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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 1910(2 votes) - How to Embody a State of Unconditional Self Love - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Gustavo CastanerWho would you be and how different your life would be if you could embody a state of absolute self-love? That means loving ALL about yourself: the past, the present, your shadow self, your thoughts (including those you are grateful no one knows about), your mistakes and your emotions. There ...
Views: 2971 - 4 Common Pitfalls to Avoid When Dating Your Ex Boyfriend - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Uadiale AmberDating your ex boyfriend might be a great idea. Some relationships really are meant to be no matter how many obstacles you come across along the way. When you're making the decision about whether or not dating your ex boyfriend really is a good idea it's important to weigh all your options and ...
Views: 1050 - Getting Your Girlfriend Back After Cheating on Her - Is it Possible? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Uadiale AmberAre you holding out hope for getting your girlfriend back after cheating? It is possible but you'll have to tread carefully and really commit to making things work in order to pull this off. Cheating is one of the things that not only breaks her heart but also wounds her pride. It's a hard one ...
Views: 1215 - How to Keep Things Real When Dating Your Ex After a Breakup - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Uadiale AmberDating your ex after a breakup may be a little bit awkward at first. You both want to keep things pleasant and you may be going to extraordinary measures to avoid making waves and really rocking the boat. What are some things you can do that will help you keep the peace without exploding from ...
Views: 931 - Ready to Start Dating Again - Why Not Try Your Ex Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Uadiale AmberAre you ready to start dating again? How about giving your ex a try? You can probably sit down and write a mile long list of all the reasons that dating your ex boyfriend is a bad idea. At the same time, it's quite likely that you could write an equally long list of all the reasons it's a great ...
Views: 1446 - Good To Great For Couples - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Susan DerryI have been reading a fascinating and well-written book, Good to Great by Jim Collins, about how good businesses move to being great businesses. As I am reading I cannot help but wonder if the author has not uncovered universal truths about greatness that may apply not only to business, but ...
Views: 1356 - Self Differentiation Is Good For Your Family Too - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Moreen DuFermontSelf Differentiation Is Good For Your Family Too When the student is ready, the teacher appears! Would you agree that this is so very true? I certainly hope so. When I first learned of this proverb it crystallized as fascinating, intuitive and perfectly good sense to me. We’ve all heard it ...
Views: 743 - ***5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage are Universal - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our continuing search for great marriages around the world has brought us to the incredibly beautiful country of New Zealand. Our travels have taken us to the cities of Auckland (the largest city) and Wellington (the capital city) on the North ...
Views: 2613(25 votes) - Actions To Getting Over A Marital Affair - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Daryl CampbellTruth to tell you never really get completely over a marital affair. The recollection of what your partner did lives with you for a very long time. There's no miraculous instance when you all of a sudden get out of bed one day and things are right just as before. This doesn't mean you are ...
Views: 1181 - Dr. Romance Video: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here. Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that ...
Views: 1723(1 vote) - The Worrier’s Guidelines - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2013 from Tina TessinaThis exercise is especially effective when you can’t sleep or when you experience anxiety attacks. If you worry a lot, or obsessively think about future events and problems when you should be concentrating on other things, follow these simple steps: 1. Write it down. If you’re feeling anxious ...
Views: 2162(3 votes) - Why Is It Important for You to Understand Your Reasoning about Partners and Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2013 from Doron GilAs friends of yours share their thoughts, feelings, fears and needs with you, keep in mind that it is impossible to truly understand what motivates people to behave, feel and think the way they do. The same might hold true to you: you yourself think, feel and behave with your partners and in ...
Views: 1153 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Play Games In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is often the intention to have a relationship that is free from games and all the drama that they can create; this does not always mean that one will avoid them altogether. And as a result of this, one may come to the conclusion that they have absolutely no control as to whether their ...
Views: 2435 - I Need To Get Over My Ex Girlfriend Fast! - 4 Steps to Quickly Recover From Heartbreak - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Help For YouGrieving is a hard process. If you had a great relationship, but its run its course, you need to take measures to get back on your feet, and fast. If you need to get over your ex girlfriend fast, you need to know these secrets that will jumpstart your recovery process. Not only will you feel ...
Views: 1820 - How Do You Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend Fast? - Healing Your Heart the Healthy Way - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Help For YouBreak ups are painful. Not only did she break your heart, she left you feeling like a complete and total wreck. Don't worry, you are not alone. You can get over your ex girlfriend fast without having to resort to extremes. If you read this guide you'll feel like a new man and be ready to take on ...
