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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Receiving: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Receive? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side is the ability to give and on the other is the ability to receive. And it is often said that unless one can receive, then it won’t be possible for them to give. So the ability to receive is generally considered to be the most important aspect. This makes me think about how ...
Views: 2265 - Emotional Avoidance: What Can Happen When We Avoid Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old or young someone is, where they have come from on this planet or if they are male or female, one thing is clear, and that is that they will have emotions. For this is part of the human experience, without them life wouldn’t be the same. However, one of the challenges with ...
Views: 2011 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unattractive When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of ...
Views: 2369(2 votes) - The Media: Does The Media Distract People? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is taking place in the area where one lives and the world at large, it is clear that some kind of assistance is required. This is something that usually takes place through the media. Here, one is informed about national and international events and ...
Views: 1741 - Looking Good: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Looking Good? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t have to look very far to see how obsessed people have become with looking good in the western world. And this is not limited to one gender; both men and women are involved in this. For a woman it could relate to: the kinds of clothes they wear, make-up, body shape, hair style, ...
Views: 2420 - Passive Aggressive Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what gender someone is or where they have come from, there is likely to be moments where they feel angry. This is part of the human experience and it plays a valuable role in our survival as individuals and as a species. In most cases, anger is nothing more than feedback and is ...
Views: 2595 - Relationships: What Do People's Friends Reveal About Them? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to getting to know someone who has the potential to be a friend or a lover, it is not always easy. During the early interactions, there is the tendency for people to show their best selves. To present themselves in a way that is different to how they normally are or to exaggerate ...
Views: 1783 - The Big Night: 5 Ways to Cultivate Patience - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2013 from Rob WhiteOK, this is an old joke, so forgive me if you've heard it. A psychologist is giving a talk and describes how every couple has its own unique frequency of making love. She then asks people in the audience to state how often they have sex. Hands shot up as she called out "Once a day?" "Several ...
Views: 2367(3 votes) - Relationships And Self Knowledge In Leadership - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2013 from Gerhard van RensburgThere are few things as sad as when a person discovers the importance of his relationships too late in life. Too late, because so many years were wasted on the wrong priorities, pursuing success in the workplace at all costs, being caught up in endless conflict, platonic relationships, jealousy, ...
Views: 1273(1 vote) - Positive Thinking: Is Positive Thinking Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has read anything do with self help or come across one of the primary figures in the industry, they will have heard of the term ‘Positive Thinking’. This is nothing new and has been around for many years. In 1952, Norman Vincent Peale published the book - The Power Of Positive ...
Views: 1796 - Buddhism, the Brain, and a Bad Boss - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Nina HamThere’s nothing more frustrating and disheartening than feeling that your boss is undermining your efforts to do your best at work. Maybe it seems intentional, maybe it seems just who s/he is. Whatever the origin, the toll on your morale and performance is heartbreakingly wasteful. What to ...
Views: 1946(1 vote) - Violence: Can Repression Cause Violence? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to see violence or to hear about violence. The media for instance, is only too happy to inform people of what is taking place at a local level and around the world. And then one can hear second hand accounts of violence that have taken place in another ...
Views: 1888 - Child Abuse: What Happens When A Child Is Invalidated? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this ...
Views: 2218(2 votes) - Keeping Calm in the Storm - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Joan Marie WhelanThere are events in our lives that can quickly become chaotic and even catastrophic if we do not put our emotions and actions into check. As an example, imagine if firefighters arrived at a major apartment fire and instead of putting out the fire, began running around with their hands in the air ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - Energy: Can Emotional Repression Lead To Low Energy? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one way or another, life is all about energy; it is what creates and supports life and it also leads to movement and motion. Without it, nothing would exist or survive and nothing would ever happen or change. And as human beings, we are no different. Whether it involves: getting out of ...
Views: 1976 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. In some shape or form, they are always there for others. And whether they truly want to be there for others is not always irrelevant; it often appears as though they have no choice in the matter. For some ...
Views: 5314 - GETTING TO YES! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Joel Bryant, Ed.D.A book entitled, Getting to Yes, appeared several years ago. It focused on the art and science of negotiation, and how to make beneficial compromises as we each pursue our peculiar aims. As used in this article, however, getting to yes implies mastering the steps needed to experience the ...
