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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- You can have it all—in your Marriage and your Life - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Burrow HillBy Burrow Hill How you define “having it all” depends on your priorities, but typically people want accomplishments such as these: • The perfect spouse • 2.5 wonderful children • A beautiful home and yard • A wonderful, fulfilling career • A sincere and committed faith • An incredible ...
Views: 662 - Working on your Marriage with Good Communication - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Burrow HillEveryone has heard the saying “marriage takes work” or “you’ve got to work on your marriage”. Exactly, what does that mean? I never had a class in school for that. In college, I never saw that class listed in my choices. The local community college doesn’t advertise this type of course. On-line ...
Views: 675 - When You Are The Only One Listening - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Larry HochmanWhat happens when you're the only one listening? Twenty years ago, when we were moving into a new place, a young man helped us out. The son of one of my wife’s friends, he was 14 or 15 years old and just out of a residential drug rehab program. He and I sat in our rented moving truck ...
Views: 1404 - A Man's Best Source to Revive His Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Marble EvensHave you ever thought about why many men follow relationship advice from the wrong sources? Be it a marriage or a relationship they want to save or improve, or even if they are still in the process of finding the right woman, they keep taking advice from one-size-fits-all guides written by other ...
Views: 629 - STUPID CUPID: Enhance the Romance this Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Katy AllgeyerUh-oh…Valentine’s Day is here and those cute little cherubs will be wreaking havoc flinging arrows all over the place. Do Cupid’s arrows have any impact on ones feng shui? Being classified as ancient WMD’s, arrows do not have a positive feng shui connotation. Since Cupid’s a mythical figure, his ...
Views: 2006 - Happy Valentine's? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Michelle GottliebValentine’s is such a special day. It is a day that we are forced, um, no, coerced. No, that isn’t it either. Encouraged to show our love! Yes, Valentine’s Day is a holiday that has been mass marketed to such a degree that we feel that we have no choice but to show our love how special they are ...
Views: 1155 - Conversation Secrets On How To Talk To Anyone About Anything - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Greg BakerThis very simple and easy to follow procedure will help you develop strong conversation skills with people you know and people you don’t know. This skill is meant to help you build lasting connections with people and feel at ease while doing it regardless of your knowledge of the subject or ...
Views: 5011(2 votes) - What does She want from You? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Alexandr kotvitskiyWhat does She want from You? No wonder that men and women act differently in the same situations. They are driven by different factors. We are supposed to expect something in return of our partners, the more we expect the more we get disappointed. A rare case is when partners possess enough ...
Views: 643 - Ten steps to new love - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Alexandr kotvitskiyTen steps to new love Step one: Make up your mind what you really want! What sort of woman do you want to be with? A jolly friend to share the company with a bottle of beer, another football fan? The girl to be one of your fellow-guys? An enthusiastic lover? Or full of inspiration caring ...
Views: 663 - Save Your Marriage - 4 Simple Steps From The Expert On How To Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Johnny WayneIs it worth the time and effort to save your marriage? If you answer YES, then expect that the process is going to be hard and rocky at some point. The steps will be challenging for you but believe that it's going to be at all worth it. But, before you start down that path, you have to answer ...
Views: 905 - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Likes You - 5 Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Likes You - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Johnny WayneGetting over your ex boyfriend can be very difficult to do. The wounds from the break could still be open for now and pain can be aggravated when songs, messages and all other things that remind you of the relationship are present. People who are from a broken heart find it so hard to cope up ...
Views: 5763 - Avoiding A Love Break Up - 2 Best Signs For An Impending Love Break Up You Can Avoid - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Johnny WayneIf you have had a love break up many times, you will really know how hurtful and painful it can be. And if you thought back after the relationship ended, you probably saw all the signs that you didn’t recognize before. If you’ll remember those signs and keep them in mind, they can help you ...
