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- Love And Loss Are Naturally Linked - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantWhen you open yourself to love, you open yourself to loss. When you suffer the loss of someone you love, you experience the painful emotion we call grief because it's a natural response to loss. Yet, to the person going through this afflictive emotion, the experience feels overwhelming because ...
Views: 1792(3 votes) - Loss: Should Someone Let Go Of Another Person's Possessions After They Have Passed On? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one losses someone, they may feel the need to let go of their possessions soon after. Or if they don’t feel this way, the people around them may encourage them to have clear out, so to speak. It could be said that the reason this would be seen as a good idea is that when something is ...
Views: 1789 - What to Do If You Uncover a Secret About Your Deceased Loved One? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Louis LaGrandHas someone you trust told you a secret about your deceased loved one that has added immeasurably to your grief? Where you going through his/her papers and found some information about the past that has stunned you? Has evidence of physical or emotional infidelity turned up upon reading old ...
Views: 1787 - A Friend Died Today - 5 Ways To Cope With Loss, Grief and the Fear Of Your Own Mortality - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Jonathan HuieAs I write this, the house is quiet. My wife and her good friend are attending a funeral. Their long-time mutual friend and fellow artist, who I never met, died suddenly at 62, leaving a husband in chronic ill health. I first became aware that death - for anyone - is never far away when a ...
Views: 1785(2 votes) - Coping with Grief - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Shayn CutinoThere have been several high-profile deaths just this week that have dominated the television news coverage and received a seemingly endless amount of written coverage on the internet and entertainment publications. First, we learned of the passing of Ed McMahon, who is undoubtedly the most ...
Views: 1785 - Letting Go and Moving On - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Grace TallmanLetting Go and Moving On After experiencing a major loss, it is sometimes difficult to move on with your life. Before you can look ahead to a brighter future, you need to learn to let go of your painful past. The loss can involve a break up with someone you care deeply about, a job ...
Views: 1784 - *** Remember to Extend Love to Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorIf you've got love in your heart, whatever you do from that moment out is likely to be right. If you've got that one true note ringing inside you, then whatever you do is going to be OK. It's love, always love. - Ken Kesey On Valentine's Day we focus on ...
Views: 1781(1 vote) - Guilt: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Guilty? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be moments where one’s emotional experience reflects reality, there can also be moments when it doesn’t. In this case, it could be said that there is no reason for one to feel the way that they do. However, even though there will be moments where it isn’t necessary for one ...
Views: 1781 - Ghosts of the Wheat Harvest - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysIn the fall of 1990, I was meeting with two other men on a regular basis to explore our dreams and aspirations. Every two weeks, we would gather at a Chinese buffet and talk for several hours about things we’d like to do some day. It was around the time of the Men’s Movement, where men went ...
Views: 1779(2 votes) - Believe in New Beginnings.... - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2010 from Ligia HoubenBelieve in New Beginnings.... When we face a difficult transition or a loss we may think our life is over....that we don't have any hope, or that we don't have options. My purpose in life is to help people embrace hope and make them believe in new beginnings. Because...this is possible. I ...
Views: 1776(1 vote) - Depression and Grief: The Four Letter Word Called Hope - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2007 from Jennifer BrostSpring was in the air and so was hope. My mother-in-law had been turning darker shades of yellow since December. Now there was reason to believe she would improve: doctors were going to operate. We knew it was a long-shot, but nonetheless, we were hoping to keep our dear friend, mother, and wife ...
Views: 1775 - Trauma Parent sudden death strikes school - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2012 from Elizabeth McNallyA school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known. Come morning, usually, the school’s administration has been notified allowing them to brief their staff before the school’s day starts. The school board’s psychologist will ...
Views: 1774(1 vote) - Releasing The Pain - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2012 from Trudy-Ann EwanEach day that we awaken is a new day to take our lives forward. It is an opportunity to create something new, something fresh. No matter what you have gone thru, no matter how painful, how heart-wrenching, you don’t have to be in that situation forever. You do not have to be in pain forever. ...
Views: 1770 - The 10th Anniversary of 911 - How You Can Help - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2011 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantOn September 11, 2011, we remember the 10th anniversary of the day when nearly 3,000 victims were killed after two airliners were crashed into the Twin Towers in New York City, another plane hit the Pentagon and a final plane crashed into a field in rural Pennsylvania. This devastating number ...
Views: 1769(3 votes) - Shifting the Grief Healing Paradigm-Authentic Grief Healing - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenWhile grief is a universal experience, the mourning process varies from family to family and from culture to culture. What I am referring to as the mourning process are the rituals that most of us grow up with about how to behave and how to speak when confronted with a loss. In essence, ...
