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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationship Counselling / Couples Counselling - Why it's A Good Idea - by Submitted on May 21, 2012 from Richard ColeIf you are getting stuck in arguments relationship counselling is a good idea because you soon find out that there is more to understanding what is going on that you may initially think. It's wise to take time to evaluate and reflect before making big decisions; It might come as a surprise to ...
Views: 1580(1 vote) - Relationship Healing Challenges - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from David OttHealing Challenges In Relationships Everything seems to go well in relationships until circumstances or interactions activate some aspect of the pain and fear we carry within us. Unaware we carry this pain and fear, the probability is high we will become frightened and defensive when it ...
Views: 2055(1 vote) - Relationship Help - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Radomir SamardzicAfter dealing with thousands of people and their relationships, it became very obvious to me that the people who are looking for relationship help usually seek it after they have exhausted all the knowledge and tricks they themselves had up their sleeve. By the time they start looking for ...
Views: 1755(1 vote) - Relationship Help: 5 Tips to Survive & Thrive This Holiday Season - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Richard NicastroIf it's the season to be jolly... ...then why are there so many stressed, beleaguered couples walking around? Is it more fitting to say, 'Tis the season to feel tense, frustrated and constantly on-the-go? Whether you're feeling totally overwhelmed or slightly frustrated during the holiday ...
Views: 1242(1 vote) - Relationship Help: Transform Your Marriage With a Question - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Richard NicastroQuestions have the power to change people... For centuries, philosophers have known about the power of questions as a tool to finding the deeper truths about life. And questions are one of the central ways in which therapists (including marriage/couples counselors) help clients create more ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2017 from Darlene LancerAnger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ...
Views: 1704(2 votes) - Relationships and Conflict of Expectations - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Jonathon AslayHas your girl friend ever said this: “What does it take to get him to change” ? Or have you received advice from a friend saying: “You just need to train him how you want him to be”? As a Relationship Coach and the Heart Protector of Women I want to tackle the topic of trying to change ...
Views: 2568(1 vote) - Relationships in the New Energy - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Stefanie MillerEverything in creation holds an energy frequency. It seems so obvious to many of us. Yet, so many have not embraced that philosophy. There are those that still choose to live unconsciously and make choices that are not in direct alignment and in harmony with their lives. Living, as well as ...
Views: 2444(1 vote) - Relationships: "I'm Open, You're Closed" - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Margaret PaulRianna and Joel consulted with me because they kept getting stuck in their relationship whenever there was a conflict. It wasn't the issue itself that kept creating a problem, but how they were dealing with the issue. Married for 7 years with three children, they loved each other deeply, and ...
Views: 4711(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone End Up Being Dependent On Others If Their Adult Self Is Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up feeling upset, they may find that another part of them is there to soothe this part of them. Or, if they were to feel a bit deflated and low on motivation, another part of them may offer them support and encouragement. It might then sound as though they have multiple ...
Views: 729(1 vote) - Relationships: Compatibility And Common Sense - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from Linda WielandIn her search of the "perfect relationship," one Israeli woman discovered something important about herself. Hadas met Yaniv at a party. Something about him attracted her immediately and something about her attracted him too. He called her the next day and they went out, and Yaniv turned out to ...
Views: 1310(2 votes) - Relationships: Conflict Resolution Without Words - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling ...
Views: 2910(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Smothered When They Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to intimacy, it could be said that there are at least three types of people. There can the ones who want to experience it, the ones who do experience it and the ones who do everything they can do avoid it. And whether one has fulfilling relationships can all depend on which one ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who ...
Views: 746(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Crave Love? - by Submitted on May 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is likely that just about everyone on this planet enjoys receiving love and affection. Along with this, just as many people are likely to enjoy expressing love and affection. When this takes place, someone can give another person their full attention. Thus, this can also be a time when ...
Views: 672(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1854(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Lack Empathy When They Tell Other People To Smile? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be moments when one is happy and moments when they are not. And if they were to reflect on their life, they may see that they spend more time in one state than they do in the other. This can be how their life has always been, or it could just be down to ...
Views: 1750(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Be Careful Who They Let Into Their Life If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case. Interdependent In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food ...
Views: 1821(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Warn Others If They Have Been With Someone Who Is Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with. The Reason If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ...
Views: 1397(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Spirituality Allow People To Romanticize Their Issues? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s life is not going as they would like it to go, there are a number of things that they can do. This could be a time where one will end up feeling like a victim, and they could then suffer in silence. One will then continue to live their life in the same way, and this can mean ...
