question about envy. I'm not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else's good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn't but ...
Views: 4926(2 votes) - Law of Attraction: Turn Yourself Into An Energy Equivalent To Your Want - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Nanette GeigerRemember when you learned to tie your shoelaces? Did you do it correctly the first time? Probably not. How much practice did it take to learn how to type correctly on a keyboard? I bet you've done the same combinations of movements thousands of times prior to actually being able to do it without ...
Views: 1644(5 votes) - Self Development and Effective Communication Skills for Good Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2010 from Igor SilvaLet us all admit that there is no perfect relationship in this world. As we individuals are not perfect. Everyone has their own flaws and weaknesses. Amidst these issues, every person dreams to have a happy relationship. We always search on advices on how can we keep the relationship unbroken ...
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