Views: 1768(5 votes) - NAVIGATING THE WATERS OF GRIEF - Grief Recovery from a Spiritual Growth Perspective - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Mike SchoppNavigating the Waters of Grief … Grieving a loss of any kind can seem as if a storm has ripped away our sail from a well-charted life. The loss of a loved one, a pet, employment, a lifestyle, physical health, or a way of being can seem as if we were unexpectedly thrown overboard into the ...
Views: 1767(1 vote) - Feeling Lonely? - How To Attract A Guy And Make New Friends after Being Widowed - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonThere will come a time when you're ready to move forward after grieving the death of a spouse, to get on with your life and move ahead and discover what this new chapter has to offer. When this happens, you may find it challenging to stop dwelling eternally on what you have lost, and begin to ...
Views: 1764 - Connecting to Nature: Sacred Lessons Learned - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2011 from Dr. Jane SimingtonConnecting to Nature: Sacred Lessons Learned “Mom, can you come today? I want to show you the little river Wes and I found yesterday. It’s full of minnows. It’s in that marshy place where they cut down those old trees.” There were indeed minnows in his new found stream. I returned, on ...
Views: 1760(1 vote) - Mothers in the Military - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Abigail FazelatMothers are normally military minorities. Sure, women in general are gaining more recognition in the military, but surely many people forget that a large majority of these women are mothers as well as national heroes. However, balancing these two identities is hardly ever easy. One military ...
Views: 1755 - Grief, Loss, and a Proven Plan for Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2009 from Louis LaGrandAre you in a state of confusion? Have you made the decision that you will get through this loss? Are you confronting your loss and fears? If not, why not? Peace of mind is the ultimate goal of good grief so that one can begin the work of reinvesting in a life in the absence of the physical ...
Views: 1754 - The Grief And Belief Connection - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Bob Olson"Grief is healing: To take away our grief is to take away our healing. And learning about life after death helps us heal with greater hope, comfort and peace." ~ Bob Olson In approximately five years of investigating the possibility of life after death, I have discovered convincing evidence ...
Views: 1750(1 vote) - How Difficult is Grief - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Maurice Turmel"How difficult is grief recovery?" you may ask. As difficult as climbing a mountain perhaps, or crossing a stormy sea? These are events to remember, aren't they? Well, for certain they are. Such events are quite dramatic, as is the case with Grief, which takes us out of ourselves and tosses us ...
Views: 1746 - Finding Purpose Through Death - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Joeel A. RiveraWe all have a story to tell that makes us who we are today. We ask people to tell their transformational stories in this magazine; therefore, I am going to share my story here this month. Through this letter to my brother, I will share how our enlightened relationship transformed my ...
Views: 1744(3 votes) - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Grieve? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences loss, their whole experience of life can change, and when this happens, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on as normal. The thoughts in their mind and the emotions in their body can be different, and the meaning of their life could also have altered. ...
Views: 1740 - The Peaceful Void of Dementia - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2017 from Lisa BoussonWhether it’s bipolar, depression, dementia or any other horrible mental disease, I don’t believe (at least in my findings) that many families can miss the boat. Do you remember that new baby doll smell? I smelled it this morning when I was in the shower (A really good time for spirit ...
Views: 1740 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I married more than five years ago, in our early 30s. We had a good marriage. We agreed that if we would sit down and talk things out should we have issues. We always held true to that until his mom died several months ago. He was very close to ...
Views: 1736 - Music During Grief and Loss - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2015 from Dr. Sonara Carter-BarberMusic During Grief and Loss Music touches your soul like nothing else. Music during times of sorrow can be especially helpful. Songs can speak to our emotions and give voice to how we feel. The late BB King said, “Even in your darkest moments, music is a rope to grab onto, something to pull ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - On Coping with Death… Now imagine you are a child. - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2006 from Gary DirenfeldOn Coping with Death… Death. It hits hard and with a loved one, no matter what the preparation, the loss is heartfelt. Now imagine you are a child. Coping with the death of a parent in childhood will be different depending on the age of the child and the nature of the relationship. While all ...
Views: 1732 - CONTROL ISSUES - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Laura NashJust before Christmas when I was 7 years old my dad died and I experienced a life altering paradigm shift. It was as if the curtains closed at the end of an act on the stage of my life and when they reopened, the scenery had completely changed leaving me feeling unsafe and bewildered. As a ...
Views: 1729 - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal ...
Views: 1728(1 vote) - The poverty is a symbol of backward society and country - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2018 from md rajiulahPoverty Wore goggles, the writer was sitting alone in the dhoti-kurta that suddenly his mind goes towards the poor villages. He is whispering in mind about poverty. What is the poverty?. How does the poverty increase?. How to finish it?. He lost his two hours for it. He comes out of his ...