Views: 1235(1 vote) - Relationships: Don't Settle For Less Than the Best - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2010 from Gloria ArensonDo you settle for relationships with people because you secretly believe that you can't do better? I once knew a wonderful and loving minister who used to tell a story about one of his parishioners who came to him for guidance. She was a lovely woman who was having trouble financially. She told ...
Views: 5861(1 vote) - Relationships: How Should Someone Respond When Another Person Is Indifferent? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can be friends with people who put in as much effort as they do, there is also the chance that this isn’t the case. It could then be said that some of their relationships will be out of balance. And not only might this apply to their friends, it could also be something that they ...
Views: 4230(1 vote) - Relationships: Is It Important To Grieve The End Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course ...
Views: 2135(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Someone Displaying Real Empathy When They Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be there for others from time to time, this can also be something that consumes their whole life. It is then not going to matter what is taking place in their life, as they will be only too happy to put it to one side. Self-Neglect Due to this, it can be normal for one ...
Views: 1291(1 vote) - Relationships: Should Someone Look At Their Childhood If They End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance. Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ...
Views: 1458(1 vote) - Relationships: The Healing Power Of Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhether it is relationships with friends, acquaintances or spousal for example; they all have the potential for healing and consequently growth to occur. Opportunities are presented for one to integrate and process those parts that lay dormant; that are waiting to be realised. We are also ...
Views: 2536(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Criticize People Who Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be in a position where they always find people to criticise, this might only take place from time to time. When it comes to what they can relate to, it could all depend on what mood they are in. As a result of this, the people around them might prefer to keep their distance ...
Views: 1404(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hide Their True-Self In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship, it could show that they are with someone who they share every part of their being with. What this means is that they will talk about what is taking place in their mind, reveal what is taking place in their heart and share their body. As a result of this, every ...
Views: 953(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1732(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Believe That All Men Hate Women? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go online and to look for information on the women’s movement, they are likely to come across all kinds of views and opinions. In fact, this could also take place if one was to simply find people who were part of this movement in their local area. University For example, if ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Return With My Ex - Effective Intend to Win Back Your Ex Fast - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Michael LoisIf you are wondering how on the planet can one return with my ex once they wont return my calls, return my messages or worse, have explained they need nothing related to me? If that's the case, you have to look at this article cautiously. Fortunately most breakdowns in relationships are ...
Views: 720(1 vote) - Rising Above Betrayal – 3 Tips on How to Overcome Betrayal - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Betrayal is one of the uglier things in life, but sometimes it cannot be helped. Have you ever been betrayed by someone? It could be some acquaintaince you wouldn’t mind losing in your life, but it could also be a close family member, a best friend, or a partner. Whether ...
Views: 3779(2 votes) - Sarees - A Perfect Gifting Idea for the Holiday Season - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2016 from Harshad JethraWith the New Year just around the corner, festivity is in the air. It’s the time for parties, celebration, but the holiday season could be reminiscent and nostalgic. This is a perfect time to meet up with friends and family, express your thoughtfulness, interact, have some beautiful times ...
Views: 1020(1 vote) - Save Marriage Tips - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Yeak Zu JinIf you're having problem in your marriage, then you're probably desperately wanting some helpful save marriage tips before thins get any worse. Many marriages can be saved, however you need to be willing to look at ways that in which you will be contributing to the problems. After all, the only ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Save Your Marriage by Dealing with Each Challenge Head On - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Phil CosmoIs it any wonder that couples in arranged marriages tend to stay together longer than those that find each other by chance? This statistic struck me as being incredible. You would think that two people who come together from a spark of love would have a better chance of a life long ...
Views: 1292(1 vote) - See How Synchronicity Can Signal The Next Chapters of Adventure You Seek With Others - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2020 from Kare AndersonCoincidences are often signs of synchronicity, yet they aren’t as obvious as some you may see, unless you are looking for patterns. Then you can notice what you are choosing to notice. Ironically I discovered Daniel Johnson’s article online about meaningful coincidences by accident because ...
Views: 861(1 vote) - Seeds of Co-dependency - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from David GharatWhile family relationships (or substitute family relationships) are indeed essential for everyone, there are instances in which a relationship can become harmful. There are a number of potential reasons for this to occur in the previously described situation, many of which stem from ...
