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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Assertiveness: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a fulfilling life, it is going to be vital for someone to be able to listen to their own needs. The other part of this will be for them to feel comfortable enough to fulfil them. A Life worth Living This is not to say that they will always be able to fulfil their ...
Views: 1117 - Assumptions - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Michelle GottliebOne of the most common problems I have seen with the couples that I have worked with is their tendency to assume that they know what their partner is thinking and feeling, the assumption that they know their partner’s motivation. I have not worked with a couple yet who has struggled with this ...
Views: 1397 - Assumptions - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from Michelle GottliebI was interviewed for a new web site where I was asked what is the number one problem in marriages? With little hesitation I answered, “assumptions!” Because we assume that we know our partners, we assume that we know what they are thinking. Know one thing for sure, if you are assuming, then ...
Views: 1325 - Astrology and Its Relationship With Human - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Riki clarkOne of the key aspects that are highlighted in the natal chart is marriage and love. Astrological Compatibility determines the ratio of success of two individual's relationship by studying their horoscope. Every relationship thrives on harmonious interaction. When the stars and energies combine ...
Views: 720 - Astrology Signs - A True Blessing in Life - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Riki clarkAstrology is one of the most ancient forms of science, which is used to know about the past and predict the future. It has been in use for more than 5000 years. The word has been derived from 'Astrologia', which is a Greek term and it means the study of stars. It is used to calculate the ...
Views: 751 - Atlanta Swingers Clubs - The Best Place To Explore Your Swinging Sexual Desires - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Mike HatcherNeedles to say, the trend of swinging lifestyle, often referred to as wife swapping is increasing virtually all over the world. Atlanta swingers have a huge following and since most couples start feeling monotonous having sex with each other in the same manner, they decide to explore different ...
Views: 12960 - Attachment: What Causes Attachment Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term attachment is often used in the area of relationships and to describe what kind of relationship one had with their primary caregiver as a child. This first attachment plays a massive role in our development as a child and in how we are as adults. A General View So here I will give ...
Views: 2553 - ATTAINING LONGER, HEALTHIER SEXUAL INTIMACY - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Sadie SheafeOn occasion I meet someone who “knows it all.” These pseudo-fountains of knowledge are usually among the first to require counseling. Regardless of the type of therapy provided, all counselors, from time to time, run into someone who has a cornucopia of knowledge to impart to the therapist. The ...
Views: 1651 - Attempting a Better Relationship After Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.Better relationship? The Chicago Cubs? You may be asking what the two have in common. Back in 2003, it was extremely disappointing watching the 7th game between the Chicago Cubs and the Florida Marlins. The game started out great and somewhere along the way, it headed south. There were many Cub ...
Views: 1790 - Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaI have written in this column recently about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your ...
Views: 1649 - Attitude: From Negative to Gratitude - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDespite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a ...
Views: 1345 - Attitudes to Get Ex Back- 3 Habits You Should Posses - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Jenna JamesReconciliation of a past relationship is all about using the right attitude towards yourself and your ex lover. There is no need to send him or her gifts or notes just to let them know how you still feel for them. It is just about stopping your behavior that drives your ex away and focusing on ...
Views: 1198 - Attract Who You Want - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Michelle GabbeI’m constantly surrounded by helplessness and incompetence. It was a familiar refrain from an executive friend of mine who felt responsible for fixing everyone and everything around him. The women in his life were always emotionally fragile, damsel-in-distress types. His bosses never saw his ...
Views: 842 - Attract Sexy Women- 3 Alpha Male Traits to help You - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2012 from Jacobs jesseAny guy can successfully attract sexy women if he is good at applying the alpha male traits. Some men wants to know be good at attracting girls since women love to be with guys who display good attraction qualities. To help you to be better at attracting sexy women, consider the following ...
Views: 2967 - Attracted to Ex-Boyfriend - Get to Know Your True Motives - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2011 from Simone BrownWhen you find yourself attracted to your ex, you need to be very excited to win him back again. Before you make any move, examine your intention first as it significantly determines if the relationship is worth trying all over again. You saw his new profile picture on a social networking site ...
Views: 2516 - Attracting Healthy Relationships - by I have often said that there is no one in my life that I don’t want there. In consideration of the thousands of people that I’ve encountered over the past half century, I’m pleased to report that no one who chooses to come around me is abusive, resentful or parasitic. Of course, it wasn’t always ...
Views: 778 - Attracting The Love You Want - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Francis HoseinHow do you attract the love of your life when all you are doing seems to fail? Is it you or is the universe has fail you? Where you came from? If you came from a difficult relationship in the pass, and you have not done much healing from that relationship you may carry around fears that may ...
