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- Use Honesty to Help Solve Marriage Problems - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Sharon Wells-AckermansMarriage problems are as old as marriage itself. How we deal with problems has changed over the centuries, though. Once we were stuck in a marriage no matter what and people stayed for a lifetime, through abuse and unhappiness. Now, it seems, the pendulum has swung the other way and we are often ...
Views: 963(1 vote) - BEING AVAILABLE EVEN IF YOUR THERE. - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Norman CsarniThe world, as we view it today has become so stressful and demanding. With so much tension from work, environment, and society, you tend to exhaust all your time and energy to meet its demands. By the time you come home to your cozy little home, you are already too tired and expired to make ...
Views: 856(1 vote) - BEING HONEST ABOUT THE PAST. - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Norman Csarni“Past is past.” This is one of the most common lines in dealing with the drama of relationships. We try to avoid our past especially ugly ones. We fear that it might boil a possible dispute on the present. Therefore, we junk old memories in the deeper corners of our minds thinking that those ...
Views: 2734(1 vote) - "We Can't Communicate" - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat are couples really meaning when they say, "We can't communicate"?The issue with understanding what this means is what they mean by "communicate."All too often, when a partner states, "We can't communicate," what he or she means is "I can't get my partner ...
Views: 10307(6 votes) - Married Life - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Enrique WilkinsonWhy only marriage but for all things in life which involve people simple answers cannot be expected. We all are different and the way we handle situations and relationships is never going to be the same. I'm talking about things like buying small gifts now and then; surprise them once in a ...
Views: 1135(1 vote) - Talk is never cheap and action is never silent - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Norman CsarniCommunication has always been essential in human relationship. It either builds or destroys relationships. It more often builds and rebuilds relationship because it bridges not only similarities but differences. Communication, in any form, connects us all. Without it, the world would be silent, ...
Views: 958(3 votes) - Conflict in, conflict out - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Norman CsarniBad as it is, conflict is a fixed part of society. It does not only destroy, but builds and improves human relationships. Conflicts rooted from simple and complex causes. They are either caused by misinformation or differences in values and interests or structural flaws or a mix of the ...
Views: 2346(1 vote) - How Can I Love My Unbelieving Spouse? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Angie LewisDid you know that God commands that believers marry in the Lord? If a believer marries a non-believer the marriage could possibly weaken the Christian commitment of the believer. Even so, some Christians marry unbelievers because love has blinded them. Some Christians believe they can change ...
Views: 2776(2 votes) - Marriage After An Affair When He Cheats (For Women, Why Men Cheat) - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Shane BoydMarriage after an affair is not impossible, but it can feel like it at times. What do you do if your husband cheats on you? Should you divorce him or try to work it out? That answer to that really relies on you and how deep your love for him is. But to digress a minute, if you’re going to ...
Views: 3180(3 votes) - 7 Ways To Save Your Marriage And Get Out Of A Marriage Rut - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Shane BoydIf your marriage is on the brink of divorce and you’re looking for ways to save your marriage then this article may offer some friendly and useful advice. It’s far too common for marriages to fail simply because one or both parties get bored in the marriage and the sparks simply die out. I’ve ...
Views: 1130(2 votes) - How To Prevent Emotional Cheating From Destroying Your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Shane BoydEmotional cheating in a marriage is not much different than physical cheating. The same emotions are being used and your husband is still emotionally detached from you, at least for a while. But to better understand what’s going on with your husband you’ll have to figure out why he is ...
Views: 1773(4 votes) - Is It REALLY Possible To Stop A Divorce? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Lee BaucomMarriage is a relationship of balance. . . and a balance that is easily upset these days. Unfortunately, the solution many people choose to deal with the situation is to divorce. I say "unfortunate" because the vast majority of people enter into getting a divorce with a very optimistic view of ...
Views: 2286(4 votes) - Is it an affair? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Dana VinceThere is the obvious definition of an affair, having sex with someone other than your spouse. But are there different types of affairs? And now that we have the Internet, how does that add to the problem. One of the ways to define an affair is to ask the question, is what you are doing ...
