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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Breathing Problems: Can Trapped Grief Cause Breathing Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that our greatest wealth is health, and it doesn’t take much thought to realise why this is. When someone has good health, it will be lot easier for them to live a fulfilling life. If they are not in good health, it is going to be a lot harder for them to enjoy their time on ...
Views: 1891 - Selfless: Is Being Selfless Part Of The False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone puts their needs first, there is the chance that they will be described as selfish. Whereas, as if they put other people’s needs first, they may end up being described as selfless. And although these are only two of the options that someone has, they can end up being seen as the ...
Views: 1453 - Are Employees Crying to be Heard? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Dawna JonesAn intriguing discussion popped up on social media. It all started with a question: “Is crying in the workplace okay? Does it show you are genuinely human or weak or overly sensitive or ______________(fill in the blank)?” Underneath a question like that is the proverbial value assessment: ‘Is ...
Views: 1539 - Are Employees Crying to be Heard? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Dawna JonesAn intriguing discussion popped up on social media. It all started with a question: “Is crying in the workplace okay? Does it show you are genuinely human or weak or overly sensitive or ______________(fill in the blank)?” Underneath a question like that is the proverbial value assessment: ‘Is ...
Views: 1400 - Self-Love: How Can Someone Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a person gets to a certain age, there is a strong likelihood that they will attend some kind of school. During this time, they will begin to learn about different areas of life and the kind of subjects that will allow them to function in today’s world. While their time in education may ...
Views: 3235 - Relationships: Do Some People Reject Others To Avoid Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what someone looks like or where they have come from, they will have experienced rejection. What this comes down to is that it is part of life and this is because it is not possible for one to always be accepted. And if one was to look back on their life, they would also realise ...
Views: 3752 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Objectify Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings can be objectified by others, they can also be objectified by themselves. What this means is that someone can feel as though they are being taken advantage of by others and it is the outside world that is victimising them, or they can take advantage of themselves, and they are ...
Views: 1498 - Sunbeds: Why Are Some People Addicted To Sunbeds? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhat people do at one point in time to look good is not necessarily going to be the same as what they at another point in time. This is not to say that everything will change, but it would also be inaccurate to say that this is an area of life where change doesn’t take place. There are some ...
Views: 1410 - Social Media: Can Social Media Give People A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many different needs, and one of those needs is to feel important. However, this is not to say that everyone will be influenced in the same way by this need; as some people will have a greater need to feel important than others. It could then be a need that is no more ...
Views: 3525 - Grief: Is Grief A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, more and more normal human experiences are being given labels, and what was part of life at one point in time, ends up being seen as a mental illness at another. For example: if one was experiencing anxiety in the past, they might believe that it is just part of life. It is ...
Views: 1849 - The Power of Influence - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Robert IshoyThe Power of Influence Unfortunately, to often in life we are persuaded by the power of position. The power of position is simply someone else making demands or requirements on you by the standing of their position in relationship to you. There are several serious drawbacks with this type of ...
Views: 1652 - Smartphones: Can Smartphone’s Cause People To Be Self-Absorbed? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to use the internet, they no longer need to sit in front of a computer; the only thing they need to do it to use a Smartphone. This means that one can go online no matter where they are or what they are doing. As a result of this, going online has become a normal part of ...
Views: 2290 - Relationships: Do Some People Analyse Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it could be said that there are some people who are highly curious, it could also be said that there are others who are the complete opposite. This is not to say that this is something that is black and white; as there are going to be people who fall into the middle of the spectrum. ...
Views: 2825 - The Most Harmful Word in Your Vocabulary - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2015 from Michael MantellSure, you may be thinking that word might be “hate,” “poverty,” “illness,” or “death.” No, these words are mild compared to the life-sucking, contentment-robbing, depression-boosting, anxiety-causing and anger-building word I’m thinking of. That word is “should.” In the wonderful words of my ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - Self Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Into Self Development? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side of the spectrum, there are people who had a childhood where most of their needs were met, and on the other side, there are others who had a childhood where the majority of their needs were ignored. And in the middle of these two extremes will be people who would have had moments ...