Views: 1669(1 vote) - Self Awareness Is The Key To All Successful Relationships! - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2011 from Denise DemaWho am I? To answer this, we must first learn to become more aware of ourselves. To be aware, we need to step outside ourselves and objectively watch ourselves in action. We live most of our lives by habit. These habits keep us stuck in self-limiting patterns. Once we identify these unconscious ...
Views: 1494(1 vote) - Self Defense For Verbal Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from Radomir SamardzicI asked my good friend Philip, an Aikido practitioner, to wrote this article because when I first time heard of this technique I immediately recognized it as a gold mine for resolving relationship conflicts (although this particular story is about a conflict with a neighbor) and and at the same ...
Views: 2343(1 vote) - Self-Awareness Exemplifies the Essence of Gestalt Therapy: The Fully-Functioning Person and Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Doron GilTHE FULLY-FUNCTIONING PERSON The Fully-Functioning Person, according to Gestalt Therapy, is one who self-actualizes himself by freeing himself from what prevents him to live life to the fullest. In order to do so it is vital that he develops his Self-Awareness: 1) Gets in touch with his ...
Views: 2808(1 vote) - Selfish Feelings - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from Radomir SamardzicAre we our feelings, or we just have them? Sometimes it seems that we are made of them. Feelings pervade our every day lives. How do we manage them and how we use them or abuse them? We have good feelings and bad feelings. When we feel good we appear to be a totally different person than when ...
Views: 4977(1 vote) - Setting Personal Boundaries - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Linney ElderBy Linney Elder So…what invaluable lessons have I learned this week? Well, for one…I am definitely not Superwoman! That myth has been well and truly blown out the window. What I have realised once again is the value of setting boundaries and when it’s totally appropriate to simply say ...
Views: 2354(1 vote) - Seven Things Men Find Irresistible in a Woman - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Donald TilfordWomen have always longed to be noticed and to be appreciated for the special gifts and unique qualities they have. In today's world, it can sometimes be difficult if not impossible to stand out and get noticed. Many of us are heads down in our computer programs, cell phone, social media, and ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - Seven Ways to Inject Love into Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Phil CosmoBy Phil Cosmo After 20 years of marriage Betsy and Dylan were flying back from a trip they took together to the Caribbean. On the plane Betsy asked him if he still loved her. For a minute he thought about it and said: “What a stupid question. Of course I love you!” For Betsey hearing those ...
Views: 2067(2 votes) - Sex is Learned - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeSex is a learned act. That’s right: l-e-a-r-n-e-d. I remember contributing an article to an online portal a few months back. I had written the sentence: “For most people, sex is a learned act.” When the portal owner’s edits come back, she had written: “Don’t you mean, ‘For most people, sex is ...
Views: 1119(1 vote) - Sexless Marriage – 5 Reasons For Your Husband’s Low Sex Drive - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2012 from Lisa Penn-JamesMarriage therapists estimate as many as 20 percent of couples are in a low-sex or sexless marriage in the USA. To my surprise, often enough it’s the men, heterosexual men, who don’t want sex with their spouse. How many times do you hear about a woman complaining about her sexless marriage? ...
Views: 2949(1 vote) - Shake Hands And Call It A Year - Avoid Holiday-Related Relationship Issues - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Kevin Strong a.k.a. Dr Roman TicI made it. This graying heap of miserliness managed to survive yet another horribly happy holiday season without having to sing songs about some red-nosed freak of nature or some cute baby born in a cold barn to poor parents. Good old Roman Tic managed to slide right through the "happy ...
Views: 757(1 vote) - Shared Space, Shared Happiness - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Jan DeniseShared Space, Shared Happiness While you’re thinking of all the ways you can improve your home, don’t get preoccupied with trends and technology. Make sure it reflects the behavioral, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, and magical you. Then consider all the ways you and your ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - Should a Relationship End Even If You Still Love Each Other? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Joyce SorianoThere will always be a pain in 'goodbyes'. No matter how much we seem to understand everything, it breaks our hearts to ever see anything beautiful die. It seems we weren't really made for sad endings, or any kind of parting. And yet it is only by allowing some things to end could we ever ...
Views: 2282(1 vote) - Should I Be Friends With My Ex Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2013 from Alan Sahu"Should I be friends with my ex boyfriend?" No, you shouldn’t. Relationships are a confusing business and every second there is one being formed somewhere but also one breaking down. Sometimes these breakups can be smooth and simple whereas there are plenty of times when they can get very ...
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