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- Slow Down, Cowboy! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHow can one overcome premature ejaculation? When is faster not necessarily better? That’s right – when we are talking about premature ejaculation or ‘PE’. PE is also known as ‘early ejaculation’ or ‘eager ejaculation’. This occurs when a man ejaculates quicker or earlier than desired. It is ...
Views: 1583 - Anxiety and Numbness - by Submitted on May 13, 2016 from Sheryl PaulI often receive a version of the following email: "Is indifference a sign of relationship anxiety? My partner and I haven't seen each other in two weeks and I feel nothing. I've shut down. I don't care if we split up. My partner even cheated on me and I felt nothing. I don't seem to care ...
Views: 1582 - Get the Happiness & Love You Deserve In 2017! - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2016 from Nicola BeerStart today by taking these 3 steps… Save My Marriage Program – An Alternative to Marriage Counseling With the new year approaching, most of us start to think about what we want to change next year. Look for a new job, join a gym, eat healthier, take a new course, save money or sign up for ...
Views: 1581 - Vulnerability: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable. The image that they present to the ...
Views: 1580 - Communicate to mute the dark side of the imagination - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2014 from James MapesThe single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. -George Bernard Shaw, playwright Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. So, the question is – Do you believe that you communicate often enough and in the right way to create and ...
Views: 1579 - People Don’t Lose Weight On Diets Of Emotional Deprivation - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2012 from Mitchell MilchWe have finite energy stores to manage our lives. If we spend an inordinate amount of time planning our meals, cooking, eating and sadly, recovering from episodes of over indulgence, we may not have enough energy left for other matters of importance. Over dependence on one form of nurturance ...
Views: 1579 - Relationships: Do You Always Blame Other People For Your Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed. Conflict Conflict is then ...
Views: 1579(1 vote) - The Benefits of Life Coaching: Your Accelerated Growth - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Mark GibsonPerhaps the most important commonality clients of trained personal coaches have in common is that they achieve their clearly defined life goals sooner by moving through challenges more quickly. Many coaching clients enjoy new levels of happiness, improved communication skills, renewed mental ...
Views: 1579(3 votes) - How To Boost Your Libido Naturally - by Submitted on May 31, 2016 from Dayr RichFrom ancient wisdom to cutting edge science there are innumerable ways to boost our libidos naturally. Every culture throughout history has searched for, experimented with and embraced an amazing variety of ways to elevate our sexual drive and pleasure to greater and greater heights. Thousands ...
Views: 1577 - My Ex Boyfriend Hasn't Called Me Yet! What to Do When Your Man Doesn't Call - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2015 from Patrick UadialeYour ex boyfriend hasn't called. You've waited and waited and waited and still no call from him at all. No text messages or emails either. It seems he's gone silent and with each day that passes you fear more and more it means that he's moved on and left you in the past. That's not necessarily ...
Views: 1577 - The Inner Mate: Key to Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2009 from david quigleyPerhaps you are single and looking for a love relationship. You might be married and looking for a way to make your relationship work more smoothly for you. Or you might be enduring the heartache of a painful separation. If any of these situations sounds like yours, your Inner Mate could provide ...
Views: 1577(6 votes) - DATING & MATING: A New Paradigm - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Laurie LamsonA lot of people find themselves stuck in limiting 'old school' beliefs about love and relationships, perhaps with the nagging feeling 'is that all there is?' Many of us are seeking a new paradigm for our closest relationships as we shift into a new way of thinking and being. Old-School ...
Views: 1576 - *** Are You Running from Intimacy? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2009 from Richard NicastroIntimacy is the hallmark of a healthy marriage or relationship. But there may be powerful, unconscious forces at work that prevent you from developing a deep and meaningful connection with your partner. Many couples seek out marriage help, relationship advice and/or couples counseling because of ...
Views: 1572(3 votes) - Treat Problem, Not Symptoms - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2009 Treat Problem, Not Symptoms Q: I am in desperate need of some advice. I feel that my marriage is going downhill fast and I want to save it. Let me tell you the story. A couple of years ago, I accidentally found ...
Views: 1572(4 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others When Their Relationships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there is the chance that it will last until their life comes to an end (or until their partner passes on). There is also the chance that it won’t last this long, and this is due to a number of different factors. For one thing, people move around more than ...
Views: 1571 - Are You Stuck in an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? Here are 3 Routes for you to Consider - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Doron GilThe increasing number of separations and divorce is an indication that many are not satisfied with their relationships. Yet, those who stay in an unsatisfying relationship might have reasons for doing so. Whatever the reasons are, there are at least 3 routes to making a change. Reasons for ...