Views: 1814 - Each Person Is A Prism, Part 2: Valentine's Day Edition - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Christopher EdgarWell, as advertisers are helpfully reminding us, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. For me, as for many other people, this can be a time of irritation. This isn’t because I’m what our culture calls a “single guy.” I enjoy that, actually. It’s because this is the time of year when I ...
Views: 1134 - How To Survive An Affair In A Fast Paced World - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Will YapThese days with the explosion of internet and a fast paced working life, people are meeting more new people quickly via work or travel. Such dynamic meetings of strangers during a period or space which most people term as synchronicity often leads to affairs if people develop feelings or ...
Views: 775 - The Helpful Hubby and The Soaking Cycle - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Terrence PlankThe Helpful Hubby and The Soaking Cycle Hey fellas, how would you like to really impress the wife? How do think she would she like it if her girlfriends, co-workers, and even her mother were envious of her good fortune? What could you do on a regular basis that could improve your relationship, ...
Views: 818 - Mediums - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from karla andersonMediums, Psychic Mediums or medium Psychics are the ultrasensitive and exalted souls who exist on a higher spiritual platform than normal human beings. While a part of their consciousness remains in constant touch with the divine entities – spirits, guiding spirits and angles–the other part ...
Views: 985 - Truth Behind Why Men Cheat On Their Wives! - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Daniel TangSo why do men cheat on their wives? There are many answers to this question and a lot of times, it's not exactly what women would like to hear, such as men are biologically wired to seek out as many suitable partners as possible or because they're not getting as much action at home or it's due ...
Views: 1006 - What Matters To You - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Heidi CornelissenI forgot a friend’s birthday this month. A friend that I’ve known for over 20 years. I really have no excuse, as it just so happens that 7 birthdays of close friends and family fall in the first week of January. So I’m usually prepared for this week and quite aware of each birthday on each ...
Views: 1139 - Events and Adventures Reviews - South Florida - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Walker WiljSouth Florida Events and Adventures club members were all over the beaches and on land enjoying a variety of unique activities. For example, some members explored South Beach in an amphibious vehicle both in the water and on dry land, while others more reserved elected to mingle, socialize, and ...
Views: 1251 - ***Dating? (Exactly) What to Say to Men in Difficult Situations - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerIn dating, good communication is the key to meeting and attracting men…especially the right men. It's also the key to developing and maintaining fulfilling relationships. One of the most important ways I support my coaching clients (www.datelikeagrownup.com/coaching) is by helping them ...
Views: 2354 - Surviving Infidelity in Marriages - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Tee EdwardsOne of the most difficult obstacles to deal with in a marriage is infidelity. Surviving infidelity in marriages is not impossible, but it takes a lot. It takes a lot of communication, understanding, responsibility and forgiveness. These four pillars are essential to coping with infidelity and ...
Views: 1004 - Are you too comfortable in your comfort zone - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Carmen GuerraAre you too comfortable where you are at? We may not like what we are doing for a living or the relationships we are involved in but we do not make the changes necessary. This can be due to fear of getting out of our comfort zone. Profession A reason why some people may not achieve their ...
Views: 1988 - Building Intimacy Heals Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Susan DerryToo often people in relationships feel disconnected and alone. Perhaps they have been hurt in the past and want to avoid being hurt in the future. The problem is that cutting themselves off from intimacy not only strains their relationships, but strains their health as well. They may have built ...
Views: 1974 - Menopause Effect on Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Kristina von RosenvingeMenopause is a natural stage in the life of a woman. This life transition is accompanied by physical and emotional changes that affect not just the woman but also the significant others in her life. It is a time of also confronting the reality that one is entering the second half of life. For ...
Views: 2325(1 vote) - Replace Head Trash with Positive Affirmations - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Mary Lee Gannon,I am a firm believer in “You are what you attract.” If you find that you continue to attract the same type of negative friends, unfulfilling relationships, drama, bad luck, negative energy, unrewarding career, bad health, poor physical image, etc, then I bet you are spending a lot of time ...
