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We’ve all watched in shock the news reports of the tragedy in Arizona, and this causes us once again to dig deep into our souls to search for meaning. Why would someone do this?
Let me start by saying that I am not a ... Views: 1488
Loss throws us into a world of unknown emotions. Some of which we maybe had never experienced before. Understanding these emotions can be a key factor in transforming through loss. Yet it can be hard to accept some feelings. It requires us to be brutally honest with ourselves and acknowledge ... Views: 1488
Losing a child is one of life's biggest tragedies. All that promise, all those hopes, all those possibilities for a bright and successful future disappear in an instant. Whether you've lost a young child or a young adult child, the feeling of loss cuts deep. We are simply not programmed to ... Views: 1487
When you lose your spouse life feels very disorganized. All relationships provide a sense of structure, whether you think of it that way or not. Much of grief is really about coping with the lack of structure which manifests in the sad, empty space of what had been a significant ... Views: 1486
This was written by a friend of mine Sheri McMurray, and when I read it, I immediately asked her if I could share it. It is such an amazing story. (She is a flight attendant. which helps to know just for ease of reading mid-way through.)
The day [my cat,] Chloe, died I was trying to clear ... Views: 1486
The greatest truth about being happy is that happiness is a choice and a decision. It's just a thought away! Every day you wake up and get to make the decision about how you want to feel.
Ask yourself, "Do I want to be happy today?" Isn't that the choice most of us would want? And yet, we ... Views: 1481
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Go Ahead, Cry??? - by Carolyn Shannon of Venting Creatively with True Emotions Artwork Plus
When was the last time you had a GOOD cry? Not one of those almost cries that you stuff back down to join all the other almost cries you have had over the long haul. I am talking about a cry you let loose and allow to literally flow until the last drop.
What is stopping you? Is it the fact ... Views: 1478
(excerpts from the book Holiday Grief: How to Cope with Stress, Anxiety and Depression After a Loved One’s Death)
Since I’ve been involved in helping grieving children for most of my career, it is very important to me to help you learn about the needs of young people when the holidays and ... Views: 1474
A little while before I headed to Bournemouth for New Years Eve, in 2012, I had been texting a woman I had met online. At this point, I didn’t know a great deal about her, but I was keen to meet her.
I think it was just after New Year’s Day that we arranged a time to meet and, when I met ... Views: 1472
Question:
I am the eldest of 12 children and only survivor who did not perish the Australian fires. I feel the guilt being spared from working abroad.
Despite my own problems here, being wiped out financially and facing homelessness, I realize the God I know does not care.
I find ... Views: 1470
Dr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help.
None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ... Views: 1470
Your role has changed… no longer are you the care giver. Your loved one has died and things are now different. You may be feeling a whole host of emotions ranging from relief, to anger, to disbelief and sadness. You may be responding by questioning who you are now, and how you go on. Welcome to ... Views: 1470
It is almost winter again. December is the last month of the year when most of the Season of Lights Festivals are celebrated. These festivals celebrate the fact that the light only begins to return to its full strength again when the seasons are darkest, the night is the longest, and the ... Views: 1470
Coping with stress related to bereavement in a positive way does not just happen easily and naturally. Bereavement due to death, loss of a job, loss of a relationship or any loss that severely changes our everyday world is happening more frequently as we face recession and other life ... Views: 1468
There are many kinds of grief in the world today for, this world is always bringing with it loss. We begin to learn about loss early in life as a child when we lose pets, friends as we progress through our educational years, boyfriends as we progress through our dating years, and, we lose jobs ... Views: 1468
Getting A Message From Beyond
By Sue Frederick, author of Dancing at Your Desk
It’s 2 a.m., and I’m sound asleep when suddenly there’s a strange and very large man standing right beside my bed – about a foot away. He’s wearing jeans, a dark t-shirt, and an unbuttoned flannel plaid shirt. He’s ... Views: 1467
Honoring Life on Our Own Time
Recently I was in a Life Coaching session with one of my clients who told me a very touching, heartfelt story. She had gotten off early from work one day last week, so before she headed home to let her nanny off and to happily see her girls, she headed over to ... Views: 1466
Though the holiday season is thought to be a joyous time by all, many find the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas to be stressful and emotional. As a helping professional, I have observed the approaching holiday season as both a joyous time, as well as a time filled with heartache and ... Views: 1465
Towards the end of 2014, I felt a lot better than I did in the beginning of 2013, and what also played a part here is that I had recently been away. I had gone to Mexico for my sister’s wedding in June that year.