Views: 1443 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Delude Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time with people who affirm their worth, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. This is because human beings are interdependent, and this is why the responses of others play an important part in their self-image. However, although one’s ...
Views: 1665 - Social Media: Does Social Media Create Impossible Standards Of Beauty? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now, the mainstream media has been criticised for editing pictures, and this is because of the effect this has on women. When they see these images, they are often unaware of what has been done, and they can come to believe that what they see is normal. If they were able to ...
Views: 2054 - False Self: Can Someone Use Self Development To Decorate Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a mark on a wall in their house they could find out why this mark has appeared or they could simply paint over it. What they decide to do can all depend on whether they know why the mark has appeared and/or if they are into home improvement. One may decide to just paint over the ...
Views: 1673 - Weight: Is It Good Or Bad To Comment On Someone's Weight? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was generally women who were concerned about their weight, and this is partly because of how much pressure they had to face. Men on the other hand, were not under the same amount of pressure. However, this has all changed, and while it could be said that the amount of ...
Views: 1391 - Crying: Is Having The Ability To Cry Important? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is made up of moments that are pleasurable and moments that are painful, it doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept each side. There are going to be people who do everything they can to embrace pleasure and avoid pain, and, there are going to be others who renounce pleasure and ...
Views: 1861 - Control: Is A Sense Of Control Important? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the word ‘control’, there is a chance that something negative will come to mind. They may begin to think about someone who is ‘controlling’, or they may think about a situation in their life that is stopping them from being themselves. However, this might not take ...
Views: 1874 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Be Addicted To Approval? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can do things because they want to do them, they can also do things because they want approval. When this happens, one is going to be focused on what other people think of them. If this is something that takes place from time to time, it might not have negative effect on their ...
Views: 1495 - Naive: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Naive? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to start something new, they might try to find out everything they can about it. In this case, they are not just going to start something and learn as they go along; they are going to do some serious research. Through taking this approach, they are going to be prepared, and ...
Views: 1855 - Social Media: Has Social Media Devalued Celebrity? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile celebrities have always existed in some shape or form, it has never been as easy as it is today for someone to be famous. There is no need for someone to have achieved something significant; the only thing they need is an online presence. This is something that one can develop in a ...
Views: 1458 - Sayings: Does Everything Happen For A Reason? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where someone is from on this planet, there is a strong chance that they will have a few sayings. They may have picked these up from the people around them and/or they may have learned them through reading books. One may find that they use these sayings throughout their day, or ...
Views: 1451 - Love: Do Some People's childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Love? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to receive, there are others who are unable to do so. What this means is that although someone needs something, it is not possible for them to have it. There are then going to be others who experience life differently, and it will be possible for them ...
Views: 2569 - Closing Westgate Hall: The Psychological Consequences - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe fact that the Westgate Hall in Canterbury is under threat, is not news to me. I have known this to be the case for over 6 months or more, and I will admit that I didn’t think much of it at first. So, you may be wondering at this point, what has made me finally take notice and reflect on the ...
Views: 2175 - Anger: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to express every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are stuck on one end of the spectrum. When this happens, it is not going to be possible for someone to be a whole human being. This may mean that one is always ‘positive’, and that they ...
Views: 2007 - Inferiority Complex: Why Do Some People Have An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people on this planet who believe that they above others, there are also people who believe that they are below others. And this can be something that one is aware of or it could be an outlook that is outside of their awareness. However, regardless of whether one is ...
Views: 1753 - The Flow: Is It Good Or Bad To Go With The Flow? - by Submitted on May 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a stream, they would see that it goes in one direction, and this will take place without too much force being utilized. This is because the water is going in the same direction and there is little, if any, resistance. However, this wouldn’t be possible if each drop of ...
Views: 3285 - Always Right: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They Are Always Right? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in someone’s life where they are right and there are going to be times when they are wrong. If human beings were all-knowing, then this wouldn’t be something that would occur. However, as it is not possible for someone to know everything there is to know, there ...