Views: 1728 - Valuable Tools For Working With Grief - by Submitted on May 31, 2013 from Kate SinerNo matter where we are from or what has happened to us, each one of us deals with grief throughout our life. There is the grief that comes with the loss of a loved one and there is grief that is a necessary response to what we may carry with us from our childhood. There is also grief as a result ...
Views: 1726(1 vote) - Passing On: A Father's Enduring Love - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jelaila StarrMy father was diagnosed with cancer in October, 2008. Up to that time he had been very healthy. Normally energetic and active, he fought the cancer with gusto. Still, the cancer won and my father passed away in the early morning hours of on Sunday, March 8th, less than 6 months later. I had ...
Views: 1725 - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1725 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1720 - The Infant Soul's Grief - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from Bhuka Bijumiro-JjumiroWhenever an infant is born into the world of form, it is expected to perform its very first karma or action. That is the action of crying or wailing. If it does not wail, the doctors, parents and friends present get worried; they think something is wrong with the baby. They do everything they ...
Views: 1719 - Dealing with Grief Through Meditation - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Anne RoseYou experienced a horrible loss. The grief has nearly destroyed you. Although you are aware grief has no schedule or timetable, you are a year into your extended mourning session and want it to stop. In fact, you have become nearly paralyzed with sadness and know this can’t go on. What can ...
Views: 1714 - Where Do You Turn? - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Susan DunnWhen my client Lorena was going through her divorce, she said she played the piano every night "until there wasn't an ounce left in me." John went out on his boat and listened to Rachmaninoff. Many of us turn to music when words are not enough, or there are no words. We listen to an opera, or ...
Views: 1710 - Love, Loss, Trauma, and Community - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsOne characteristic of human societies is that people come together and seek closeness with others in the face of traumatic experiences. "Emotional attachment is probably the primary protection against feelings of helplessness and meaninglessness; it is essential for biological survival in ...
Views: 1708 - Surviving Mom - by Submitted on May 16, 2004 from Cate CavanaghHere I was again. From the time I was nine each time my mom went to the hospital I would wonder "Is this it?". "Will she survive?". My mother is now ninety-two and has been the victim of fifteen strokes, seventeen heart attacks and Parkinsons. She also suffers severe and sudden changes in ...
Views: 1708 - How to Support Communities When Mass Tragedy Hits - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2014 from Allidah Hicks Bonnie KnutiWe cringe as we hear of the latest mass tragedy whether it's another shooting, a hurricane, tornado, fire, or flood. It's just one more horrific event that fills our daily thoughts and hearts. Yet, we never believe that something so awful could ever happen to us or to anyone close to ...
Views: 1704 - Loss: Is Time A Great Healer? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one can experience a loss and it won’t have much of an effect on them, and then there are times when this won’t be the case. And what can define how much of an impact a loss has on them can all depend on their level of emotional attachment. For example, if one had a ...
Views: 1698 - Dealing with Everyday Life Grief - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from Isabel KirkWhat comes to your mind when you think of the word grief? Most people think of death. Even if you google it, the listings that come up are related to the emotional response that surfaces from the death of a love one. There is very good information and help out there related to that topic. So the ...
Views: 1693 - There IS Light at the End of the Tunnel - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2012 from Kristie BlankenshipThere IS light at the end of the tunnel! Feel like you are suffocating in the darkness of your pain? Don’t think there’s any hope? When you are in the midst of despair, I want you to know there IS light at the end of your tunnel. You may not think so right now, but it’s there. Many have ...
Views: 1693 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1692 - Grief - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Bernice McLarenWhat is Grief? If you are reading this you have probably suffered a loss and experiencing deep sadness as a result of loss. This is grief and emotionally painful but natural and in most cases a healthy response to a loss. Grieving should not be prevented or avoided, rather it should be ...
Views: 1688 - Tidal Waves Of Grief - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2008 from Sue FrederickI’m standing on a beach surrounded by a vast expanse of dark sand for as far as I can see. Gulls are squawking in the distance. I’m looking into my father’s watery blue eyes. He’s animated and young, explaining something to me with more passion than I ever saw in the last ...
Views: 1684 - Grief Unveiled - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2011 from Natasha N. MackeyWhat do you do when all of a sudden your heart is pierced through with pain? The one you thought you would grow old with is suddenly lying lifeless in your bed. Or the hopes of a child fulfilling their divine call - your legacy - but instead their life is snuffed out like a candle wick. What ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - What to Do When it All Falls Apart: 8 Tips From Personal Experience - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Catherine LenardWhether you're feeling trauma from recent losses or are experiencing grief in the aftermath of past events, know that you can and will get through it. Following are pointers from first-hand experience. Having experienced personal and professional losses within a relatively short period of ...
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