Views: 1924(1 vote) - ***Will Marriage Improve With Time? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many travels around the world conducting our marriage research, we are often ask this question – “Does Marriage Improve With Age?” The answer is, YES! Here’s why. We have interviewed successfully marriage couples on six continents in 45 ...
Views: 4743(21 votes) - Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back: Love is Sweeter the Second Time Around - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Joyce PearsonWinning back your ex-boyfriend can be quite a challenging task. Especially Valentine's Day is just round the corner, you will need to have adequate courage, understanding, patience, time and persistence to tolerate the pressures to save the relationship. It is even tougher should your ex ...
Views: 1707 - Remember Only the Good - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Janice HoffmanEach time we survive the loss of a love, any kind of love, life takes on new meaning. We hurt, we cry, we learn, we grow. We promise ourselves that the next time around, we will be smarter and wiser and we are. . . . . until the next time. We meet someone new, someone we care about and ...
Views: 1148 - Dear Dr. Romance: I cannot compete with a dead man - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my loneliness and made me feel alive again. ...
Views: 887 - Get Ur Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Larry KearneyEstablished Ways To Get Ur Girlfriend Back Successful Ways To Get Ur Girlfriend Back. There are numerous techniques to get ur girlfriend back, however some ways are more effective as compared to others. The first thing you have to do is deal with your self, and your hurt ego. You are probably ...
Views: 445 - The Secret to Making Friends - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from cedric riceThe person who has a multitude of friends pays the price to keep them. Friends are like a garden. You have to plant the seeds, water them, fertilize them, and periodically you must pull up the weeds that get in between. The popular person must devote the majority of their time to maintaining ...
Views: 1341 - The Biggest Dilemma When Surviving An Affair: Should I Stay Or Should We Get a Divorce? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartWhen you are surviving an affair, your next decision comes down to only two choices: to stay together and try saving your marriage or get out and leave everything behind. Here are three questions for you to consider before making any decision: 1. Are you the only one who is trying to work on ...
Views: 1071(1 vote) - What is “Love”? Learn the Qualities Necessary to Have “True” Love. - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from JoAnne Ceccarelli-EganFebruary is the month of Valentine’s Day and media focus tends to be on love. Often my clients tell me that they have met their “soul mate” or “have fallen deeply in love”. Have they? Like cupids arrow, “falling in love” can be deep and swift but is this really love? Having witnessed successful ...
Views: 1965 - Is Your Marriage Over? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamThe only time I believe in giving up on a marriage is when one of them dies, or if after their divorce one of them marries someone else, or if one of them continues involvement in an activity that makes the marriage impossible. Otherwise, I believe there is a chance to reconcile. The first ...
Views: 3365(1 vote) - The Kindest - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Michele OMaraToday is the first day of Spring Break for my kiddos. They were promised a treat of their choice if they get through their last week of class without “moving their apple,” which is 1st grade code language at their school for “ummmmm, you’re in big troooouble!” I sweetened the deal a bit, ...
Views: 1052(2 votes) - Top 7 Tips For Surviving An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartEven solid relationships can face this situation at one time, of having to deal with surviving an affair after one of the partner cheated. Curiosity, desire, temptation, many people find it difficult to deny that "something else ". When other people come into their lives, a simple affair can ...
Views: 2013(1 vote) - Surviving An Affair - Where Do I Begin? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartTo cope with your spouse's infidelity is not something that anyone can do it. In fact the odious word of infidelity is not a word that many people would want to associate it with cooperation, because it is always painful and carries a connotation of betrayal especially after surviving an ...
Views: 1075(1 vote) - After Surviving An Affair, How Do I Keep It From Happening Again? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartYou have decided to leave behind your partner's infidelity and try to rebuild the relationship. In theory sounds good but in reality, it is very hard to have confidence again in the person you cheated on you and surviving an affair is much harder to accomplish. Keep yourself grounded and ask for ...
