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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Fix Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect. A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a ...
Views: 2041 - How to Get Over A Breakup Quickly – The Best 10 Ways - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2016 from Alex J. StevensonThe vast amount of literature on getting over a break up with your loved one and learning to live without that relationship is mostly not useful, either because it's full of nonsense or because it simply doesn't work. If you want to get over a breakup quickly, then follow the 10 steps listed ...
Views: 2038(1 vote) - My Wife Wants A Divorce But I Still Love Her: How To Deal With Divorce When You Don't Want It - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesMy Wife Wants A Divorce But I Still Love Her: How To Deal With Divorce When You Don't Want It You always thought that you made a dutiful husband who loved his wife dearly. So when your wife has a change of mind, and wants to leave the relationship - you are shocked, hurt and feel horrible. Is ...
Views: 2038 - Domestic Violence Victims and Soldiers--What Do They Have in Common? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“A battlefield is a battlefield. I don’t care where you are fighting it. Unless you have lived through fearing for your life on a nightly basis, you cannot imagine what war is like." - Dr. Gayle J. Hall. A victim of domestic violence fights for her life on a daily basis, just like a soldier ...
Views: 2034(1 vote) - My Husband Calls Me Names and Swears At Me: What to Do When Your Husband Swears At You - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2018 from Jennifer SageMy Husband Calls Me Names and Swears At Me: What to Do When Your Husband Swears At You If your marriage is struggling, and you find yourself dealing with conflict-resolving issues with your spouse, you may be wondering if divorce is the only option left. After all, the loving feelings you ...
Views: 2030 - Traubuse: The Trauma and Abuse Symbiosis - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Diane BabcockPsst! Abuse. Shhh! Voicing openly on the subject of abuse is still largely considered taboo and best kept as ‘civilized’ society's dirty little ‘bully secret’. When you think about it, it’s quite inconceivable that in every society bullying as domestic abuse is more acceptable than ...
Views: 2030(2 votes) - 5 Signs that It's Time to Go - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2011 from Susie and Otto CollinsJessica is a mess. She has cried herself to sleep-- all alone-- more nights than she can even keep track of. Her husband, Charles, has been absent a lot of the time. He stays out all night, partying with friends or, when he does come home, he sleeps on the couch. When Jessica and Charles ...
Views: 2029(2 votes) - How To Communicate With A Stubborn Husband: Stubborn Spouse Unwilling to Listen - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2018 from John BraxtonHow To Communicate With A Stubborn Husband: Stubborn Spouse Unwilling to Listen Good communication in marriage is crucial for maintaining a happy working relationship. It is nearly impossible to have a happy, strong and intimate relationship when you and your spouse always fight and argue. ...
Views: 2028 - My Husband Said I Was A Mistake: What Should You Do If Your Spouse Says Your Marriage Was A Mistake - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Said I Was A Mistake: What Should You Do If Your Spouse Says Your Marriage Was A Mistake In case your spouse has proceeded to start legal proceedings to end the marriage, there is very little you can do about it, but in case you still have time to make your marriage take a positive ...
Views: 2027 - The Psychology of Spree Shooters - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Sam VakninMost spree shooters are loners. They are either schizoid (with deficient interpersonal skills) or paranoid and even paranoid-schizophrenic (psychotic, delusional). Their dysfunction is all-pervasive: their family life, career, romantic relationships, professional and material accomplishments are ...
Views: 2027 - Relationships: Why Does 'Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen' Work? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some relationships are healthy, there are others that are completely dysfunctional. And when this is the case, they no longer have the ability to transform one’s life and to assist in their personal evolution. That is unless one leaves the relationship and uses the experience to ...
Views: 2024 - Husband Doesn't Care If I Leave Him: My Husband Says He Doesn't Care If I Stay or Leave - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackHusband Doesn't Care If I Leave Him: My Husband Says He Doesn't Care If I Stay or Leave Does your once happy marriage seem to be falling apart? No matter what you do, nothing seems to be helping? Many couples struggle with this problem. The good news is that most of these couples are able to ...