Views: 1875(3 votes) - How Much Effort Do You Put Into Making Your Relationship Work? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonSomewhere hidden amongst my emails this week, I received this motivational message, the contents of which kept popping back into my mind. Your Effort Is A Portrait of Yourself Why is your effort such a true portrait of yourself? And have you thought about how very much your level of ...
Views: 2849(2 votes) - Learning to Forgive: Is It The Key in Marriage? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Michael and Wanda CollinsLearning to Forgive: Is It The Key to Marriage? Yes, Learning to forgive is one of the keys to a long, happy marriage. But before you can truly forgive, you must first understand what forgiveness means and come to know the forgiveness that God offers to you through Jesus, His beloved ...
Views: 1539(4 votes) - ***Marriage Can Last a Lifetime for Some Very Good Reasons - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Recently, we reviewed some research that addressed the issue of how to make the “romance” of a marriage last. While we think the essay generally reflects what we have found in our 26+ years of research on six of the world’s seven continents, we take ...
Views: 6414(42 votes) - 5 reasons marriages end in divorce - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I'm getting married in a month and want to know why so many marriages end in divorce. What should I look out for? How can I prevent divorce?" ~Sandra, Houston TX A: Understanding why a marriage or relationship might fail can alert couples to their own unique relationship ...
Views: 2155(3 votes) - Marriage Issues - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2009 from Michael and Wanda CollinsAre you tired of the same old marriage issues? Do you have the marriage blues? Then quit! Are we suggesting you get a divorce? No, when we say quit, we are not suggesting you get a divorce. As far as the turbulence you're experiencing in your marriage, there isn't a couple on earth who ...
Views: 1593(1 vote) - Why Men Marry - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Gregory MorganMen can be captivated by sex for a while, but in time they hear the call of a deeper hunger, a more primal need. I awoke one morning too many with a stranger…… feeling isolated, disconnected and alone. I had lost contact with myself, my purpose and the deeper significance of life. The ...
Views: 1553(2 votes) - Marriage Communication Skills - Are Yours Up to Par? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Michael and Wanda CollinsDid you know your marriage communication skills (or lack thereof) could make or break your marriage? Millions of couples divorce each year and for many of them communication problems are what ultimately made the relationship fall apart. If you want to make sure your relationship becomes one of ...
Views: 1140(1 vote) - Show Your Gratitude and Improve Your Marriage Intimacy - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonWhen couples begin to have problems, their first instinct is often to look at what they're not getting. They recognize that they're not happy and that they don't have the level of marriage intimacy that they want or need. This leads to introspection and wondering what it is that's missing. While ...
Views: 2907(3 votes) - Relationship- Teen Marriages - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2009 from Francis HoseinYoung teens are getting married because they feel that they cannot do without each other. This is what is happening to many families lately and parents feel they have no choice but to go along with it. Teen are growing up very fast and they may not have the skills to make it happen. ...
Views: 2469(1 vote) - Be a Fan and a Critic - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2009 from Mike RobbinsI saw Rev. Michael Beckwith perform a re-commitment ceremony for a married couple a few years back and it blew me away. He looked at the husband and said, “Your job is to be her biggest fan and her greatest critic for the purpose of her spiritual development.” He then turned to the wife and ...
Views: 1446(1 vote) - Get Through the Holidays with Humor and Grace: Four Strategies for Couples and Families - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2009 from Pat LaDouceurAre you looking forward to a relaxing holiday? Have you made plans that fit your unique values, needs, and energy level? Or do you feel pulled by the needs of friends and family, swept into the consumer rush, or tantalized by images of perfect holiday bliss and feeling like you can’t measure ...
Views: 1566(1 vote) - Family Dynamics of Addiction Exposed: Identifying The "Real Problem" and What To Do About It - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2009 from Peggy FergusonMany non-addicted spouses complain about how their addicted significant other is driving them crazy, making them depressed, or leading them toward suicide or homicide. These comments only illustrate the destructive nature of the family dynamics of addiction. The addicted and non-addicted ...