Views: 1784 - Projection: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on May 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone doesn’t face what is within them, there is the chance that it will end up being projected onto others. This is not bad per se, as this is a way for someone to realise what they need to work on. Another way of looking at this would be to imagine other people as the white screen ...
Views: 5307 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Have An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on May 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to achieve something, there is the chance that they will have a number of people who inspire them. These could be people who they know personally or it may relate to people they know from a distance. However, regardless of whether they know them or not, they will be having ...
Views: 2110 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Depression? - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is easy for someone to end up being obsessed when it comes to their appearance. The need to look good is nothing new, but what is new is the pressure that someone can experience through using social media. They no longer need to be around people; the only thing they need ...
Views: 1553 - Constructive Criticism: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Constructive Criticism? - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could watch a film and think it’s one of the best films ever, and another could watch the same film and believe it is one of the worst. What this shows is how people have different outlooks, and just because one person likes something, it doesn’t me another person will. Now, this ...
Views: 1830 - Indecisive: Can Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Indecisive? - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving forward in life, it is going to be important for someone to be able to make decisions. This doesn’t mean that this will allow them to always make the right decisions, but it will give them the chance to make the right ones. If, on the other hand, they didn’t make any ...
Views: 1672 - Fear: Is Fear All In The Mind? - by Submitted on May 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings can allow their life to be defined by love or fear, and while one is often seen as destructive and the other is often seen as constructive, they both have a purpose. However, problems will arise when someone allows their life to be defined by fear. Another ...
Views: 1763 - Posture: Can Trapped Grief Affect Someone's Posture? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has good posture it not only creates a good impression, it also has a positive effect on their health. There is then an external reason and an internal reason for one to pay attention to how they hold themselves. Therefore, if two people had bad posture, their reason for wanting ...
Views: 1790 - Relationships: Do You Expect The Same Person To Meet All Your Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about their ideal partner, they may imagine someone who can fulfil all of their needs. They may even describe this person as their ‘soul mate’; with this being someone who will end up transforming their whole life. There is then the chance that they will have been with a ...
Views: 2948 - Your Inner Detective - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. ...
Views: 1380(1 vote) - Needs: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Focus On Other People's Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be times where will be important for someone to focus on the needs of others, there will also be times when this isn’t the case. This is not to say that one will need to spend half of their time being focused on other people’s needs and half of their time being focused on their ...
Views: 1472 - Powerless: Can Trapped Grief Make Someone Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing mental and emotional wellbeing, having a sense of personal power is important. This doesn’t mean that this will allow someone’s life to always go how they want it to go, but what it does mean is that they won’t feel like a victim. They will know that they are ...
Views: 1811 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Other People's Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either. This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence ...
Views: 4824 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1819 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unattractive? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look attractive, it doesn’t mean they feel attractive or that their self-image matches up with how they look. In this case, the impression that they have on others doesn’t match up with what is taking place within them. However, this is not to say that whether one is ...
Views: 1468 - Instant Gratification: Is Your Need For Instant Gratification Sabotaging Your Success? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, people not only want to have something straight away, they are also encouraged to have this outlook. It would be easy to see these two aspects as being separate, but part of the reason why people have this outlook is because of the society they live in. When it comes to ...
Views: 1542 - Pranks: Do Pranks Violate People's Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the help of the internet, it doesn’t take long for things to spread rapidly in today’s day and age. When this happens, a video or an article will have gone ‘viral', and what started out being known by only a few people, will soon end up being known by millions of people from all over the ...
Views: 1616 - Vulnerability: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable. The image that they present to the ...
Views: 1550 - Success: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Successful? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask a group of people what their favourite country is, they are unlikely to hear the same answer over and over again. One person might enjoy going to Australia, while another may enjoy going to Mexico, for instance. What this partly shows is how different people are, and how ...
Views: 1442 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Be Happy? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhat makes one person happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what makes another person happy, but while their requirements may be different, they both have the need to be happy. This is something that most people on the planet want to experience; with their being many ways in which one ...
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