Views: 1199(1 vote) - Surviving An Affair - How Do We Restore The Trust? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartWhen partners of a couple are asked to describe what are the most stressful situations in their relationship, the most commonly answer is the lack of trust which can take different forms especially when they are in the situation of surviving an affair. Here are the most used comments women ...
Views: 994(1 vote) - Surviving An Affair - Will They Cheat Again? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartAfter the initial shock, no matter how powerful it is, there comes a point where you have to make a decision - we stay together or separate. There are quite a few people who could move on and try to solve their problems after an affair because they still believe that surviving an affair can be ...
Views: 1127(1 vote) - Surviving an Affair - 3 Emergency Steps to Take When You First Discover the Affair - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesWhen you first learn about an affair, you feel like a hurricane just passed through your heart. Surviving an affair usually means dealing with awful emotions like grief, anger, frustration and losing most of your self esteem. What you need when you first discover about an affair (right after ...
Views: 1345(2 votes) - PERSONAL RESPONSES TO CONFLICT: Where are you and where are they? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from H AtkinsonHave you ever been embroiled in a dispute at work, home, or with a stranger and wondered how to extricate yourself from the mess? Well it might be worth knowing that there really are a lot of choices. The real question is how you feel about yourself and what resolution will cost you in money, ...
Views: 2192(1 vote) - Always Being Nice - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellWomen tend to always do things they don’t want to do because they don’t want to seem unkind. They want to be labeled as being nice. They take comments from others, food orders that are less than satisfactory, to treatment from their partners that is below their standards. How do we stop reacting ...
Views: 1585(1 vote) - Making your Marriage Work in Sickness and in Health. - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Burrow HillWhen you think about marriage tips for making a marriage work, you’re usually thinking about how to make it work when you and your spouse are both healthy and going about the regular business of life. However, it’s important that couples understand that in the most successful marriages, couples ...
Views: 1055 - Communication in Marriage Prepares you for all of Life’s Events—a marriage tip for managing the unthinkable. - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Burrow HillIn the marriage seminars and at the couple retreats I hold for married couples, I stress the importance of communication in marriage as a way of making a marriage more successful and daily life better. However, some events are not every-day events; some are catastrophic! When you pay attention ...
Views: 708 - Communication in Marriage…the financial reason. - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Burrow HillThere are a number of really good reasons why you must have good communication to make your marriage work. One type of communication--communication about money in your marriage-may be put on hold for a long time, but sooner or later your marriage-and your life-will suffer if you don't have good ...
Views: 839 - Your Marriage Relationship Toolbox - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Burrow HillThere are certain “talk” tools that can improve any marriage. These tools are often used with couples who sign up for marriage retreat week-ends. Specific “talk” tools are introduced along with a process known as facilitated communication. With communication facilitated by a third party, ...
Views: 889 - The Law of Attraction and the Benefits of Your Higher Mind - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Nanette GeigerWhat do I mean by Higher Mind Functioning? The only way you can really categorize something is to place it within a larger framework of ideas. If there's higher mind functioning, what would it mean to be functioning from a lower state? Thoughts from a "lower mind" can often be interpreted ...
Views: 1573(12 votes) - I Used To Be Happy -- What Happened? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Curt GorlickBecoming Aware! I talk with a lot of people who say they are tired of living the way they’re feeling now. I often ask, “What are you feeling now?” The some common answers I get are: • “I’m not exactly sure what I’m feeling. I just know I’m frustrated and disappointed with the people ...
Views: 10640 - CHOOSING JOY, CONFIDENCE, LOVE: Change Automatic Assumptions and Thoughts to Change your Life - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Adina LewkowiczWe are all doing our best, trying to meet our needs, shlepping along the road of life without a map. Much of the time, we do what we do and after we’ve done it, we wish we hadn’t. Much of the time, what we do doesn’t get our needs met and actually gets us the opposite result, but it’s all that ...
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