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There are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don’t feel the need to ignore them.
Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they ... Views: 1695
You may have heard the term 'self-esteem' a great deal, but have you ever wondered exactly what it means? Some people equate self-esteem with confidence, self-love or self-interest, but none of those concepts really captures what is meant by the term.
Before we get much farther in our ... Views: 1695
If someone was asked about how people can suffer mentally and emotionally, they could end up talking about depression. This could be because they have suffered from it themselves, or it could be something that one of their friends has experienced.
However, there is also the chance that they ... Views: 1694
What are the things you see in yourself that you wish others could see? Do they see your potential and all that you are capable of? Consider for a moment the means by which you choose to express yourself. The things that you use as your outlets are clues to the best and brightest parts within ... Views: 1694
This newsletter presents you with inspiration quotes that support the self-empowering insight that the world truly is ruled by dreamers.
Dreams are not conditions that occur only in sleep. The inspiration quotes that follow deal with the power of deliberately dreaming of the future. These ... Views: 1691
2009 might have become the year that people built fall out shelters out of refrigerator boxes because the news kept getting more and more dismal. I know my 401K is worth about 38 cents as of today, but I wouldn’t be doing my job if I couldn’t peel away some of the gloom to reveal that today is a ... Views: 1691
You don’t have to be a famous key note speaker or a famous motivational speaker like Tony Robbins or Joel Osteen just to give a great speech. Public speaking to many people when performing such an act in front of an audience is every daunting and even more so intimidating.Fear is the biggest ... Views: 1690
When someone spends their time with people who affirm their worth, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. This is because human beings are interdependent, and this is why the responses of others play an important part in their self-image.
However, although one’s ... Views: 1689
Being overweight is something that many of us suffer from. You are not alone. Whether you have a little bit of puppy fat or physically obese both your body and mind are affected.
Whilst losing weight is something that should be done from a health point of view often people want to lose weight ... Views: 1689
How was your day?
We utter this question blithely every day, not realizing how monumental it is. Indeed, it’s the single most important question you’ll ever ask.
We talk about life being short, but 80 years is really a long time. Life’s too long to fight evolution. When you have the ... Views: 1689
Have you heard people talk about how slow business is right now? Read virtually any newspaper, watch newscasts, listen to commentaries and you’ve likely been exposed to the “business is slow” conversations. Millions of people are holding daily conversations about how slow things are.
On the ... Views: 1689
Many of us learned early on that if someone said "no" to us, that we were somehow at fault. This erroneous belief system can cause us untold issues later in life as we go through life taking rejection extremely personally.
In the network marketing arena, for example, people often believe that ... Views: 1688
Lesson 3
The Habit of Giving
People often ask me things like, “John, what is the main habit of multi-million dollar entrepreneurs, life-changers and dream achievers?” There is no question at all in my mind that the number one habit of all of those people is giving.
Before we move on ... Views: 1688
If you’ve suffered from low self-esteem like I have for most of your life, loving yourself doesn’t come easy. But, it’s the most important thing you can do in life. The way I think of it now is that the Love you have within you is Divinity and it’s how that Divinity in you connects with the ... Views: 1687
When someone uses social media, there are a number of things that they can do. For one thing, they can talk to people they know, and this can take place through commenting on something they have shared or by sending them a message.
As to what option they take can all depend on how much ... Views: 1687
How much time and energy do you spend treading the proverbial waters of the stream of creative expression and meaningful experience? How often do you ride the roller coaster of two progressive steps forward and two steps back in your efforts to expand beyond your current unfulfilling comfort ... Views: 1686
All of us carry wounds from the past. We may or may not be conscious of them. Either way, they inhibit our ability to embrace life. If we want more of life’s blessings, we need to heal our wounds – our repressed emotions and old patterns and limiting beliefs.
How do we identify these wounds? ... Views: 1686
Last Monday, after a typical Colorado October snowstorm, my sons and I drove into town to serve dinner to the homeless. Consistent with this time of year, the snow started to melt just hours after it fell, and what was left was a stunning display of beauty where the golds and reds of autumn ... Views: 1686
While someone can feel down from time to time, they can also feel this way on a regular basis. When this is the case, it is going to be a challenge for them to appreciate life, and it may even be a challenge for them to get out of bed in the morning.
Another Experience
Now, when one feels ... Views: 1685
I can hear your thoughts… “What? Rocks in a backpack? Why that’s crazy! Makes no sense to carry heavy rocks around.” But you are, whether you know it or not. When you hold onto bad experiences from your past and use them as excuses for your actions, you my friend ARE carrying around rocks in ... Views: 1685
Obstacles. We’ve all got them. Big, small, daunting and often derailing; our fear of the unknown and the excuses we create in order to avoid failure, are why so many really great people end up splashing in their own personal mud puddle! It’s easy to get yourself stuck in a self-depreciating and ... Views: 1685
Confidence is built on the acceptance of yourself and your abilities. Perfectionism is the belief that you should do nothing if it is not done perfectly. So perfectionism is one of the stronger enemies of confidence. If you are going to develop your confidence, you need to suppress any ... Views: 1684
Self-confidence is one of these terms that are used by many people in many different ways without there being a clear agreement or understanding what exactly it means. In fact, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth are often used interchangeably.
I am going to use the concept ... Views: 1684
This is a discussion and topic that has been coming up a lot lately…at least it seems that way anyway. So what’s the difference between an intention and a goal? Aren’t they one in the same?
Not really, but they are related and intertwined with one another. I like to think of an intention as the ... Views: 1683
Are you haunted by unfinished creative projects or dreams? Make a list of the major ones. Are you still interested in pursuing one or more of them? Note which projects/pathways, if any, are still compelling to you. Creativity is about magnetism and commitment.
