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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Loss: Why Would Someone Idealise Another Person When They Pass On? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old someone is, there is a strong chance that they have experienced loss at one point or another. In fact, this could be something they have experienced on a number of occasions. What this shows is that it is not necessary for one to reach a certain age before they lose someone ...
Views: 1602 - Self-Reflection: Is Self-Reflection Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, people are often so caught up in their day-to-day lives that they don’t have time to think about their life. As a result of this, it can set them up to go in a direction that doesn’t match up with their true needs. Along with this, their relationships can reflect who they ...
Views: 2775 - Ten Best Success Door Openers - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2016 from William CottringerTen Best Success Door Openers by Bill Cottringer “If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.” ~Jim Rohn. There are lots of ways to find to do something or the excuses if you don’t. In the meantime, here are the best-known door ...
Views: 1395 - Internet Dating: Should Someone Objectify Their Body When They Use Internet Dating? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is attracted to someone in the real world, it can be due to a number of different factors. On one hand, how they look could play a part, and on the other hand, it could be the result of how one feels in their presence. There is also the chance that how one feels in the other ...
Views: 1384 - Relationships: Does Your Partner Try To Stop You From Seeing Your Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in a relationship, they are likely to have less time to spend with their friends. This is because when they are with someone, they are going to spend a lot of their time with them. And as they are going to be an important part of their life, it could be said that this is to be ...
Views: 1601 - Relationships: Can A Relationship End Before Two People Hate Each Other? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship gets to a point where it is no longer working, each person is likely to feel different to how they felt in the beginning. When they spend time in each others company, they could be thinking about how long it will be until their time together will come to an end. However, ...
Views: 1442 - Letting Go: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Holding Onto The Past? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one can drive, they will know that they can either go forwards or they can go backwards; what they can’t do is to go in both directions at the same time. In the same way, one can either stay stuck in the past or they can embrace the present. Therefore, in order for one to be able to live ...
Views: 1217 - Tantric Peace in the Face of Violence - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2016 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverPeace in the world starts with ourselves first. When we learn to find inner peace, we can then start to create global peace. Most of us are not able to leave our lives and go become activists or join a movement. However, by setting an example in our communities we can create a ripple effect that ...
Views: 1085 - Self-Compassion: Why Are Some People Compassionate Towards Others But Not To Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across as having a caring manner, they can be seen as someone who is good to be around. The people who spend time around them are likely to appreciate how they respond to their worries and concerns. There can also be how they respond in their chosen career, and this could mean ...
Views: 1312 - Giving Up: Is Giving Up Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that one can be told when it comes to being successful, and what they may have heard on more than one occasion is that they should never give up. This could be something they have heard from their finds and/or family, or they may even have heard it from someone ...
Views: 1318 - Offended: Does Being Offended Make Someone Right? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around people there are likely to be moments when they agree with what they hear. Along with this, there are also likely to be moments when this isn’t the case. It could be said that this is part of life, and this is partly because they will have their own views. If they ...
Views: 1784 - Success: Should We Take Advice On How To Be Successful From People Who Are Successful? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to change one area of their life or a number of areas, it could be said that it would be a good idea for them to find people who are successful. Through doing this, they will be able to listen to what they have to say and this will give them the chance to experience life ...
Views: 1117 - Celebrities: Why Do Politicians Get Celebrities To Endorse Them? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a politician has the desire to get into a certain position, they can end up looking towards different celebrities. And while some of these might be known by people who fall into a certain age group, for instance, there can be others who will be known by people of all ages. Therefore, it ...
Views: 2932 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Be Perfect In Order To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to assist others, they can end up taking the next step. At the same time, they can also experience inner conflict, and this can then stop them from taking action. In this case, one could believe that every area of their life needs to be going in the right ...
Views: 1222 - Victim Mentality: Is There A Benefit To Being A Victim? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life. However, if they were to ...
Views: 2292(1 vote) - Family Constellations: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To Family Constellation Therapy? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s life is not going as they would like it to go, there are a number of things that they can do. And while some of these things will allow them to move forward, there are going to be others that won’t. Escapism One could be drawn to things that will allow them to take their ...