Views: 3347(3 votes) - ***On the Road to Love in Morocco - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past five days we have been in two remarkable cities – Tangiers and Casablanca, Morocco. We came to Morocco by boat from Tarifa, Spain – a distance across the Mediterranean Sea of just nine miles. In many ways, however, the short distance in ...
Views: 4215(31 votes) - Advance Parole for Thai Fiancee - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Dennis RammAdvance Parole for Thai Fiancee What is Advance Parole? Advance Parole is the right of an alien to re-enter the United States after traveling abroad. They must be approved for Advance Parole before leaving the United States. If they did not obtain Advance Parole prior to leaving the ...
Views: 1659(2 votes) - Top 5 Wedding Planning Books - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from Jason HennesseyWedding planning is an overwhelming experience. One minute you are high on emotion the next your are tearing your hair out because the caterers you so badly wanted are fully booked or that dream dress is not available anywhere. Little wonder then that many brides will seek solace & advice ...
Views: 2395(4 votes) - The New Definition of an Affair - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Martez LaytonI know that most people would say that an affair is the worst sin that a spouse could commit. I remember growing up as a child this is what I heard from my mother. The reason that she decided to leave my father was because he had cheated. So, all of my childhood and teenage years I looked at ...
Views: 3185(1 vote) - Dealing With Affairs in the Christian Community - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Martez LaytonI have been in the Christian community all of my life, but I cannot remember one time ever hearing someone teach on affairs in the church. I remember hearing about preachers cheating, the deacon cheating and the church secretaries cheating but never hearing or seeing this issue being dealt with ...
Views: 4371(3 votes) - My Spouse Had an Affair - Where Do We Go From Here? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Martez LaytonMaking the right decision at this emotional crossroad will affect you, your spouse and your children. Due to the nature and the pain of dealing with an affair, it is very important not to make decisions from the emotions of anger or bitterness. This is the time in your life where deeply rooted ...
Views: 2526(1 vote) - ***Love Like A Rock On Gibraltar - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our ongoing search for the world’s best marriages took us to Gibraltar today, or as some refer to it – the Rock of Gibraltar. Doing interviews with happily married couples there seemed like a nice transitional thing to do since we are on our way to ...
Views: 4076(34 votes) - Marriage advice: Why love is not enough--does your partner still like you? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhy is it that we have no problem lounging around in our favorite sweatpants (with the hole in the knee) and our favorite threadbare T-shirt (with the rip in the sleeve) in front of our spouse/partner, but if our friends/co-workers were on the way over, we'd change into something "decent" in a ...
Views: 1373(3 votes) - The One Simple Thing Every Woman Wants - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from lisa mcleodAn open letter to men: We love you, we really do. We know you're different than we are, and we like it that way. It's true we often ask you to act more like we do. But if we're honest, we know - and you know - that our differences make things more interesting and exciting. People ...
Views: 1253(5 votes) - The truth about marriage advice and why you should be skeptical - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from Richard NicastroAny couples counselor will tell you that not all marriages or relationships are salvageable—despite my best efforts (and my pro-marriage and pro-commitment attitudes), some of the couples I've counseled will still make the painful decision to end their marriage or relationship. A sad fact is ...
Views: 1294(3 votes) - What Can We Do to Improve Our Relationship? Answers from "Ask Peggy" - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2009 from Peggy FergusonCommunication is not only the life's blood of a marriage, it is the cornerstone that the foundation of relationship skills rest on. You have to have good communication skills to be able to convey your love, affection, and commitment to your loved ones. You can not effectively problem solve ...
Views: 3085(3 votes) - Marriage help: Are your arguments helping or hurting your marriage? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I need some marriage advice. Is arguing bad for a marriage? My husband says it's healthy to argue from time to time but I try to avoid marital conflict at all costs. Can you shed some light on this for us?" A: Relationship conflicts are a natural part of marriage or a long-term ...