If you are not going to move ahead ... Views: 1682
In chatting recently to a client who was on the brink of making a major upward career move, I was told that, whilst he was totally relaxed in almost a carefree way about everything that seemed to be just effortlessly happening around him, in his odd quiet moment he still heard a little voice ... Views: 1682
I remember years ago when I bought my first self-esteem book. It was “Maximum Self-Esteem” by Jerry Minchinton and I would cover the book jacket with my hands as I read it on the New York City subways. I felt embarrassed and thought that other people would judge me and come to an erroneous ... Views: 1682
It's tough when you find yourself in a conversation and, for whatever reason, you become paralyzed and unable to speak. Not through some mental hiccup or brain freeze, but because you are afraid - deeply, pathologically afraid - of how your conversation partner will perceive you. Ironically, ... Views: 1681
I was not surprised to learn in recent interviews with Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, former close confidante to Michael Jackson, that Michael lost the will to live. He was embarrassed to go out in public. He had mutilated his face so much through unnecessary plastic surgery that he thought he looked ... Views: 1680
Like I said before, it’s essential for you realize that, your level of self esteem will eventually determine the quality of your life and the level of growth and success that will be present in your life, that is why you need to work on boosting your confidence and building your self ... Views: 1680
Have you ever wanted someone to be different so that you could feel better? When a boss is impatient, a lover unkind or a salesperson is rude – do you find yourself retreating into a bad mood as a result of their words or attitude or can you navigate those situations and stay happy?
Most of ... Views: 1680
When you start to focus on what you desire – YOU WILL CHANGE!
“Things do not change; we change.“~ Henry David Thoreau ~
As you start to focus on what you desire – your behaviors will begin to change. And as you begin to reach your goals and receive your desires – you will change.
If ... Views: 1680
Has this ever happened to you?
You're knee deep in the hustle and bustle of the holidays, when you have a flash of inspiration: you want to start a new tradition with your beloveds. But when you share your idea, you only get scowls in response. Your vision of an evening of hot cider and ... Views: 1679
If someone had the desire to attain something, they could look into what they need to do in order to get it and then could they take action. Alternatively, they could think about what they want and instead of taking action, they could expect someone to give it to them.
It could be said that ... Views: 1679
One thing that can be said about human beings is that we all want to feel good. This need is something that can enhance one’s life, and at the same time, it can also create problems. It can cause someone to grow and to evolve, and it can also cause them to stay stuck or to regress.
For ... Views: 1679
If there is a through line in my life, both personally and as a writer, it is to identify and develop those qualities that help us grow individually and collectively in wisdom and love. That’s ultimately why I’m so interested in self trust. “Wisdom,” Buddhist monk Khandro Rinpoche says, “is ... Views: 1678
You probably often ask yourself what you could be doing to make your life more manageable and better balanced. You want to improve your skills and try new things, but you also want to have a good work-life balance and a set routine. All of this comes with practice and from effective goal-setting ... Views: 1678
Browse the self-help aisle at the bookstore, or comb through the online material about self-esteem, and you'll mostly find advice on how to take "conscious control of your self-talk," to stop negative self-statements and replace them with affirmations, to love yourself, to conquer this or that ... Views: 1677
If someone is given the opportunity to do something, it will be up to them to decide if they want to go along with it. This is not to say that they can’t talk to other people about it; what it means is that they are the only ones who know if it is right for them.
One could be in a position ... Views: 1677
"Play your game," said Coach Galen Scott. The pointed advice was given to a very weary, frustrated college tennis player. If you haven't guessed, that frustrated athlete was me. I was losing matches, my mind was clogged, and I didn't know what to do. That is when Galen stepped in an instructed ... Views: 1677
Statistically speaking more people are afraid of public speaking than are afraid of death! I used to be one of these people. I can honestly say that there was a time in my life where I would rather have died than given a speech! My palms and other more visible and embarrassing areas would start ... Views: 1675
EFT is great for improving self-confidence. You really want a mind that is controlled by you, not those negative and self-critical thoughts that creep in. Well, in EFT, short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, those negative thoughts are said to be kept active by energy. This is like a ... Views: 1675
Do you often think you're just faking it.
Not really making it?
Do you worry that it's only a matter of time before everyone discovers you're a fraud?
Ever want to crawl under the bed upon receiving even the slightest bit of criticism?
Are you unable to move forward because you're ... Views: 1675
Self esteem and relationships
Trying to build an intimate relationship with someone else when you're struggling with low self esteem can be a very daunting task. It can seem very innocent and ecstatic at first but when the newness wears off and you're left with a relationship built on a ... Views: 1674
While we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night.
But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ... Views: 1674
The Negative Programming
A condition of low self esteem is like a corrosive acid that eats away at our self image until we are paralyzed to act affectively and achieve success or self confidence of any kind. We find ourselves caught in a downward spiral of negative thoughts and perceptions ... Views: 1674
Are you a sales introvert or a sales extrovert?
In your sales role, which activities do you prefer?
Where do you focus your attention?
How do you recharge?
Every salesperson tends toward one of two preferences: introversion and extroversion. There is the distinction of these preferences ... Views: 1673
Have you watched the movie about Amelia Earhart, the first woman to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean? It is an interesting movie and, like most people who push past known boundaries, she was a very intriguing person. She followed her dreams, and certainly her belief was that there are no ... Views: 1673
If one was to watch a sports game, they would see that there are players on the field and that there are players on the bench. As a result, it could be said that the people who are playing are going to be a lot happier than the people who are not playing.
This is because when one plays a ... Views: 1672
We all know when a needy and desperate person is in our midst. They feel ‘sticky’ and seem to drain our energy. If you suspect that this is you, then you are probably feeling insecure, lonely, in need of validation or love, in need of being cared for, feeling afraid or vulnerable. This is a very ... Views: 1672