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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Communication with Your Partner is Vital! - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2011 from Annie RamYou’ve probably heard it before, but good communication is absolutely necessary for enduring and fostering any healthy and loving relationship. I’d like to point out the word “good” in good communication. Truth is, anyone can communicate. Anyone can tell, talk to, talk at, share with, ...
Views: 682 - Communication: Does It Matter How You Greet Someone? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life when they meet someone for the first time, and how they greet them is likely have a big impact on what happens after they have met. This is because the other person’s first impressions are going to be heavily influenced by what takes place during this ...
Views: 2043 - Communication: Is Listening Important? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, talking will be something they enjoy doing and this will be balanced out by their ability to listen. But there will also be people who are good at either talking or listening and yet, they will fall down when it comes to the other option. This is going to mean that they are out ...
Views: 1946 - Communication: Key to Harmonious Co-existence - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraYou’ve heard it said many times before--no man is an island—and you recognize its significance. Yet, you find yourself alienated from friends and family because your communication skills fall between shoddy and downright atrocious. When criticized you either go on the defensive and ...
Views: 793 - Communications & Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from Dolly YeoWith all my five years of learning about self development, simply put, it is all about our communications and relationships. Think about it, isn’t it all about our daily communications and our relationships with our boss, colleagues, subordinates, friends, spouse and children and parents? ...
Views: 1323 - Communications Techniques: What Works Best? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Kimberly SchenkThere is an abundance of communication skill training in the marketplace. How can you choose the best communication technique for you? Effective communication methods consistently have certain underlying characteristics. Whether that is a conscious choice or not (I believe some programs touch ...
Views: 1381 - Compassion, Part 1 - by "Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves."
~Unknown
Webster's Dictionary defines compassion as the sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. But the first step toward having compassion for others is having compassion for yourself. It ...
Views: 727 - Compassion, Part 2 - by Having compassion toward others is a gift of connectedness you give yourself and a gift of presence you give others. While difficult to define, compassion is a way of being, and you will see the definition emerge among the three concepts presented here.
1. Compassion involves seeing others as ...
Views: 757 - Compatibility & the 4 Human Needs - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Fernando NoriegaRelationships are work! They just are. The work can be challenging, time consuming, and if you’re mindful and on point it can also be rewarding, fulfilling and enduring. I am going to go out on a limb here and just speak from my own experiences and observations – relationships the Queer ...
Views: 1135 - Competition into Collaboration - A Formula for Success - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageIt’s one thing to know our own strengths and weaknesses in business. It is also important to know the same about your competitors. Unfortunately, many entrepreneurs don’t take the time to find out about their competitors until it is too late. Knowing your competitors’ strengths and weaknesses ...
Views: 2182 - Compliment Or Slap In The Face? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 2007 Compliment Or Slap In The Face? (SET ITAL) Dear Jan: I am looking for some insight. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a public event in an art gallery. We talked for 30 minutes and really seemed to ...
Views: 1278 - Compliments and Their Meaning - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Julian SaganHow important it is for every woman to know that she is beautiful! How important it is for every man to be sure that he is the strongest and most reliable! To understand this and to believe in this is only possible when you know that it is really true, and the proof of that can be the ...
Views: 1234 - Composing A Letter To Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2011 from Andrew HunterIf you want your ex back in your life there are several ways that you can accomplish this. Personally talking to them would be the simplest method but then, it could leave you open to mistakes that would eventually dash your chances. The level of emotions usually displayed in personal ...
Views: 2398 - Compromise and Boundary Setting - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Jessica PlancichCompromise and Boundary Setting By: Jessica Plancich, MFT It is a basic human desire to be accepted and loved. We are social beings and as primates, we thrive in packs and communities. The difficulty in this is that by looking to the outside for this acceptance, we will be forever ...
Views: 1355 - Compromising: Love Your Relationship, Love Your Mate - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellEveryone knows that you have to compromise in any relationship, but how one goes about compromising is the question. Is it simply that you give in because you shy away from conflict or an argument ensued, making it a win-lose situation? Or, do you talk about the situation and come to a decision ...
Views: 1929 - Conditional Love: What Is Conditional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is love that is not given freely; love that is only given based on certain requirements being fulfilled and met. It is during our childhood that we have our first experience of love and our meaning or model of love is also created as a child. And to be more specific here, the love I ...
Views: 5363 - Confession – A rare trait in human beings - by Submitted on May 11, 2012 from Brad WendlandLife is itself a series of emotions and a composition of repetitive acts that seems very exciting sometimes but slowly becomes boring and mundane. We love to perform certain acts in life which may be very exciting for us but it may bring in a lot of disturbance in the life of others. Eve ...
Views: 739 - Confidence With Getting Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2012 from Karyn DaviesJust because you have broken up with your girlfriend or boyfriend does not mean that your relationship is lost forever. Even when you are left lonely and confused, you can still begin to take the steps needed to mend your relationship. But there are certain things that you must be aware of if ...
