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New View, New You, New Life - by Rob White5 Primal Principles of Communication - by Rob White- False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world perhaps, every adults early years would have been a time when they were given what they needed to develop in the right and were prepared for the real world. This would mean that their caregivers did what they were supposed to do. Their caregivers wouldn’t have seen them as ...
Views: 775 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have An External Focus? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the internal world, and on the other, there is the external world. The ideal will be for someone to be aware of what is going on within and to be aware of what is going on without. Through being this way, they will be able to tune with their needs and feelings, and they ...
Views: 630 - False-Self: Can Someone Create A False-Self When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people are in touch with their true-self, and allow their life to be influenced by it, there are others who experience life differently. As a result of this, it can mean that they are out of touch with who they are. When one is in touch with their true-self, it is likely to ...
Views: 1303 - False-Self: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ...
Views: 315 - False-Self: Can ‘Spirituality’ Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is spiritual, it can mean that they are ‘in this world but not of this world’ and have a deeper connection to themselves and nature. They will know that there is more to life than what their five senses would have them believe. So, while their mind, along with their eyes, will ...
Views: 899 - False-Self: Do You End Up Playing A Role When You Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around others, they could find that they generally behave how they want to behave. This is then going to show that they don’t feel as though they have to behave in a certain way. One way of looking at this would be to say that one will be able to express their true-self, ...
Views: 1400 - False-Self: Is It Normal For Someone To Create A False-Self When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one sees themselves, it could be said that the ideal will be for them to have a positive self-image. If this is in place, it is naturally going to be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. Another Experience Yet, although this is going to be the ideal, ...
Views: 1327 - False-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Confident When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for one to be themselves, it will be necessary for them to feel confident enough to do so. Therefore, if this is not in place, it is not going to be possible for one to express their true-self. One way of looking at it would be to say that one’s true-self is the top of a table, ...
Views: 1252 - False. Evidence. Appearing. Real. - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Vickie GriffithLooking at the Sunday obituary page recently, I noticed how many people near my age are passing away. A wave of dread flowed through me and I thought: What if I only have a few years left? I’ve always wanted to be a Centenarian. And,I’ve always thought that saying out loud that I want to ...
Views: 1410 - Fame: Can Being Famous Give Someone A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it doesn’t take much for someone to be famous, and this has meant that more people are ’famous’ than ever before. In the past, it was often necessary for someone to have achieved something significant in order to be known by others, but in today’s world, this is no longer the case. ...
Views: 1718 - Fame: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have a strong need to be known by a lot of people. Thanks, in a part, to modern-day technology, there is a myriad of different ways in which someone can achieve this goal. However, in the past being known by a lot of people was largely seen as ...
Views: 371 - Fame: Why Do So Many People Want To Be Famous In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf a teacher one was to come across a group of students and they were to ask them what they wanted to be when they are older, there is the chance that a number of them would have the same answer. It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because they are at an age where they are ...
Views: 1875 - Fame: Why Do Some People Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world fame is not merely seen as a by-product or as a consequence of achieving something; fame is pursued directly and as a goal in and of itself. With there being numerous examples of people who place fame as the ultimate achievement in life and above anything else; it might seem ...
Views: 16412 - Families Are Messy! - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2018 from Kelley KosowI hope your holiday season has gotten off to a beautiful start. For me, the holidays are my favorite time of year. I love the lights, traditions, celebrating with family and friends, and, of course, all the new Hallmark Christmas movies! Although we all know how the movies will end, there is ...
Views: 984 - Family Constellations: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To Family Constellation Therapy? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s life is not going as they would like it to go, there are a number of things that they can do. And while some of these things will allow them to move forward, there are going to be others that won’t. Escapism One could be drawn to things that will allow them to take their ...
Views: 1444 - Fate is a Joke: Why Biography is not Destiny - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Brian WalshI am probably the only author who has used a quote from "Chicken Run", a very funny movie that's set in a chicken farm that oddly resembles a World War II concentration camp. Many of us spend our lives, or at least parts of them, in self-imposed prisons. If this is our own doing, why do we ...
Views: 2278 - Father Wounds: Can A Be Difficult For A Boy To Grow Into A Man If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a boy to not just grow into a man but to act like one, it will be essential for him to receive the right care and guidance. For this to take place, both his mother and father will play an important role. His mother will provide him with the care that he needs to emotionally ...
Views: 409 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Abandon Himself If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have been given life and his life is important, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. In general, he could act as though both he and his life are not important. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling and he could typically ...
Views: 427 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Domesticated If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him. The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, ...
Views: 383 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Unavailable If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, ...
Views: 348 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Highly Motivated If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on May 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others. However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being ...
Views: 338 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be In A Boundaryless State If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may find is that he rarely feels comfortable standing his ground and asserting himself. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for him to be walked over by others. He could be used to saying yes when he would rather say no, ...
Views: 355 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Lifeless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperLike a car without an engine, a man could spend a lot of his time sitting around and doing very little. For the car to move it will probably need to be pushed, that is unless, of course, there is an earthquake, for instance. For him to move, it might generally take an external force. That can ...