Views: 1026 - Everything Is A Test - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Lars KingThis is a short but sweet mindset shift that can dramatically improve your life. It definitely has changed the quality of my life for the better. Normally, people go through their lives and get pushed and pulled around by their emotions, causing their moods to be a direct result of what ...
Views: 1704(2 votes) - Emotions: Can We Become Emotionally Stuck At A Certain Age? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s emotional age is not always the same as their chronological age. And this can be known through how one feels and seen through certain behaviours and reactions that people have. One may even try to deny that they haven’t grown up and justly their behaviour in some ...
Views: 5520 - Polarization - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2013 from William DiedrichTo polarize is to divide into sharply opposing groups or sides. We sometimes see polarization as a problem, for example in politics. People have opposing views in the areas of gun control, abortion, gay marriage, and health care. The polarity that we see is not a problem once you understand that ...
Views: 1246 - Depression: Can Repression Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, depression has become a word that carries enormous weight; either for people who have it or for people who hear about it. It could also be described as a modern day taboo, with people often wanting to avoid the whole thing. However, what is clear is that depression is not ...
Views: 2250 - 7 human emotions and how they can impact your life - NOW - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2013 from Michelle Sears7 human emotions that will cause you to love yourself more deeply and completely which will result in a better quality of life Listen to me, learning to love yourself more will have an enormously positive effect on all areas of your life. When you love yourself, you'll be less tempted ...
Views: 1432(1 vote) - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that everybody wants to be happy and yet this doesn’t mean that one will be comfortable when they are happy. For some people, being happy is a wonderful experience and for others, it is something that leads to incredible guilt. And the very thing that one wants is then casing ...
Views: 5644 - Emotional States: Do Our Emotional States Control Our Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often talk around the power of one’s thoughts and how these need to be changed in order for one to live a better life. And what this means, is that emotions are often overlooked. This could be due to a number of reasons and one of these reasons is because of the emotional repression ...
Views: 1799 - Emotional Intelligence: From Quiet Desperation to Real Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2013 from Valencia RayEmotional Intelligence is the mind of the heart, the right-brain in metaphoric terms. Realize that language has its limitations, and speaking in terms of the English language subtleties can be lost - such as having only one word for 'love'. When culture moved away from communicating with images, ...
Views: 1132 - Why Subliminal Smile leads to success - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Hal Wechsler“Why You Should Know “Subliminal-Smiling” & “Deconstruction” of The Elements of Speed Reading 3x.” • 1. “If you’re such a ‘smart-ass’, teach me how to get more tips in my Summer job,” asked my son’s girlfriend. • 2. “You don’t want to know the physical actions, just “how-to”. Answer: it’s ...
Views: 1278 - How Daydreaming Overcomes Impulsive Acts - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Hal Wechsler“How Daydreaming Success, Overcomes Impulsive Acts” • 1. “Pop, what’s with this stuff on “immediate-gratification”, and impatience? Doesn’t every sane person want “it” now, not later?” • 2. “You wanna fight or hear the latest neuroscience. Good. When you’re a little kid, you don’t analyze, ...
Views: 1641(1 vote) - How Daydreaming Overcomes Impulsive Acts - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Hal Wechsler“How Daydreaming Success, Overcomes Impulsive Acts” • 1. “Pop, what’s with this stuff on “immediate-gratification”, and impatience? Doesn’t every sane person want “it” now, not later?” • 2. “You wanna fight or hear the latest neuroscience. Good. When you’re a little kid, you don’t analyze, ...
Views: 37 - Why Boring is Dangerous to Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Hal WechslerWhy “Boring” Leads to Drugs, Drinking, or Smoking • 1. Brainiacs only: what’s your brain made of? Answer: 78% water. Some of us have replaced the liquid with “fat”, hence the expression, “Fat-Head.” • 2. “So what? Who-cares? What’s In-It-For-Me? • 3. Your 3-lb brain requires continuous ...
Views: 1266 - Relationships: What Are Your Relationships Mirroring Back To You? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRelationships can be fulfilling or unfulfilling and they also have the potential to create incredible satisfaction or immense frustration. There will be people who one can connect with without too many challenges appearing and others who cause one to question the human race. But regardless of ...
Views: 1758 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Vincenzo Santiglia - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Vincenzo Santiglia. This is someone who is based in Italy and teaches around the world and offers one to one consultations. The ...