Views: 2023 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 2021 - Free Interesting Podcasts on Serious Issues - by Submitted on May 01, 2011 from Vincent TreacyEach week whilst working with Onda Cero, one of Spain's national broadcasters, I had a forum called Serious Issues when my guest was psychologist, Steve Ashley. I found myself very often at a very different point of view when discussing issues with Steve and found our discussions most ...
Views: 2019(1 vote) - Ending the Victim Advantage (Part I) - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Cathy EckThe Poor Me Control Drama Nearly every day someone says to me, “I'm sick of hearing victims whine.” Aren't we all? Taking responsibility for our lives has finally come of age. Those who pretend that they are always innocent victims just rub us the wrong way. If we turn away from them, we ...
Views: 2018(1 vote) - My Husband Doesn't Value Me: I Don't Feel Appreciated By My Husband - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2018 from Colten ReeseMy Husband Doesn't Value Me: I Don't Feel Appreciated By My Husband Everyone likes to be appreciated and complimented. But a woman gets disheartened when her husband is not one of them. It is distressing to realize that your husband never compliments you. You must know how to make your ...
Views: 2018 - My Husband Never Keeps His Word: My Husband Never Does What He Says - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesMy Husband Never Keeps His Word: My Husband Never Does What He Says I don't know anymore how many times I have told my husband something and he didn't listen to me, only to prove later on that I was right. In almost all those occasions I have tried to bite my lip, but instead I said, "I told ...
Views: 2018 - I Acted Crazy and Pushed Him Away: I Pushed Him Away By Being Too Clingy - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Kayla EdenI Acted Crazy and Pushed Him Away: I Pushed Him Away By Being Too Clingy If you really want to know how to get him back, then you need to start by looking at yourself. You have to be absolutely sure that getting him back will make you happy, and that you will be determined not to repeat the ...
Views: 2013 - Triggering Cascade, Trauma Imprinting, and Total Reactance - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2019 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" "Triggering cascade" is when a seemingly minor trigger results in vastly disproportional trauma. Painful memories, replete with the attendant negative emotions, are walled behind mental barriers: combinations of dams and ...
Views: 2012 - Control: Do Some People Use Shame To Control Other People? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a dog for a walk and they were told to keep it under control, they are unlikely to think that there is anything wrong with what they are being told. However, if they were in a relationship and one their friends told them to control their partner, this might not be the ...
Views: 2008 - How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend to Want You Back - Tips to Recapture Him - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Charles UadialeHow to get your ex boyfriend to want you back is a question a lot of women wish they had an answer to after a relationship has ended. It is incredibly hard to see your relationship break up when you still have feelings for your ex so much. Majority of us live with the wrong believe that once he ...
Views: 2008 - Living With An Angry Husband: My Husband Blames Me For His Anger Outbursts - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Jennifer SageLiving With An Angry Husband: My Husband Blames Me For His Anger Outbursts Here's the good news. Most of the negative emotions in your relationship are not due to your partner's personality, selfishness, ill-will, bad choices, or poor communication skills. They come from your reactions to ...
Views: 2006 - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - Know His True Feelings. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Charles UadialeBreak ups can leave us totally depressed however more devasting than the break up itself is wondering and watching out for signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you. The usual question you ask yourself after break up is why did your ex boyfriend leave you if he still loves you. Love is not ...
Views: 2006 - How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back After A Breakup! - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Charles UadialeHow to make your ex boyfriend want you back can be easier said than done at the time a lot of feelings is involved. Even if you are the person who was informed of the break up or you are the one who broke up, breaking up is very complicated for both people. The break up has the effect of hurt, ...
Views: 2004 - The Best Anger Journal - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2013 from Dr. Carl Robinson112558 FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Dr. Carl Robinson Publishes a Journal for Addressing Pervasive Anger A decade of successfully touching lives in trainings and sessions inspires his new book PLANO, Texas – (Release Date TBD) – Dr. Carl Robinson, honorary consular diplomat to the Congolese ...