Going away gave me a lift and, when I came back, I wondered why I didn’t go ... Views: 1464
Grief is a topic that is not much discussed, but all of us will go through this process some day. I have gone through it four times in seven years, but the most profound loss for me was the loss of my child. I thought that was the end of everything for me back then, but after 21 years, I finally ... Views: 1463
Enduring a catastrophic personal injury can scar someone both emotionally and physically for life. Medical bills pile up, life as the victim knew it may be over, depression often sets in, and the fear that things will never be good again can be an all consuming fear. It can also put a strain ... Views: 1463
Baby Boomers are in for a shock!!! We may think that we are prepared for the sadness that will accompany our parents’ death. In fact we are usually totally unprepared for this life experience. To lose the people in your life that have always been there and know you the best is a life-altering ... Views: 1462
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Ken Matthies, retired Canadian Forces Northern Ranger. I’m also John’s youngest brother, come down from the Yukon Territory to love, honor and pay tribute to him in my own special way at his passing. I have a story about John to share with you ... Views: 1459
The shocking news of Robin Williams’ suicide has left us all heartbroken and reeling. Robin’s death seems so antithetical to the Robin we saw brimming with life. He took on the world with his cutting-edge humor and supersonic mind. He was a trip unto himself.
We would stay up late knowing ... Views: 1459
Breaking up with your lover, partner or spouse is a major event in your life. The consequences are not much different than losing a loved one through death. A relationship breakup is a death of sorts, the death of possibilities, a future together and plans that were spun around during your ... Views: 1458
The song lyrics in “Joy to the World” and “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” say it all. Christmas is meant to be a season of cheer and happiness. Funnily enough, though, we women sometimes look for this feeling of joy in all the wrong places.
Who else has a mental checklist that ... Views: 1458
I’m speaking to you today…
IN REMEMBRANCE OF a man known as Private Cornelius Peter Buhler – or – (Buller)… a member of the Calgary Highlanders Regiment who was killed in action July 25, 1944 during the Allied combat offensive in France.
Cornelius Buller was my uncle. As a member of his ... Views: 1453
I recently heard about someone whose health was not in a good way, yet this was not something that had taken place overnight. What hadn’t helped was that they had been consuming things that had harmed their body and mind.
This was something that had been going on for a number of years. So, ... Views: 1452
After my 16-year-old son Justin died, I learned that some journeys can only be made on foot, and grieving is one of them. You can't fly across it to avoid touching down in the pain. You can't cruise through it by car and watch the landscape through a half-open window. You can't swim through the ... Views: 1449
The funeral was lovely. It was packed with friends paying their respects. But once everyone else has gone back to normal routines, close family and dear friends still grieve for the lost loved one. They may feel that the world has passed them by and feel very alone.
Now is a perfect moment to ... Views: 1441
Grief and loss come in a multitude of forms. There is grief due to loss of a loved one but there's also the sense of grief related to illness and the impending demise of a loved one.