Views: 803 - Conflict Brings The Sexiest High - Five Reasons Why, Five Ways To Re-configure. - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2007 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondOliver¡¦s guilty voice squeaked ¡§I¡¦m going out for a drink with my friends, okay?¡¨ Megan pounced on him like a cat determined not to let the mouse escape. ¡§You only just got home, why do you have to go out again?¡¨ his wife challenged. Oliver¡¦s pulse catapulted into overdrive, his face ...
Views: 1190 - Conflict Busters - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Mia RoseHe loves me; he loves me not… It’s taken me a long time to get my head around the fact that sometimes even a lot of love isn’t enough to make a relationship work. You can love someone dearly, but still attack them, disrespect them, verbally abuse them, and withdraw from them. At the time of ...
Views: 1862 - Conflict Coaching With A Life Coach - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2012 from Tracy MorrowConflict coaching can be a great help and is a service offered by a professional life coach who is trained and specializes in helping with conflict issues in relationships. Conflict coaching looks at your relationship and helps you to explore new ways of acting and reacting to minimize or remove ...
Views: 1146 - Conflict Exploration - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellMost people dread arguments, power struggles, and the silent treatment. Exploring and resolving differences are skills as important as the 3Rs and the skills least likely to be talked about. Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away. Instead , when we explore conflict, we paradoxically experience ...
Views: 1819 - Conflict in Marriage- Fight Fair - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2010 from Tom JanicAny marriage or relationship will sooner or later come into a period of conflict. The conflict is usually started with something that may be unimportant or even trivial, but if not handled well can escalate into a major problem. Hence the title of my article for today ‘conflict in marriage-fight ...
Views: 690 - Conflict in Marriage- Preventing Escalation - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2010 from Tom JanicAll close relationships, including marriage, will sooner or later have some conflict, it normally starts with something small or something that one of you feels strongly about, whatever the issue it must be addresses as soon as it arises. This article is based on my experiences; conflict in ...
Views: 718 - Conflict Resolution - by Conflict by nature is difficult. And yet conflict is a normal, natural aspect of any relationship. In fact, conflict handled well is healthy and can improve, even add to a relationship, leaving both of you feeling heard and understood. It is only when people handle conflict poorly that the ...
Views: 772 - Conflict Resolution for Boomers and the Media Culture - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2007 from Phyllis GoldbergHave you noticed that, in our culture, slurs about gender, class, race and sex have become fairly commonplace and are often even seen as humorous by some? Howard Stern, Ann Coulter, Jesse Jackson and Bill O'Reilly, to name a few well known pundits, have been busy playing the 'can you top this' ...
Views: 825 - Conflict Rules: Keep it Simple Stupid - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2016 from Joe VeWhen considering your rules about dealing with conflicts it's time to KISS and make-up . . . or rather the principle of Keep It Simple Stupid. At some point in any relationship you'll begin to experience conflict. It happens sometime after you discover that he or she isn't perfect and ...
Views: 1238 - Conflict: Key to a Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraHaving a conflict in any relationship is as normal as breathing. It is a reality that every couple has to face every single day. Although the term has gained quite a negative connotation, having disagreements now and then is not actually bad. No matter what the cause, conflicts have positive ...
Views: 676 - Conflict: The Dance of Disagreement - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Sally ConnollySharon and Bill fought a lot about money, children and household chores. The disagreements always began with Sharon’s request in what she thought was a friendly tone but Bill heard as a nagging tone. Bill’s response was generally a defensive one, complaining about her tone or the fact that she ...
Views: 1706 - Conflicts between two sisters - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Neetu AgarwalI was on one of the relationship forum sites and a very interesting discussed topic came across in front of me which I would like to share. This was on conflicts between two sisters. According to younger sister: Her elder sister, married with no children, has never been an easy person ...
Views: 997 - Conflicts with Your Significant Other: How to Fight Fair - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from nancy traversEven the healthiest relationships will experience rough patches. No two people will always agree, and eventually these disagreements will need to be handled. Conflicts and arguments are not the signs of a bad marriage or partnership. However, how you and your partner handle an argument can be ...
Views: 1502 - Conflicts, their stages and how to resolve them - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2012 from Dr. Pran RanganWe human beings are social animals. The nature of human beings is such that they cannot live alone. No human being can develop normally in isolation. The essential qualities of human nature are revealed through social interactions. Many of our needs will remain unsatisfied if we don’t have the ...
Views: 943 - Confrontations - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Michelle GottliebHave you ever had a situation where you had a person in your life, a co-worker, a friend, a partner, with whom you were having an issue but were choosing not to confront that person? Many people have issues with confrontations. They are scary. You are not sure what will happen. Or if it will ...
Views: 1433 - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
Views: 1638 - Connecting is Vital for Tapping Into Your Synergy - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne would think that connecting with our partner is an easy feat. After all they are the one person we are supposed to be the most intimate with. This is most often not the case and we are actually not that intimate. I find that couples have a very difficult time connecting, feeling connected ...