Views: 2002(1 vote) - My Husband Is Hiding Money From Me: Husband Lies And Hides Things - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2018 from Colten ReeseMy Husband Is Hiding Money From Me: Husband Lies And Hides Things Financial infidelity now belongs to the list, if not on top of it, of causes of divorce. If the idea of your spouse splurging money over unimportant things is bad, what more of your spouse doing the same thing and intentionally ...
Views: 2001 - My Husband Has No Respect For Me My Feelings: What To Do If Husband Doesn't Respect You - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Kelly LaceyMy Husband Has No Respect For Me My Feelings: What To Do If Husband Doesn't Respect You Communicating Effectively Results in the Experience of Respect and Love Many couples struggle with how to communicate effectively. Unfortunately, as the more relational creation, wives need to be more ...
Views: 1998 - The Female Bully and the Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part ...
Views: 1997(1 vote) - Controlling Anger - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2012 from Edward GoodenWhat Is Anger? All of us feel anger. Some of us get angry very often. Some are able to control the anger. Some of us express our anger freely, whereas some suppress it. Why do we get angry? Is there any way to control the anger? How to do that? Causes Of Anger We get angry when we are ...
Views: 1997 - My Husband Is Keeping Secrets From Me: My Husband Lies And Keeps Secrets - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Jennifer SageMy Husband Is Keeping Secrets From Me: My Husband Lies And Keeps Secrets Responding to a request, this article hopes to answer the question. The answer is cultural as much as biological. I've also sought to connect with the issue personally. Those who know me well know I crave talking deep ...
Views: 1990 - On Changing - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Michael ClearmanThose darn treetops are at it again! Anyone who has taken the time to read a recent piece entitled “On Treetops” knows what I am alluding to. At a point along my daily jogging path, regally stand a dozen or so trees as silent witnesses to my labor. But are they really silent? You will ...
Views: 1988(2 votes) - Romantic Jealousy - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Sam VakninPathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other. Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of possession. It also involves damage to the self-esteem and ...
Views: 1988(1 vote) - My Wife Doesn't Want To Be Intimate: My Wife Loves Me But Doesn't Desire Me - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2021 from Maci AspenMy Wife Doesn't Want To Be Intimate: My Wife Loves Me But Doesn't Desire Me Your wife isn't affectionate anymore and it's starting to impact your relationship. This is something that happens to many married men once the marriage has settled into a comfortable place. You miss her affection ...
Views: 1986 - 7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2010 from Geoff Farnsworth1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react ...
Views: 1985(3 votes) - How to Reconcile Your Marriage: How to Reconcile a Marriage after Separation - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackDon't you sometimes wish you knew what went on behind the closed doors in your seemingly, happily married neighbours' home? We all wish we had a glimpse into the secret life that enables them to be so desperately in love with each other even after being married for a number of years. Marriage ...
Views: 1985 - My Ex Leaves When He Sees Me: My Ex Boyfriend Runs Away When He Sees Me - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Kayla EdenMy Ex Leaves When He Sees Me: My Ex Boyfriend Runs Away When He Sees Me If your ex boyfriend ignores you and you're still in love with him, you're stuck in a very difficult place. Many women find themselves facing this exact situation and their natural reaction is almost always to try harder ...
Views: 1984 - My Ex Still Answers My Calls: Ex Boyfriend Answered My Call - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaMy Ex Still Answers My Calls: Ex Boyfriend Answered My Call Breakup's can be hard and though your heart is screaming "I want to get him back", you have to first make sure that he still has feelings for you. Going through the steps to get your man back in your life takes strength and lots ...
Views: 1984 - ***Senator Elect Scott Brown Confirms It: Chivalry Is Dead - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Thank you Scott Brown, newly elected Senator of Massachusetts, for offering up your daughters at your victory speech last night. First, as a Republican, you shocked the political world by taking the seat, then you shock everyone else with your outrageously inappropriate “wit”. It appears we ...