Views: 778 - How Can I Get Over Her Fast? - A Guide To Moving On And Getting Your Confidence Back - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Help For YouLet's get down to the facts. It's over. You hate it, it hurts, it sucks, but it's over. Now, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start feeling like you again. All of your buddies are telling you that you need to just sleep with as many women as possible and forget about her. It's not ...
Views: 622 - ***Having to Say You're Sorry IS Love - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “Love means never having to say you are sorry.” This line from the wildly popular 1970 book (and subsequent movie), Love Story, by Erich Segal helped it become the New York Times number one bestseller and the top selling work of fiction for all of ...
Views: 2188(17 votes) - ***Challenges of The Dating Scene - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Margaret PaulDating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you. Franklin writes: "I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three ...
Views: 1390 - Dependent Relationships - Letting Go - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2013 from Cynthia OrtizThose who choose to be dependent on someone else can only mean one thing - they do not want to be responsible for their own well-being. They want and expect YOU to make THEM happy without a second thought toward YOUR well-being. A dependent partner will drain you of your energy just as a ...
Views: 1193 - Being Authentic on First Date: Can it Lead to Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Even if you perceive yourself to be an open, honest and authentic person, if you are not alert to your date and don’t keep any boundaries during first date, you might sabotage any possibility of extending the date into a relationship. Being an open person doesn’t mean you don’t ...
Views: 2411 - Jealousy, Faithfulness, and Distance - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ...
Views: 1777(2 votes) - Indicators Of Cheating In Marriage - What Are You Hearing? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Daryl CampbellInfidelity in marriage is increasingly becoming more common that it barely shocks anyone when it is revealed. But for individuals who are directly impacted it truly is a dreadful ordeal. No one really wants to believe the individual they cherish and care about is fooling around on them. And ...
Views: 1291 - Can Your Dreams about a Wonderful Intimate Relationship Materialize? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Doron GilIt is wonderful to dream and fantasize about a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person. Who wouldn’t want to be involved with a great intimacy? But often, when you meet someone, even if at the beginning of the relationship you believe you have indeed seen your dream come true, slowly but ...
Views: 1622 - ***4 Lessons Dogs Teach Us About Love - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth Schmitzb>By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Dogs are amazing animals. As man’s best friend, they show us everyday how to love. We are proud to tell you that our dog, Louie, is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, intelligent, handsome, and a wonderful friend and companion. ...
Views: 2289(24 votes) - Stop Making Excuses - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2013 from Mandy KloppersWhy is it that we avoid doing the very things that we know will be good for us? It is simply a lack of discipline or is there some kind of pay-off for not sticking to our goals? My guess is that it is a combination of both. In order to make progress and stop all the excuses, we need to truly ...
Views: 1229(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's ...
Views: 1784 - How Can I Get Over Her and Move On? – Tips to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend Today - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Help For YouThe pain of a broken heart is one of the hardest pains to heal. When we break bones, we can put a cast on them and they heal in a few weeks. When we are sick, medication is there to help us get by and to help deal with any pain that we might feel. But what do you do for the pain of a broken ...
Views: 890 - Love from Inside Out- Love yourself first to better love others - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Terai KoronuiLOVE YOURSELF TO BETTER LOVE OTHERS When you know that to love yourself first is critical to cultivate loving relationships, you will then understand and accept it as the ONLY foundation on which unconditional love, compassion and a desire to help and serve others evolves. The perception ...
Views: 1417(1 vote) - What to Say to a Grieving Person - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Jane CranstonWhen a loved one, friend, neighbor, or co-worker has a loss, most people feel compelled to say something. The question is “what?” Having lost some very important people in my life as well as attempted to console friends and colleagues who have had to deal with death, here are my suggestions ...
Views: 1679 - Your Job on Earth - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn Peace, Love and Healing, Dr. Bernie Siegel says: “Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path... your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an inner awareness, that says, ‘This is ...
Views: 1590(2 votes) - Are You Capable of Leaving an Unsatisfying Intimacy when You Realize the Relationship Isn’t Good Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Doron GilI once heard someone describing her wish to separate from her partner in the following words: “I’m in the departure lounge at the airport… there’s some waiting before take-off…there might even be some delay…”. She already knew she should separate, but still hesitated about doing it and ...
Views: 1518 - Making It Through Unfaithfulness - The Five Steps To Surviving Cheating - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Daryl CampbellFor numerous men and women finding out their spouse is carrying on an extramarital affair signifies one thing: The spousal relationship has come to an end. There is absolutely no forgiving or maybe attempting to work it all out with their spouse. What's done is done and now it's time to close ...