Views: 1019 - Attracting The Relationship You Want Instead Of The One You Left - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2008 from Dan And JenniferUnless you have been hiding underneath a rock you have heard about the Law of Attraction in the past couple of years. Since the movie “the Secret” came out it seems that everyone has been talking about it. Basically the Law of Attraction says that you will attract what you ...
Views: 1026 - Attracting Your Ex Back - Getting Past No To Getting Yes - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengToo many attempts at a romantic love-reunion go wrong not because the other person does not want to give the relationship another try but because the confrontational dialogue or aggressive type approach used time and again by many men and women when trying to get their ex back repeatedly damages ...
Views: 6562 - Attraction -- Be Careful! - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2007 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockResearch has revealed that the part of our brain that is stimulated when we are in love is not the emotional centers as once thought, but the part of the brain that controls physical lust. In other words, being in love has everything to do with sex and little to do with love. Emotionally, after ...
Views: 678 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2925 - Attraction: Can Trapped Emotions Define Who We Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to who one is attracted to and attracts, it can appear to be a random process. And that one has no control over who they attract or are attracted to. Certain physical traits are often cited as being the reason why one is or was attracted to someone. And physical characteristics ...
Views: 2078 - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 2181 - Attributes of the Narcissistic False Self - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2019 from Randi FineNarcissists feel no more love for the people they have relationships with than they do for strangers. They may use the word “love” to express their feelings, and they may at times demonstrate appropriate loving behavior, but it is a ruse. They are emotionally unequipped to love anyone but ...
Views: 1218 - Authentic Relationships-Creating Greatness - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Jim AccettaWhat is ‘authentic relationship’? How great is your relationship with your partner or spouse? Your communication? Your intimacy? Your sex life? As in so many areas of our lives, people settle…they settle for going along, they give up parts of themselves, become ...
Views: 1959 - Authenticity - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gregg OliverAll of the components of the engagement stance are important, but if you miss out on authenticity, you will have a hard time establishing credibility. When someone you speak with lacks authenticity, it feels manipulative, even if there is no evidence of manipulation. Think of a time when you ...
Views: 1621 - Autonomy vs Dependency - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaSelf-determination and self-respect are the necessary keys to take full responsibility for and control over your own life. Without these keys, it’s easy to be caught up in the fantasy that there is someone else who will make it better, who can or should take total care of you, ...
Views: 1997 - Avoid *Be Spontaneous!* Paradoxes - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachCan you define a "paradox" to an average 12-year-old? Try saying your definition out loud, and compare it to this: "A *paradox* is something that inherently negates itself." Paradoxes exist because many things in the world have different levels of meaning, depending on the context. A simple ...
Views: 3946 - Avoid Alienating Others with These Principles - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2009 from Shellee HaleAlienating your friends and partners directly or indirectly can ruin your friendships and career opportunities in the future. Here are five principles to think about utilizing to decrease your chances of self-inflicting alienation. 1. Do not withhold favors or being helpful when possible, a ...
Views: 957 - Avoid Love Life Grief: 7 Tips for Your Teen and You - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2012 from Scott & Stephen PetulloThere’s an epidemic in this world and it’s as plain as day to us: A perception of dating and relationships that severely conflicts with reality. After over 25 years of empirical research with spirituality, personality and compatibility assessment, and as a matchmaker and writing a book about ...
Views: 1518 - Avoid Settling For Less Than What You Need And Want While Searching for Your Life Partner - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Janice BennettLet’s say that you’re out there in the dating scene – meeting members of the opposite sex online and in person, making conscious decisions about who to date, and learning more about who you are and what you need and want in a life partner relationship. And then you get to the ...
Views: 3206 - Avoid These Four Common Dating Mistakes - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2011 from Brooke AlexandriaWhether you are recently single and just entering the dating game, or are a seasoned veteran on the dating scene, and wondering why you are not having much success meeting a partner to start a long-term relationship with, your lack of success may be due to a few common mistakes, rather than "the ...
Views: 1374 - Avoiding A Break Up - How To Do It - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2011 from Andrew Hunter"We all begin with good intent, when love is raw and young. We believe that we can change ourselves, the past can be undone. But we carry on our backs the burden time always reveals. In the lonely light of morning, and the wound that would not heal. It's the bitter taste of loosing everything ...
Views: 694 - Avoiding A Love Break Up - 2 Best Signs For An Impending Love Break Up You Can Avoid - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Johnny WayneIf you have had a love break up many times, you will really know how hurtful and painful it can be. And if you thought back after the relationship ended, you probably saw all the signs that you didn’t recognize before. If you’ll remember those signs and keep them in mind, they can help you ...
Views: 1814 - Avoiding Clashes - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Dada BhagwanClashes and conflicts arise on a daily basis regardless of how extreme or minor the conflict may be. However, the best thing and most effective thing to do is to be able to avoid bringing them up or feeding the clash even further. On a spiritual level, truly avoiding conflicts can restore ...