When our family pet, our dog Bear had to be put to sleep after ten years with us, it was more emotionally ... Views: 1437
Katherine glanced at the oversized banner promoting 25% off all men’s wear. “That’s one department I won’t need to shop in this season,” she thought. A suffocating feeling soon overwhelmed her. The holiday music seemed louder, the decorations larger, and the ... Views: 1436
Dealing with the holidays while you are grieving for a loved one can be stressful and emotionally exhausting. For most of us the holiday season magnifies the absence of the person lost. You may feel that long-held traditions can never be the same or could be awkward. It can be sad shopping for ... Views: 1429
Dealing With Marriage Separation Pain: How To Cope With Separation From Your Husband
Today, I felt inspired to write about loneliness. Loneliness is a truly difficult emotion to deal with; it can arise unexpectedly and hit you really hard, slowly creep up on you and linger for months or years ... Views: 1427
A friend of our family just lost her husband to cancer. She has several adult children who no doubt have been there for her. They helped with all the arrangements of the funeral, helped her sort through all the paper work that needed to be taken care of and kept her busy with family events. ... Views: 1426
In the middle of 2011, my father had to go into hospital in order to have an operation. I drove him there and expected to be bringing him home in the not too distant future.
At the time, I thought that this was just a routine operation and that he would soon be out of hospital. What also ... Views: 1424
Where do we start? Should I tell you about the time my husband had to restrain me from punching a lady at the Comfort Inn? How about the time I spent an hour going through the yellow pages looking for psychics who communicate with the deceased? A more recent time was when I locked my keys in ... Views: 1422
When we have lost someone we love, our job, our health, our marriage, or our deepest relationship, we want to feel some compassion coming our way. We want to know that we are going to make it.
Here are some ways for your body, your mind, and your spirit to meet every day with renewed ... Views: 1421
Developing a comprehensive insurance program that will provide you and your family with a variety of benefit options is an important consideration for anyone. While single adults may not have the same need for life insurance coverage as those with a spouse or family, they do need to be able to ... Views: 1413
Few people are prepared for the responsibilities and tasks involved in caring for loved ones who are ill, elderly, or disabled. The success of the relationship between you and your loved one depends on several factors. One of the most important is how well you take care of yourself, empowering ... Views: 1409
When someone we love dies, a feeling of deep, painful grief is a natural and common response. Actually, grief can be triggered by the loss of anything we value, anything in which we have invested time, energy, a part of ourselves--a job, a work of art, a beloved pet. People who are divorcing are ... Views: 1406
It could have been your friend, your sister or your child. But somehow, over the course of your life, you have probably had someone come to you for comfort and consolation. They could have chosen you to allay their worries and sorrows after a long sad day. If we are all being honest, I'm sure we ... Views: 1405
Healing the broken heart is a multifaceted process that takes patience and self care. The first step is to acknowledge that indeed our heart is broken whether it is through the death of a loved one, a relationship ending or a betrayal in a close relationship.
Once you acknowledge the pain and ... Views: 1401
Loss, grief and death are a normal process that happen to us during our lifetime. As we face the reality of life, we go through many types of grief that are unavoidable. It's unreal to think that we cannot suffer any loss in our lives. Being prepared for is the hardest part.
Sadness is the ... Views: 1399
When we have lost someone we love, our job, our health, our marriage, or our deepest relationship, we want to feel some compassion coming our way. We want to know that we are going to make it.
Here are some ways for your body, your mind, and your spirit to meet every day with renewed ... Views: 1398
Internal work on our believe systems, thought patterns and behaviors is the hardest work any of us will ever do. It takes a great deal of courage and desire to change to undergo the strenuous work of digging through the layers of hidden feelings, experiences and hurts.
Those who are in ... Views: 1398
Throughout my entire life, I have always enjoyed creative writing and public speaking. As a species, I believe that we write because we have a need to tell our stories and connect with people. During 2005-2006, I began writing my book, “Farewell, My Friend”, which chronicles the illness and ... Views: 1397
We all have lived through many types of losses. Some of us handle it better than others and, there is nothing wrong with that. In today's economy, people are losing jobs, insurance, their cars, their homes, their family's, their good health; much of it due to stress. People are unable to deal ... Views: 1395