Views: 1781 - Connection Habits help enhance or rekindle love… - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2022 from Emma ViglucciHappy Love Month! This is when things can begin to look up. It is up to us to grab the possible new vibe… It is up to us to create a new vibe… Will you continue to feel exhausted, burnt out, unmotivated and blah? Or will you replenish yourself with a rich Self-Love Practice and set the right ...
Views: 774 - Conquering Commitment Phobia - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Janice BennettThe process of creating a life partner relationship typically progresses through various stages. At one important point, a couple will decide to become "exclusive," agreeing not to date anyone else. While being exclusive has its benefits, it is really only one stop on the road to a life ...
Views: 6721 - Conscious Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2018 from Dr. Connie StomperHistorically, marriages were based on economic factors and roles were assigned to individuals within that institution. Roles gave men and women clear guidelines for interacting and thus clear expectations of each other. When romanticism developed, the beloved served the function of a creative ...
Views: 946 - Consequences, the result of your Actions - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2006 from Michaela ScherrMaybe you are looking at a sea or green change, career change, further education, having a child, or something else. Regardless of what changes you have in mind it helps if you take time to consider the consequences of this change, particularly if you are in a relationship and have children ...
Views: 5225 - Constant Arguing In A Marriage: Constant Arguing With Partner - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesConstant Arguing In A Marriage: Constant Arguing With Partner In the Japanese martial art of Aikido, the defender uses skill to neutralize the attacker's force without injury to either party. By accepting the attack rather than opposing it, the defender goes with the attacker's motion and ...
Views: 743 - Constant Fighting In Marriage: Constantly Fighting With Husband - Why Is My Husband Picking A Fight With Me All The Time - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Jamari MarvinConstant Fighting In Marriage: Constantly Fighting With Husband - Why Is My Husband Picking A Fight With Me All The Time My husband and I fight all the time and this is very tiring. We fight almost over everything even if it is the slightest issue. Why is my husband picking fight with me all ...
Views: 558 - Contact With An Ex Boyfriend - Get His Attention - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversContacting My Ex Boyfriend - The Right Way To Talk To Him; Obviously you can't avoid your ex forever - at least not if you hope to get back together. You probably want to make contact with your ex boyfriend sooner rather than later but picking the right time is almost as challenging as deciding ...
Views: 1932 - Contacting My Ex Boyfriend - The Right Way To Talk To Him - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversContacting My Ex Boyfriend - The Right Way To Talk To Him; Feel like contacting ex boyfriend? The two of you feel like strangers and you barely are able to form words to say to each other. Breakups are, by definition, awkward and strange. They turn two people who used to share an intimate bond ...
Views: 8147 - Contacting My Ex Boyfriend – Doing It The Right Way - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversContacting My Ex Boyfriend – Doing It The Right Way; Ex boyfriend contact can be intimidating and difficult, but it doesn't necessarily have to be this way. Contacting your ex boyfriend is a straightforward task once you know what you are doing. A complete solution to help you get your ex ...
Views: 3509 - Contacting Your Ex-boyfriend – How to Contact Your Ex-boyfriend And Control Your Emotions - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2012 from Alan SahuWhether you like the thought of it or not, after any break up there will be things that you and your ex-boyfriend will need to discuss. If you were living together, then there will be issues to do with the house and all of the related bills. For example, will one of you continue to live in the ...
Views: 1107 - Controlling Behavior: Allowing Others to Be - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe all know what it’s like to want to be in control. In some ways, exerting control is an important survival skill. For example, we have every right to be in control of our own bodies and our own lives. Taking control in these cases is empowering and necessary. Controlling behavior in the ...
Views: 2035 - Controlling Behaviour: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Controlling? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it is a case of either controlling others or being controlled; there is no middle ground. Even so, this doesn’t mean that this is something that goes through their mind. Completely Unaware Instead, one can feel compelled to do whatever they can to control other people. As ...
Views: 1112 - Controlling Relationship - It Is Imporatnt To Realize This Is An Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Leo RyanA controlling relationship can have a huge impact on your life. It can limit you in so many ways and you end up feeling stressed, unhappy, and depressed. It is important to emphasize this type of relationship comes into the category of an abusive relationship. This needs to be stated as there ...
Views: 1507 - Controlling Relationships: Why Are Some Men Controlling? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperA common relationship problem in today’s world and one that has been around for many years is control. The form that this behaviour takes may have changed over the ages, but the results are still the same. What is also clear to see is that both men and women can be controlling. However, here ...
Views: 18992 - Controlling the Damage and Getting Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2011 from Patrick MorrisHave you been wondering what made your ex decide to end your relationship and what is it with you that he or she did not stand? Well, you must be thinking of the things that made him or her justify his or her decision of leaving you. Maybe it is time to look back and reflect on what really went ...
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