Views: 1983(4 votes) - Spiritual Protection and Psychic Attack - by Submitted on May 24, 2011 from Manfred LuckSPIRITUAL PROTECTION and PSYCHIC ATTACK I was recently talking with a lady who was complaining that a man in the house she was staying in was demon possessed and trying to kill her with his psychic attacks. She related that over some months he was keeping her awake with his music and ...
Views: 1982 - Living With an Addict – Alcoholic - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerAlcohol Living with an addict can be a living hell. Unpredictable and dangerous, yet sometimes exciting and romantic. Never knowing when we’ll be blamed or accused. Not being able to dependably plan social events. As the addict becomes more irresponsible, we pick up the slack and do more, often ...
Views: 1979(1 vote) - Ex Girlfriend Says She Misses Me But Has A Boyfriend: Ex Says She Misses Me But She's With Someone Else - by Submitted on May 23, 2019 from Amora StevieEx Girlfriend Says She Misses Me But Has A Boyfriend: Ex Says She Misses Me But She's With Someone Else When your ex girlfriend has a boyfriend it can cause you to feel elated or depressed. It all depends on what you feel for her. If you're still in love with her, knowing she's with someone ...
Views: 1977 - The Ego as an Addictive "Energy Vampire", in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant "Energy-Giver" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Barry HammerAlthough the ego is often the loudest voice speaking within oneself, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and vehemently demanding limitless, immediate, sometimes inappropriate, recklessly impulsive, potentially addictive, gratification of its insatiable desires and cravings, it is not ...
Views: 1977 - Massage therapy and how it can heal the victims of sexual abuse - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Martina DIt has been said that time heals all, but unfortunately, the same can’t be said with victims of sexual abuse. The wounds of sexual abuse never truly heal; they remain exposed always. Treatment for survivors of sexual trauma and childhood sexual abuse is an incredibly niche field, but is no less ...
Views: 1976 - Child Abuse: Is There Something Wrong With People Who Are Abused As Children? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors. ...
Views: 1975 - My Girlfriend Left Me How Do I Get Her Back: My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me What Should I Do - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2017 from Michael BradA break up can be an extremely confusing and frustrating thing - one minute things are going great, next think you know she's telling you things aren't working out. If you're asking "why my girlfriend left me" I have some good news - it is possible to save your relationship and get your ex ...
Views: 1975 - Best Way To Get Your Ex Back After Break Up! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from John OnyekaA split up doesn't have to be the end of relationship. At times it helps us to become conscious of how much we feel affection for the person that we have been with and value the relationship more than ever. I will be sharing with you the best way to get your ex back. If you feel that you are ...
Views: 1972 - Family Violence Q&A - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaQ: My spouse and I often have arguments over the “small stuff.” How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering? A: I’ll bet neither of you would argue with your boss or work colleagues, or your children’s teachers the way you argue with ...
Views: 1967(1 vote) - Abuse vs. Building Your Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2012 from Gerri D Smith“Above all, challenge yourself. You may well surprise yourself at what strengths you have, what you can accomplish.” - Cecile M. Springer When you find yourself stuck in an abusive or a bullying situation, try building up your self-esteem. Whether the abuse you experience is domestic or ...
Views: 1963(1 vote) - My Husband Eats Too Much: Helping My Husband Change His Eating Habits - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2021 from Maci AspenMy Husband Eats Too Much: Helping My Husband Change His Eating Habits She's at it again! There she goes eating five brownies in a row. Just last night, she ate two pieces of pie with ice cream on them. What will it be tomorrow? Cake, cookies, fudge, an entire pizza? It is difficult to ...
Views: 1962 - How Anger Management Courses Can Benefit Families - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2012 from Ari NovickAnger is one of the leading problems people face today. Whether it be at home, at work or in social gatherings, we sometimes fail to control our anger, leading to serious domestic and professional problems. As a human being, your tolerance to annoyance is under provocation every passing minute. ...
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