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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaAnd then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. —Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people. But for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of expectations. At mid-life it's ...
Views: 2569(2 votes) - A "Real" Man Plays it Safe - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Shae HollandMen are expected to put themselves at risk. It's part of performing masculinity — the stuff everybody does every day to act like their gender "should." For guys, this means leaping into danger. Because that's considered "manly," and being manly is what you dad taught you to be. It means ...
Views: 2567 - Child Abuse: Why Has Child Abuse Gone On For So Long? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAwareness around child abuse has gradually increased over the years. This can only be a good thing and something that will help to reduce the amount of child abuse that is in the world. However, in this day and age it may be hard for some people to comprehend why this has gone on for so long ...
Views: 2563 - Things You Must Do If You Want to Win the Battle of Life! - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Agu JaachynmaHave you been there? I mean at that point where it looks as if everyone and everything is militating against you? Sometimes, it looks like you can't continue, you want to give it all up, give in and cower before those challenges. Not to worry, your faith... trust, confidence in who you truly are ...
Views: 2554 - The Perfect Storm for Violence - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2012 from Stephanie MannThe murder of 12 and wounding of 58 people at a theater in Aurora, CO is another national tragedy sparking debate on gun control. Based on my experience as a crime and violence prevention consultant, over the past 35 years, I see a need to share what I have learned about violence. The seed ...
Views: 2552(1 vote) - The Hard Truth About Soft-Skills - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2009 from Kevin BurnsThere are 350,000 opinions (books) on “leadership” on Amazon. Corporate America can’t seem to draw a consensus on what leadership is so it’s really no big surprise that Corporate America can’t figure out what soft-skills are and why they are important either. You know, for being such a ...
Views: 2550(3 votes) - Emotional Acceptance: Why Is It Difficult To Accept Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions can be pleasurable or they can be painful and being human means that we have the potential to experience the full spectrum of emotions. I say potential, because there are ways that we can stop them from appearing. Pleasure and pain is something we are all familiar with and this ...
Views: 2549 - Defence Mechanism: Displacement - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a defence mechanism that is no different to any other, in that it allows the ego mind to ensure its own survival. If there is a situation where the ego mind perceives that it is unsafe to express an emotion or to behave in a certain way; the ego mind will have to suppress what is ...
Views: 2543 - Needs: Why Do Some People Not Expect To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were not interdependent, it wouldn’t matter if other people were available to meet their needs. This is not to say that someone’s need’s can only be fulfilled by other people; this would be inaccurate and a sign of dependence, not interdependence. A child on the other hand, ...
Views: 2537 - OVERCOMING ANGST - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Joel Bryant, Ed.D.Do you know the angst of greatness, that sick feeling when you see your dreams sailing downstream towards a ravine that dares you to enter and retrieve them? Despite our obsession with success, we say little about the angst that eats when failure chastens and cheats. The Silent ...
Views: 2535 - Enforcing Boundaries is the Key to Keeping Emotional Clutter Away - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2009 from Linda PucciEmotional clutter is made up of negative emotions from past experiences, and limiting beliefs that no longer apply to your current situation. Keeping emotional clutter away from you requires vigilance in setting and enforcing your boundaries. Your boundaries help define who you are and what ...
Views: 2522(1 vote) - Assertive: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Being Assertive? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, knowing when to speak up or to keep quiet is something that comes naturally. And while they might not get this right all the time, it is not going to be something that they need to focus on. At certain times, they might speak up when they should have kept quiet or kept quit ...
Views: 2517 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Losing Themselves In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe whole idea of someone losing themselves in a relationship may sound completely ridiculous. And if this was to be taken literally, then yes, it does sound crazy. Because physically it is impossible to lose oneself in another person; there is nowhere to go and it is clearly not possible. ...
Views: 2515(2 votes) - Appreciation: Can Suffering Lead to Greater Appreciation Of Life? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is human nature to only appreciate something when it is not longer available. So when one has something in their life, it is easy for them to take it for granted. Not only can this apply to ‘things’, it can also apply to the people who are in one’s life. In the ...
Views: 2511 - Irrational Feelings: Do You Have Irrational Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one feels a certain way, it doesn’t mean these feelings reflect what is currently taking place in their life. One can then come to the conclusion that their feelings are irrational. This could be something that one experience from time to time or it might be a regular ...
Views: 2506 - Weak and Strong - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.I have had the pleasure of working with and hanging out with both types of women. I don’t particularly like the word weak, so I will use the term; temporarily weak. I have pondered about both of these types and I tried furiously to come up with a common denominator. So this is how I broke it ...
Views: 2505(1 vote) - Freedom Or Safety: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter recent experiences and awareness’s in my life and also from what is happening it the public domain, I felt it was right to talk about my views and understandings of these two incredibly important areas of life. The Dichotomy On one side we have a great need to feel safe and on the ...