Views: 1569 - How to Win A Heart: Show Up Naked - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"If you really do want to be an actor who can satisfy himself and his audience, you need to be vulnerable. You must reach the emotional and intellectual level of ability where you can go out stark naked, emotionally, in front of an audience." - Jack Lemmon, Actor Jack Lemmon was one of the ...
Views: 1567 - Naked, the Only Way to Be In Love - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, DECEMBER 11, 2009 Naked, the Only Way to Be In Love I launched this column 10 years ago as "Naked Relationships" to help you experience the ultimate in authentic, loving relationships -- something I had yet to get my arms ...
Views: 1567(2 votes) - The Power of Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Jayne MorrisLove is the energy of all creation and we came into the world positively filled with it. The essence of who we are is love, and us such we were all born with an innate ability to experience unconditional love within us and around us. As children however, many of us actually unlearned how to ...
Views: 1566(1 vote) - Relationships: Are Relationship Problems Caused By Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to fixing something, it is not uncommon for some kind of diagnosis to take place. Once this has taken place, the appropriate action can then be taken, and before long, it could be back to normal. Alternatively, someone could find that something doesn’t work and instead of ...
Views: 1566 - Signals that your relationship is failing - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Ian TomlinsonJohn Gottman is a psychologist in the US who has studied married couples in great depth. This man has got the art of reading couples so off pat that he can tell within three minutes of observing them interact whether they will stay together or separate. He's spot on 96% of the time! When ...
Views: 1565(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1564(1 vote) - Give Him a Clean Slate for Christmas - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Jan DeniseGive Him a Clean Slate for Christmas By Jan Denise Trying to decide between a beach getaway and a stocking full of coal for your sweetheart? Why not give him a clean slate, instead? Wipe away the black marks and start fresh, aiming—once again—for perfect love. Only this time, do it with ...
Views: 1564 - Life Well Lived - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Anita JeffersonI coincidentally read the spine of the Reader’s Digest (large print mind you) for the first time at the same time I was recalling how fantastic my life is and noticed the tagline for the magazine “Life Well Shared.” What an awesome way to mark our purpose in life – to share and share well. My ...
Views: 1564 - The Right Way to Love - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ...
Views: 1564 - Signs Your Relationship Is Over - Learn To Read The Signals - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Mika MaddelaHave you noticed that your relationship is starting to lose its luster? Relationships are one of those facets of life that are considered essential. . If you want to know if your relationship is about to end then read on and find out the top signs a relationship is over. Signs a Relationship ...
Views: 1561(1 vote) - How Self-Hypnosis Training Can Make Positive Change (a lot) easier - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2014 from Mandy BassAre you aware that most of our "beliefs" are formed long before we have the ability to use critical thinking? Young children are introduced to ideas and opinions long before their brains can distinguish whether those concepts are accurate, valid, credible, healthy, and so on. This is why so ...
Views: 1559 - Our Most Cherished Myths About Love - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2012 from Bryce KayeIn working with thousands of couples over the years, I have found certain themes to emerge again and again. Three of the most frequent themes are really myths about the nature of loving. As myths, they can be very destructive to intimacy. They lead to a misguided effort to create the illusion of ...
Views: 1559 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame The Opposite Sex For Their Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to talk to a number of people about what their relationships are like, they are likely to hear about a wide range of experiences. While some of these people could be in a relationship, there are bound to be others who are not. So depending on what their current situation is, ...
Views: 1559 - Getting Started: "Ready, Set, Talk!" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Peggy FergusonSometimes couples wish they felt more emotionally close to their spouses. You may feel taken for granted and might even recognize that you take your spouse for granted. One or both of you might be daydreaming about dedicating some time and energy to restoring that eroding emotional connection. ...
Views: 1558(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Only Interested In Women Who Need To Be Saved? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there will be no need for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they won’t be carrying too much baggage. So, instead of seeing each other as competitors; they will be able ...
Views: 1557 - Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownSo many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported ...
Views: 1557(1 vote) - Keys to a Happy Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaEveryone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership. ...
Views: 1556 - Could I be more joyous!? Could you? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Tambra HarckCould I be more joyous!? Could you? I hope your answer, like mine, is, “Yes! I could have more Joy in my life!” You see, I know that there is no “cap” on joy, except as we put there for ourselves. Raising that “cap” or set-point is possible. When you do it, each time you do it, it is ...
Views: 1555(4 votes) - Breathe Life Into Your Wish List - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Jan DeniseBreathe Life Into Your Wish List If you want to order the cheapest thing on the menu or take a budget vacation, go ahead; but don’t resort to practical wishes. What do you really want for Christmas? Now, tell him, tell everybody. Don’t depend on anybody else to deliver it, though. I ...
