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Over the years, a man may have been in a number of relationships where the woman was anything but supportive, loving and kind. Instead, the woman might have done just about everything that she could to undermine him.
However, it is unlikely the woman was like this at the beginning, as she ... Views: 91
What a man can find is that it is difficult for him not only to feel settled, but to also feel good about himself. If this is the case, what will be normal is for him to feel anxious and fearful, and worthless and ashamed.
Now, if he were to think about why this is, what might enter his mind ... Views: 64
If a man doesn’t have a woman in his life that he is seeing or in a relationship with, he may feel as though he is missing something. As a result of this, he can feel a strong need to be with a woman.
He can believe, for instance, that he is meant to be with a woman, and this is why he ... Views: 97
Based on how a man typically comes across, it can be as if he only has a masculine aspect. In other words, he can come across as emotionless, hard and as though nothing fazes him.
And, if he was to come across a man who is emotionally expressive and sensitive, he could criticise him. This ... Views: 249
Over the years, a man may have been attracted to a number of women who were not interested in him. Along with this, he might have dated a number of women who lost interest in him before long.
Also, he may have been in at least one relationship that came to an end because the woman was no ... Views: 95
What can be normal is for a man to generally live in his head and thus, be out of touch with his feelings and instincts. He is then going to look like a whole human being but he typically won’t operate as one.
But, if this is just what is normal, he might not be aware of how alienated he is ... Views: 240
What a man may see, if he steps back and reflects on his behaviour, is that he has the inclination to play a role when he is around others. So, he can see that when this happens, he comes across as though everything is fine.
It then won’t matter if this is actually the case, as he won’t open ... Views: 75
If a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he may find that he doesn’t have a very positive or empowering self-image. He can see that he sees himself as being worthless and unlovable.
After he thinks about this, what can enter his mind is that he is this way because of ... Views: 96
If a man doesn’t have a woman in his life, and he were to step back and reflect on how he feels, he can find that he feels empty. Additionally, he can find that it doesn’t feel supported.
After this, he can conclude that the sooner he has a woman in his life, the better. As a result, it might ... Views: 73
Over the years, a man may have spent a fair amount of time learning about how to please a woman sexually. So, he might have watched videos, read articles and books, and had numerous conversations with other men in order to improve this area of his life.
Along with this, he might have had sex ... Views: 58
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he has rarely, if ever, been able to develop a deeper connection with a woman. So, he might have had casual encounters and even dated a few women.
However, he might not have been able to take things further with a woman and ... Views: 54
If a man were to describe the type of woman that he is looking for, he could say that he is looking for a woman who is understanding, affectionate, caring and feminine. Over the years, he might have been with a number of women who were like this.
Or, to be more precise, he might have been ... Views: 69
Even though a man has a masculine element, it doesn’t mean he will be in touch with this part of himself. If this is the case, he is unlikely to be rooted in his body; instead, he is likely to live in his head.
The outcome of this is that he can be very intellectual or even ‘spiritual’. ... Views: 52
Right now, a man could be dating a woman who rarely has time for him, and when she is around, she could typically be somewhere else mentally and emotionally. This might have been going on for a few weeks or months.
Either way, thanks to what is going on, he is likely to spend a lot of time ... Views: 98
At the beginning of someone’s life, they need love in order to grow and develop in the right way. This, of course, is something that they will need for many, many years after this stage for their development to continue to go in the right direction.
When it comes to what is meant by ‘love’, ... Views: 354
What a woman may find, if she were to reflect on her life is that she has been with a number of men who didn’t treat her very well. She might see that this area of her life has been this way for as long as she can remember.
Thanks to this, she could come to the conclusion that this is just ... Views: 163
For a little while now, a woman might have wanted to be with a man who is not just physically but also emotionally available. In fact, she might have wanted this for most, if not all, of her adult life.
What can then be normal is for her to have been with men who were physically in reach but ... Views: 42
If a woman were to step back and reflect on her love life, she could think about how this area of her life is not very fulfilling. This is because she might have been with a number of men who were not really into her and were distant.
She could think about how she did a lot to try to make ... Views: 84
Recently, a woman’s father may have passed, and this may have left her in a very bad way. However, thanks to what her relationship was like with her father, she might not just be grieving his loss.
No, in addition to this, she can also feel exposed and as though she is no longer as safe a ... Views: 75
After having been in a number of relationships that were anything but functional, a woman can end up in a relationship that is very different. This can be a relationship where the man (or woman) is reliable and consistent.
Due to this, what he says he will do will generally be what he does ... Views: 102
If a woman were to describe the type of man that she wants to be with, she could say that she wants a man who is emotionally strong and can lead, protect and take care of her. Over the years, she might have been with a number of men who were like this.
In fact, the last man that she was with ... Views: 75
If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that she is often mean and even cruel toward men. She might see that she has been this way for quite some time.
What could enter her mind is that part of her believes that this is how men deserve to be treated. This ... Views: 91
If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may find is that she has the tendency to present herself as an object that exists to be desired by men and perhaps women. As a result, when she is out in public, she can typically not wear much or wear clothes that are very ... Views: 84
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they are typically focused on other people's needs and do what they can to please them. Therefore, they typically won’t be connected to their own needs and do what is right for them.