Views: 1230(3 votes) - 3 Attributes of Cool People - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Danish AhmedHi there everyone!! Our events are always different (innovative and creative), but there’s one common element that is our winning formula. Our community has cool people, and so our parties are full of cool people. Why? What’s so special about the people we know? These are three ...
Views: 2196 - Some Tips to Get Your Ex Back – What You Will Need to Remember - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Franklin FashayaSome people say that there is no way that they want to go back with their ex girlfriends or boyfriends. On the other hand, there are men and women, who are still hopeful for having a second chance. Depending on the kind of relationship a couple had, getting back together can still be considered. ...
Views: 751 - Some Helpful Tips to Get Your ex Boyfriend Back- Strategies to Use to Get Him Back - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Franklin FashayaA break up is bad no matter the reason why broke up happened. If the break up was initiated by him, you are bound to feel cheated and sad. No wonder you want him back just because you liked the way you felt when you were with him. Get you ex back by implementing these strategies and get back to ...
Views: 1239 - How to get back your Boyfriend through Text Messages - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Franklin FashayaLosing your boyfriend can be very painful and difficult to cope especially if you genuinely loved him. Forgetting the sweet memories is even more difficult. Worse still, it’s wrenching to discover you lost him to a close friend or someone you know or even someone you consider not his type. Your ...
Views: 1846 - How to Get my Boyfriend Back by Using Reasonable Words and Text Messages - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Franklin FashayaRelationship issues are major causes of stressful lives among many people, men and women alike. One of the many issues that counselors have had to deal with mostly is women wanting to find out ways of how to get their ex back, how to make it work, and stuff. Even though it depends on the kind of ...
Views: 1563 - Using Text Message to Win Your ex Boyfriend Back - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Franklin FashayaDo you have an ex boyfriend? Do you still have feelings for him? If you have some feelings for him, getting him back can be an idea in your mind. Who ended the relationship? If you are the one who ended it because you felt tired of the relationship at that time, as a lady you will feel shy to ...
Views: 1928 - ***The Foundation for Abundance - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self? ________________________________________ "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all ...
Views: 1379 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Tina Tessinap>Dear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Letting Go of an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship: Why Many Don’t Have the Courage for & why it is Healthy and Important - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Doron GilAt times, letting go is very healthy. Yet there are many who don’t have the courage to let go, and they resort to various reasons and justifications to explain – to themselves and to others – why they stay stuck in a bad relationship. While staying they might be “obsessed” about their partner, ...
Views: 2057 - Align with the Energy of Love - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Stacy CorriganYears ago when I was single and lived in Boston, I heard Marianne Williamson speak at the Berklee Center for Performing Arts. Something she said powerfully impacted me in my search for love. I cannot remember her exact words, but she said something like, “Every woman can describe the man she’s ...
Views: 1622(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: My father opposes my inter-racial relationship - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My question of the week is how to deal with family opposition of my inter-racial relationship. My dad, who is in his 70s, is vehemently opposed to my relationship with my fiance (who is white). He hasn't even met him and given him a chance. It is quite frustrating given ...
Views: 1709(5 votes) - The Power of Text Messages in Winning Back Your ex Boyfriend - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2013 from Franklin FashayaGetting your ex-boyfriend back is a decision you can reach after realizing his importance in your life. It depends on who ended the relationship for you to strategize on how to bring him back. There are several ways you can use, one simple method that is common and you probably prefer in getting ...
Views: 1699 - Response-Ability - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaOne of the trends I dislike in our culture is the reluctance of people to take responsibility, or to respond with care to each other. In my counseling practice, I hear a lot of self-justification, mind-reading, defensiveness, blaming and complaining; which is why relationships, friendships, ...
Views: 1688(4 votes) - ***Staying Centered in Conflict - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this. ________________________________________ Angela writes: "I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going ...
Views: 1316 - The Truth: What Does Your Ego Believe To Be True? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are often many descriptions of what truth is and what truth is not. Absolute truth is often used when it comes to religion or spirituality. These are all fascinating areas to study and to then form one’s own opinion. And there is also another form of truth; which comes from the ego ...
Views: 1941 - Can You Help a Friend of Yours who Always “Falls” for the Wrong Man? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Doron GilIt is very likely that you have a friend who always “falls” for the wrong guy. Everybody sees it, except her. You feel sorry for her; you wish you can help her. You even try to show her the “facts”, explain to her how she hurts herself; “predict” the miserable future she’ll have. After all, she ...
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