Views: 2503 - Intuition: The Soul Of Love - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2011 from Sherrie DillardIntuition like love emerges from the depths of the soul. Simply defined as knowing something without knowing how you know it, intuiton may be one of your greatest allies in attracting and maintaing successful and loving relationships. Have you ever noticed how feelings of love and attraction ...
Views: 2503 - Do You Need a Good Slap! - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from David SamuelLet me tell you what frustrates me. The frustration comes from my own limitation to help people in a certain position, I simply do not know how to get this type of person past the point they are stuck at. This is not to say I do not know how to fix the problem, because I have a pretty good ...
Views: 2499(2 votes) - Relationships: The Healing Power Of Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhether it is relationships with friends, acquaintances or spousal for example; they all have the potential for healing and consequently growth to occur. Opportunities are presented for one to integrate and process those parts that lay dormant; that are waiting to be realised. We are also ...
Views: 2499(1 vote) - Vivation - The Skill of Happiness - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Paul Hughes“Wow! I didn't know it was possible to feel this good!,” said a client the other day after a Vivation session. This article briefly explains what Vivation is. Originated by Jim Leonard, Vivation is the skill of experiencing the core feeling process within your body that is the true source of ...
Views: 2494(1 vote) - Beauty In Our Emotions - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessEmotions are a great gift. Because of our sensory capacity to feel, the world is richer. It has texture. These sensory responses in turn let us know when and how we should act. Emotion is after all, related to motion, or movement. For many of us, emotions are a confusing thing. We sense too ...
Views: 2480 - Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online. And ...
Views: 2480 - Astrology: Why Do Some People Judge Others Based On Their Star Sign? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are lots of ways for people to define themselves and to give their life meaning. And one of the ways that this can be done is for someone to get into astrology. In the western world, this will often involve someone finding out about their star sign and then seeing how they match up with ...
Views: 2478 - The Art of Critique - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2010 from Eugene Yiga“Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.” – Douglas Adams We all make mistakes. What matters most is how we respond to them. But what often stands in the way of this is ...
Views: 2471(4 votes) - Emotional Intelligence: The Importance Of Processing Our Emotions - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently had an interesting experience. And upon close reflection, I believe this experience has explained how important it is to process our emotions and to limit their accumulation. I believe it also explains at a deeper level, what is meant by; we are not just the observers of our ...
Views: 2465 - Pessimism Is The Enemy Of Ambition And The Killer Of Dreams! - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Wayne KehlOptimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. - Helen Keller Helen Keller lived from 1880 to 1968...an incredible 88 years. Although she was blind and deaf from childhood, she played a big part in changing our world for the better. She was ...
Views: 2462 - Emotional Intelligence: Skills for Caregivers - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2011 from Byron StockI've heard stories from friends about the agony and stress caused by caring for their aging parents. Their rolls vary depending on the level of care their parents' need. Some are fortunate in that their parents require very little care; perhaps just a daily check-in to make sure all is well. ...
Views: 2457 - Depression: Can Repressed Anger Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the most common mental and emotional challenges that someone can face in today’s world is depression. This is likely to be something that most people experience at one point or another. There are then going to be others who don’t experience it from time to time, they experience it on ...
Views: 2449 - Emotionally Dependent: Why Are Some People Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings, we are interdependent and although someone people can come to the conclusion that they are independent, this is just an illusion. They may well be able to support themselves financially, but they are still reliant on other people paying them money. This is clearly different ...
Views: 2446 - Feelings: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Feelings Are Not Important? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPart of being human means that one has feelings and these are an important part of who they are. And when one is in tune with how they feel, their life is going to be radically different to how it would be if they were unaware of how they felt. Ones feelings not only connect them to ...
Views: 2446 - Listening: An Exercise For Developing Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Jude Treder-WolffEmotional Intelligence, the combination of self-awareness, "other"-awareness, ability to recognize and regulate one's own emotions and interpersonal skills, is at the core the ability to listen. Listening Inwardly for our own assumptions, beliefs, and emotional reactions. Listening to what is ...
Views: 2443 - Selling is a Mind Game that Starts on Home Turf - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Clive MillerSelf sabotage stems from unconscious interference. We desire a certain outcome yet sometimes, a part of us refuses to cooperate. Yet if we could train our unconscious mind to work in harmony with our purpose, almost anything ought to be possible. How can we train our unconscious mind to ...
Views: 2443(4 votes) - Latest World News Covers whole World - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2011 from Nikita VermaLatest world news may demonstrate you with number of addendum and postscript at a time on the particular screen. You can come across news by medium of internet and other means. The world news consists of all the latest matter of India news headlines, latest news occurring all over the world, ...