They might see that ... Views: 92
At this point in time, a man could be in a position where practically his whole life revolves around viewing porn. Therefore, if he is not working or spending time with friends, for instance, he could be viewing it.
Then again, there could be moments when he views it when he is at work. If ... Views: 297
After being a model for a little while and/or a cam girl, a woman might join OnlyFans. In the beginning, she might only share naked pictures of herself but as time passes, she can take things further.
Thanks to what she is doing, she could be earning far more than she ever has before. ... Views: 144
What can be normal is for a woman to wear very revealing clothes, and it might not matter where she is. Now, she could have a figure that not only makes her desirable to a lot of men but a lot of women could both appreciate and want to have the same figure.
This might be a figure that she was ... Views: 247
Recently, someone may have found out that their partner has cheated on them. Then again, they might have found out that this has taken place more than once, and that this has been going on for a little while.
Either way, thanks to what has happened, they can be in a bad way, both mentally and ... Views: 86
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to hide their needs and how they feel. Along with this, there might also be parts of themselves and interests that they keep hidden.
Due to this, most, if not all, of the people in their life are not ... Views: 214
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they typically only have enough money to merely exist. So, they can have what they need to pay their rent, buy food and clothes, for instance, but that could be about it.
This could mean that they have a job ... Views: 123
What can be normal is for someone to focus on other people’s needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise how focused they generally are on other people’s needs.
Consequently, they will often overlook their own needs, which will cause them to neglect themselves. Yet, ... Views: 133
What can be normal is for someone to play a role when they are around others. For example, they can typically come across as easy-going, selfless and do what they can to please others.
As a result, they are rarely if ever going to fully show up around others and freely express themselves. ... Views: 146
Recently, someone may have gone through a breakup, and, since then, they might not have been in a good way. This may have been a relationship that was going well or it might not.
Either way, there can be moments when they experience fear and anxiety, and other moments when they lose touch ... Views: 127
From the outside, someone can appear to be doing fine or at the very least, not in a bad way mentally and emotionally. But, beyond the impression that they typically create around others, can be someone who is not in a good way.
Consequently, it won’t be possible for them to receive the ... Views: 259
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have been in a number of relationships with people who were narcissistic. They may even see that there are a number of people in their life who are like this.
When they think about what these ... Views: 255
Although someone will have a mental and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. What can be normal is for them to be connected to their mental self but disconnected from their emotional self.
But, due to how normal this is, they might not be ... Views: 204
A few days, weeks or months ago, someone may have been in a relationship with someone who they loved. But, after finding out that this person cheated on them, they might have soon decided that it was best for them to cut their ties with them.
Then again, they might have found out that this ... Views: 273
What can be normal is for someone to be out of touch with how they feel and a number of their needs. By being this way, they are going to neglect themselves and this can mean that they will often feel drained.
So, their need to relax and connect deeply with others can typically be overlooked. ... Views: 257
If someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body and their feelings, something significant might need to take place for them to realise this. It might seem strange that they wouldn’t be aware of this.
However, if they have been for way for most of their life and, thus, this is just ... Views: 225
Even though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Instead, they can typically feel as though they are an incapable child who is unable to handle life.
The outcome of this is that they can have the tendency to look to others to make decisions for them and guide ... Views: 89
In general, someone’s emotional self may rarely, if ever, be settled, with them often being all at sea internally. Due to this, it might not be possible for them to live a normal life.
Now, it might not matter if they are around others or by themselves as they could struggle to handle what is ... Views: 104
If someone where to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they try to do just about everything by themselves. They could see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember.
But, while living in this way will make their life harder than it ... Views: 202
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have trouble freely expressing themselves. What can be normal is for them to feel restricted and ignore how they feel and their needs.
As a result of this, it won’t matter if they are by themselves or ... Views: 134
Even though someone will have the right to be here and have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of this, they can see both themselves and their needs as a burden.
However, this could be something that is outside their awareness, which ... Views: 361
If someone believes that they are unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, it is still going to have a big impact on their life.
So, a lot of their time and energy could be spent doing things to make ... Views: 288
Deep down, someone can have the sense that they are only worthy of meeting their basic needs. Consequently, they can generally create a life where they survive but seldom if ever thrive.
But, if this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they can believe that this is just what ... Views: 119
Over the years, someone may have spent a fair amount of time around people who always wanted to be the centre of attention, to always be admired, had a strong sense of entitlement and were self-centred, for instance. Unlike these people, they could come across in a very different way.
So, ... Views: 268
Although someone’s childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have fully moved on from this stage of their life. Due to this, what happened and the impact it had on them can still have a big effect on their life.
However, if they are not aware of this, what is ... Views: 100
When someone is connected to their body, they will have access to their needs and feelings. By having this connection to themselves, they will be able to freely express who they are and live a life that is worth living.
What will also play a part in them being able to live in this way will ... Views: 265
As someone is a human being, it means that they will have a head and a body. And, on the inside, they will have and thoughts, feelings and instincts.
However, although there are these two parts of them or seemingly two parts of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of ... Views: 272