Views: 1398 - Social Media: Does Social Media Allow People To Control What Other People Say? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, social media is seen as somewhere where they can express themselves and stay up to date with their ‘friends’. As a result of this, it fulfils their need to be seen and their need to connect. And what is different about this is that one can fulfil these needs no matter where ...
Views: 1162 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Try To Revive A Relationship That Isn’t Healthy? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end it doesn’t mean that one will be willing to walk away. Instead, they may feel the need have the other person in their life again, and it might not be enough for them to see the other person from time to time. One Reason This could then be a sign that ...
Views: 1268 - Being Seen: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Cause Someone To Hide Behind Others? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about how someone would behave if they don’t feel comfortable being seen, they might start to imagine someone who spends a lot of time by themselves. And this is because it will be a way for them to avoid attention. It could then be said that they will have a good ...
Views: 1526 - Being Exposed: Why Do Some People Have A Fear Of Being Exposed? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people feel comfortable with themselves, there are others who experience life differently. And it could be said that one will achieve more when they feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak. Based on this, if one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves, it will then ...
Views: 4058(1 vote) - As above so below - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2016 from Joan Marie WhelanI was recently at a talk that was speaking to the health of our coral reefs around the world. As I listened, I began to see a correlation between what is happening under the water to what is happening above. Coral gets stressed and when that occurs it is more likely to get sick with disease. ...
Views: 1342 - False-Self: Can Someone Create A False-Self When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people are in touch with their true-self, and allow their life to be influenced by it, there are others who experience life differently. As a result of this, it can mean that they are out of touch with who they are. When one is in touch with their true-self, it is likely to ...
Views: 1274 - Leader, Your Words Start Your Revolution! Unleash Them Daily! - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Rosemary Nonny KnightSo you don’t know what to say… Say anything… Start by typing anything that comes to mind… Start by expressing whatever is in your head… Start now, there is no right or wrong… There is just you choosing to show up anyway, regardless of how wise what you are ...
Views: 651 - False-Self: Do You End Up Playing A Role When You Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around others, they could find that they generally behave how they want to behave. This is then going to show that they don’t feel as though they have to behave in a certain way. One way of looking at this would be to say that one will be able to express their true-self, ...
Views: 1371 - Social Media: Is Social Media A Waste Of Time? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about how they used to spend their time before social media was invented, they might find it hard to remember. What this could show is that it has become a normal part of their life. And as it is so easy to use social media, it can be easy to see why this might be the ...
Views: 1308 - Purpose: How Can Someone Find Their Purpose? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who feel as though they are on track in life, and there are others who don’t. As a result of this, it could be said that not everyone is going to experience life in the same way. When one feels as though they are doing the right thing, it is likely to be a lot easier for ...
Views: 1138 - False-Self: Can Self-Development Allow Someone To Replace Their False-Self With Another False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their feelings and needs, it could be said that they are in touch with their true-self. And if it is possible for these aspects to have an effect on their life, it will mean that their life will be an expression of who they are. The Ideal One way of looking ...
Views: 1173 - Therapy: Are Some People Too Young To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to assist others, there are a number of things that they could do. For one thing, they could end up doing some kind of volunteering, and this would allow them to have a positive effect on the world. But if this wasn’t something that interested them, they could decide to ...
Views: 1270 - ***Why Leaders Underperform: The Leadership Default is to Find Fault - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Reldan NadlerI was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to ...
Views: 5433 - *** Diversions and Distractions: Are you TAPPED Out? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Reldan NadlerWe are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in? Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment. How are we captured and detained from being our best ...
Views: 5120 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe That They Always Have To Say 'Yes'? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who say ‘yes’ from time to time, and then there are others who more or less always say it. One way of looking at this would be to say that the people who fall into the second group are going to be in a better position. This is because they can be seen as people who ...
Views: 1508(1 vote) - Anger: Can Someone Use Anger To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are unable to get angry, there are others who are more or less always angry. As a result of this, it could be said that these people are out of balance. At Times Still, if one is not always angry, then they could be in a position where they have moments ...
Views: 1333 - HACK YOUR BRAIN WITH A LIFE COACH - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2016 from James Mapes“If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness.” -Les Brown, author, speaker “Why would I hire a life coach? I’m intelligent, aware, strong-willed and can make my own decisions without someone ...