Views: 544 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Fight Instinct If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to assert himself and to stand his ground, he will need to have a strong connection to his fight instinct/aggression. Ultimately, this part of his being will provide him with the vitality and the power that he needs to truly embrace life. Having this connection doesn’t ...
Views: 600 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Passive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a car to move, it will need to have a power source; without this, it will simply stay in the same place. If it does move, it will only be because it is being pushed by someone or something that has power. In the same way, for a man to move and to take action he will also need to ...
Views: 384 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Submissive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is out with his friends, he can typically be easy-going and happy to go along with whatever another person wants to do. He is then going to go along to get along and he will rarely assert himself. It might not be much different when he is at work, as he could be just as compliant and ...
Views: 320 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was mistreated by his father during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. The reason for this is that his brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. But, if he was able to remember some of the things that took place, he still might ...
Views: 308 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That It Is Not Safe To Exist If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man doesn’t feel safe enough to exist, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. However, being this way is going to have a massive impact on his life. Through being this way, he can typically be out of touch with his body and/or he can isolate himself from others. ...
Views: 501 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Badness If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, that’s if he was able to step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the inclination to feel bad. When this is the case, he is likely to feel very low and worthless and he might, at times, even contemplate ending his life. Therefore, even if he doesn’t feel this ...
Views: 394 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Violation If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is often walked over and treated badly by others. There may have been moments when he thinks that the world is against him. Now, this could be something that he only experiences when he is in the company of other ...
Views: 529 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
Views: 379 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Disconnect From His Masculinity If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he may see that he has been passive, easy-going, and found it hard to assert himself. Consequently, he will have most likely spent a lot of time around people who are the complete opposite. He may find that he has spent a lot of time around both men and ...
Views: 587 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 367 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Responsible For His Mother If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an individual who has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to act like one. In general, he could put his mother first and do what he can to fulfil her needs. Naturally, this is going to cause him to neglect a number of ...
Views: 373 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he often feels worthless and as though he is bad. Due to this, he may find that it is a challenge for him to embrace good things as he won’t feel worthy of them. As a result of this, he may see that he has pushed a lot of ...
Views: 370 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Father Was Treated Badly During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he could find that he doesn’t have a very empowering view. He could find that he sees himself as someone who doesn’t have any value. What could then stand out is how this view is having a negative impact on his ability to ...
Views: 317 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have both a masculine and feminine element inside him, he may find that it is hard for him to connect to the former. Consequently, it will be hard for him to express himself and to take action. From the outside, it will probably look as though he has the ability to do ...
Views: 360 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Feel Safe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man could live in a country that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that he will feel safe enough to be in his body and to feel at ease. Consequently, he could spend a fair amount of time feeling anxious and on edge. Along with this, there could be moments when he is in a shut ...
Views: 598 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 353 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world. However, although he might be able to do this, ...
Views: 397 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Disempowering Self-Image If His Father Wasn’t A Good Role Model? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of himself. For a large part of his life, this may have been something that was just under the radar, so to speak. Consequently, the view that he has of himself would have just been ...
Views: 341 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve After His Father Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has just lost his father, he could be experiencing life in one of two ways. He could be in a very bad way emotionally, or he could be emotionally shut down. Then again, there could be moments when he feels overwhelmed with grief and moments when he is out ...
Views: 668 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Relationship With His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAnger, like any other feeling, is neutral; what defines whether it will lead to constructive or destructive behaviour is how it is utilized. So, if a man was to end up experiencing anger and lashed out at someone, it would be destructive. However, if he was to end up experiencing anger and ...
Views: 469 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Father Was Humiliated During His Early Years? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may have the tendency to feel low and bad about himself. When this is so, he could end up doing one of two things; he could either isolate himself from others or he could be around others and do what he can to please them. Therefore, it won’t be necessary for him to isolate ...
Views: 409 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need For Approval If He Grew Up With An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s father was rarely, if ever, emotionally available during his formative years, this is likely to have been a time when he didn’t receive what he needed in order to develop in the right way. This would have caused him to experience a lot of pain. However, he wouldn’t have had any ...
Views: 759 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Impress Others If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have achieved a lot, but, no matter how much he has achieved, he can have the need to achieve more. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this is just part of being human. Being driven and having the need to grow and expand is then normal and not ...
Views: 225 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have Strong Need To Be Successful If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is ...
Views: 315 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Safety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has a felt sense of safety, he will be able to be in his body and to freely express himself. As a result of this, his body will be his home and he won’t need to live in his head. By being this way, he will be able to feel at ease and experience inner peace. In other words, his ...
Views: 443 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Self-Ownership If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be easy-going and ‘nice’, with him having the tendency to do what other people want. In general, he could act as though he is nothing more than an extension of others. By being this way, he is likely to often do things that he would rather not do and be ...
Views: 339 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lose The Will To Live If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ...
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