Views: 2435 - Emotional Needs: Can Another Person Fulfil Our Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one looks for a relationship, there are emotional needs that one is looking for another person to fulfil within them. These needs can be conscious and known, and they can be unconscious and unknown. And some of these needs will be possible for another person to fulfil and meet and some ...
Views: 2428 - Self Abuse: What Is Self Abuse? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbuse is usually something that starts of as external in nature. This means that one is abused through the people around them and this could be limited to one environment or it could happen in a number of environments. The type of abuse that I am talking about here is the abuse that goes in ...
Views: 2426 - Master Teachers and the New Millennial Mindset - by Submitted on May 22, 2010 from Zen BenefielIt is all-visible to each 'presence' within our entire population; however the effect of each choice in the filter of their own consciousness is often one of the ‘hidden’ processes that take place, regardless of the external activity. These are processes that one internalizes and rarely offers ...
Views: 2424 - Help: Why Do Some People Have Trouble Asking For Help? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that no one is their own island and each one of us in interdependent. This not only applies to people; it also includes the earth that one lives on, the air they breathe and the sun that creates light and gives off energy for instance. There is always going to be people who ...
Views: 2423(1 vote) - Looking Good: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Looking Good? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t have to look very far to see how obsessed people have become with looking good in the western world. And this is not limited to one gender; both men and women are involved in this. For a woman it could relate to: the kinds of clothes they wear, make-up, body shape, hair style, ...
Views: 2420 - If We Stop…We Get Stuck - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2011 from Larry CraneIt Worked So Good…We Stopped Doing it Following, is a recent email received by Larry: “I purchased the Abundance Course about 18 months ago. I found a peace that I never had. However, after some time, I recently decided I would re-learn the whole course again (kinda forgot about it) and am ...
Views: 2418(1 vote) - Ode to Martin: Life Lessons From An Old Friend - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2012 from Tommy LandryToday I write this blog post with a heavy heart. Just last night, we returned from a trip back home to visit my family. Normally, a trip like this is filled with joy and laughs, sharing stories, and general goodness. This time was different. You see, 2012 has been a tough year for all of us. ...
Views: 2417 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Boundaryless? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf it was raining and one didn’t wear jacket or something to keep them dry, they would soon be soaked. Their jacket or an umbrella for instance, is then something that protects them from the rain. However, even if it was not raining one still needs to protect themselves. Their personal space ...
Views: 2416 - Control Freaks: Why Are Some People Control Freaks? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing someone who has the need to have complete control over every part of their life, the term control freak is often used. To experience a certain amount of control is not enough, the only thing that will do is having complete control of everything. And while control ...
Views: 2416 - Deserving: Why Don't We Get What We Deserve? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is an area that can not only create frustration, anger and confusion; it can also make one feel powerless and a victim of circumstance. So here I am going to explain my current understanding, as to why we don’t always get what we think we deserve and can end up with something completely ...
Views: 2416 - Why Repetition is Hot For Your Brain - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Hal WechslerDo You Use Repetition in Your Life? When I asked this question of our staff and students, they answer with their own ‘defensive’ response, “Why should I?” My answer to them and you is, your parents were right. “About what?” “Repetition is the mother of “learning”. I know a ton of ...
Views: 2416(1 vote) - Power: How Do We Give Our Power Away? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor each one of us power can mean something different. It can have both positive and negative connotations. On the positive side, there is the power to have an effect on one’s life and on the negative side it can mean being controlled. The meaning of power here is; the ability to have an ...
Views: 2414 - Emotionally stuck: Does Society Keep People Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now it has been said that women grow up faster than men. And in some cases, they say that men are about ten years behind when it comes to emotional development. This is obviously not the case for all men, but there is often clear evidence to support this viewpoint. Now there ...
Views: 2413 - Self-Esteem: Can Toxic Shame Cause Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across something that grows into the ground and has a big trunk, there is only going to be one word to describe what it is – and that is a tree. And the same can be said when it comes to describing other things on this planet. However, when it comes to how one sees themselves, ...
Views: 2413 - We Are Pure Energy - by Submitted on May 26, 2007 from Steve RyalsQuantum physics clearly demonstrates that energy, in one form or another, constitutes the most fundamental building blocks of the universe. To be even more precise, these building blocks, called quarks, or quanta, are actually the potential for a particular frequency, or state, or amount of ...
Views: 2411 - How Do YOu Remember? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2012 from Maura SweeneyI’m frequently teased for failing to recall names, faces, places and sometimes even the simplest words. I’m not sure if it’s a matter of selective memory, an age-old issue with near-sightedness or something else entirely, but I never seem to recall things the way other people do. I ...
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