Views: 2091 - Personal Development: What's the 'Self' in Self-Actualization? - by Submitted on May 29, 2013 from Valencia RayI was listening to a video by an author where he defined 'self-actualization' in terms of ego or selfish individualism - a type of narcissism. This goes to show the limitations of language and how meaning can be confused. The 'self' in self-actualization, in my mind, is just the opposite. It is ...
Views: 1701(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Media Control People's Minds? - by Submitted on May 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe common assumption about the media is that they are simply informing people about what is going on in the country where they live or in the world at large. Here the media are simply observes of what is taking place and are then relaying it to the public. As people are generally busy with ...
Views: 2636 - How can I get along with my teacher? - by Submitted on May 27, 2013 from Kevin ChonyuiYouths are upset when they get low grades from what the feel is high-grade work. The resent it when discipline seem excessive or uncalled for or seem motivated by racial bias. They are angry when special attention or professional treatment is given to the teacher’s pet. Granted, teachers are ...
Views: 1493 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Fix Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect. A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a ...
Views: 2011 - Secondary Gain: What Is Secondary Gain? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and personal development, there is a term that is often used called secondary gain. This is a gain that is often hidden and unknown at a conscious level. And although the word ‘gain’ is typically used in a positive manner, in this instance, it is not a positive ...
Views: 2350 - How To Influence Others - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from kv dipuI always keep wondering what Q will turn up next. IQ, EQ, MQ, SQ...and so on! Be that as it may, since we human beings rule the planet, and emotions, in turn, rule us, EQ to me is the stand-out Q! Someone who has intelligence here can rise above the rest! In simple terms, EQ (emotional ...
Views: 697 - Transformational Leadership: A Real Change Leader Leads Change - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Valencia RayA real change leader is courageous in dealing with personal growth - changing one's self. Let's be clear here; personal growth is not about 'fixing yourself'. It is about learning and growing to reach more of your true potential. A leader will need to acknowledge her or his fear and keep moving ...
Views: 1014(1 vote) - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Try To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile trying to please others can be something everyone does from time to time, for others, it is the focus of their lives. What this person wants from life as whole or what they want to do from moment to moment is then secondary. The needs and wants of others are far more important than ...
Views: 2851 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the self help industry, thoughts are often described as having the power to create one’s life and therefore to define what one attracts into their life. And there are numerous authors and experts that espouse this perspective. One can learn about this through all kinds of ...
Views: 1886 - Being And Doing: What Is The Difference? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time, the western world has been familiar with the word doing and the word being has been something that the people in the east were familiar with. And this has gradually changed in the west, with people becoming more aware of these eastern approaches and vice ...
Views: 1991 - Before investing your savings, you must get rid of the following things - by Submitted on May 19, 2013 from Vinod AnandBefore investing your savings, you must get rid of the following things (Vinod Anand) Lust “I want...” could be the most dangerous words for your finances, mostly because we seem to want everything--a world tour, a swanky car, a plush abode. However, extravagance can lead to financial ...
Views: 1367 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf it often sad that if one can’t say no, then their yes doesn’t mean anything. And while having the ability to say yes is clearly important, so is being able to say no. They both have their uses and this will often depend on the context that one is in. To say yes can become a habit and ...
Views: 2401 - Nurture not the Emptiness - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Rick Kanary“Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for ...
Views: 1629(1 vote) - True Self: Why Do Some People Hide Their True Self? - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, the true self has been used to describe ones true nature and who they really are. On the other hand, the false self represents all that is not true and is made up of illusions. And while deep down one may want to embrace their true self; it is often far from easy and the world ...
Views: 6758 - The Power of Appreciation - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2016 from Chris SpinkThe practice of appreciation as a device for happiness has been in the mainstream for many years. Long-term research supports appreciation’s efficiency to improve your life, recommending that a positive, appreciative attitude helps in a higher success rate at work, better health, peak ...
Views: 1164 - Man's Search for Meaning: The Power of Attitude - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Rick Kanary"We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms—to ...
Views: 961 - Objectification: Why Do Some People Objectify Others? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo objectify someone is often described as what happens when they are seen as an object. And when this takes a place, they are not seen as a human being who has feelings or their own cognitions for example, they are just a physical body. Here another person may well be seen as an object that ...
Views: 3775 - Actors: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Actors? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice how powerful and influential actors and actresses are in today’s world. And although they have had this power for a number of years; with the assistance of the mainstream media, this has gradually increased as time has gone by. One only has to go a film ...
Views: 3646(1 vote) - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
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