Views: 1891 - What Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2016 from William CottringerWhat Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? By Bill Cottringer “There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley. While this article title seems to be a rather straightforward question, I doubt that it is ...
Views: 1336 - Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Childhood Did Not Have An Effect On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kinds of challenges that one can face during their adult years, it can be normal for them to believe that their childhood hasn’t played a part. What they are going through is then going to be seen as a reflection of what has taken place in their adult years. If they ...
Views: 1071 - Anger: How Can People React When Someone Embraces Their Anger For The First Time? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone’s relationships can be an expression of their true-self, they can also be an expression of their false-self. What this means is that one can be surrounded by people who don’t know who they really are. Unaware Even so, this doesn’t mean that these people will realise this, ...
Views: 1319 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Act Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who feel like a victim from time to time, there are others who pretty much always feel this way. When one can relate to the former, it is unlikely to be something that will have an effect on how they see themselves. Momentary But if it does have an effect on ...
Views: 1111(1 vote) - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Conformity? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile social media can be seen as somewhere where people can be themselves, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Instead, it can be normal for someone to feel the need to come across in a certain way. No Different Their experiences online will then be similar to the experiences ...
Views: 1398 - Self-Image: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have An Enemy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one sees themselves, they can be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. What this shows is how important their self-image is, and if they want to lead a fulfilling existence, it will be necessary for them to see themselves in a positive light. At Times Now, ...
Views: 1063 - People Pleasing: Is It Possible To Always Please Other People? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can do everything they can do displease others, they can also have the opposite approach. In this case, it is going to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. Point of Focus One is then not going to pay attention to what is taking place within them, they are going to ...
Views: 1165 - Anger: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop You From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel comfortable embracing all of their feelings, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are not going to experience life in the same way, and when it comes to people who fall into the second category, their life is going to be harder than it needs ...
Views: 1341 - Critical Thinking: Do We Stop Thinking When Information Is Presented By An Authority Figure? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one wants to find out about something there is a strong chance that they will look for someone who has an understanding of what they want of know. They could believe that the most important thing is to find someone who has the right qualifications. And once this has taken place, they ...
Views: 1367 - Hiding: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause You To Hide? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one of our greatest needs is to be seen who we really are, and what this shows is that we are not here to hide. Therefore, when it is not possible for someone to fulfil this need, it is going to cause them to suffer. Part of Life There are going to be people who are ...
Views: 1304 - The Media: Does The Media Realise That Most People Don't Think For Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the mainstream media, there are a lot of people who believe that its sole purpose is to inform people about what is taking place in the world. Through having this outlook, one will be only too happy to accept just about everything they hear. Now, if the media did exist to ...
Views: 1137 - Happiness: Should Someone Take Advice On How to Be Happy From People Who Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for people to look for advice on how to be happy. In fact, it could be said that some people see this as being the purpose of life, and as a result of this, it is not going to be something that they can simply overlook. In The Past Fortunately, there ...
Views: 1251 - Humble: Is Being Humble Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone achieves something, they could tell other people about it or they could simply carry on with their life. As a result of this, there is the chance that everyone they know will find out about what has taken place, or there is the chance that no one will. A Closer Look Now, if ...
Views: 1881 - Relationships: Do People Rescue Others In Order To Help Them? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are there for others from time to time, there are others who are practically always there for them. When one can relate to the former, they are going to have moments when they are able to take care of their own needs. However, when one can relate to the latter, they are not ...
Views: 1386 - Greatness: Should Someone Have To Hide Their Greatness In Order To Avoid Offending Others? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be good at something, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable letting other people know. But if this doesn’t relate to what they can do, it could relate to their appearance. In this case, one could feel the need to cover up their body, or to hide their face in some ...
Views: 1335 - Boundaries: Do Some Countries Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, there are going to be a number of factors that will play a part. One of these things is the state of their health, and this is something that most people are aware of. Physical Health For example, it is not uncommon to hear about how important it ...
Views: 1334 - Offended: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Offended By Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are a lot of sensitive people, and through being this way, they can find it hard to handle day-to-day life. However, this is not to say that everyone who is sensitive responds to life in the same way. Two Types What this comes down to is that ...
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