Views: 1297(3 votes) - Marriage Advice: Want to build a stronger marriage? Watch your mouth! - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2009 from Richard NicastroHere is my marriage advice to all couples: If you want to strengthen your marriage or relationship: Watch your mouth! Marriage help: It's all about the words we choose There's an old Bee Gees song that says, "It's only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away." When you ...
Views: 1379(5 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzContinued from The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 1 By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. 4. Making marriage too difficult to understand when, in fact, “simple things matter.” We have been saying this for years – our 26+ years of research on ...
Views: 8298(38 votes) - What’s Scary About Being in a Relationship? Part 1 - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Dr. Cindy BrownWhat’s scary about being in a relationship? I’ll tell you! There are many things we hear from our friends, we see in the news, on TV, or in the latest movies such as “Why Did I Get Married?” AND despite the age-old myth of “you live happily ever after... in bliss,” being in a relationship ...
Views: 1490(12 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors - Part 1 of 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied successfully married couples for over 26 years on six of the world’s seven continents. We have traveled in more countries than we can remember. And while our focus has been on those who have made their marriages work; we are also ...
Views: 5927(38 votes) - Meeting Each Other's Emotional Needs - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Angie LewisHow can couples meet each other’s emotional needs better? How can couples prevent emotional infidelities from happening in their marriage? When two people become bonded through marriage they depend on one another for their emotional needs getting met. But what happens later on down the road? ...
Views: 5079(1 vote) - Men and Intimacy: Is It Really a Fear of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhat is a fear of intimacy? The term "fear of intimacy" is often used to describe someone who has difficulty creating a close connection with their spouse/partner. Typically, the phrase highlights a person's struggle to become physically and/or emotionally close, and we often describe this ...
Views: 1360 - Marriage advice: Your marriage needs this simple communication strategy - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Richard NicastroArguments are a regular part of Lindsey and Hector's relationship. During a recent couples counseling session, they volleyed insults back and forth with such intensity that I almost stopped the session. But then something remarkable happened: Lindsey said, "Our marriage is too important to me ...
Views: 1130(4 votes) - What Money Can’t Buy In a Marriage, Laughter Can - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Noelle NelsonFinances are tight, you hardly go out anymore, so dinner at a restaurant with white tablecloths and candlelight is a BIG deal. You get this great coupon, finagle reservations, get yourself all dressed up (OK, so it’s last year’s fashion, or the year before, who cares), ready for a super night ...
Views: 978(1 vote) - Relationship Help for Single Working Mothers - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Nanette GeigerSusan from North Carolina came to me because she's afraid that she'll never get a new husband because she thinks nobody wants to walk into an already established family. If this rings true for you or a person you know, you may believe that, but it is just not so. I know of women who have ...
Views: 1369(2 votes) - ***Women Who Wish Their Spouses Would Die - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Margaret Paul"I feel awful saying this," Mary told me during one of our phone counseling sessions, "but I often wish my husband would die. I feel like a terrible person saying this, but I think about it a lot.""I hear this fairly often," I responded. "You are thinking this, ...
Views: 4762(4 votes) - Couple Communication: Back to Basics To Improve Your Relationship and Restore Happiness - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Peggy FergusonOne of the most important tools to develop or restore communication skills is the use of “I” messages. "I" messages are not as likely to elicit defensiveness. They actually increase the probability that your message(s) will be heard. With this simple change in how you communicate with your ...
Views: 5138(2 votes) - Second Marriage Jitters - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomThe Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families Dear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom My boyfriend and I are both divorced with children. We want to get married but we’re nervous about how to make it work. We both had terrible marriages the first go around. Now things will be even more challenging with the ...
Views: 4567(2 votes) - Couple Communication: Overcoming Roadblocks to Communication to Maintain or Regain Your Marital Happiness - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2009 from Peggy FergusonMost people want to have a loving, committed, happy marriage. And they think they know what will make for that happy marriage. Some of the characteristics often identified as making up a stable and loving relationship include: trust, love, respect, honesty, and faithfulness, among other ...
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