Views: 530 - Avoiding Infidelity: 8 Tips To Keep Partners Faithful - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2008 from Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D.The news media thrive on streaming information - and gossip - about the exploits of high visibility couples. The general public has been well informed about the infidelity of John Edwards, the visits to call girls by Eliot Spitzer, the on-going splits of Hollywood couples. Polls report that ...
Views: 1222 - Avoiding Your Paranoid Ex - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from Sam VakninIf at all possible, put as much physical distance as you can between yourself and the stalker. Change address, phone number, email accounts, cell phone number, enlist the kids in a new school, find a new job, get a new credit card, open a new bank account. Do not inform your paranoid ex about ...
Views: 910 - Awesome Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2011 from Kenny BrixeyAwesome Relationships Many different types of relationships exist and the “rules” are not the same for each. There are relationships on a professional level, a personal level, a familial level and an intimate level. Most of us are involved with and juggling some form of each of these. They ...
Views: 1072 - Ayra Samaj Marriage - Love Marriage in Arya Samaj Mandir - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Shankar SrivastavaArya Samaj system was founded in 1875 by Maharashi Dayanand Saraswati at Bombay, India. The concept of wedding under this system takes us back to the teachings of Vedas (a body of texts of ancient India) and has its roots in the law of the undying truths advocated in the ageless Vedas. Its motto ...
Views: 999 - B.Lab Pro Hair – A Classy Gift for Your Partner This Holiday Season - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Harshad JethraThe holiday season is here; it’s the time to rejoice and celebrate. We sometimes take time out to recall all that is good and count our blessings! Gifting is one of the most beautiful traditions associated with Christmas and New Year, but in the same coin, one often worries about the ideal ...
Views: 1237 - Baby Doll Lingerie Has Always Been A Lingerie Favourite - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2008 from Amanda CotterillBaby doll lingerie has developed a reputation as classic nightwear. Loyal fans have their favorite styles, and designers regularly release updates and changes. Babydolls have a brief but interesting history, of which many fans are unaware. Provided here is a quick guide to the history of baby ...
Views: 1006 - Baby Doll Lingerie: Sexy Gifts Galore - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2007 from Amanda CotterillOne of the most popular types of lingerie is the baby doll lingerie set. With innocence and raw sensuality, all in one, a babydoll is an impressive piece of sexy lingerie that can raise the temperature of men around the world. Most babydolls come in a wide variety of steamy materials, from silk ...
Views: 1396 - Baby Talk: How to communicate with your partner about having a baby - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2012 from Corinne BlumThe topic of having a baby is a life changing one. In most couples one person tends to have the desire first. This can often create a state of apprehension between feeling the desire and expressing it to your partner. There may be concerns of whether your partner is ready to have a baby, are ...
Views: 1836 - Back In To Your Arms After The Affair: Signs He Is Sincere And Ready - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSo here’s the deal- after he left you for another woman and caused you tremendous emotional torture; He has the guts to stand in your front door crying like a baby and asking for your forgiveness. While he’s there in front of you shaking his head for his stupidity and looking like an idiot, you ...
Views: 9656 - Back With Your Ex Is Too Late? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2013 from Michael LoisIn fact no one in their more healthy common sense will want to experience the terrible feeling of loneliness, especially during these days of celebration. Christmas is a time alone can prove to be quite a nightmare for those who go alone. This is one of the main reasons why so many people ...
Views: 696 - Bad Belief Systems You Must Lose if You Want to WIN - Part 11: Criticalism - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2020 from Ronald RossNo one likes a critic, but that doesn't stop many who criticize darn near everything that happens. Those folks suffer from a belief system that is personally and socially destructive. They believe that nothing is ever right or good enough. There are two kinds of critics – the kind we're most ...
Views: 754 - Balance is Key — in Yoga and Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Marcia Naomi BergerHave you tried the yoga tree pose? You stand straight, then raise one foot and place it against the calf of the leg that is taking all your weight. Staying in this pose for thirty seconds can feel like an eternity. It’s easy to lose your balance. But as yoga instructor Beth Huizenga from ...
Views: 1595 - Balanced Relationships: You, Me and We - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Lisa KiftOne thing I notice in a lot of couples who come through my door is a lack of balance in their relationship. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now three parts to this system; “you,” “me,” and “we.” Imagine if you draw two overlapping circles. There are three ...
Views: 980 - Balancing Change - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2013 from John HerbergerQuitters never win and winners never quit! Actually sometimes the opposite is true. There's a philosophy prevalent in our culture of "never give up" or "die trying" mentality. But some of the most successful people in the world are ones who knew when to hold 'em and knew when to fold 'em. ...
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