Views: 1553 - The Art of Science and Love - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2012 from Daniela RoherMany people have been studying and discussing the mysteries, the pains and the joys of love as long as humans learned to communicate with each other. With the discovery or reading and writing, personal experiences, as well as emotional and logical theories about love were left by earlier ...
Views: 1553 - Signs Of Stress: Mental - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2012 from Rick CarterDo you know the signs of stress? Not just feeling stress. Because waiting until you feel stress is like deciding to fight the enemy after they've come through the gate and over the walls. Your body and your mind let you know that stress is coming. Stress makes your body go into "fight or ...
Views: 1552 - Speaking an Emotional Language - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2010 from Allan HardmanA new client called to tell me that she and her husband had a big fight because he wouldn’t listen to her share her feelings. He said he was tired of being made wrong; and all she wanted to do was tell him how she felt. She asked me, in a very discouraged tone; “How can I get him to just listen ...
Views: 1551(4 votes) - Messages of Intimacy - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.We all need intimacy. We all have different ways we receive and give intimate messages. It should be easy, as intimacy is natural and we are born needing to be intimate and close. What is challenging is that we might know what we want, but not how to get it. We may know how to give, but not to ...
Views: 1548 - Promiscuity is Spiritual - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Scott & Stephen PetulloMyths abound surrounding the topics of sex, promiscuity, and spirituality. Consider this anonymous feedback we received from "Emily": "So two guys who obviously aren't into commitment write about what a less-than-desirable ideal sexual commitment is, with no thought of feeding the kids. How ...
Views: 1546 - Relationships: Do People Hurt Others On Purpose? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to think about a time in their life where they have been hurt by someone, there is a strong chance that it won’t be long until someone comes to mind. And while this might cause them to think about a certain event; they might think about a number of things that took place. The ...
Views: 1546 - When Lower Libido is a Symptom Not The Problem - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2011 from Phil MéthotSometimes what seems like libido dysfunction is simply the lack of desire to get close to the person that you have become distant to. If your relationship is mutually empowering, and you feed each others' sense of self, than physical desireis usually not too far away. But... if the feeling of ...
Views: 1546 - Communication in Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Michael FehlauerGood communication in relationships is a result of skills that can be learned. How to listen is a huge first step in developing healthy communication in your relationships. Even more so, learning what to listen for is another key. David Schwartz says, “Big people monopolize the listening. ...
Views: 1542(1 vote) - The myth of the complex woman - Part 2 -The age cycle - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from George Forderin a previous article I explained, carefully, how women are actually easy to understand, using the Age/Fertility/Role model with it's 3 interlocking cycles. Today I thought I'd expound on the first cycle The Age Cycle, consists of the phases; Pre-puberty Practicing Mating Raising ...
Views: 1541 - Sex Is Not The Same As Sitting For The ’10-year Series’ - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeI tell my clients that sex is not the same as sitting for the ‘10-year series‘. For those who don’t know, the 10-year series is a colloquial term unique to Singapore where students refer to official compilation books of examination papers for the past years for the GCE N-levels, O-levels and ...
Views: 1540 - Relationships: Can A Bad Relationship Cause Someone To Believe That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are in relationships that could be described as ‘functional’; there are others who are in relationships that could be described as ’dysfunctional’. And as a result of this, their experience on this planet is going to be radically different. One Experience ...
Views: 1540 - 3 Ways To Repair A Relationship That Will Surely Work - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Mika MaddelaIf your relationship is teetering on the edge of disaster then it this might be the best time for you to find ways to repair a relationship and get it back on track again. Leave it Alone Although it seems unlikely, this is actually one of the top ways to repair a relationship. If both of ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Can You Put Up With Immature Behaviour? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThe answer to this to some extent depends on who the person is, and what the behaviour is, and how much their behaviour affects you and in what ways. Obviously this is a very broad question but there is an important point behind it, in terms of an individual's willingness to let other people be ...
Views: 1539 - Dear Dr. Romance: Our sex life has been very bad - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My husband of almost 9 years just told me about 2 months ago that he is in love with someone else. About 5 years ago I caught him cheating on me with this girl and he told me that it was over and it was just for the sex. Then 2 years later I found out that he was ...
Views: 1539 - Relationships: Does A Woman Lack Self-Awareness If She Believes That All Men Are The Same? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women in today’s world who believe that all men are the same, and it could be said that this is nothing new. It might not be inaccurate to say that this is how it has always been, but it has certainly been this way for a little while. However, what is different nowadays is ...
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